This sounds like my last relationship!

LevelTurbulent · 2020-12-21T23:57:41+00:00

Parting words from my now ex husband: All the nasty things I've done to you over the years have turned you into someone I hate!

Well gee, let me schedule in some time to feel bad about that buddy. How about the fourth of Never?

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-21T23:38:06+00:00

That is the classic sign of a narcissist. People who want everything and anything to be about them. They are the people that make the conversation about them, bring up their issues, and don't take the blame for ish. If you come across one of these men run.

volcanic_equation · 2020-12-22T00:46:19+00:00

I swear, there must be a book out there that these guys are learning from.

Some of my faves:

Why are you always trying to pick a fight??
So I guess I’m the bad guy, now.
You’re exaggerating, as usual.
I never said/ did that!! 🤬🤬🤬

chatrebelle · 2020-12-22T02:45:46+00:00

And how dare you insinuate i'm a bad person by talking about horrible things I 100% did?

Platipus6 · 2020-12-22T03:19:10+00:00

I was trapped in an hour long car ride and eventually had to tell him that I'd discovered that the way he was speaking to me was in fact, verbal abuse.

He said "that hurts to hear".

You know what hurts to hear, you narcissistic pos? Verbal abuse for 2 years...

seraphinelysion · 2020-12-22T02:13:06+00:00

I'm sorry, ladies, but it sounds like all of you have dated my ex at some point. 😂

danibug · 2020-12-22T03:00:18+00:00

Or they just gaslight you and say they never said/did that :)

4BigData · 2020-12-22T03:18:54+00:00

What value are these men really adding to women's lives?

exhalefierceness · 2020-12-22T03:53:08+00:00

My ex partner went behind my back TWICE & cat-fished my friends and a couple classmates a couple years back telling them provocative comments yet he said he “never cheated”

He also said “if you ever think I would physically cheat on you, there’s the door”

🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

RedditRabbitt · 2020-12-22T04:28:43+00:00

Oh god. I remember when I dumped my ex for serial cheating and he said it was all my fault our relationship ended bc he offered us another chance and I said no. We were going to watch true love swirl down the drain because of ME! 😳🤣

Squidwrd_Tortellini · 2020-12-22T01:35:23+00:00

Narcissism 101

tinysilverstar · 2020-12-22T02:05:36+00:00

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2020-12-22T03:51:40+00:00

They’re so emotional but have the nerve to call women emotional ?

2020-12-22T01:52:23+00:00

They will put you through hell and then expect you to keep it bottled up. Sir, my therapist and I have deep discussions about you twice a week.

Chubby-Lovie · 2020-12-22T04:47:43+00:00

Wow, its messed up how our experiences are so universal

Time_Attention_1182 · 2020-12-22T00:38:07+00:00

My ex husband!!!

Edited to add: and I believed him.

motokos_ghost · 2020-12-22T09:04:13+00:00

I dated a classic narc for two years, still trying to heal from the trauma, but now feeling better then ever. I honestly don't even know where to begin. He lovebombed me, and I didn't know the signs then so I fell for it. Once he saw that he had me, the abuse was constant and unrelenting. He would always deny flirting with girls behind my back online. (I had screenshots.) He would always ruin my birthday's and pick fights with me about how I was upset that he didn't get me any gifts. (He never once gave me a birthday present.) My last birthday he didn't even WISH me a happy birthday, he literally ignored me for the whole day because he was ''depressed'', yet he still had the capacity to go to a concert two days before in which I was invited but then he ditched me and posted the pics on FB so I can clearly see.

I would call him out on his bullshit, and he would always threaten to break up with me, he would have a fucking fit whenever I called him out. I'm ashamed I kept going back to him and working through that internally. In the end, he broke up with me because he felt like he was ''walking on eggshells'' because I'd call him out on his abuse. I'm just disappointed in myself. How could I allow someone to try me like this? But I've moved on with a much clearer view of what I want in a relationship, and how I wanted to be treated. The naivety has gone.

2020-12-22T07:49:04+00:00

Oh yes. I dated two narcs, unfortunately. It was so funny to hear, my 2nd ex saying :"you know I never wanted to hurt you" and then he proceeds to hurt me anyways or "I don't need drama". When guys say that, it's an indication that he causes a lot of drama.

lol-life-suks · 2020-12-22T10:45:42+00:00

Omg same he would be like “WhY aRe YoU tHrOwInG tHaT bAcK iN mY fAcE” like dude I wouldn’t need to throw it back in your face if you didn’t do it...

javagarbagecollector · 2020-12-22T11:57:26+00:00

Honestly even men who aren't narcs do this. Defensive to death. Vulnerably of any form gets overridden by gaslighting and pointing back. I have been in 3 relationships where this was the norm.

PalmTreePhilosophy · 2020-12-22T12:47:43+00:00

I know this only too well. It's ridiculous how much men expect women to protect them from their emotions and awful behaviour. It shows how they are so used to blaming women for everything. It's a reflex.

The problem is they are really stupid with very poor emotional intelligence BUT they have a lot of power.

The awareness this sub brings needs to be taught to all girls from a young age.

DallasM19 · 2020-12-22T12:58:17+00:00

"you're hard to shut up"

Me: "I beg your pardon? I'm hard to shut up? Wtf?'

"Omg you always do that. You be twisting my words"

Me: "I literally repeated what you said verbatim. Verbatim means word for word. You're fcked and extremely disrespectful. Stop telling people I'm your ex, creep."

Typing

Me: * blocks dusty scrote I knew for maybe two weeks total *

You can literally repeat horrible things they JUST SAID TO YOU and they can't deal. It's so screwed up.

Feral_Heartbeat · 2020-12-22T05:38:46+00:00

This is a narcissist thing. Having this issue with my female roommate, amoung many others. The reason it's so very, very noticable in men, is that narcissistic traits and behaviors are REWARDED in men far more than it is in women. Society EXPECTS men to act at least a little bit narcissistic, even the ones that aren't the fullblown narcs are often strangely entitled.

Sensitive-Ad8553 · 2020-12-22T00:39:10+00:00

“Why do you always need to bring up the bad stuff I did, you never look at the good :(“ -My Ex

2020-12-22T02:30:16+00:00

Thanks for the award! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

SarcasmSlide · 2020-12-22T18:31:52+00:00

Porn addict “friend” with a 15-year forever girlfriend (whom I know very well socially) once complained that his girlfriend doesn’t understand him or love him. That she’s constantly bringing up stuff from the past that doesn’t matter anymore. That he’s tired of her crying and getting upset because she “wants to live in the past.”

He said these things in bed. Because he was cheating on his girlfriend with me for 4 months. After getting caught cheating repeatedly over the years and masturbating to porn 4 hours a day the entirety of their relationship.

Even as a Pickme I recognized this is horseshit. When I pointed out the fact pattern just 20 minutes after committing adultery, he literally said, “Yeah well whatever. She treats me like shit now because she has an excuse. I’m not perfect but I’m staying for her. She should be happy I love her enough to work it out.”

Ladies I swear in that moment, in literally that second, I knew the great truth. The last plane of existence the Buddhists talk about.

MEN AIN’T SHIT

2020-12-22T02:57:38+00:00

In response to me bringing up for the first time and only time asking why he chose to do what he did and why he still hadn't apologised (cheating level shit) - "I've already beaten myself up about this long enough, I don't need you bringing it up to remind me"

He is history and I now pay attention to every. Single. Red. Flag. Fuck that noise.

Lowabunny2 · 2020-12-22T06:55:45+00:00

Lmaooo yes he would always say “I just want to move on “ like no you do not get to dictate my healing process

catharsis1248 · 2020-12-22T04:18:18+00:00

This! My ex acted like this all the time. Once after we broke up he even had the audacity to say that HE had ptsd from how he treated me. This m’fer....... And “why do you always bring up the past?” The past?! You mean this morning??!

2020-12-22T05:05:30+00:00

Omg #FACTS

ChannelRider · 2020-12-22T04:10:21+00:00

I remember I had an ex who'd spank me hard in bed for "BDSM" reasons. One time I slapped him and he got furious. That's when I knew the relationship needed to end.

dontyell_atme · 2020-12-22T14:07:26+00:00

oof yes. like, you’re the worst person I have ever encountered, worse than my dad, and you still choose to be the victim here? I’ve never met a more disgusting person than my ex. Don’t fuck with men who are this kind of person. Just block & ignore.

bombay_girl · 2020-12-22T06:38:42+00:00

“Babe it hurts my feelings when you tell me about all the horrible shit I did to you” 🙄

Wildestrose1988 · 2020-12-22T11:54:59+00:00

My ex fiance would literally tell me I have to stop crying because it hurts HIS feelings. Btw I was 18 (still in highschool) and he was 28

gothicctemptress · 2020-12-22T12:23:23+00:00

Yup. Sometimes I wonder whether the DARVO was caused by persecutory delusions brought on by his meds, but then I thought of all the people I've known who suffer from psychotic disorders and how they're NEVER strategic in exploiting others or controlling what other people do. In fact most of them dare not have any goals at all.

dewiaung01 · 2020-12-22T02:59:43+00:00

Apparently me being able to see through his BS and calling him out for his toxicity is ‘hurting his ego’ as he put it

anthro_reddit · 2020-12-22T12:00:47+00:00

This EXACT thing happened with my ex

jenhenfofen · 2020-12-22T02:01:28+00:00

Sounds like my husband...ex husband.

2020-12-22T06:05:26+00:00

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badassAttitude · 2020-12-22T06:15:30+00:00

My ex all the time when he emotionally cheated on me

quirkypinkllama · 2020-12-22T14:44:27+00:00

truth

cl0udybluesk1es · 2020-12-22T09:33:36+00:00

How else do you explain this without them getting upset?

Cel_Gabe · 2020-12-22T13:01:31+00:00

This sounds like my dad :/

getrippeddiemirin · 2020-12-22T15:38:40+00:00

I wasn't even fuckin' 'em, but these are my last three roommates. Good thing I'm pissing away $1800/month on a mortgage instead of rent now, and they haven't a hope in hell of buying property in this city--let alone province.

zorua · 2021-02-17T01:36:45+00:00

Yup had that happen to me before 🙃

Title	This sounds like my last relationship!
Author	chicky173
Upvotes	3556
Comments	128
Date	December 21, 2020 11:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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