It isn't sex, gender norms, or even loneliness.

It's simple - we are in a transition period where a bunch of young men learned very early that providership was the thing.

So they took classes they hated, majored in things they hated, worked jobs they hated, and live lives they hate - all because they were told that was the thing to do to "make it".

Well, then the game changed - women can make their own money, can live their own lives, and don't need your providership.

To have a family, it turns out, you never needed to kill yourself picking lives you hate. But your dad did a generation ago and that's what he showed you.

You're free to have chosen differently in the past.

And that's more painful than just having life be what it always was.

You could go back and start over at something you enjoy.

But, at best, that's 20 years of your life lost. And more likely, half your salary.

The issue isn't women, it's that you could've done something else with your life and nowadays have it still work out.

But you can't dust off old interests that you let decay anyway. Your talents are gone. The novelty, too.

You're a generation of men lost, angry that the next one has time and will probably do it better.

Or at least kinder to themselves.