The Great List of Non-Negotiables.

Jajajones11 · 2015-10-13T08:37:50+00:00

This correlates to so much more than picking up. These are the keys to living a happy human life.

REDPILLRECKONING · 2015-10-13T14:29:36+00:00

Stop Browsing, Start Reading. You're wasting your time filling your head with nonsense and redundant information. Read the entire sidebar, read No More Mr Nice Guy, read Models and The Book of Pook, read The 48 Laws. Then fucking stop reading TRP...

Ooohhh, I love this. Way too many guys practice positive procrastination. It's just procrastinating on stuff they thing will help them, but doesn't actually address the issue at hand. I think I just found my next post btw.

Apanthropos · 2015-10-13T08:33:37+00:00

If you find your passion and go after it, you will find that most things in the list come naturally.

You will enjoy your life without feeling you are sacrficing anything while stayimg motivated in the long run.

WiiWynn · 2015-10-13T11:45:00+00:00

Great list. I'd also add to lose cynacism. You think you're being clever, and you might be, but it's almost always at someone's expense - worst if it's your own. You're not helping yourself or anyone else. It's a drain.

RichieFinn · 2015-10-13T10:18:28+00:00

anyone got any tips on meditation for someone who struggles focusing on things like that?

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T09:16:02+00:00

"Success is what you attract by the person you become." - Jim Rohn

Good post.

WilsonSelf · 2015-10-13T14:52:08+00:00

Eureka! Good post. I'd add ice cold showers for increased testosterone, muscle recovery & will power. And own your pain. You will fall, fail, whatever. It's part of the game. You'll be a conversational wizard some days & a distant wallflower on other days. You will hit gym plateaus. You will feel independent some days & lonely on others. Kill your ego and go with the flow. No one is exempt. Be proactive not reactive

elevul · 2015-10-13T09:58:36+00:00

For meditation i highly recommend headspace. First 10 days/lessons are free, after that it's paid. While I usually prefer free stuff, this is the thing that finally, after over 10 years of dabbling in Meditation, has pushed me to be consistent with it and now I'm nearly 3 months in, meditating every single day.

Perhaps it's the sunk cost fallacy, I'm not sure, but it had worked, so I recommend it to others.

sorceryofthetesticle · 2015-10-13T11:43:31+00:00

Your post reminds me of a quote from the great Sri K. Patthabi Jois," Yoga is 99% practice, 1% theory."

It's true for everything. Endless theorizing doesn't mean shit.

Thanks for the post.

GasStationCoffee · 2015-10-13T14:07:04+00:00

You need to understand your own fucking mind. Daily meditation will bring you clarity, focus, and impulse control. When you meditate you are training your mind to be present and to better observe and exert conscious control over your own thoughts. It makes you feel a greater sense of well being. It makes you quicker and wittier. Meditation is lifting weights for the mind.

Or do something that's just as good. Meditation doesn't work for me. Running does. It's my moving meditation. If meditation works for you, good. If it doesn't, find something that does similar stuff.

tag2man · 2015-10-13T08:47:13+00:00

Great, practical and relevant. The funny thing is that you've underscored all the elements of a healthy lifestyle; the physical, social and intellectual. The proverbial eat, pray, love sans 'feels good' bullshit. OP, simply if you've maintained all of these or are working towards so, you are a badass. Thanks for the content.

B_uckets · 2015-10-13T15:06:57+00:00

Just fucking do it

The most useless advice ever given.

You already said yourself that everyone here already knows what they should be doing:

You know what's wasting your time. You fucking know. If you really haven't the littlest clue what's good or bad for you, go play WoW in a puddle of your own sweaty shame.

And yet here you are, reiterating all those things as if hearing them for the 10th time will magically motivate people to get off their asses. News flash: It won't.

Why are so many doctors fat? Why are so many fitness experts skinny, weakass bitches? Why are we as a society in worse shape than ever despite the fact that we have more technology, more fitness books/videos/websites, more gyms, more food, and better access to all of them than ever before? It's because the problem has nothing to do with a lack of knowledge or awareness. There are mountains of research on self-sabotaging behavior. If the solution were as simple as telling people "just stop doing those things and start doing better things", don't you think they would have figured that out by now?

There was a thread on here about over-tasking yourself that offers far more useful advice. I can't link to it because auto-mod is a piece of shit that deletes links even if they're to this sub, so you can use the search feature. Chances are this comment will be buried anyway because people are too busy hopping on the "JUST DO IT" hype train.

Goldfulgore · 2015-10-13T11:36:08+00:00

That's the "sugar" in life in order to get rid of the bitter taste of the red pill. This should come with a warning though:

Should you become sick in the future, it's time to take the pill again.

Izzenw · 2015-10-13T10:42:22+00:00

Respect is also non-negotiable.

I always say this in every business contact I do. "I'm here to sell my services, not my respect".

Be a Gentleman, but be ready to become a crazy dog if someone abuses your politeness.

OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH · 2015-10-14T15:45:14+00:00

Last two days, some deep fundamental shit is being posted on trp. Things that make you pause for a minute, and reflect.

Nearox · 2015-10-14T22:55:36+00:00

This is what makes life worth it.

Redasshole · 2015-10-13T12:41:01+00:00

I'm addicted to reading TRP. It's the only sane place I have in my life.

drummmmmergeorge · 2015-10-13T13:42:13+00:00

The problem isn't enough to know the problem, one must be able to alleviate the dreaded symptoms of the problem. People do not drink, watch, waste time solely for that purpose alone, there is a deep psychological hindrance which causes said problem. I myself struggle with some issues, and I am a scholar academic with in depth knowledge in psychology and I myself fall victim to myself. Let's first look deep into the "why's" and go from there. Why do you masterbate? Why do you watch 5 hours of TV everyday? Once we understand our triggers we can tackle the problem instead of artificial advice, such as this.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T13:32:33+00:00

I'd also recommend joining a martial art class.

nantucketghost · 2015-10-13T13:42:20+00:00

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htbf · 2015-10-13T14:16:11+00:00

How does one escalate in an interaction, aside from using kino?

Fafner2 · 2015-10-13T14:45:01+00:00

I'd add being successful to this list. Too many bottom-feeding losers these days who don't try to achieve anything substantive with their lives, and instead work low-end white collar or retail jobs their whole life just to get by.

getRedPill · 2015-10-13T18:18:50+00:00

Post deleted. So bad, this one was gold

sourpuss_ashkenazi · 2015-10-13T20:44:07+00:00

This is just the introduction...the rest you need to figure out for yourself.

DriftingWithTheTide · 2015-10-13T21:55:57+00:00

Could you suggest some solid biographies and a couple more male-oriented fiction?

tallwheel · 2015-10-14T04:20:15+00:00

What do you like doing? What do you love doing?

Playing video games and watching TV. ;)

RationalKing · 2015-10-14T14:36:19+00:00

I bookmarked this so I can come back to it if I slipp!

[deleted] · 2015-10-15T04:53:15+00:00

Lessons Learned: That it's this fucking simple. Stop making it so difficult. Stop making it more complicated than it needs to be.

I told one of my co-workers something similar earlier this week when we were talking shit and it turned into lifestyle stuff and he used the phrase 'just how I am' or similar. I said to him something like 'you aren't just like anything. You can be however you want, you can make that choice and I don't judge you, but it's a choice...' and he said 'this is why I love hanging out with you' ... it was tight.

Just fucking do or don't, own your shit.

Smoke weed every day if it's legal where you are.

Context: recent post history, hella lifestyle changes pre and especially post TRP in the last 3 years.

[deleted] · 2015-10-15T09:34:12+00:00

Lovely guide.

Great for beginners to have a checklist/starter-pack. Also great for intermediates/advanced to reevaluate their weak areas to improve on (e.g. mine's talking to people, because I usually get so consumed by my passion/work that I am detached from society/friends).

Sidebar-worthy, I'd say!

[deleted] · 2015-10-15T09:34:13+00:00

Lovely guide.

Great for beginners to have a checklist/starter-pack. Also great for intermediates/advanced to reevaluate their weak areas to improve on (e.g. mine's talking to people, because I usually get so consumed by my passion/work that I am detached from society/friends).

Sidebar-worthy, I'd say!

FamineX · 2016-02-11T13:56:35+00:00

Very good summary. I'm curious: What are your favourite books by Hunter S. Thompson, Jack London and Hemingway?

Thistookmedays · 2015-10-13T13:30:33+00:00

I drink, I smoke, I binge-watch. I don't meditate. Because I enjoy these things.

I eat healthy, I have a successful business, I've been lifting for years. I'm social. I get plenty of sleep. Because I enjoy these things.

I'm in that 10% you mentioned. Probably top 1%. This list is perfectly negotiable.

de_schanel · 2015-10-13T20:30:26+00:00

This is probably the most pathetic kind of read I encounter on this subreddit from time to time. You seem to bitch about alphas, you definitely bitch about women digging alphas, but for you the "red pill" and "independent" lifestyle is STILL emulating or imitating an alpha life and conforming to notions which are so cliché that they make my head hurt.

To me, true independence might be more about watching TV until 4am, because it challenges society in general, to which women are an integral part. By waving around heavy things (which, for OP, seems to be almost the only one way of self-improvement, how fucking dumb that is), you still subconsciously conform to the social norms which somehow have pushed you to the margins of life. You still choose activities, which every Chad out there invents to impress women, HOWEVER you claim your motivations are different. They are not, because those pathetically limited notions of self-improvement come subconsciously from the same root which is the need to impress the other sex.

Plus, things mentioned by OP as "bad habits" are relative. There is no objective set of both enjoyable and acceptable activities in life, just clichés and neurotypical notions of "the life"(r)(Tm) apparently blindly followed and imposed on other people by OP, because it's "mature", "masculine" or conforms to any artificial notion you invent or adapt from normies.

So thank you very much, let me stick to my "bad habits", respect my way of enjoying life (not everyone is self-satisfied because they lift stuff or read some really bad literature on women and being HURR MASCULINE), stop imposing Chadprovement ideas on people and generally get rid of stupid notions of "masculinity" or "maturity", which consist of doing things in life which actually are the sublimation of sex drive and belong to the vicious circle of impressing the other sex whether you consciously state they don't.

ShounenEgo · 2015-10-13T11:08:01+00:00

I'm stuck in the "develop a passion" stage for ages. At this point I'd much rather do something interesting that's profitable than keep looking for feels.

lycanthr0py · 2015-10-13T15:18:02+00:00

I enjoyed the post. Good starting material and inspiration for newbies. Like 12 or 13 times 'fucking' was used as an adjective which I found hilarious. This is how I fucking know you fucking meant the fuck out of it you fucking alpha fucking male.

halfnakedraise · 2015-10-13T14:31:01+00:00

"Stop binge watching fictional lives on Netflix."

-Really? Im just gonna Netflix and chill, literally.

Syggie · 2015-10-13T08:21:50+00:00

TLDR; stop doing everything you enjoy doing in life just so you increase your chances of sticking your penis in a woman's vagina.

RP_is_mainstream · 2015-10-13T14:32:15+00:00

One thing I'd like to add is reading Sex God Method. This book transformed sex and female attraction for me more than anything else I've found on TRP.

It's seriously the only book that correctly frames sex, what it is, and the different corners of sex we didn't realize we were utilizing (and since it categorizes them, you can actually make practical use of them).

Vasallo7G · 2015-10-13T15:09:28+00:00

I would add having a mission.

Like beyond money and pussy, something you can spend your lifetime achieving, something that you can say: before me the world was less awesome because I did X during my lifetime.

akjoltoy · 2015-10-13T11:45:43+00:00

I love playing video games. They aren't a waste of time. And I firmly believe that my life is richer than the lives of those who don't play them.

Also meditation is a huge waste of time. I'm way too interested in my field of study (physics) to spend hours clearing my mind. I want it full all the time with what I'm into. I feel like meditation is a form of controlled brain damage. And I think only people with low intelligence will enjoy it because it gives them an excuse to do what they already tend to do: shut their brain off. Mine is never off. When yours is off meditating, mine is on, chugging gleefully along, learning and imagining things that many people will never experience. Because they don't want to be challenged.

MrJugsMcBulge · 2015-10-13T23:20:54+00:00

I think this is mostly a good list, but a couple of comments:

Personally, I wouldn't put meditation in there. I've attempted meditating a few times, even running through the entire trial period of Headspace, and took a really good honest try at it. However, I found meditation to be completely ineffective and I could have used the time for better things. Even with only ~10 minutes per day, that's still ~10 minutes that I could have devoted to writing, reading or even just getting some extra sleep. Having given it a good shot and found it wanting, I look at meditation as being one of those things like being vegan or doing Crossfit: There's an almost cult-like mentality and people who are super into it completely oversell the efficacy. Personally, I consider meditation to be less "lifting weights for the mind" and more "mental masturbation".
Concerning talking to everyone, I'd agree that it's good to get as much practice as possible talking to people. However, in my experience, the overwhelming majority of people out there aren't really worth actually talking to. I think it would be better to find and join a like-minded group of individuals and get more practice having actual intelligent conversations, rather than just building skill at superficial conversations with random derps out in public.

crixusin · 2015-10-13T12:38:56+00:00

I go to the gym every day.

When I'm not at the gym, I'm at work.

When I'm not at work, I'm working on my own business.

I drink maybe once a week.

Moderation is for the weak.

darthmarth · 2015-10-13T12:31:51+00:00

Sleeping 7 hours a night has been shown to correlate with the longest life expectancy, so your 7.5 minimum isn't the best advice.

[deleted] · 2015-10-13T09:05:33+00:00

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Title	The Great List of Non-Negotiables.
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