Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner?

SnooCats37 · 2026-05-22T23:14:59+00:00

Everyone is entitled to feel the way they feel. It turns into entitlement when you start blaming everyone else for your own issues

Theawkwardmochi · 2026-05-23T00:22:42+00:00

"I'm sad that I don't have a woman in my life and it frustrates me. I wish I was with someone like the guys around me. I feel lonely. I want to be desired and loved"- good

"Since I am not a millionaire with a perfectly square jaw and my eyeballs and ball-balls aren't in straight lines crossing at the navel at exactly 45 degrees, which has been scientifically proven to be preferred by females, my only options are obese retirement home residents who have been through by the entire male population of the home, causing three strokes, one broken hip and a minor Chlamydia epidemic, and to that I say no, thank you, as I will not be a tool in the predatory female hypergamy" - not good

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2026-05-22T23:24:04+00:00

Totally fine to feel frustrated. Feelings are not the problem. It’s when you outwardly blame women for not “choosing” you.

lesliecarbone · 2026-05-22T23:54:17+00:00

He's entitled to want a partner; he's not entitled to have a partner.

leosandlattes · 2026-05-22T23:15:12+00:00

Not entitled and fine to feel frustrated. What he shouldn’t do is take that frustration out on me/other women.

pie-mart · 2026-05-22T23:35:58+00:00

Entitled? No. We are all allowed to want something and be frustrated if we don't get it. As long as we don't harm people because of our disappointment then its fine

GroundbreakingAlps78 · 2026-05-23T00:29:53+00:00

I want to be wealthy. Sometimes I’m frustrated that I’m not wealthy. I don’t blame you for my lack of wealth. I also don’t assume I deserve to be wealthy.

Werevulvi · 2026-05-23T00:47:59+00:00

No, I wouldn't. It's only entitled if he blames the women for it, and refusing to acknowledge any potential issues he may be responsible for. And no, I don't think every man frustrated with his lack of dating success is entitled. Context matters.

Antique-Bumblebee295 · 2026-05-22T23:34:52+00:00

It’s totally valid and normal to feel frustrated when things are going your way or your life isn’t how you want it to be. How you handle that frustration is the most important part

AngeAware · 2026-05-23T00:09:24+00:00

I've talked to fiancé at length about this. He was basically in a similar situation until the age of 25.

He had lots of great platonic/familial relationships with women who for the most part dated good men, and most of his male friends, who are very wholesome and upstanding people, had paired off as well. So he didn't really latch onto ideas that good men are never chosen, or that his lack of romantic success was caused by women choosing the wrong men. To me that's a major part of what would distinguish the sadness and longing he felt from entitlement.

ValeWho · 2026-05-23T00:10:13+00:00

Of he comes off as entitled totally depends on the way he is expressing his frustrations. Of course it is frustrating to not find love. That is a valid feeling, don't we all wanna feel loved in some way?

Imagine you co-worker get a promotion and you don't. It is totally okay to want a promotion too, we all need money to survive and everything is getting more expensive. So it is okay and doesn't make you unlikeable to say "I wish I got a promotion too. I feel like no one is recognising how hard I work. I really feel a bit unappreciated sometimes" but it does make you seem jealous and entitled if you say something like "how come he gets a promotion? It should have been mine. I work way harder than that guy!"

toasterchild · 2026-05-23T00:12:08+00:00

You aren't entitled if you just want something. Definitely not entitled for being frustrated. I don't even think you are necessarily entitled if you blame the world. You are entitled when you think life owes it to you or want to take revenge on people you feel have rejected you.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2026-05-23T01:24:04+00:00

Wanting a romantic partner no

Saying/thinking he *deserves* a romantic partner is different

Pantone711 · 2026-05-23T01:44:21+00:00

Not entitled. It's a normal human emotion.

NiaMiaBia · 2026-05-23T00:03:02+00:00

I think frustration is reasonable and doesn’t seem like entitlement to me 🦋

procrast1natrix · 2026-05-22T23:32:43+00:00

Nobody should be shamed for wanting what they want.

They should only be shamed for wanting other people to mystically do what they want.

The things we want take work, over time. Lots of work over lots of time. Getting your Eagle, earning a degree, losing 80 lbs and building up to twenty pushups, getting great at playing the guitar or baking souffle. It all takes a lot of time, and the younger generation has some difficulty with that.

Developing a strong sexual connection, usually takes time and effort to lay the foundation.

It's not entitled to want it. It's entitled to not want to do the work, and whine about it.

This is not a gendered comment. Women should be putting in a huge amount of effort into the type of relationship they want, including building skills at showing love and comfort, being financially prudent, emotionally honest, and if they're trying to find the guys that like the shaved legs, sundresses and cosmetics things, doing all that.

love_in_october · 2026-05-23T08:47:40+00:00

It depends on how he expresses his disappointment, but it's not entitled just to feel disappointed about it in itself.

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Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2026-05-23T16:36:00+00:00

Where did I say this about men? Please quote me.

It really just depends on the generalization. Saying all women are shallow is a useless generalization. Saying all men are violent is a useless generalization. Saying women are more likely to date a man within her own socio economic circle is not a bad generalizations, for example.

NavIsShit · 2026-05-23T01:03:18+00:00

Women complain about men all the time and attribute their failing to men being fuckboys, its entitled behaviour that they feel every man should give them a relationship because they decided to open their legs. Yet you don't see anyone calling them out

But when a man is crying about how he's an incel because of hypergamy, you aren't owed a relationship lol. Its just funny to me

Title	Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner?
Author	Equivalent_Use_5024
Upvotes	11
Comments	147
Date	May 22, 2026 9:34 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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