Drowning in red flags

Madholley · 2021-02-16T16:21:32+00:00

LADIES. He is a DECENT HUMAN BEING. Line up!! Possibility of a free meal in exchange for your time engaging this fantastic specimen in conversation

mjkmeow83 · 2021-02-16T16:39:25+00:00

I like how he points out he was a Dom in his last relationship. He doesn’t like that he can’t control all these new women he is meeting. And they won’t put up with his “honesty” because it’s just him being rude. I’m sure he is highly self involved and prob listens less then he thinks. Sounds like a narcissist to me.

advice1988 · 2021-02-16T16:31:40+00:00

The entitlement reeks. He thinks 3 months has been a long time, for him, to not date, shows how much he should spend time alone.

Having ‘active listening skills’ is not a skill, it’s the bare minimum.

‘Pissing women off’ because he is ‘truthful & honest’ aka ‘my thoughts mean more than other people’s feelings as I want to say what I want without your feelings getting in the way or denying me sex’ & also the reason why his previous relationship has been ‘dom&sub’ (and I think we can guess which he was in that dynamic) & thinks he can replicate it into a actual lasting relationship, that all the women who ‘ghost’-ed him, probably figure out and left ASAP.

Textbook.

superderpina_ · 2021-02-16T16:23:17+00:00

Stopped reading after „single female“.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-02-16T16:39:43+00:00

I stopped reading at "I'm a decent human being". Lies

BBQCoolRanchQueen · 2021-02-16T16:44:45+00:00

So let me get this straight; this "decent human being" is pissed off that women won't let him abuse them (sub-dom shit) and wonders why women are blocking and deleting his ass? The "free meal" was probably a 2 for $20 lunch special at Applebee's and expected her to lay on her back like a cheap prostitute. Next!

peanutbutterismylife · 2021-02-16T16:41:01+00:00

Lmao the fact that this is a craigslist post says almost as much about him as the actual content 😂

fdssavedmylife · 2021-02-16T17:34:25+00:00

I love how he’s decided his problem is pretending to care about what a woman is saying. Such an idiot.

millennialpink2000 · 2021-02-16T17:11:59+00:00

The contempt is dripping off the page.

It never even enters his mind that he might be a contributing factor to why he gets ghosted

Averyhvw · 2021-02-16T17:03:26+00:00

Women don’t want to put the effort in for a real relationship? He wants something that will “lead” to a relationship. In other words, he wants a submissive to fulfill his porn fantasies until he moves on to the next or decides she’s conformed to his expectations properly. And women aren’t lining up for that? 🙄

just-peepin-at-u · 2021-02-16T17:20:53+00:00

Like burying the lede there, just busting out the “Dom Sub” crap like it is supposed to be just another attribute and not some seriously fucked up shit that justifiably freaks out the majority of people. He is just stating it nonchalantly like he telling folks he is vegetarian, and not that he is going to beat the crap out of a woman in the bedroom.

midwesternwinds · 2021-02-16T17:31:28+00:00

A parent who's into BDSM. Wowzers.

AuroraAustralxs · 2021-02-16T16:53:39+00:00

Of course he’s into bdsm. Most decent humans are. 🤡

miss_peach94 · 2021-02-16T17:06:25+00:00

Excuse-The-Fuck me?

spinsterchachkies · 2021-02-16T20:00:09+00:00

Translation: “The last woman ghosted me bc I am a total creep that wants to beat women up during sex. If they don’t like being beaten up I say rude things to them. I think that’s just being honest. Im losing patience with them. My best attributes are being rude, pushing boundaries, beating women, and being rude”

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-16T16:47:43+00:00

Good lord, where to begin.

PasDeTout · 2021-02-16T18:54:51+00:00

How does he get any dates at all? He just sounds resentful, aggressive and hateful.

Spittens · 2021-02-16T18:59:20+00:00

Any man who was in a dom-sub relationship and enjoyed it is an instant fuck no for me. I don't care which role he played.

miss_peach94 · 2021-02-16T17:07:16+00:00

Nobody wants his ass? Good.

CapableLetterhead · 2021-02-16T17:54:11+00:00

Wow ladies he actually gives a shit what a special guy.

jargon_explosion · 2021-02-16T18:26:00+00:00

Active listening skills and actually caring about what she is saying are two completely different things. The latter comes with active listening skills ingrained, the former is just a practice as a means to an end.

Also I suspect women get reasonably worried when he likely pushes the conversation into a BDSM or sexual context which he finds "amazing" but they sense something off and run. If there is anything I've learned about the new online society is how much poly and BDSM people can't stop immediately jumping to pushing their "lifestyle" onto others without prior consent or just going public with it.

foxorhedgehog · 2021-02-16T17:59:21+00:00

I'd love to read the constructive criticism!

Summerisle7 · 2021-02-16T19:53:21+00:00

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2021-02-16T19:40:29+00:00

Maybe he's just unattractive, but the dom/sub thing and "I'm so honest" are huge red flags to me.

wrice05 · 2021-02-17T06:06:05+00:00

Self proclaimed “Spontaneous” is a red flag 🚩for me. Those are ALWAYS the pushy guys. They are also flaky and won’t plan anything in advance.

“spontaneous” is a just a turd 💩 rolled in sugar.

emtoots · 2021-02-16T20:00:34+00:00

Wow. That just kept getting worse.

raphaellastorm · 2021-02-16T17:14:51+00:00

Honestly, I’ve never understood the idea that men have that women are just looking for a “free meal” on dinner dates. If I didn’t like a guy I was on a date with, it would take all joy out of eating the food. Even on a date with a guy I did like, it’s so ingrained in us to act dainty while eating that it’s impossible to enjoy food like that. Men are such ridiculous but also fragile creatures.

honeybeeroll · 2021-02-16T21:17:34+00:00

He already told on himself by being bitter and sarcastic but when I got to the "dom sub" part 💀. We all know there is NO such thing as a nice guy who just can't get a date. We all know the victim complex of nice guys is not justified. And here they go, these types of guys admitting in full display what disgusting people they are, and yet somehow failing to see that's WHY they can't get a date 😂

aquietsword · 2021-02-17T02:05:15+00:00

Constructive: leave women alone. Criticism: you ain't shit.

manwathiel_undomiel2 · 2021-02-16T17:35:03+00:00

I bet money that 'active listening skills' either means 'not interrupting but impatiently waiting to make the conversation about ME' or 'listening for clues I can use to get my peepee wet later'

Classy_Bunny · 2021-02-16T22:06:16+00:00

When I was a pick me, knowing that somebody was getting ghosted a lot made me feel bad and wanting to stay with them more cause I know the pain of being abandonned. Now ? I know to trust the judgement of fellow ladies. If they all ghosted him, I should probably ghost him too.

lhatw · 2021-02-16T22:38:51+00:00

I was cringing the whole time but lost my shit at “dom-sub” STFU 😂

_queeeen_ · 2021-02-16T23:25:36+00:00

Every 🚩sentence🚩 is 🚩problematic🚩. Until the second to last when he describes himself in a way that wholly departs from the tone of his angry wall of text.

kjusielvi · 2021-02-16T20:06:04+00:00

the "active listening" part makes me cringe. same with anyone that claims to be an "empath".

BubblyKraken · 2021-02-17T04:33:00+00:00

Lost me at “female”. Who talks like that lol. And thinks in discovery channel type behaviours..

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-02-17T09:08:39+00:00

*is a single parent (meaning he only has the kid over for a weekend once a month), male (duh) and decent human being (very) and all he wants is *females*, no, scratch that, he deserves *females* (because he's just so decent, because he said he is!). why don't females go to him!? why, oh why!? (all this in whiny scrotey voice)

daisy_0720 · 2021-02-17T12:17:53+00:00

I counted 16 red flags. Did anyone get more?

spaceprincess42 · 2021-02-16T21:48:25+00:00

Honest = rude to everyone because he’s proud of not “having a filter”

shay7079 · 2021-02-16T17:59:05+00:00

Man , don't want to listen what woman is saying blames it bad listening skills Also man : women don't want serious relationships

I wonder why

Title	Drowning in red flags
Author	Madholley
Upvotes	289
Comments	86
Date	February 16, 2021 4:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ll7biy/drowning_in_red_flags/
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