Where's the lie?

victoria------ · 2020-11-29T08:55:54+00:00

I’d like to add ‘porn addict’ to this. as a 19yo most of the guys i’ve talked to or been with have told me they want me to do really fucked up things they’ve seen in porn, like choking and anal. if you tell them no, they just keep on pressuring you, hoping you give in. a lot of the sex i had before I found FDS was highly coercive. I’m really grateful to the HVW here for teaching me better.

amievenreal99 · 2020-11-29T15:09:21+00:00

"porn sick"

"complete slob who doesn't take care of himself, doesn't shower, doesn't groom, wears the same oversized stained sloppy tee 10 days in a row"

"has a profile full of 18+, BDSM, gonewild and similar subreddits"

"oversteps boundaries deliberately to provoke you, or questions your boundaries and pushes you; proceeds to mansplain your boundaries to you"

"Doesn't take a No for an answer and disrespects your boundaries and when you tell him this is the last time he's disrespecting you like that and ignoring your clear 'No', he acts all ignorant and 'how was I supposed to mind read your boundaries"

"is into some degenerate shit and gets off of abuse, humiliation, pedophilia, mutilation"

You will hear all sorts of fairytales about "what men truly want is to get a woman's approval, and they work hard to make her smile". In reality, the only thing they work hard towards is going out of their way to provoke you, overstep your boundaries and push you into cutting them off, and sabotage themselves, just so they can blame women, it's hilarious. They are really mentally ill. They literally get erect for upsetting us, then gaslighting us into "I can't mind read", or "You should just communicate".

Just look at r/relationship_advice really. Or join any OLD site and see for yourselves.

brylm92 · 2020-11-29T07:41:49+00:00

"Pornsick" should be somewhere lurking in the shadows

everythingandlove · 2020-11-29T15:04:47+00:00

“Sleeps around” is way, way more common than I thought.. and honestly, it’s sort of scary to me. This guy I liked mentioned that he had a LOT of experience, and that he’s slept with a few virgins too.. but he loves pleasing women sexually (🤢)... I’m over here being inexperienced af and thinking.. ohhh great, so I should be falling for this I guess? Hard freaking pass.

One thing I’ve learned from fds is that men shouldn’t be praised for doing the bare minimum... also, to me, it just seems wrong to mention you’ve slept with a few virgins before. Am I wrong?? He was older too... it just felt off.

PyroKittyOwO · 2020-11-29T07:42:11+00:00

It would be funny if it weren't so true. 😭 Then you have the guys that go "wOw ThAt'S sO sHaLlOw Of YoU tO hAvE sTaNdArDs" then of course they get all pissy about body type/career/hobbies/attractiveness. Like WHAT??? The absolute audacity.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2020-11-29T10:42:22+00:00

oh wow. why does this apply so well to my life? I swear... almost all guys on OLD have something along those lines. And what is terrible is that a problem never comes alone. It's sometimes 3 or 4 pairs of those: can't spell, "send nudes", bad credit score, insecure... you see, it's never just one. that's like a unicorn.

laserkatze · 2020-11-29T15:27:14+00:00

come on girl just because he’s a broke drug dealer without a job you shouldn’t deny him the pussy. you’re so superficial /s

Kristeninmyskin · 2020-11-29T16:08:09+00:00

Cheap, controlling, gaslights, negs, follow a lot of Instagram models, pays for OnlyFans...

Aik2 · 2020-11-29T13:15:43+00:00

Big facts. Add disappointing in the sack and call it done

ekkokekekko · 2020-11-29T16:31:38+00:00

This meme is wrong about one thing. No one uses the word DATE anymore. It's "netflix and chill", "hangout", and "talking to". DATE requires effort.

MissKinkykittykat · 2020-11-29T14:22:29+00:00

This is the bain of my fucking life.

Everyone in my workplace brings up my relationship status on an almost weekly basis. Analysing the reason and mocking my preferences.

I'm a gainfully employed higher educated woman that took the first opportunity to move out and learn to drive. I have my own home and two cars.

Intensive effort is put into my appearance - work out daily, mircoblading, eyelashes, nails, expensive skincare regime, luxury makeup and clothes that really compliment my figure. I'm conventionally attractive.

When I express that I want a gentleman that has similar achievements and care in their appearance, I'm labelled a golddigger, materialistic, and shallow.

My last relationship was with an incredibly handsome Italian rugby player. The one before was an immensely educated and good-looking engineer. I'm not downgrading to make men feel better about their failure at basic life goals. I'm happy being single when the other option is mothering an adult man.

YgirlYB · 2020-11-29T08:50:04+00:00

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asocialsocialite · 2020-11-29T18:32:16+00:00

Put down out-of-shape and Trump supporting and you've got me.

Davina33 · 2020-11-29T08:26:32+00:00

Yup!

husheveryone · 2020-11-29T16:24:08+00:00

“I’ve been busy.”

NOPE! Bye.

4BigData · 2020-11-29T16:39:44+00:00

What's the best FDS answer to "not looking for anything serious"?

2020-11-29T14:55:05+00:00

Exactly.

2020-11-29T13:24:55+00:00

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inlovewithaloser · 2020-11-29T18:23:31+00:00

Being approached by these guys is starting to look no different than being approached by the crackheads at the gas station. 🤢👉👈

LCM75360 · 2020-11-29T16:34:59+00:00

This is horribly and hilariously accurate!

InayahDaneen · 2020-11-29T16:19:46+00:00

I was asked this two days ago, if only I had this image earlier to summarize why I am still single.

bananamilk58 · 2020-11-29T17:34:03+00:00

I'm always wondering how they have the audacity to even think I'd ever be interested in their LV asses...I just

foxfaebae · 2020-11-29T14:24:53+00:00

Lol waiittttt there are guys trying to date me?!? I'm just looking into a vast empty field 🤣🤣🤣

ekkokekekko · 2020-11-30T00:59:08+00:00

Since getting into therapy and FDS a couple months ago, the sheer volume of weirdos and losers I was attracting has gone from massive to zero. And I love it - lately I get nothing but sweet compliments from ladies, and from guys I'm either getting ignored (excellent) or actual respect (even better). I wonder if there's some kind of "PickMe" vibe we give off when we're vulnerable. Ugh, it sounds a bit like victim blaming, but has anyone noticed anything similar after they have a mindset change?

Poggersisms · 2020-11-29T21:08:15+00:00

LVM: “Why are you a virgin?”

Me:.....

What fact they even ask.....

2020-11-29T20:01:29+00:00

This is the funniest thing I've ever seen 😂

mushy_teabag · 2020-11-30T03:23:27+00:00

Missing but “looking for a third”

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Title	Where's the lie?
Author	thatboyaintright0
Upvotes	2193
Comments	116
Date	November 29, 2020 7:06 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/k3534y/wheres_the_lie/
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