Have any of you been divorced by a good woman?

Able-Wasabi-2917 · 2025-06-06T18:21:04+00:00

She was an amazing woman, when properly medicated which towards the end she was no longer taking her meds because we couldn’t afford them.

serkovavantgarden · 2025-06-06T11:43:39+00:00

Good mum? Yeah

Good wife? I’ll crack the jokes

masterof-xe · 2025-06-05T23:42:10+00:00

Yeah, my wife was an amazing woman and a great mother. We had our ups and downs. Yet she let others get in her head (later in her bed) and plant the seed of doubt. She divorced me and found "loved" in a married man's arms. Do I still miss my ex-wife? Yes, but I have accepted there is no point to even try anymore. She's moved on and I will too. I am just working on myself before anything else.

Spiritual_Grass_8993 · 2025-06-05T03:13:34+00:00

I can say 100,000 wonderful things about my STBX, I can also say narcissistic, neurotic, impulsive, self sabotaging, inability to take accountability.

Appropriate_Breath91 · 2025-06-04T03:28:42+00:00

She was a good woman; but she wasn’t right for me. And I wasn’t right for her. We were both committed for a long time; but sometimes people just don’t do well together and it takes age and experience to understand this.

Sometimes toxic relationships sneak up on you and they aren’t overtly toxic.

I could’ve done without her punitive vindictive everything is your fault and you must die approach to divorce, though.

tonyclifton999 · 2025-06-04T02:22:12+00:00

Mine describes herself as a people pleaser, and she is, to friends, acquaintances, me early in our relationship. Her friends and acquaintances would say she is kind, caring, thoughtful, etc. She only shows her true self to those who are closest. No one outside her close family would believe how selfish, cold, and irresponsible she can be.

Plenty-Gur1469 · 2025-06-04T01:03:48+00:00

Yes, just happened to me actually. She was the best woman ever. Not sure if I will find one to measure up to her.

Dangerous_Moment_689 · 2025-06-03T20:35:33+00:00

Oh must definitely.... However their stubbornness is something I could be never surrender to. It would be a betrayal to self

Equanimous-Fox · 2025-06-03T19:13:57+00:00

I understand many of us here have gone through difficult divorce/separation, and often had a number of unhappy years before that.

But it's so incredibly unhelpful for everyone if you demonize each other. My $0.02

Mobile_Scientist1310 · 2025-06-03T18:29:42+00:00

Mine was good until she turned vindictive. Went to India and filed a threat case against me and I had to give up my son as I couldn’t keep traveling between India and USA. Made it hard for me to retain my house as well. Sold it for good and moved away. Didn’t see my children till date.

Low-Animator1741 · 2025-06-03T18:19:14+00:00

She was good for about 25 then she gaslit me for another 4 years until she demanded a divorce with court ordered extortion and kidnapping. She then moved several states away making it harder for me to visit my kids. She got military orders to a place of her choosing.

Boglehead101 · 2025-06-03T17:08:20+00:00

She was good, then her ire turned to me. I just thought this was the way of married life. She was never happy.

Now she’s unrecognisable, a toxic, septic human filled with anger. This person is the one I will remember her as.

Illustrious_Ant7588 · 2025-06-03T17:06:10+00:00

My ex was a good woman and still seems to be. She was a good mother to my son. She fell out of love with me and surprised me with her decision to leave. It spiraled me for a while…more than I’d like to admit….but I am so much happier now than I ever was with her, and I believe that, if asked, she’d have a similar story.

Plastic_Canary_6637 · 2025-06-03T17:03:20+00:00

Good person is such a nebulous terms and hard to describe. No one is all good or all bad, people are a mix of both depending on the situation and circumstance. Someone can be a good business partner but a terrible romantic partner.

My ex is a good person who had a rough childhood. She’s a borderline and avoidant. She’s loves the children and is a pretty good mom. When it comes to being in a relationship though, she has difficulty setting boundaries or creating plans and just kind of goes the way her emotions take her. Does this make her a bad person? No but also not one that can be in a healthy relationship.

Dakeddit · 2025-06-03T17:01:29+00:00

My ex likes to say she's a good woman via her religious beliefs. But I'm husband #2.

Effective_Hornet_833 · 2025-06-03T16:50:24+00:00

There’s a conceptual difference between understanding the role one played in the marriage and understanding that she chose to leave rather than communicate and repair. We were doing different things, because she is an unserious person.

OldGuyNewTrix · 2025-06-03T16:43:20+00:00

I always thought she was a good woman. Together 18 years, 3 kids under 10. Then one day, boom. I thought things were fine, but she told me she’s not happy and wants a divorce. Final decision. I had no say.

So yes… then no

Peace_and_Love40 · 2025-06-03T15:43:31+00:00

Not a good one nope

Condor-man3000 · 2025-06-03T15:42:25+00:00

There are a number of stages to a separation/divorce. You know you are in a good place when you realize that you played a major role in the breakup of your marriage.

It's easy to play the victim and blame your partner and right off, most of us do. In the end, if you don't see the part of your ex that made you love her, you have not reflected enough and truly healed and moved on.

MonkeyBranchBuster · 2025-06-03T15:25:27+00:00

My wife is a good mother, housekeeper, friend and employee. She's unchanged in every aspect of her life besides in her relationship with me, where she is cold, detched, sometimes even cruel, unapologetic cheating narc.

Is she a good person? I guess she might be, but for some reason I, the person besides her late grandma and mother, who loved her the most, seem to be the punching bag for her unresolved daddy issues.

I bought into the Hollywood fantasy that if she sees me as a loving father to our kids, she'll love me more, but somehow the opposite happened, this is where it all fell apart.

I never got any closure but projection, deflection, gaslighting and rewriting of history so I can't say a person who does that to her husband of almost 20 years can be good.

She's a wonderful mother to my kids though and I can't hate her or wish her harm.

bopapocolypse · 2025-06-03T14:42:07+00:00

Mine is a good person and a great mom. Not to say she was perfect, but nobody is. Our relationship ran its course and she pulled the plug. I was initially devastated, but it was the right move. We are much better as co-parents than we were as a married couple.

OwnCompany916 · 2025-06-03T14:25:47+00:00

If a woman is divorcing you she is not good.

NotYours25 · 2025-06-03T14:24:12+00:00

They always seem good at first and then you start to peel the layers off the red onion.

OwnCompany916 · 2025-06-03T14:20:22+00:00

No woman is good.

Usernameisguest · 2025-06-03T14:12:53+00:00

My ex is objectively a really good person. Doesn’t mean she was good to me though.

AdequatelyfunBoi2 · 2025-06-03T14:09:43+00:00

No, the woman who divorced me is a borderline, insecure, petulant child. She touts herself as the best mom on the planet™️ but is the walking, talking stereotype of the worst single mom in recorded history. Attempts to punish me by limiting time with my son and I bet she doesn’t realize that she’s only punishing her son. She’ll fuck anyone who gives her a compliment.

Maseworld · 2025-06-03T13:55:49+00:00

Nah. Mine sucked.

SonOfKong_ · 2025-06-03T13:31:27+00:00

Yes, over 40 years ago. My infidelity changed her, and she left me. Even though she said she wanted to work it out, I realized our relationship had changed. I loved the old version of her. Not the new one. Also, she now wanted kids and I did not.

Even back then, I realized relationships can be broken beyond repair. So it best to move on. She was very pissed at me when I did. Also, if a woman leaves you once, she will probably do it again.

Rugger2row · 2025-06-03T13:31:18+00:00

I most likely will be. She is a tremendously good person, just very difficult to be married to at this point. I find her anxiety suffocating at times and she finds my presence intolerable. I do love my 5 and 8 yr olds to the moon though, so here I am for now.

SelectionNo3078 · 2025-06-03T13:27:14+00:00

For sure. It always takes two but my wife’s negative choices and actions were quiet and passive while mine were loud and chaotic

Her greatest mistake was shutting down communication and honesty about where her heart was which pushed me to make worse and worse choices while struggling with depression and anger

black65Cutlass · 2025-06-03T13:21:30+00:00

I passed over the good women and married the batshit crazy one. Glad I divorced her.

redragtop99 · 2025-06-03T13:08:34+00:00

No I have not, mine was absolutely batshit nuts.

If a woman who you weren’t cheating on, didn’t abuse and were a “good husband” to, left you, she’s more than likely crazy. I think aging hits women a lot harder than men, in general. Looks to a woman are more important and a bigger part of her identity than looks to a man, usually. Looks fade for everyone as we age. This can do crazy things to a woman’s brain, and the better looking usually the more crazy.

This is just my experience and opinion, as well as what I’ve gathered from my time here.

AdequatelyfunBoi2 · 2025-06-03T13:01:12+00:00

Yeah, my now-ex-wife is a decent person.

She is stable, we divided stuff fairly, we have 50:50 co-parenting agreement to raise our kid.

Our conversation about how we split stuff and the kid took 30 minutes - we quickly agreed on principles and then followed them.

She is seeing a guy now, but she's decent enough not to flaunt it in my face despite us still living together while I search for a place.

Paddle_Pedal_Puddle · 2025-06-03T13:00:57+00:00

One of the hardest things to come to terms with is that she was this selfish person all along and I didn’t see it. She just put on a good front for as long as she was getting what she wanted from our 17 year marriage.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2025-06-03T12:33:44+00:00

At one time she was. Till she turned out to be more of an insect instead of a woman. She mated with her partner, then killed and cannabalized him; now keeps his corpse in a web so she can play with it any time she wants. If I didnt have kids with her, i would move to another continent.

Nighthawk2824 · 2025-06-03T12:32:00+00:00

Shit, she put a good front on for 9 years. I saw some glimpses through out but was blind still and ik we all have our moments. The one who left our family and cheated is NOT the same as I saw in our relationship. She’s a complete narcissist and has issues.

Confident-Crawdad · 2025-06-03T12:24:40+00:00

In late '23 I'd have said she's a good woman. The one who filed in '24 is a cowardly traitor.

Title	Have any of you been divorced by a good woman?
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Date	June 3, 2025 12:19 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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