Male projection is pathetic.

sahu_ · 2021-01-25T05:21:29+00:00

It's amazing how much they dislike women with confidence. They instantly try to bring you a notch down. And I had this beautiful model friend, and she hadn't said two words to this guy before he judged her to be too snobby when in reality she's very down to earth. It's because he knew he was way out of her league and that she would never go for him, so he would try to bring her down.

File-Own · 2021-01-25T09:24:38+00:00

I'd been going to the gym regularly before lockdown closed them last year, let's just say I'm pretty attractive and I used to get some of the guys coming up and asking for my number. Provided they were polite I didn't care though I didn't always give it out, only if I found him attractive.

Anyway, one day I was getting ready to leave when this 5 ft 2, tennis shoes and long socks, baggy T-shirt, awfully dressed, mullet haircut, generally ugly and skinny guy barged up to me and demanded "Can you do a pull-up?"

I just stared at him and said "What?" He was so socially awkward, and hadn't even said Hi or anything lol. Straight up socially inept attempt at "negging." He repeated himself and I just looked him up and down, walked off and said "Weird!" VERY loudly. He was visibly crushed. What the fuck are they teaching in his PUA classes? You can be an ugly guy, but if you act like some pathetic "alpha male" a woman who looks like Minka Kelly will go out with you? Just SMH...

Bonus: a few weeks after that I came into the gym to find him sitting on the floor being treated by one of the female personal trainers because he'd injured his leg lmao.

threedotlove · 2021-01-25T00:56:35+00:00

My ex-fiance was this way. I was so far out of his league he would constantly bitch. He also was so incredibly controlling - wouldn't let me talk to other guys, hang out with friends, and constantly accused me of cheating.....while he was cheating on me. I put up with it because I was soooo young and didn't know any better, but when I realized the relationship had gotten so bad I was contemplating cheating on him, I ended it and found out that day he had been seeing the woman he would eventually marry for 3 months already ffs.

Reporter_Complex · 2021-01-25T05:27:10+00:00

I walked into my office the other day after a toilet break, and a guy I work with - around the same age as me - looked straight at me and said "you are an intimidating woman" with a straight face. I laughed and asked why? He said "where ever you go, whatever you're doing, you just do it with extreme purpose, you walk high, you always look nice, you speak normal when in relaxed conversation, but can whip out the most professional voice and pronunciation ive heard. Youre just intimidating" with a smile on his face.

All men should be like this, intimidation doesnt and shouldn't have to be a bad thing. It was a rather nice compliment, stuck with me for a few days.

Note, this guy is super nice, compliments in ways that aren't creepy, like "that colour makes your eyes look awesome" without leering at you lol. He's never made me feel uncomfortable - then you have the other dude (fired now) that said to me once "wow, your eyes are beautiful" and proceeded to lick his lips at me 🥴

JN3LL3V · 2021-01-25T03:09:46+00:00

Yep. Was acquaintances with a man who everyone I knew liked. He asked me out randomly and I agreed. Physically, he wasn’t what I usually dated but he seemed like he had a nice personality, so I decided to give him a chance. He stood me up. Tried giving some weird excuse why but I blocked him in the middle of his explanation. Every time I’ve seen him since he’s asked me out for dinner. I ignore him.

Another man in the same social circle was 2 hours late and expected me to still be around. I know I live rent free in their minds as a harbinger of regret.

It’s like they try to upset us on purpose so we feel as unsure or inadequate as they do. Don’t put up with their dusty asses. There are better things we can do with our time than having our peace be upset by disrespectful men. Don’t give your light to someone who gives off nothing but darkness.

souredskittles · 2021-01-25T00:55:01+00:00

Yup! I’ve lived this. Random short guy insulting me out of nowhere.

Samvanderkamp123 · 2021-01-25T01:05:59+00:00

I am dealing with this right now. I am so sick of a lifetime of dealing with the egos, wants and insecurities of men.

I work with women whenever possible.

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-01-25T00:39:45+00:00

The one thing they are better at than us.

sleepykittn · 2021-01-25T08:36:33+00:00

I heard from someone when they were working at a bar, overhearing a guy say slut under his breath because a girl was wearing short shorts sitting at the bar as he walked past her. 🤨

2021-01-25T05:48:06+00:00

I only pay attention to hot guys in my league or above. Ugly, short lil twerps aren't even in my line of sight (literally cause I'm tall af 🤣)

SavvyInNYC · 2021-01-25T08:51:39+00:00

My job is in the public eye so I get this on the daily.

I just say “Thanks for the attention and reaffirming that I’m out of your league!”

They don’t like that. 🤷🏻‍♀️

sahu_ · 2021-01-25T04:53:42+00:00

Yes ugly nerd at the park to me to "calm down " after I told him I wasn't Cassandra. The veteran in me to him " f*** you, you f****** ass****" he was petrified and scared. I yelled so loud he ran to his car. I lowkey started sprinting towards him. It was hilarious how terrified he looked. Little man ran straight to his car... to hide from me.

Barbie-girl · 2021-01-25T10:38:03+00:00

If you all feel this is bad, try living in my country, India. Men are just so repulsive here ugh. Unattractive, mama's boys, hate feminism but also shame women who want provider men as gold-diggers. And don't even get me started on the massive insecurity. I am attractive and above average height for India. Even when I have managed to find some guys whom I felt were decent enough for consideration, they do everything to neg, point out my flaws and break my confidence so that I start chasing them and than act surprised when I lose interest and reject them. Men here need some serious classes on masculinity. They just can't deal with their role of pursuing and chasing women and rejections thanks to the prevailing arranged marriage culture.

Bitchbasic · 2021-01-25T09:42:47+00:00

it’s always the ugly/short ones who do this too. they dress like shit, too, and are obviously insecure, so they insult you with the weirdest shit out of nowhere. usually just anti-women slurs because they can’t find an actual insult to call me? funny because the confident and/or attractive guys i meet have never been rude to me once, they’re always very cordial and neutral at worst but usually they’re friendly and flirty and help me out. it’s really pathetic how LVM lash out at women instead of bettering themselves. it’s like they think we’re out of their leagues, so instead of giving it a shot or just LEAVING US ALONE, they have to insult us to make themselves feel better

vietnamese-bitch · 2021-01-25T03:00:17+00:00

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2021-01-25T01:29:43+00:00

so relatable

empresselevation · 2021-01-25T07:01:50+00:00

This is so true. Quite recently I was talking to a guy and he wasn't picking up on my witty comments so he resorted to calling me a biatch. LOOOLLL

candyfox84 · 2021-01-25T01:29:18+00:00

Unfortunately, I know this is true

mfamilye · 2021-01-25T06:36:57+00:00

You’re such a f*****g fat ass.

Good luck finding a man that wants you.

I swear you get more wrinkled every day.

You’re looking pretty rough today.

... and those are just off the top of my head.

thinktwiceorelse · 2021-01-25T09:11:21+00:00

Exactly. Reminds me of a guy, who heard I liked reading, and he thought of it as a personal attack. He even left the party because of this lol.

Yeah_hey_kittycat · 2021-01-25T07:08:01+00:00

YEP! Basically!

2021-01-25T16:48:38+00:00

Women don't have to do much to anger men.

indifferentio · 2021-01-25T00:40:56+00:00

So true! It’s unbelievable, and something I still struggle with. Men will hate me for no apparent reason immediately after meeting me. I’ve tried googling the answer and I either get “he likes you” (seems very unlikely) or “he’s intimidated by you” (which seems more likely).

2021-01-25T01:17:32+00:00

Thats crazy but i've been experiencing it so much through social media. Im studying in medschool and when I used to tell people that some men would hate me instantly for that and doing backbite and other bad stuff to me. Some of them would try to belittle me in front of other women so I feel like shit.. anyway...

warinmymind94 · 2021-01-26T02:11:25+00:00

This is why you just physically walk away / leave (always have an exit strategy and have your own means of transportation when you're on a date) AND use the delete/block dont bother trying to "explain" or beg, dont sass him or have the last say. When uts time to go, exit in silence and treat him like he doesn't exist. This is the only way you can have the real upper hand.

If you're in public and the scrotes are yelling / saying things to you literally just ignore them, act like you don't see or hear them. Its hilarious to see their man-baby brains malfunction and jam up when they dont get a rise out of you.

uptownxthot · 2021-01-25T14:16:37+00:00

i’ve had men of all attractiveness levels try this “humbling” shit with me. i think i just have bad luck 😂

Helpful_Stock · 2021-01-25T20:18:26+00:00

This is so incredibly true. I've had this happen a few times when I literally just stand there doing nothing and have had insults thrown at me when I have made eye contact with a random guy. Its like they're already in defensive mode because they know they're ugly and bring nothing of substance to any relationship. And secretly they're worried that woman already know this just by looking at them. So they lash out because of fear.

ms_monquis · 2021-01-26T00:19:07+00:00

Did I mention how some dope on Bumble the other day started our conversation by asking if I was a "natural-born female"? Nice try, bro, but I'm bullet proof.

shadowlillium · 2021-01-25T13:13:02+00:00

Had this happen with dudes and I wasn’t even dating them. Sick bastards even said “make sure to be humble” as if to implant the idea that I wasn’t due to my success in an industry

Helpful_Stock · 2021-01-25T21:00:50+00:00

That's what led me to break up with my ex. One nignt we were at a bar when this guy tried to insult my friend out of nowhere, saying "you're not that great" or something to that effect, when she hadn't even said one word to him. I stood up for her and told him he "wasn't that great" himself and that he looked like a cross between my thumb and big toe. Instead of taking our side, my now ex started siding with him and saying demeaning comments to try "shut me up." After 4 years of his BS this was the last straw for me. Be wary that other men who are "bystanders" to this behaviour and don't stand up for you are also LVM

Title	Male projection is pathetic.
Author	EurasianEmpress
Upvotes	2570
Comments	123
Date	January 25, 2021 12:25 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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