This is an important, straight-forward explanation that anyone who may be new here needs to listen to. It may be a hard pill to swallow at first, but really you should recognize this realization as your own freedom from a system designed to oppress you.

Kuanzhaixiangzi · 2021-03-02T10:56:30+00:00

'Average man got his castle to rule over while the one percent kept their foot on his neck.'

... Dang. That really hit me. Now we don't have to put up with that rubbish anymore. Men and women are becoming aware of it, and men don't like it.

throwaway32132134 · 2021-03-02T10:54:14+00:00

I always prefer knowing the truth rather than a sugar coated version. However, sometimes I feel so tired.

RiasXgremoryX · 2021-03-02T07:58:12+00:00

Omg this IS a hard pill for many women to swallow and SO true. I've seen women on other subs trash talking FDS saying that this is the very reason they hate this sub, because we tell them the honest, brutal, unadulterated truth about how men truly feel about women.

"WAAA! its too negative and hAtEfuL! I don't wanna see that all the time! nOt AlL mEn! WAAA! they'll ruin my chances at finding true love!" is what I've legit seen other women say in certain posts.

They hate the fact that society lied to them and their perfect Disney prince charming doesn't exist, but the problem is many of these women haven't had a positive relationship with men at all since they've been on this planet, so they're still holding out hope cycling through bad LVM, getting re-traumatized each time, replaying the toxic abuse cycle instead of just focusing that energy on themselves and realizing that most men genuinely hate women and are not worth it.

SayNad · 2021-03-02T09:28:16+00:00

Men will absolutely make fun of everything about women to the way they talk, the way they walk, even their tone of voice. It is like they make it a mission to make fun of women behind their back every single day with their friends and get the "cool funny dude" points - just instead of actual humor, they fall back to the sexist harassing joke about women.

If you confront them about it though, the gaslight starts immediately - "Nooooo that's not what I meannnn why are you being irrationally sensitiveeeeee~~~" but if you joke about men the same way in front of them? All hell will break loose.

itsyourgirlfinn · 2021-03-02T10:32:50+00:00

Yeah 100%... it's like now that men see that women have no real neeeed for them anymore, instead of rising to meet us at our new level, are doing that thing they do when you reject them like, well, whatever, fuck you, we never really liked you anyway. And obvs it just reinforces our lack of need for them.

2340000 · 2021-03-02T07:47:00+00:00

So, I've worked extremely hard to start my career and put myself in lucrative roles. I was in round 3 of an INTERVIEW with a man who was surprised I had so much expertise. I was getting a lot of compliments, then he angrily blurted, "don't get a big head about it"😒

Men do not like women. They don't. Achieving what they can't is a threat, let alone refusing to date them. We've been brainwashed by media portrayals of romance. It's all a ploy.

DifferentBar6 · 2021-03-02T13:24:37+00:00

I don’t need a man to take me out on dates, or “want me” etc. I’d really like to be left alone by men.

I no longer trust that they believe women to be more than sex toys/domestic slaves. The misogyny in society is so pervasive on every level, people don’t even notice it because it’s the norm.

I’m not convinced that allowing a man into my life will improve it. Being alone is better than dealing with the additional bullshit.

At first I was a little sceptical about FDS and I used to be naive and think “not all men”, or “people are all individuals” however the more I learn, the more I realise I placed too much trust in men. Not all men, but a huge majority of men.

The_Oracle_of_Delphi · 2021-03-02T11:19:00+00:00

I have a friend who is a very traditional, stay-at-home housewife who adores her husband and who rarely dares to voice her own opinion. I thought her husband was a HVM and I was glad that she had found a “good guy” who didn’t take advantage of her tendency to put herself second-best. But now I’m starting to see that he does, in fact, make jokes at her expense which show him off as the wonderful husband that she is so lucky to have. It could be a lot worse, but it gives me a bad feeling and confirms to me that men - even the ostensibly nice ones - see us only as supporting characters in their lives.

99power · 2021-03-02T13:34:03+00:00

This woman is brilliant and also 100% correct. She said what I’ve been scared to say...romance is just the lie they fed you to keep you under their boot. Most men are incapable of love.

justforfds · 2021-03-02T10:16:58+00:00

I love this woman's matter of fact, excellent delivery.

Now most women work, we need not be forced to show gratitude to men who credit themselves for dominating already pre-trained subordinates, often through physical strength gained by accident of birth. They congratulate themselves for not losing their slaves' labour through starving them. The superiority and provider myths.

At the current time, there is no advantage to the patriarchy, nor many individual men, for women to stop working and enriching those at the top of the economic heirarchy and shouldering the burden of contribution to the home (her input of money and labour).

In their day to day lives, single and childless working women, if liberated from Pickme thinking, are freed from the yoke. On the whole, in more developed countries, we are less encumbered from raising our heads beside men, to maximise our own benefit, though there is a lot of work still to be done.

Men are panicking because they want to keep the unearned benefits and passive ego boost they feel entitled to, that the patriarchy told them was their birthright. They won't do "woman's work" for themselves, as their identity is entrenched in redundant gender roles, all about stepping on women's backs for an easy life, being in control, not being a slave. You cannot be a master without a subordibate. They feel it is their entitlement to be served and surely a cruel insult and insubordination when women choose otherwise.

It is a deal women didn't agree to but were instead subjects of. Many men don't believe it's our right, as humans, to reject it.

tatrielle · 2021-03-02T10:01:16+00:00

the truth, so unfiltered and clear !

suspended_animation_ · 2021-03-02T13:33:47+00:00

I have zero reasons to date men either. It's okay :D

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-03-02T18:42:44+00:00

This is so accurate it's frightening.

My ex used to do this, quite a lot and I remember I was hurt by it but immediately suppressed it.

After work he would call me and demand I cancel everything for his ass, he would phone me insistently to make sure no one parked in my parking space so he knew where to park and he would invite himself over (obviously for sex but under the guise that he was missing me and wanted us to do stuff together- sex). His pea brain offered him no other alternative.

He would be at my place and jump on me under the guise that he was so in love he couldn't keep his hands away.

I was a big idiot back then and I did want to believe him.

However, after he got what he wanted, he would do exactly what this girl depicts in the video.

He was at my place, in my bed but he acted as if he was so damn tired of me. It crossed my mind to ask him why did he choose to stay if he felt like that? I regret not asking that.

He proceeded to say he wanted to spend time with me but then immediately complained about me and pushed me away.

He made some jokes about how he would love to put the mirror in the hallways between us in bed.

"To get some sweet peace"

I am not a very talkative person so I didn't understand what he meant by sweet peace. I was quiet and I was in my own house.

I was flabbergasted. He clung and pawed and would touch me all the damn time when we were going anywhere together: on the street or when we were in the car (insisting to hold my hand or would keep his hand at the nape of my neck and in my hair, fluffing it up).

His hands were constantly on me.

That was a red flag.

However, he made such a big thing if I touched him like that or initiated.

It was a mess.

Needless to say, he projected his extreme clinginess on me while berating and making fun of me wanting to touch him.

He probably saw his attraction towards me as a form of dependence. It seemed a bit insane, really. Everywhere where we were walking, he was like this sort of human vine, coiled around me, and I lost so much hair from him insisting to always have his hands in it.

We would see each other maybe 3 times/ week and he would project that I wanted to take up all his time.

The thing with the mirror, though... I should have immediately brought it up and told him to leave. I should have told him to get the f out of my house and smash in a tree on his way home.

No, in fact after the thing with the mirror he pressured me for more sex and had a very jealous and ugly reaction to my orgasm. I even heard him talk during it as if he wanted to humiliate me for being wet or something.

Perhaps it triggered his raging Madonna-whore complex.

I didn't let it go and when I felt he wanted to push me off him right after sex (men who do that are scum!), I scratched him. I felt so humiliated and told him that I didn't like him pushing my body like that as if I was a sex doll or a prostitute who agreed to that beforehand.

This manchild didn't like me calling things by their name and left to never come back. Hours earlier he was calling me the love of his life yada yada, planning out next vacation, and come midnight he was out of the door. I told him not to forget stuff at my place. He did. I threw it out right after.

So yeah, I got this ugly feeling that he didn't want to be with me, secretly hating me and at the same time hating himself for lusting after me.

Mediocre_Principle · 2021-03-02T14:25:55+00:00

They now use disgusting tactics to manipulate and sweet talk and lie their way into the vaginas of low self esteem and naive women to get the residuals of their patriarchal deal.

2021-03-02T16:10:05+00:00

I’m in my fifties and I know without a doubt that the only man who truly loves me for me is my Dad.

nymira-1 · 2021-03-02T19:21:29+00:00

She explained it perfectly. This is why I don’t like the HVM thing

oscine23 · 2021-03-05T06:04:35+00:00

I'll take it one step further. My theory has always been that most men hate us because they resent that we hold the keys to the only thing that they really want in life -- vagina. They loathe that they have to pretend to have manners, to listen to us, to like us when they'd rather just rape us and be on their way.

ComfortableHead3 · 2021-03-02T14:13:37+00:00

Dddddammmmnnnn...

bunsmoria · 2021-03-02T17:22:50+00:00

Yup. Thank you for this reminder. Hard truth but it is the truth

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