Men complain that women only want to date the top hot guys. Women complain men only want one-night stands and they want a stable relationship.

Don't these go together? Don't they match? So what's the problem?

Men complain about toxic women who cheat, have constant sex with bad boys. Others point out that most women aren't like that. However, I think one reason why men think most women are like this is because the culture of toxic women dominates the discourse about sex and dating within female culture.

Women are passive. Most prefer to go along and fit in. Aggressive, toxic women could easily dominate discourses involving women.

In order to escape this discourse, more passive women might need to rely on men (or older men, or older women, or parental or elder type figures) to support them and back them up against the toxic women. I think the toxic women know this and sabotage it.

Older people are called outdated and conservative and regressive. Men are called predators and incels.

The effect of all this is that toxic women have power over all other women, they've isolated other women from other partnerships that might give them more power. While holding this power, toxic women attract powerful men. By keeping less powerful men isolated and scorned, this also allows toxic women to gatekeep male status to a degree, giving them more power.

The toxicity of this culture is plain to see. Women are miserable, for one, stop coping. The really weird thing is why people don't just push back against this culture and just stop it? Because toxic women have systematically deconstructed every last social tool that has been used against them. They've allied with bitter man-hating lesbians to accomplish this. They've emotionally blackmailed and actually threatened less powerful women with traumatic intimidation, grossly exaggerating the dangers and harms women face in the world, presenting worst case outcomes as if they're everyday occurrences.

For instance, women have prioritized abortion above all other political issues, things like: the economy, war and peace, the welfare of children. Why? To many men, they appear hysterical. The answer is that women are locked into an echo chamber that they lack the social power to escape from, controlled by toxic women, who use mentally ill priestesses to evangelize them (feminist scholars projecting their trauma onto others calling it ideology). Men, the reason women are obsessed with abortion is that they actually, literally believe that it's one step away from literal, actual the Handmaid's Tale - like, the full Hollywood version of it - actually happening. All it would take is one woman to say, "Don't you think you might be exaggerating the situation a little". But they can, that power has been taken from them. It's like a dystopian hell enforced for the benefit of toxic alpha women.

Meanwhile, the average woman is not very rich, not incredibly attractive, rather lonely, with mental health and health issues, lacking family and community, culturally and socially lost - but society isn't allowed to admit that. We keep talking about how men are lonely and jobless. Umm.. so many women are depressed, lonely, mentally unwell, unmarried and childless in deadend careers. We just assume that someone will take care of them, and because of toxic feminism, we can't ever admit anything bad about women. Men are not doing well, yeah, women are struggling really badly too.

Yet, go on instagram or OF and the very attractive privileged woman is living a life of luxury and leisurely adventure at a scale pretty much never before seen in all of history. They didn't get there by accident.

IMO, this disparity is directly the result of modern sexual culture, which is mostly to heavily toxic for most people, but greatly benefits primarily very attractive, aggressive women.

The dating crisis, all these issues. They're not about women being liberated and doing well. It's not about women having rights and thriving. It's about a small set of privileged, toxic women tearing down society in order to life extravagantly, while the average woman is trapped and powerless, locked out of getting genuine help, and nobody cares.