After all these years he realizes at 57. So all those men realize this when they get old snd deserves appreciation for it? Instead they should have realized at their youth and keep his partner comfortable and loved?! Such a waste

Papaverinum · 2021-10-04T08:23:09+00:00

That's why marriage with a (wrong) man is a slow death sentence...

ButterfliesHurricane · 2021-10-04T09:16:22+00:00

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/30/the-men-who-give-up-on-their-spouses-when-they-have-cancer

I remembered this article from last year…. I’m just going to leave this here….

And that’s divorce… how many don’t divorce but just cheat because it’s so honourable to stay with your sick wife but you still need your needs met (lack of sex per se has never killed anyone but he can keep telling himself that).

FuckSakez · 2021-10-04T10:16:47+00:00

Local man discovers effort ?

herbivorouscarnivore · 2021-10-04T07:34:52+00:00

Maybe I’m cynical, but I wonder if he’s virtue signaling: “look at ME! I’m taking care of my wife! It’s only this one time in 35 years but LOOK AT ME! So difficult! Praise me!”

eveloe · 2021-10-04T09:32:03+00:00

I never understood the compulsion for people to tell perfect strangers how shitty they are, and to expect praise afterwards.

The truth is, his gold star sticker dispenser is currently broken, so he needs verbal acknowledgment from outside.

What a loser.

cheezbrod · 2021-10-04T07:34:16+00:00

BAHAHAHAHA - welllllll when mommy takes care of you for 22 years and then mommy bangmaid takes care of you for 35 yrs, it’s really hard to see just how much work goes into taking care of someone 🥺👉👈

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-10-04T09:48:56+00:00

This Mans Wife is like the patron saint of pickmes. Lol, Proof of the miracle of a man eventually praising your hard work if you can stick it out for 35 YEaRs!

honeybadgerattitude · 2021-10-04T09:01:41+00:00

Why do I get the feeling that if she’d needed him to care for her when he was younger he would have divorced her by now?

IDontAgreeSorry · 2021-10-04T11:02:34+00:00

Does he want a standing ovation..?

Aksentia_Ivanovitcha · 2021-10-04T11:40:50+00:00

Shame he had to ruin her life till this moment. Im sure his appreciation will be expressed via flowerd and smiles and nothing substantial. I wonder where they sell "sorry i fucked up your life" cards.

proudpine · 2021-10-04T10:28:34+00:00

And then cue the men and pick-mes patting him on the back. 😲

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-10-04T12:35:30+00:00

He'll forget this as soon as things return to normal.

Feministtiktok · 2021-10-04T13:22:15+00:00

So he just assumed she was having fun making sacrifices and doing whatever he needed and her ignoring her needs? Men really think that some women are just “more chill” when really they’re too depressed to say anything lmao

keyome1990 · 2021-10-04T12:30:04+00:00

My Dad is a HVM, when my Mum was younger she had an accident at work and was mostly bed bound for 7 years. My Dad took on the roll of both parents, gave up any social life and hobbies he had to look after my Mum and me and my siblings. He got the qualifications he needed to take a higher paying job to account for a wage loss and shielded me and my siblings from the worst of what was happening. My Dad has never complained or “bragged” about how good he was, he simply was a good man. When I talk to him now about how men leave their spouses when their wives need them to act as the carer (the % is high) my Dad always responds “but it isn’t a hard decision, you look after your family first”. He doesn’t act like he’s some amazing guy for doing what he did, he always talks instead about how strong my Mum was during the time.

Once she was better my Mum didn’t want to go back to work, so my Dad told her to do what made her happy, and he spoils her rotten with the money he makes. His life has always revolved around making my Mum happy and being a good Dad, he calls out other men and he calls out my brothers when he sees they can be doing better.

HVM have always been around, don’t settle. My Mum is cherished and confident in her marriage, don’t settle for a guy who doesn’t make you feel amazing and lift you up to be the queen you are.

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-04T13:48:52+00:00

Thats why everytime women regrets doing a lot of things for men and they regret what they don’t do, stop givin these assholes your happiness and youth, they won’t appreciate it with actions. Just words that don’t mean shit after sll your sacrifice

CatherineWinkworth · 2021-10-04T16:54:17+00:00

"Let me thank my wife by telling strangers on the internet I appreciate her anonymously."

RabidWench · 2021-10-04T17:21:01+00:00

So ask the men realize this when they get old

False. Most of them never realize it, or at least never acknowledge it. I agree with the other comment about him virtue signaling.

Great buddy, you're now putting in a few weeks or months of effort compared to herthirty goddamn years. You'll be dead before you can make the effort she has.

misandryisnotreal · 2021-10-04T17:00:44+00:00

Imagine the wife making this same post, but congratulating herself for giving 110% for the past 35 years. The males would be furious.

Inspection-Critical · 2021-10-04T15:04:41+00:00

This is embarrassing (for him). Does he want a cookie for being such a slow learner?

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2021-10-04T14:42:08+00:00

Way too late

arnezuara · 2021-10-04T17:07:24+00:00

This LVM is contributing (only god knows how much) to his wife’s recovery because he knows that, given his old age, he will eventually need a caretaker.

She needs to be up on her feet again soon to do all the usual caretaking.

SkiesEclipse · 2021-10-05T03:08:22+00:00

From my experience of men who had a “come to Jesus” moment about all I did for them, and how they took me for granted, I’ll give him a week tops before he reverts back to his old ways.

aTophMF · 2021-10-05T17:08:05+00:00

Is it weird that this feels like he’s looking for validation and praise because he’s battling the thoughts of leaving her… 😕

Outrageous-Bat2472 · 2021-10-04T12:09:41+00:00

My dad had to step up after 30 years when mom had a stroke. He didn’t know how to use the washing machine even. Step up he did though, he had to learn a lot quickly, but I admire that he did it. He didn’t have a Reddit to say how it opened his eyes to all she did, but he told us. I’m giving the guy huge credit for not leaving her for a new wife appliance when his broke. He’s certainly a better man than my ex military husband.

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