Q4W: How much money does a man need in order for it to factor into your attraction towards them? Is there a number that would overcome and “physical” issues for you?

AngeAware · 2025-08-27T21:16:25+00:00

Not a thing, wasn't raised like that. I was always taught that marriage is DOA without attraction.

My mom broke up with a signed NBA rookie in undergrad because she realized while people would call her crazy she simply wasn't attracted to him the way she was to my dad. No regrets.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-08-27T21:34:23+00:00

No amount of money would be enough to make me overlook the lack of attraction, or worse, a genuine feeling of revulsion.

Inevitable-Bite8660 · 2025-08-27T21:43:38+00:00

So basically, when a man has money, a woman can put up with his crap the way she puts up with a tough job—out of necessity, not attraction.

Flip it around: how much money would it take for men to feel genuine attraction toward working all day loading parcels at a warehouse, or doing endless overtime on a plastic injection line, or being bullied by a humiliating boss and awful coworkers?

That’s the gap—it’s endurance, not desire.

EulenWatcher · 2025-08-27T20:16:58+00:00

That doesn’t work this way. If I’m not into a guy, having more money won’t help to build attraction. I need emotional connection and enjoy their smell to feel anything romantic/sexual, so money…isn’t going to cut it.

TSquaredRecovers · 2025-08-27T21:15:06+00:00

If a guy is physically unattractive to me, no amount of money can compensate for the lack of attraction.

NoDanaOnlyZuuI · 2025-08-27T21:03:54+00:00

If I’m not attracted to you, I’m not attracted to you. No amount of money will change that.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-08-27T20:25:32+00:00

I mean if he doesn’t attract me he doesn’t attract me. He needs to support himself, sure. But if you think that i see lots of money and suddenly i’m attracted that doesn’t work like that. What are you asking is more about prostitution and sugar baby arrangement. Personality can override some unattractiveness, and money can give an advantage of creating more opportunities to show personality.

UpbeatInsurance5358 · 2025-08-27T21:36:14+00:00

Nothing. No amount of money is overcoming a lack of attraction.

Few-Yesterday9628 · 2025-08-27T22:40:16+00:00

There is no amount of money that would make me want to share my life with someone I wasn't attracted to.

lesliecarbone · 2025-08-27T20:34:27+00:00

Oh good grief, I'm not in the habit of asking people their net worth.

Lazy-Assignment7676 · 2025-08-27T21:07:24+00:00

face gets you through the door, net worth keeps you in the game, sorry. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Most men usually offer up how much they make before I even express interest in them so sometimes I don’t even need to ask, but I have asked.

Avast_Lion · 2025-08-27T23:52:39+00:00

None, and no. Even if he doesn’t make any money, if he’s down to be a SAHD, that’s cool too. Now, if he has an exceptionally cool and prestigious job, like a human rights lawyer that has saved hundreds of lives or a famous author of my favorite book, that might INCREASE my attraction to him. But money itself doesn’t.

Routine-Present-3676 · 2025-08-27T21:24:39+00:00

Bezos money

ThatBitchA · 2025-08-27T22:39:19+00:00

If a guy is ugly to me, no amount of money would overcome that.

As for how much money a man needs, it would be an annual income of at least $50,000.

MyLastBestChance · 2025-08-27T23:12:48+00:00

An unattractive man with money can attract women who are willing to pretend in order to get a paycheck. If these men are very lucky and also genuinely good guys, they may find a woman who doesn’t prioritize physical / sexual attraction who actually cares about him for himself, not just a paycheck.

Money doesn’t ever make an unattractive man actually attractive. Seriously, that’s not a thing.

S0yslut · 2025-08-27T21:04:09+00:00

100Million

Redhotangelxxx · 2025-08-27T21:42:00+00:00

If he is completely physically repulsive to me, no amount of money could make him attractive. If he's neutral attraction-wise but has enough money to pay every time we go out or buy us nice vacations it would make him slightly more attractive, but not enough that it would make up for bad looks/personality - and I'm not a very materialistic person so I don't really care about that.

On the other hand if he's very hot with no money, no job, no ambition then he would become unattractive. If he is attractive then just a normal average salary is fine, so we can do things together without one having to pay for the other all the time.

Poppy_Luvv · 2025-08-27T22:25:31+00:00

Too much money actually makes me uncomfortable. I've had attention from guys with money, and even though I found them cute-ish/not unattractive the way they were flaunting their wallets made me keep them arms length away.

AchingAmy · 2025-08-28T01:52:45+00:00

There's no number that would overcome "physical issues." All men are unattractive and no amount of money would change my mind

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2025-08-28T02:02:28+00:00

If he has $0, i will be less attracted to him, that's for sure. But I have my own money and I'm more than well off on my own. I am not impressed by wealth. In fact, after a certain point, wealth is a huge turn off because the man who has it is usually conceited, materialistic, and shallow.

toad-wrangler · 2025-08-28T06:24:59+00:00

My threshold for a long term partner was that he had to make enough to where he could carry us financially for a year by himself in the event that I got pregnant and had complications that made it to where I couldn't work.

Money has never compensated for a lack of physical attraction for me personally. I think people with excess money have the opportunity to get more out of their looks, but that's the closest I can think to money having compensated for lack of attraction

Objective_Ad_6265 · 2025-08-28T08:37:23+00:00

It doesn't factor in attraction in any way. If I FEEL it I will happily provide for him. There is no amount that can overcome attraction, I'm not a prostitute.

jadzia_d4x · 2025-08-28T23:14:56+00:00

I hope I someday am wise enough to finally date a man who makes at least 50% of my salary. 😑

My mom has been a programmer since the mid eighties. My father was her boss, but each of the three men she married after divorcing him have been financially dependent on her to some degree. Unfortunately I seem to have inherited this financial mommy pheromone and sweet-hearted broke dudes having been charming me since I graduated college!

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-08-27T20:46:13+00:00

no amount of money would do this, i sleep with men before i know teir last name, let alone how much money they make have, i don't even like men who have jobs

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SauceyQ0369 · 2025-08-27T21:40:26+00:00

There is no amount of money that would make me want to date someone I found physically unattractive.

Nor for a disability (though not all physical disabilities would be a dealbreaker anyway.) That’s something I’d have to take on a case by case basis, and decide if their limitations would heavily impact my life or limit them from participating in things I’d want to share with a partner.

Money matters for financial stability. I make a fair amount more than average. So I don’t exactly need someone who makes as much or more than I, but I don’t want to tie myself to someone who I’d have to financially support a significant amount. I don’t care to lower my living standards and I couldn’t enjoy this lifestyle for 2 on my salary.

ResponsibilityAny217 · 2025-08-28T05:28:26+00:00

It won't change my attraction but i would behave as if it did as it's just the money literally that I find attractive still not the guy, but I'd do a really good job.

Also it matter of how much money he'll give me a for how long he wants me and what I have to do to get it.

I would say a million dollars - 5 million for like a week- 5 years.

milinium · 2025-08-28T16:59:44+00:00

If a guys is physically unattractive to me then there’s no amount of money that can ‘’create’’ an attraction. I don’t need extreme wealth, I want someone who is similar in attractiveness and wealth to me.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2025-08-29T10:16:32+00:00

No amount of money can buy the feeling of genuine attraction towards someone

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