He absolutely despises her.

GoldenWaterfallFleur · 2021-08-09T02:21:18+00:00

My friends ex-husband (thank GOD ex he was trash) would berate her if she needed money for gas or groceries or anything like that. She was a stay at home mom taking care of their children. She kept the house IMMACULATE (like Martha Stewart organized and clean), cooked daily, took care of the bills, EVERYTHING. He Ofc called her lazy bc she didn’t have a job and he would b**ch about her ever spending money on anything like the stuff in their home was supposed to just magically appear. How the hell was she gonna make breakfast, lunch and dinner for you and the kids without groceries???

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-08-08T23:21:45+00:00

She’s not a girlfriend to him, she’s a roommate and a sex doll.

AyemHerself · 2021-08-09T00:23:05+00:00

Men when they're broke: "I thought we were a team!"

Men when their partners are broke: "WTF? I thought you were an independent woman! What happened to equality?!"

goldustiger · 2021-08-09T01:33:27+00:00

I don’t understand people like her boyfriend. It’s just gross greed. Money is a tool and when your partner needs help you give them the tool.

Recently my partner and I made an agreement that I can go down hours at my job to look for another job and he agreed to pay for the bills in the meantime. No bugging me or making me feel guilty. It’s how things should be.

grandeoofs · 2021-08-08T23:51:05+00:00

In my experience, the idea of a “team effort” is really only ever pushed when the woman has to support her partner for whatever reason and it is never really reciprocated.

When my NVX was wrecking my cars, needing rides to work, needing food, or some money to cover whatever bill or fine they accumulated during their Xanax binges— I was there. I was also “cherished” as a ride or die.

You know what happened when I was the one who was going through a devastating period mentally, emotionally, and financially? They were cheating on me and preparing to dump me. I was told that I was “dumping” too much on them when all I wanted was support and my own “ride or die”. He made me feel so guilty and like such a burden and I felt like I was going fucking crazy. As if months on months of me trying and failing to smooth out his life for him was forgotten as soon as his life was finally coming into a stable peace— a peace that would have NEVER been possible if I weren’t there to keep him from becoming homeless and succumbing to the vile tendencies of a Xanax addiction.

Funnily enough, he started calling me his ride or die during his time in treatment but while he was begging me to come drive an hour and a half to visit him he was also chatting up the girl he was gonna replace me with.

I guess what I’m trying to say is— Effort needs to be reciprocated— continuously. There is no such thing as “my turn, your turn.” Effort is not an off and on switch and if you notice that even during their hard times that they are not making an effort to be there for you or to accommodate your needs, leave. I wish I did, as it would have saved me two years of abhorrent entitlement and such emptiness.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2021-08-09T00:18:02+00:00

I think part of the reason men do this is because it creates dependency. If he helped her or split things more fairly (based on income) or just, stepped up and provided for her (because we all know who’s doing the domestic and emotional labor) then she’d be able to save up enough to leave him when he treats her terribly. Men absolutely know what they’re doing.

BxGyrl416 · 2021-08-09T01:04:24+00:00

Why do people accept this? Don’t walk, run. This won’t get any better.

ububTkuc · 2021-08-09T00:21:18+00:00

News flash: it’s not a team if only one person is pulling the weight in the relationship - it’s a master/slave scenario!

catlady4u · 2021-08-08T23:30:17+00:00

I hope she finds her way to FDS.

Platipus6 · 2021-08-08T23:37:25+00:00

Men invented money so they could control food and shelter.

It's not that we want men, we want the food and shelter.

Rich men are in no way, shape or form "more sexually attractive". We want the fucken food.

opheliainthedeep · 2021-08-09T01:41:37+00:00

Lmao literally my dad, except he makes 300k yearly and won't pay for jackshit for anyone else but himself

shockingupdate · 2021-08-08T23:40:32+00:00

Is she dating my ex? I hope she saves a little bit from the new job and gets tf out of there

ceilingkatwatchesus · 2021-08-09T05:25:49+00:00

We all see this everywhere. People who are in unmarried relationships with no dependents still stay in these relationships I think could be because of the tale of "being lonely." Which i blame society because if you have to keep wondering why this person is in your life, for all the negative reasons. Then why continue to entertain the clown? I hope more and more people realize that its ok to be alone and still have a fulfilling life. I personally, cant be without my cats ahahaahahahaha!!

CoconutJasmineBombe · 2021-08-09T00:16:35+00:00

I bet she does all the cooking for said groceries too.

Barkingatthemoon · 2021-08-08T23:24:27+00:00

I wonder if they start realizing their situation the moment they put it into words like this . 5 times ??? I mean , he hates her from one reason or another . Honey , the team applies to him only in bed ( and by team I’m being generous ) , once you’re outside its perimeter it’s jungle with 500% interest .

Ayanaendo · 2021-08-09T02:34:16+00:00

Why does she stay in this like how does this benefit her at all

saddiesadsad · 2021-08-09T01:12:09+00:00

Wow. I have my boyfriends credit card info and have used it many times, I texted him I was having an emergency and could he pay for me and I would pay him back as soon as I could, after that he just gave it to me no questions asked, specially would I pay back and when, and when i pay him back he slips the money in my wallet again😂 its a loop of me trying to pay him and he giving the money back, we are students full time so we know the struggle

openpathway · 2021-08-08T23:36:29+00:00

I wonder if he ever got a BJ from her, in which case, has he paid her back. Has he gone down on her with no expectation of pleasure for himself?

Just what benefit does this relationship have for her?

More women need to ask themselves "What's in it for me?"

venusian444 · 2021-08-09T02:16:59+00:00

& she’s still dating him AND living with him??? No

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-08-09T03:10:37+00:00

Unfortunately it’s a tactic that men use to try to get the woman to depend on them. It’s absolutely disgusting. It reeks of freaking abuse and I hope she figures that out quickly.

citrus_sugar · 2021-08-09T11:40:05+00:00

The friendly supportive lesbian here and I think I've said this before, but my now wife was working 60-70 hours a week and so stressed and unhappy when we first started dating and I work in tech and make high five figures, now six figures and we decided together that she should quit and I'll support her.

I don't make money for myself, this is our money that we share and we even joke that she makes more as my stay at home wife than she was working three jobs.

Don't let these guys do stuff like this, break up with anyone who cares more for their money than you.

Specific-Composer300 · 2021-08-08T23:22:27+00:00

Why do women tweet this stuff instead of dumping him

taschana · 2021-08-09T10:21:00+00:00

No, he uses her as a live in maid, a sex doll, a therapist and a mommy -- unpaid ofc, because "she is just a gold digger".

SanjaySting · 2021-08-09T02:43:00+00:00

Yikes that’s a terrible dude, she gotta run outta there quick

Unbothered8625 · 2021-08-09T01:11:43+00:00

I can see she met my ex.

whenthingsconsidered · 2021-08-09T09:49:24+00:00

She still calls him bf? what's wrong with her?

SnooGadgets8319 · 2021-08-09T02:26:20+00:00

He sounds bitchmade

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-08-09T19:37:18+00:00

if he could, he would loan with interest, and the interest would be anal sex.

yes, pretty grim the way I see it.

glittersparkles212 · 2021-08-09T08:30:06+00:00

Dump him

LogisticBird · 2021-08-10T19:32:09+00:00

I can’t understand why someone who supposedly loves you won’t take care of you. Well, actually I can, it’s pure resentment on his part. Smells like financial abuse. 🤧

miss_peach94 · 2021-08-10T06:54:34+00:00

He's saving that money for his dream girl

Feminineprincess · 2021-08-09T17:27:42+00:00

What a loser

MACMUA · 2021-08-10T18:27:48+00:00

Small dick bum energy

Japanese-Spaghetti · 2021-10-15T14:17:07+00:00

If a man doesn’t give you money, HE DOESN’T CARE ABOUT YOU! Run! Broke boys are dangerous

Title	He absolutely despises her.
Author	Theflyonthewall_
Upvotes	2244
Comments	78
Date	August 8, 2021 11:00 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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