Some of These People and What They Say on The r/Divorce Subreddit are kinda funny 😁 😂😭

upvotersfortruth · 2026-05-11T05:20:45+00:00

The official policy position of this subreddit on /r/divorce is:

fuck that place

Plastic-Weight-9211 · 2026-05-30T02:24:58+00:00

YES. 💯 I have realized over a year into being divorced that I would rather not have it any other way. End of story. And when I get sad (which I still fucking do because I loved that woman and my family with my whole heart), I keep forging my own way forward and remember that what she put me through isn’t worth a single goddamn thing. Not in the end, and not throughout our relationship. She can be someone else’s problem now. Good luck out there to the poor dumbass who didn’t do his due diligence before deciding she was worth the fuck.

Secret_Aside_2 · 2026-05-18T06:00:13+00:00

Thanks. Really needed this.

It’s been more than a year since I divorced my childhood love. My ex-wife managed to fool both me and my therapist for over 6 months, acting like she wanted to fix the marriage while sleeping with her intern, a guy she described as “a best friend with a good emotional quotient” and “just a kid 6 years younger.” The amount of gaslighting and manipulation I went through this past year was crazy.

Even during the divorce, I still wanted her back after finding out she cheated, because she somehow made me believe it was my fault she went to him. Even though our therapist kept telling me I wasn’t in the wrong, I was too caught up in her manipulation to see it properly. I got into substance abuse after the divorce. Slowly getting out of it now, but it’s so fucking hard when you lose the person who was your whole world for most of your life.

Yallah_Habibii · 2026-05-17T22:48:03+00:00

Ive found reading these stories and this sub to make me feel better and give me strength as its so easy to go into that dark place

Delicious_Divide4727 · 2026-05-12T06:47:55+00:00

Yeah. 2 years divorced from my ex-wife, who was clearly crazy about cleanliness at home. I tried to talk, invited to therapy, and even for a pastor counselling. Nothing worked out. I was the only one to blame. I was affected by a layoff months after separation.

Two years later, she doesn’t work, I have a debit of almost $30k (borrowed money to cover her rent while unemployed, my own survival expenses in my credit cards while I was under employment insurance, lawyer fees, etc.

Have been dealing with anxiety and depression, and still have 3 more years of spousal support to pay.

I asked her multiple times to look for education and a job while married, but in court she said: he was the provider, and I was a house wife.

Never had the due respect from her.

Life sucks right now, but my boy is right here by my side and loves me to the moon and back. That makes the difference a lot.

Hope you guys hang in there. Brighter days will come for us all. Amen.

Fantastic-Sport-3054 · 2026-05-12T05:33:40+00:00

Just so you know it’s often the other way around as well even though men aren’t as often going through with it which instead could lead to resentment or infidelity on their side.

Clear-Sail-5298 · 2026-05-12T03:05:55+00:00

That sub is either

A. “My partner did x,y, and z. They won’t change. I’m thinking about divorce. I’ve been thinking about it for 15 years. I’m scared of it though, I’ve been staying for my children only. But now that my oldest is 42 and my youngest just turned 37 yesterday, I think I’m finally ready. When did you know it was time ?”
OR

B. “Dating is so hard after divorce. There’s no one out there! I want them to be just like my ex but also not be anything like my ex in any way. I just made a profile on dating apps with my best mirror selfie as my profile picture. I have my wedding pics on there because I looked good, but I put red over their face so people can’t tell I was getting married there. I don’t know why I’m not getting quality matches!?!?”

At least 90% of the sub right there. I think the other 10% is ad-space, but if I’m missing a bullet point someone feel free to chime in!!!

Fuckthedarkpools · 2026-05-12T02:46:55+00:00

One thing I've learned going through my shit is women have sub zero accountability and they don't hold each other accountable at all . We've had some guy friends fuck up and none of us cheer that shit on. We normally tell each other you're fking idiot go fix it. Women. Oh hell no. Just look at any Facebook post where a man said a woman did something wrong like had an affair etc. 75% of the comments from women immediately come up with a justification scenario.

OkJaguar5013 · 2026-05-11T19:05:47+00:00

Fuck yeah. Thank you for sharing.

West-Earth-719 · 2026-05-11T15:24:30+00:00

I needed to hear this, all I care about is the relationship between me and my child at this point. I’ve resigned myself to the financial loss coming

Numerous_Rush5227 · 2026-05-11T14:16:19+00:00

It’s all the same psychology.

1) make a post which only shares one side of the story by default 2) use said post to garner opinions and sympathy from other women whom have no knowledge of your actual life and contextual evidence to hold a valid opinion 3) divorce, have your fun 4) invest in a new cat each 5 years single or remarry. Then, rinse 2nd husband and repeat 1-3.

Former_Tap_5471 · 2026-05-11T11:44:19+00:00

I agree about the social media part 💯 Mine has often compared us to others because of the stupid shit they post on Facebook, openly loving their significant other. One high school friend is a bipolar sex addict who has hit 5 of his past g/f and really did some facial damage to his ex wife which put him in jail for one year. We had a bit of a reunion a few months ago and his current lady even spoke up at the table about he spends hours in the basement watching porn and jacking off numerous times a week. She doesn't care and often would rather him do that than throw himself on her. Yet he'll post the most romantic sappy shit every now and then, and my wife is like "aw, why can't you be more like that?" I'll ask her if she would like a cracked orbital bone to go with that Facebook post. The guy stops taking his meds because he says it effects his erection and then look out... holes in the wall, balls of kleenex in the trash and just stay out of his way. Yeah honey, that's really what you want, eh.

waggers5 · 2026-05-11T09:13:55+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to read this today

Expensive_Sock_9902 · 2026-05-11T05:15:16+00:00

Yep got the lines "choosing myself", "focusing on growing and healing". Healing from what exactly? Im not saying i am perfect, but i treated her with the utmost respect throughout our 17 year relationship. I did my best to support her and our child, was present, patient and loving in the best way that i knew how with zero verbal feedback for what she really needed from me. I think she just decided i wasnt good enough and would never be good enough, so she checked out, zero intimacy, started treating me with open contempt until she couldnt tolerate it anymore. I tried to keep us together, i really did. But she left long ago and i knew that deep down, i just didnt want to accept it. Even still, her pulling the plug hurt deeply. Never experienced a pain like that before and i hope i dont ever again.

Gattsama · 2026-05-11T04:42:16+00:00

I amin the smaller percentage of men that filed. I was a wreck in the beginning, then her actions during the divorce helped cement I was right for filing. We were never healthy, in her world everything was 100% my fault, she had no negative faults, she was a love expert, and I was a POS she tolerated.

My life is exponentially better post divorce. I am so much better emotionally, mentally, and financially than during the marriage. What gets me is that even paying her a ton of spousal support (which just ended this month) I still have more discretionary income now than when married. I'm saving/investing more and just living a much better life.

I'm still not 100% recovered. I have trust issues and some sleep issues. But I'll keep working on and over come those. Life has literally never been better, and have a new g/f that is genuinely attracted to me which is also transformative.

Alexandros23 · 2026-05-11T04:25:24+00:00

Success is the best revenge. Use the pain as fuel to create the best version of yourself

Ok-Wolverine-4586 · 2026-05-11T04:09:10+00:00

You are absolutely right my friend absolutely right. The secret? Is maintaining a positive attitude even in the darkest of darkest times. I can tell you from personal experience that that little glimmer of light is sometimes all you have in the Sea of Darkness. And remember. In some cases Karma does work. Especially in my case and both situations in the end I won. The other two? Lost badly. All you have to do is just wait and let it do its course.

Frosty_Wrongdoer7256 · 2026-05-11T03:42:50+00:00

Mother’s Day was a bitch though.

Fit-Plenty8777 · 2026-05-11T03:40:45+00:00

Lieutenant Dan in the storm. That one hit. The TED Talk about finding herself while the dude is folding laundry, too real. Two years out and grateful is the part most guys don't believe until they get there. Good read brother.

The_Answer1313 · 2026-05-11T03:37:42+00:00

Thanks .

Needed this.

InvertedPickleTaco · 2026-05-11T03:33:04+00:00

Unfortunately my ex, when things were recovering, fell into the reddit/FB divorce groups and that was that. I say unfortunately, because it made things so much worse because they would yoyo between maybe and hell no to the divorce as their emotions and what they read clashed.

crzapy · 2026-05-11T03:11:52+00:00

You know what, two years out, good riddance. She wasn't happy and needed space.

I'm so much happier not dealing with the toxicity and unrealistic expectations.

She went to find herself and found out the grass wasn't greener (mainly because I wasn't there to fo yard work)

Meanwhile I'm much happier. So, while the process sucked I'm so glad I'm free.

Young guys, here's my advice, don't get married. They're your soul mate abd ride or die right now, but give it ten to 15 years and you'll be the reason they're trapped and need out. It's not worth it.

Bagman220 · 2026-05-11T03:10:06+00:00

We see it all the time, exactly like you described. The woman wasn’t happy. Who cares if the man was cleaning the grill, taking care of the house, paying the bills, none of that matters if the woman isn’t happy. This simple fact makes relationships lopsided.

But I took things into my own hands and divorced my wife because my happiness matters too. I wasn’t going to waste time with someone who was never going to be good for me.

It goes both ways. Men can leave when they aren’t happy, women can leave when they aren’t happy.

RunPeaceRun · 2026-05-11T02:52:47+00:00

I was folding laundry, making breakfast, cleaning the house, thinking where should we go on weekend. She sat, made the ted talk, used exact wording “ finding herself, her wants from life, what gives her energy in life, what makes her happy” she ended 11 years of being together in one day. I got emotionally destroyed, begged 5 days to at least let’s talk, discuss and make common efforts. Nah. She said it is her final decision. I slept 5 days next to her while thinking will her decision change or not. She packed her stuffs and left to her country.

After 2 weeks I couldn’t stay silent, flew to her, wanted to look one more time to eyes. She was gone, she got even angry I showed up like this as being “not respectful “ to her decision. The woman I loved for 11 years, doing everything to make things possible, choosing her side in every decision “got angry because I showed up to save our marriage”

she even told I don’t like hiking. Well… In our first 5-6 years I was able to take her to holidays, nature and so on. I even introduced her my country and all the beautiful scenery. She forgot all these and said I don’t like hiking, her wants don’t match with mine. I was financially destroyed with shit career in my last 3 years to create new life in new country for us.

Even worst thing after our last meeting she went to holiday to hike in my own country. She is in there now and enjoying her “process” of removing me from her life, deleted all social media photos, busy with glowing perhaps. I feel myself I was “toxic or poisonous” to her and now she is on process to “heal” What did I even do wrong? Never yelled or rise my voice even.

I get crazy in our flat, with her memories, asking why there was no signs, why even she learned my language and hurt me even more that I lost her after living as she was my soul mate.

I found here and I see everyone of us had same talks and same story even we live different countries, speaking different languages. Fucking hell man.

ohyeah1881 · 2026-05-11T02:51:17+00:00

Social media has definitely destroyed expectations and the Lt. Dan part🤣🤣🤣

Minimum_Step5048 · 2026-05-11T02:46:18+00:00

I’m in the middle of it now. Wife checked out 6-7 years ago didn’t bother to ever go to therapy with me or talk about things. We split up last year, now she’s flipping out bc things aren’t working out her way.
But the one thing she can do is use the kids to hurt me

throwaway_coy4wttf79 · 2026-05-11T02:05:12+00:00

Life is much better.

I'm much poorer.

But life is much better.

0neMinute · 2026-05-11T01:58:47+00:00

Agreed, spent 3 years thinking we where working through things 2nd child and all. She was gone by his second birthday. 2 years of lost 30 pounds, have ran a marathon and doubled my income. Only problem i have now is once they realize your happy they start using the children to hurt you.

Title	Some of These People and What They Say on The r/Divorce Subreddit are kinda funny 😁 😂😭
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Date	May 11, 2026 1:41 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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