Serious question: is it still worth it getting married as a man?

Storm_Bjorn · 2024-12-22T02:23:23+00:00

In America, no. Too much risk. 50% failure rate, as well.

Swoopert · 2024-12-22T02:43:56+00:00

No. Source: I'm 3x divorced.

HollowHusk1 · 2024-12-22T02:07:50+00:00

If you’re not religious, there is zero reason to get married as a man

GDACK · 2024-12-22T02:50:46+00:00

There are many arguments for and against marriage, but there is really only one that matters:

Due to the laws surrounding marriage and division of assets, marriage - for men - is a gamble where the odds of not losing most of what you’ve worked for are at least 80 to 1.

I’ve seen far too many marriages end simply because the female decides she is bored or just doesn’t love her husband anymore. Getting bored of a car or a house is one thing - you can change those without wrecking lives - but divorce favours the female and so - to my mind at least - marriage is a ridiculously risky proposal (excuse the pun).

Look at this way: most females who want to marry, mostly do so because of the “stability” it offers them, especially if they want kids. But marriage doesn’t offer men that stability. A female can walk away from a marriage with the house and half of the guys wealth… you have to ask yourself: “what’s in it for me?”.

Society has tried to condition us to believe that merely asking that question is somehow “wrong” but it isn’t wrong because we’re people too, with our own hopes, dreams, desires and need for stability. Waking up one morning to someone saying “this isn’t working, I want a divorce” and the guy having to leave his home, belongings, wealth and kids to a person who is now effectively a stranger…. Does that sound “stable” in any way, shape or form?

Part of me has always wanted to be married. I put that down to societal conditioning. But I am very strong willed and I won’t risk my daughter’s future happiness and inheritance just so that I can have a wedding ring.

You do what’s right for you, but as an older guy with a few miles on me, let me say that this one “tradition” is one that has been twisted and distorted to females benefit and our detriment.

You can love someone as much as you want… but that’s a potential trap. If someone really loves you, they’ll want to be with you on equal terms and marriage is definitely not equal terms; it’s a legally binding, very biased agreement that benefits someone other than you.

Or put another way: often, even the lawyers come out better off than the man in divorce cases!!

My advice: don’t do it. You can love and be loved without it.

Good luck

johnnycarrotheid · 2024-12-22T04:00:54+00:00

I let out a laugh there tbh.

I'm 40, it's not been worth it getting married my entire adult life. UK btw. Even my sister, settled down with her man, her teen kids, not even looking at marriage.

The laws have always sucked, and since I got into adulthood, have steadily got worse. Hope of it getting better has long left the building.

Extension-Humor4281 · 2024-12-22T01:54:53+00:00

The only time it's really worth it as a man is in one of two scenarios:

1) The man makes substantially less than the wife, in which case he'd make beaucoup alimony in the event of a divorce. Granted you're a gold-digging dirtbag if that's your sole reason for marriage (same as with any woman who does it).

2) A man has a wife and children he absolutely wants to make sure aren't screwed over in the event of his death. Marriage makes them the automatic inheritors of all his money, assets, and life insurance (if he has it).

Outside of these two cases, there's really no reason not to just remain unmarried.

johmsy · 2024-12-22T02:50:39+00:00

Nooooooooope. There’s a million reasons to NOT get married.. but not a single one to get married!

DecrepitAbacus · 2024-12-22T03:13:28+00:00

orussell03 · 2024-12-22T03:23:27+00:00

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deconblues1160 · 2024-12-22T03:36:32+00:00

ChaoticHoshi88 · 2024-12-22T04:12:54+00:00

Not married myself, but during my lifetime and out of all my friends who got married I've only seen 1 marriage that I can tell will stand the test of time.

All the other 9 couples know are always fighting, miserable, secretly cheating, or soon to be divorce.

I'd date, but not get married.

63daddy · 2024-12-22T02:33:18+00:00

Marriage is essentially a one-sided contract. Consider a wife who takes time off work to raise kids with the promise she’ll go back to work when they are in school, but decides she likes having the free time and doesn’t want to go back to work. She also decides she no longer wants to have sex or do significant house chores.

Despite the fact she’s no longer sticking to her end of the bargain, the husband can’t stop providing, to do so, is considered financial abuse, but her refusal to hold up her end of the bargain isn’t abuse. It’s very one-sided.

If they go on like this for years, he earning all the income and she eventually filing for divorce, odds are she’ll get a least half his hard earned wealth.

A friend of mine recently split. She doesn’t work, but she gets half his wealth and half of everything he brings home. He’s working to pay for her early retirement. What’s even or fair about that?

Marriage is biased, but I think every man has to decide if this bias is somehow worth it or not. For me the answer is no, but for someone who strongly desires a traditional family, maybe it is. I think what’s important is to acknowledge the bias, don’t think you will be a magical exception and make an informed choice.

One can of course date women without the biases of marriage and divorce and be much more free to move on when things inevitably have a down turn on more equal grounds. That’s what I’ve done and have absolutely no regrets, especially as I move towards an early retirement while friends of mine who earned far more continue to work indefinitely due to the financial consequences of their marriage and divorce.

plainoldusernamehere · 2024-12-22T02:26:52+00:00

Nope. Ask yourself this question…. Would you sign a legally binding contract you made with someone that can be changed against your will or the other parties will?

You say “I do” and the next month, year, decade or whenever the State says a man should be responsible for paying X, Y, or Z for life to the spouse regardless of circumstances, or prenups. This is a rigged game. In reality it’s a risk for both sides, it’s just incredibly unlikely to swing not in favor of females.

I would recommend doing some reading by Anarchists who object to the legitimacy of the State as a starting point for understanding why both marriage and the State are invalid contracts. Specifically you’d want to read the critics of Locke’s social contract theory(complete nonsense). If the terms of a contract aren’t clearly defined, and are able to be changed on a whim the contract is not valid.

Lysander Spooner covers these topics in his essay “No Treason, The Constitution of No Authority”. It’s in the public domain and freely available at Mises.org

I’d also recommend reading “Anatomy of the State” by Murray Rothbard.

There’s also Michale Huemer that discusses concepts of a legitimate contract vs non legitimate.

Furthermore, family court is an absolute abomination of what the rest of the justice system is. There is largely no ability to appeal decisions, evidence is not required to meet the same standards as criminal, and I’m assuming civil law. I’m not a lawyer so these thoughts are quite non specific and you’d need to do the necessary research to see how family court is not anywhere near what it should be to fit within the justice system of the US. Furthermore there’s incentives to screw over one of the parents via child support. This would be Title IV D of the social security act.

MegaLAG · 2024-12-22T04:25:51+00:00

No. Protect yourself. Even if you think you've found the love of your life.

nrverma · 2024-12-22T04:31:56+00:00

DO. NOT. GET. MARRIED. EVER!

Infamous_Impact2898 · 2024-12-22T04:40:36+00:00

No. It’s a contract to become a slave.

mrmensplights · 2024-12-22T05:02:11+00:00

Real talk: Marriage is a Hail Mary gamble.

It has a very small chance of being successful and if it is, studies show you're likely to be happy, financially secure, emotionally well.

However, there's an overwhelming chance that it won't be successful. Most end in divorce, and most of those highly favor women, so much so that women are basically incentivized to divorce and initiate 70% of them. Men often end up absolutely obliterated emotionally and financially in divorce. The divorced middle aged man is demographic number one for suicide, by a landslide. Even if it doesn't end in divorce, many marriages just become miserable and unhappy. The wife and husband estranged. Years without emotional support and dry bedrooms. Only really going through the motions for kids. These also end up negatively affecting men more.

So, basically if you feel like a lottery ticket is a good investment then go for it.

wackedoncrack · 2024-12-22T02:59:00+00:00

No.

Get a vasectomy and a good job. Keep yourself in shape. Build the garden, and the butterflies will come. There is no reason to build that garden for a single butterfly.

Puzzleheaded_Hope524 · 2024-12-22T03:18:28+00:00

ConstructionLeast674 · 2024-12-22T03:37:59+00:00

No. Marriage is basically a business contract. As such, I would urge anybody who is thinking about getting married to ensure they have a prenuptial agreement.

fire-and-wisdom · 2024-12-22T04:30:48+00:00

I have absolutely no interest in taking the risk of destroying my peaceful life.

Xtopher541 · 2024-12-22T04:57:55+00:00

No. If you have to ask why it's "no", you shouldn't get married. If you understand why I said "no", you shouldn't get married.

InPrinciple63 · 2024-12-22T02:17:08+00:00

Instead of asking whether the solution is worthwhile, start asking what fundamental things marriage is the solution for and whether there are other solutions to provide those things that are more easily individually obtainable, or even if they are things you actually want (instead of something you are forced to accept in order to get the other things). Putting all your eggs in one basket is a risky proposition.

Men are usually good at breaking down problems into their component parts.

As for a dog, if you are able to provide a loving home to them for the long haul, they are about the only way to experience unconditional love, not even women can provide that. However, a dog provides essentially one thing out of many a man might want, so you have to look elsewhere for the other components of a life.

There are no easy solutions to a civilised life and everything has a cost.

aBlackKing · 2024-12-22T03:30:58+00:00

It doesn’t benefit us at all when women receive half of our hard work if not the entire house if a child is involved after a divorce which is more than a 50% chance.

RMU199 · 2024-12-22T06:12:48+00:00

No, I don’t see any benefit for a man to get married.

CuriousPassion77 · 2024-12-22T07:01:48+00:00

I don’t know where you guys get this “she gets half of your wealth”… it’s MORE than half considering divorce math and that you have to pay her lawyer, and you will have trouble building back because alimony and child support

Biffowolf · 2024-12-22T08:04:02+00:00

Been married for 32 years (happily) and wouldn’t change my decision. That said if anything ever happened to my wife , god forbid, I would not ever entertain re-marrying. Seeing how women / women’s attitudes and laws have changed in the last 20-25 years I also struggle to see why any man would now seriously consider marriage.

Remote_Purpose_4323 · 2024-12-22T10:31:37+00:00

Why? Sex? Well women use sex as manipulation in relationships, with time desire is gone, what is left? Constant problems and unappreciation. Women cheat far more than men do, they always have some miserable dudes who are ready to be there for her, emotionally and physically. She will never be your partner, partner how you think partner should be. They don’t have any idea about men’s needs. They will want to hurt you even if they don’t love you and don’t want you, they want to make sure that you won’t be happy. Are you even member of this sub? If they are singe in their late 30, they’ve been through a lot, and you better have a really good therapist to help you after the damage, because you will not be enough, constant comparison to the idea of an ideal man. If they are young, they have so much options, that they eventually leave to check if the grass is greener.

That is just couple things off top, no it’s not worth getting married. But you’re gonna found out all that yourself.

blackjustin · 2024-12-22T06:53:06+00:00

The wealthiest women on earth - besides Oprah - got their money from divorce.
Just saying.

KneeDeepThought · 2024-12-22T12:53:05+00:00

Absolutely not. In the current legal landscape you become your wife's slave. She can be violent, abusive, kidnap your children, and pillage your life savings while facing no accountability for heinous crimes since the government gets enriched based on the amount of money they transfer to her.

Ego73 · 2024-12-22T01:40:29+00:00

Marriage was an institution designed to oppress men and take away their control over their paycheck. I don't think it was ever worth it, but the West pushed for strong gynocentric standards with medieval Occitan literature that idealized simping for women and romance.

brihaw · 2024-12-22T10:34:01+00:00

I think yes if you are planning on having children. It’s a better environment for them to be raised in. Otherwise no.

maxbjaevermose · 2024-12-22T13:18:11+00:00

Was it ever worth it?

accu22 · 2024-12-22T05:34:59+00:00

Rob141414 · 2024-12-22T05:55:15+00:00

Embarrassed-Most-447 · 2024-12-22T11:30:33+00:00

nope

szopongebob · 2024-12-22T15:30:38+00:00

It’s not worth it.

Getting married is essentially betting half your net worth and future earnings that your relationship will last forever. And the odds of your marriage lasting forever are a 50/50 coin toss. Does that sound like a good bet to take?

TenuousOgre · 2024-12-22T04:09:12+00:00

If you live in the U.S., England, Australia, Canada… not worth it. You can get nearly all the benefits with a girlfriend and when things change for her, she¡s much easier and cheaper to move out.

PsionicShift · 2024-12-22T09:34:15+00:00

TheWhiteKnigt · 2024-12-22T12:18:48+00:00

My vote is no on marriage.

RealStarkey · 2024-12-22T12:31:07+00:00

No

Stay out of this game entirely

paradoxicalman17 · 2024-12-22T14:18:06+00:00

Nope.

IllEntertainment1931 · 2024-12-22T14:37:08+00:00

I'm 47years old. 17yrs into a marriage. 3 daughters ranging from 9-13. I love being a Dad, but I can honestly say its not for everybody. I didnt always think this way.

But it absolutely sucks trying to do this with a spouse that has checked out of the marriage and has little interest in doing the tough parts of being a parent. I really feel for women who have this complaint in their own marriage. In mine, its the reverse. (Oh, and I am the main breadwinner- I make a very good living and earn roughly 20x what my wife does. I changed diapers, I never missed a game/concert/performance, and I'm home every night to make dinner, help them with homework and get them to bed, etc)

Thing is, you have zero control over that happening, only a bit of influence. If you are a guy that can be committed to providing endless novelty for the woman in your life, while asking for nothing in return, you might have a chance. Otherwise your only recourse is divorce, and it becomes a game of who blinks first.

Anyway, if I had sons I'd probably be telling them to avoid marriage. The game doesnt run on gratitude (i learned that lesson too late) and life is brutal enough as it is.

AShaughRighting · 2024-12-22T14:50:52+00:00

DestructorDeFurros · 2024-12-22T15:18:41+00:00

Thats-bk · 2024-12-22T18:47:01+00:00

Naw. Don't do it.

ZappProgeny · 2024-12-22T21:05:06+00:00

It's a trap.

heyitsagoodusername · 2024-12-23T03:05:41+00:00

In the words of Julian

She can take half your smokes, half your nintendo and half your pepperoni Ricky....

Brave_Bluebird5042 · 2024-12-22T01:48:25+00:00

You should ask a lot of questions, assess the risk, and make good decisions. Look at ways to protect yourself, eg if you own a home rent it out and call it an pre marital asset, and set up a different house as a rental with spouse. Etc.

mrindividualistic1 · 2024-12-22T01:38:38+00:00

respectly, it's gonna be a tough one with the whole 2st century femenism and a very different world than 70 years ago because these days with a divorce thatt women most likely would have the kids and the laws are more in favour of women (im talking about Western country laws) that one word out of their mouth is an instant favouritism

Gstarfan · 2024-12-22T05:22:04+00:00

I think it's an excellent question that needs to be asked constantly, since it's a huge topic and many are just trying to learn before making the biggest mistake of their lives. OP, do you have a list the benefits of getting married vs the drawbacks in your opinion.

SecTeff · 2024-12-22T06:47:09+00:00

I would say it depends on the marriage rights where you live.

If you are somewhere where divorce is done fairly then marriage can work. It can give you extra legal rights and also bond a relationship closer if you have a true partnership.

It depends on the person if it works but also raising children in a happy marriage is good for them as well.

r3shahbazi · 2024-12-22T07:24:18+00:00

Nope

SaltSpecialistSalt · 2024-12-22T08:44:30+00:00

marriage is a beautiful thing but very risky for man today. there are lot of predatory women out there who will play nice girl until she gets total control and destroy you without mercy. i suggest reading the following books. i wish someone has given me them when i was in your age

https://www.amazon.com/Tactical-Guide-Women-Manage-Marriage/dp/0990686442

https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-audiobook/dp/B078927ZYL/

https://www.amazon.com/When-I-Say-No-I-Feel-Guilty-audiobook/dp/B01M0YDWMZ

apollo-ftw1 · 2024-12-22T08:57:56+00:00

In the state of the world no.

Especially in America. One of the worst first world country's when it comes to misandry.

If you have religious reasons than that's your thoughts

My dad especially said he won't ever get married again, he's divorced twice and screwed over both times due to child support and such

Keokuk84 · 2024-12-22T11:36:50+00:00

I take no pleasure in saying this, but no. No it is not worth it. Which is a very sad fact and a discouraging reality. The risk just isn't worth the "reward".Look at the current culture and type of "women" it produces.......is that actually a reward......and if it is......is that a reward you really want?

Suddenly_Sisyphus42 · 2024-12-22T12:36:44+00:00

Hell no, it ain't worth it. I'd advise against marriage, children, cohabitation, and even associating with women at work more than is absolutely necessary.

alter_furz · 2024-12-22T12:54:36+00:00

Is it worth it to sign a contract where your obligations will be enforced, but the other side's won't, while the other side will be incentivised to exit the contract by taking your life's earnings?

out of all I have written, what exactly was the most appealing to you?

EdgarStClair · 2024-12-22T20:38:40+00:00

No. Not in the west. Probably easier in Florida than elsewhere because they updated their alimony laws.

Ahielia · 2024-12-22T21:08:13+00:00

Lol nah

No-Knowledge-8867 · 2024-12-22T22:48:25+00:00

Yeah, play them at their own game. Find a wealthy woman to marry, then divorce her and take half plus alimony.

VernHayseed · 2024-12-23T00:25:21+00:00

I’m hoping lesbian marriage and divorce will eventually educate women about the problems of marriage from the viewpoint of the man.

Kumarsratan · 2024-12-23T13:44:42+00:00

The thing is that everything is compared with money.. Men's mental issues has been ignored.

strengthsfreedomwins · 2024-12-22T01:49:20+00:00

Depends on the how laws in your country protect you. Secondly, besides looking for love and attraction, please look for integrity, honesty and decency in your woman.

Pecking_Boi0330 · 2024-12-22T03:46:45+00:00

My take : Dont marry for the sake of marrying, marry only if you find someone who you trust with your entire heart

Electrical-Run9926 · 2024-12-22T19:21:43+00:00

Mostly no

Lets_Remain_Logical · 2024-12-22T20:39:27+00:00

No. Or then a solid prenup.

mpusar · 2024-12-22T21:28:00+00:00

Mostly no

Sick-of-you-tbh · 2024-12-22T22:20:39+00:00

Marriage for men in a nutshell:

Local-Willingness784 · 2024-12-22T22:43:36+00:00

it was never worth it, in my opinion, but you can always try and have relationships with women that arent legally blinding, except if you fall into a common law marriage because you cohabitated for a long time in some jurisdictions, then you are fucked.

also you should get different answers on different subreddits or places on the internet just to make sure you arent leaving any blindspot, I imagine the feminist sub will be if not equally then more biased than this place but you could always try.

kitterkatty · 2024-12-23T04:15:00+00:00

Nope :) cohabitation is the only way to keep things consistently good. I hope none of my kids get married, on paper. I do hope they have lifelong friendships and commitments though. A commitment made new every morning is never taken for granted. No room for laziness. Cohabitation requires good communication too. No living on stale old vows or old feelings from a decade ago. Loyalty and fidelity are always daily choices anyway even with a paper agreement. Don’t coast, live in the present. Love should never be caged.

The_SHUN · 2024-12-23T08:22:01+00:00

If there’s no divorce laws, yes

gre2704 · 2024-12-23T09:25:33+00:00

howz-u-doin · 2024-12-23T13:13:09+00:00

Only if her net worth is way higher than the man's and will continue to be.

Acrobatic_Sport_7664 · 2024-12-22T03:39:52+00:00

Yes, but it is a gamble! Marry in haste, repent at leisure, and penury. Never truer. Don't do it unless you are 110% sure.

beast_status · 2024-12-22T08:56:37+00:00

Is this for real? Unless you are planning on moving to Romania or Saudi Arabia the answer is a firm no.

Vijpaaj · 2024-12-22T11:50:39+00:00

Not without a prenuptial. You're basically playing Russian roulette. Otherwise you should be able to have a meaningful relationship still without the government involved. (Edit: prenuptials being signed on the wedding day can be easily thrown out in court for the bride legally being "under duress" at the time of signing)

DriftSplonk500 · 2024-12-25T07:25:03+00:00

50% of marriages end in divorce. I'm gay and I think you guys get a really terrible deal. If she walks away she owns half of everything, and women almost always get custody of your kids even if they are terrible drug users etc. I know two married men who ended up screwed: one guy his wife went back to college and decided she wanted to do a semester in Spain. She came back, surprise surprise and wanted a divorce. Another guy I know the wife just said she was bored and didn't sign up for this and started cheating on him with a dirt bag. Seeing both their marriages fall apart was eye opening for me in terms of what you guys have to deal with.

I'm disgusted with my community, the radical gender people have you in the cross hairs, they want to destroy your role in society, in the family, and the concept of masculinity.

Street_Conflict_9008 · 2024-12-22T02:17:10+00:00

What do you want out of the marriage?

I wanted a companion into the twilight years. What was important in the person's character for me, and what could I offer?

Would the person be there to support me in the future at my weakest? Will I be there to support them?

There is more.

Marriage can be worthwhile. Married 19 years, 2 kids we have had rough patches, but slowly worked things out together. Overcoming the tough times together brought us closer.

M0220026 · 2024-12-22T06:40:21+00:00

Depends on 3 factors, your expectation of the structure and life of a family, the acceptance of the woman being part of the family you're aiming to built, and local laws protecting the family as an actual religious family. If those 3 do not perfectly match forget about it, if the concept is based on equality, rights, fairness... that should have been made for the companies, not families, forget about it.

reverbiscrap · 2024-12-22T07:42:01+00:00

Not in most western nations, to most western women.

However, if you want children, then get married, and don't subject the children to that brand of disfunction.

SirHybrid24 · 2024-12-22T13:51:23+00:00

I'm more focused on living in peace and potentially finding love overseas.

That is my goal in 2025; just need to find a tribe that can help me out without being in a paywall.

Happyjarboy · 2024-12-22T14:00:08+00:00

of course, to the right person. My Mom took care of my Dad for many years as his health failed before hers. They gave each other love and comfort and support for over 50 years, and had a great family.

Nose-Spare · 2024-12-22T14:44:41+00:00

Idk, I’m 21 M and want to be at least spiritually married with 1+ ceremonies and have kids etc but if I don’t get legally married, how would I make sure that my potential children would inherit money property etc from me? Also, for prenups, what is a good gap between signing the prenup and getting married so one cannot claim duress?

KingDorkFTC · 2024-12-22T15:22:38+00:00

Yes, but it depends on how much you want to invest. You must grow as a person and be a true partner to your spouse. Compromise, listen, understand the other person in your life. To be able to be the best partner you can working on yourself is first thing you have to do. Grow as person on your own to know what kind of partner is right for you. Going past shallow desires and ego to understand what kind of person will add to your life. Been married for 8 years and no regrets. Are there hard spots, yes. By understanding that as a couple we must solve problems and not fight each other we have a stronger relationship.

VictoryInfinite · 2024-12-22T17:34:32+00:00

If you're a Christian man, and she's a Christian woman, if both of you want to raise your future children with the Church, then a case could be made for it. If she's not like that, then NO.

nipchin · 2024-12-22T17:42:20+00:00

Only if she becomes your sugar momma

VivaIlSesso · 2024-12-22T18:02:10+00:00

I have a solution to marriage: international travel + beautiful escorts

CorneredSponge · 2024-12-22T21:37:54+00:00

For the right person, yes.

There is no universal law here, and I would say the cost-benefit has diminished in some respects, but if you find the right woman (or man) go for it with a rational attitude.

Neat_Effect965 · 2024-12-23T00:22:27+00:00

Can anyone speak from an Australian perspective? I thought after living with your partner for 2 years you’re already basically married, is that true?

Winter-Gur-9762 · 2024-12-24T01:26:45+00:00

Getting married is not the problem. The problem is finding a woman nowadays who will stay with the average man for the rest of her life.

KissMyAsthma-99 · 2024-12-24T13:59:56+00:00

Yes, absolutely, but with great caution. If you find the right woman, it's still worth it.

The key is her background. Don't look so much at today, look at how she grew up. Are her parents still together? Do they have a good relationship? Has she been brought up in a culture/faith that deeply respects marriage?

Far-Salt-6946 · 2024-12-25T00:40:11+00:00

ScoobyDoo1414 · 2024-12-25T01:43:05+00:00

I would never risk it

wroubelek · 2024-12-25T04:57:58+00:00

Duuuuude… this belongs to r/Divorce_Men 😁
But I'll answer you, no, in most countries it's not worth getting put on a leash without any legal power in case of trouble.

googleydeadpool · 2024-12-22T03:32:07+00:00

It's up to your generational wealth and your capacity to hold your patience.

Once you are married, every single penny you hold has half its authority/ownership with your SO.

All marriages are not bad, and some marriages are bad.

Irrespective of what anyone says about an individual being "independent," once you are married, the expectation of dependency changes.

Getting married after 28 would be the right thing to do. You would get some life experiences and insights into what you expect from a partner and what the partner expects from you.

If you don't want to marry, save up for your 60s and retire in a luxury home or your own home with a capacity to have a care taker incase you want it.

Two individuals are always great but sometimes not together!

LiamMacGabhann · 2024-12-22T10:06:41+00:00

I’m happily married to the best human being I’ve ever met, but YMMV.

Reasonable-Mixture81 · 2024-12-22T11:11:17+00:00

Not in western countries. Find yourself a beautiful loyal wife in a 3rd world country.

Swanky_Gear_Snob · 2024-12-22T11:59:57+00:00

It's sad seeing all the naysayers. I'm married and happily married. I couldn't imagine doing it today. However, finding a woman with decent values is the key. I would absolutely get a prenuptial if getting married today. Children are truly what makes life worth living as you get older. Not women, not yourself, but the next generation. It's both extremely selfish to yourself and the world not to have kids if you're a decent person. Something the West is truly lacking (decent people having the kids).

Occams_Shiv · 2024-12-23T06:07:45+00:00

Yes, but only if you want children. The game is rigged, but fatherhood is worth it. Marry a girl from a big family whose parents are still together. People value what they grew up with. Women from solid families value family. Women from broken homes will break their family just to make it more familiar.

rippierippo · 2024-12-22T07:10:09+00:00

It is not worth it. I am married and have a kid. The amount of sacrifices I have made to keep the relationship going feels heavy and unjust. I literally got disabled. If I have another opportunity, I will not choose marriage. Never. It is literally a prison and you are forced to deal with illogical, abusive and manipulative person everyday. I regret my mistake. Learn from others.

Sick-of-you-tbh · 2024-12-22T22:06:02+00:00

Nope.

Original_Welcome6699 · 2025-04-27T04:51:31+00:00

no😅

Original_Welcome6699 · 2025-04-27T04:53:33+00:00

StaySingleNeverGetMarried. Keep your mental health and your cash.

FinnMan316 · 2024-12-22T04:48:35+00:00

Depends on the women.

NationalJournalist42 · 2024-12-22T15:03:37+00:00

I’m a woman and I believe in signing a pre nuptial contract to protect his rights/ assets.

namenomatter85 · 2024-12-22T16:05:01+00:00

I think you’ll find the answers in this sub Reddit a bit bias.

Ordinary_Rich_3334 · 2024-12-22T05:27:19+00:00

Don’t fall into incel behavior…unfortunately you have to have your guard up in dating these days, which I do get. A great women will be the best thing you find in life and there are plenty of great woman out there who want a wonderful relationship and to build a life with a great man. Be that great man and find that wonderful woman. Treat her with respect, care, gentleness, love, and you will reap the rewards of building a great relationship. Know your boundaries and what is respectful and right in a relationship and don’t put up with BS. Talk through your problems respectfully and see the results of change or move on to find something worth your time as a deserving man.

Sitheral · 2024-12-22T03:51:28+00:00

Some will tell you it is. Others will tell you its not. It's up to you. There is no single answer. You take a risk, a really big one, to open and bond with another person like noone else. It can turn to heaven or hell.

hardcore_softie · 2024-12-22T07:14:04+00:00

I watched my mom go through three marriages, the first two being horrible and the last ending in his death, but that marriage was toxic as fuck too. My bio dad left the country when he couldn't get 50-50 custody of me because he was a lying, manipulative asshole.

I have zero desire to ever get married. At age 42 now, I'm watching multiple marriages fall apart, often with kids being fought over. I have exactly one close friend who's in a happy, childless marriage.

Personally I'm good. People say they are afraid to die alone but this overlooks the fact that, barring an accident or something, you will still die alone if you're the last to go. Men statistically are likely to die sooner than women, so I guess if you really care about having someone by your side as you pass, marriage is worth it. There's also the tax advantages too, but unless you really want to get married, I would say it's not worth it.

Htrail1234 · 2024-12-22T05:04:39+00:00

Contrarian point of view : depends on you and the woman's value and commitment..... choose wisely.

FullDefinition9917 · 2024-12-22T20:55:42+00:00

If you believe in Christ then marriage is pretty much essential

Title	Serious question: is it still worth it getting married as a man?
Author	PeachBling
Upvotes	141
Comments	189
Date	December 22, 2024 1:31 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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