Excuse me what

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-13T00:41:36+00:00

Meanwhile these men will pursue a woman, pretend to be seriously interested in her, even to the point of emotionally manipulating her with romance and I love yous until he can get sex after a number of weeks or even months and then just dump her. That's weak two-faced underhanded unmasculine bullshit.

Maude2010 · 2020-12-13T01:03:51+00:00

I saw that post. It was so poorly worded I didn’t even understand what he was talking about.

I think women have a problem with men who lie about wanting a relationship when they only want sex.

Men always seem to assume though that it’s only men who reject women after sex. It’s like they don’t realize that men are the hornier ones and the ones who aren’t good in bed. Why would a woman even want to go back for more? Of course if you point out that women might hit and run on men, then men will just call them whores or whatever. You can’t win.

2020-12-13T00:36:02+00:00

Or just stop letting men give us bad sex?

Lowering our standards isn't the answer.

Men are out of control.

Mcccy · 2020-12-13T01:09:17+00:00

I'm surprised he didn't use "femalEs" tbh. He sounds like he's around 18-22, no dating experience whagsoeve and can't understand women are actual people and not just relationship/sex material. Hope he leaves his room soon and experience real life for a sec

LadyGrimes · 2020-12-13T00:33:46+00:00

No they get pumped and dumped by LVM who only wanted sex.

honeybeeroll · 2020-12-13T01:54:18+00:00

Obviously this dude has never actually charmed and lied his way to get sex, because if he did, he'd know that men don't "pump and dump" because of something the woman did. They do so because from day 1 their intention was to get laid and they never wanted a relationship.

Even if a man is not a fuckboy/intentionally malicious, most men do not see sex as something that must lead to commitment (or that requires commitment). Just because he sleeps with you doesn't mean he wants to date you. He may not lie to you to get sex, but he may find he's not all that into you after a while and ghost, fade, etc.

So yes, women have a responsibility to not sleep with men we dont know and to understand most men don't view sex the same, but men ALSO have a responsibility to the rest of humanity to be decent human beings and shouldn't lie to get laid!!

Aocwannabe · 2020-12-13T01:23:30+00:00

This is also why a woman needs to make sure a man invests( yes, financially!) in her before she has sex with him. He might still manipulate her but...it’s less likely when a man has shelled out money (proportionate to his income. Remember that men with resources can court more women at a higher level.) Whenever I used to get angry about being strung along by one of my exes I would look around at my apartment at the nice furniture, earrings and dresses he bought me and it would make me feel a little bit better🤣😂🤣😂

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-12-13T03:38:42+00:00

“He wants a relationship til he has sex and realizes she’s not interesting enough” puh-leeze... The men on that sub are such faux-intellectuals, they all own a thesaurus and think the multi-syllabic words make their red pill bullshit sound smarter 🙄

KindlyPassenger · 2020-12-13T01:09:49+00:00

This guy doesn't have women friends

seraphinelysion · 2020-12-13T01:36:43+00:00

To clarify I'm talking about men who complain that women make them wait for sex as though it's some grave injustice.

FTFY OP.

GIfuckingJane · 2020-12-13T01:55:23+00:00

Oooooof course he wants to blame the victims. Another day, another scrote 🤦🏻‍♀️

madhunnybee · 2020-12-13T01:38:28+00:00

What good has lowering the standards ever done to improve a situation? They say it like it's this whimsical thing that will forever fix relationships and not, you know, make them worse overall.

AyemHerself · 2020-12-13T02:23:04+00:00

Oh, they totally want a LTR. They'll just fuck everything they can until they find it.

Nat_at_all · 2020-12-13T03:19:34+00:00

Yeah isn’t that fucking convenient that he only knows It after he uses her?? But yeah she shouldn't complain- it’s a problem w her.

gothicctemptress · 2020-12-13T03:23:48+00:00

Reason 1000 not to have casual sex or sex early on - “when his brain clears after sex he realizes he doesn’t want an LTR with that particular woman”. Men have a saying amongst themselves - there is only enough blood to go to the penis or the brain, not both at the same time.

Ladies I am just the messenger here! 🏃🏻‍♀️

sxfjcg9900 · 2020-12-13T04:59:28+00:00

Another day, another man who blames women for men’s actions.

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-12-13T05:18:30+00:00

Another wonderful example of men trying to pass of male abuse as the woman’s fault. Post nut clarity ain’t a thing bro, you’re just a user.

BasieSkanks · 2020-12-13T10:44:55+00:00

Why is the answer always for women to lower their standards? Why aren’t men ever told to raise their game? Most women don’t have ridiculously high standards. Even FDS standards aren’t high. They’re the markers of what a decent man should be. The problem is, so few men ever meet those standards. If a guy is unable to find a suitable woman for a relationship, the onus is on him to change. Women are not charity cases for men nobody else wants.

pinkcloudzzz · 2020-12-13T04:37:49+00:00

LOL this kid is disconnected from reality. The misogyny is real with this one

BabyGothQ · 2020-12-13T06:19:36+00:00

ISN’T THAT CONVENIENT

slythergin23 · 2020-12-13T06:09:07+00:00

how bout men just start being upfront about this shit. crazy concept, i know 🙄🙄

FireflySky86 · 2020-12-13T10:47:22+00:00

You know what, he kinda has a point- ladies who are frustrated with this should fix themselves... by coming over to FDS and learning how to identify/ avoid wasting any further time on LVM.

ninetiesbaby16 · 2020-12-13T14:53:32+00:00

I’ve never been pumped and dumped but I’ve had men invest YEARS into me just to attempt to pump and dump me. They only stop if I tell them I’m a virgin so I’ll get incredibly clingy and will probably self destruct if they pump and dump, or I block them on everything and ignore them for 3 years minimum. It’s crazy the lengths they’ll go to. And I’m not someone who projected an image of being a promiscuous woman: I never used to dye my hair until recently, wore minimal makeup, never showed cleavage, never wore skirts above the knee or tight pants, was studious at college, didn’t drink, didn’t smoke, didn’t swear, was polite and straight laced, and men still just wanted to hit it and quit it lol, it only stopped when I stopped being underweight.

Now that I’ve let my hair down and project a “bubbly party girl” image, gained weight, and dye my hair crazy colors, only now men are trying to wife me. So I’ve learned that there’s nothing you can really do to control how men pursue you or whether they will attempt to use you for sex or LTR you, so you should just do what you want. It’s up to men to choose what to do.

Also purplepilldebate is really just redpillcirclejerk and troglodytes banging rocks together and chanting “woman bad man good”.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-12-13T14:17:10+00:00

This is why it's fair to assume that every man only wants sex unless he goes out of his way to prove otherwise. Let him work his ass off. Whether he gives up along the way or sticks it out and proves his value before you have sex with him, you win.

And he's saying to lower our standards but not complain about being pumped and dumped? PAD is LVM behavior so wtf kind of doublespeak is this??

tigergeisha · 2020-12-13T12:04:16+00:00

Change my view? Change your grammar more like.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-13T01:32:13+00:00

What subreddit is this?

flowers4u · 2020-12-13T05:56:23+00:00

Why do people who post screen shots like this from Reddit block out user names? I want to go find this.

Diamond_fairy · 2020-12-13T14:46:35+00:00

That's why men need to invest months in quality dates and they need to ask for public commitment way before being allowed to touch our lingerie.

frustratedmarxistfem · 2020-12-13T05:04:56+00:00

I havent heard the phrase "pumped and dumped" since like 2007, what is even going on here? Besides it's something that never happens. Men don't usually get the goods and move on, that's a tv trope. Men want to maintain access to anyone who will have sex with them for as long as possible so they engage in disgusting manipulative behaviors to keep those women on the hook without getting involved with them

2020-12-13T07:29:06+00:00

At this point, nothing they say surprises me anymore. I just get wiser at how to spot them and protect myself from them

Lavender_flow · 2020-12-13T15:04:42+00:00

those men are so full of shit. Bunch of sociopaths who tells themselves all kinds of lies to feel better about how degenerate they are and to cover for the fact that they are shitty worthless sods. He can't even spell proper while making that post, it really shows his intellectual capacity. Don't even engage with these shitstains. Women should stop having casual sex, it wins you nothing. 90 % of men can't even give you an orgasm anyway.

kalina95 · 2020-12-13T08:27:03+00:00

I want to throw a Wren and Martin, english dictionary, 10th grade english textbook and whatever else is required, at this guy.

2020-12-13T20:25:28+00:00

What goes around comes around. Ladies I've met these men and they truly hit a wall. Their narcissism doesn't allow them to make any relationships. They are the ones to die alone. Using people all their life, they end up absolutely alone.

orangeboobert · 2020-12-15T23:02:30+00:00

Lmao riddled with spelling and grammatical errors and I’m supposed to take his view seriously. Uneducated garbage troll.

cadbvry · 2020-12-16T17:17:05+00:00

What is CMV?

gothicctemptress · 2020-12-20T12:22:22+00:00

Nope. Pumping and dumping tends to be rape by deception.

Title	Excuse me what
Author	Eluniae
Upvotes	379
Comments	86
Date	December 13, 2020 12:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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