is hyper-individualism ruining our relationships?

Hyper-individualism refers to the idea that an individual is in complete control of their life and circumstances. It is the prioritization of the individual over the collective. In interpersonal relationships, this often manifests as a "what can they do for me" and "no one owes you anything" mentality. It is only natural to want a reciprocal relationship. Still, in the past few years, it seems like many people want to take from a relationship without giving anything in return. And everyone wants their needs met as fast as possible.

Social media is full of examples of this. Women stating to never date a man who doesn't spend a minimum amount of money on the first date. Men saying to never date a woman unless she has sex with you within a certain time frame. In this framework, no one considers reciprocity and communication.

So why is this happening?

My guess is that society as a whole is becoming less empathetic as modern life becomes more fast-paced and disconnected. In this interview with a psychologist who specializes in empathy and altruism, it was mentioned that empathy levels have been on the decline in the past few decades. There is also some evidence correlating social media usage with decreased empathy and increased narcissism.

Whatever the reason is, it's clear to me that a hyper-individualistic view of relationships is harmful because of how superficial it is. If you are focused on getting your immediate needs met instead of focusing on the long-term happiness of yourself and others then you will end up with superficial relationships that will not fulfill you. In my opinion, fulfilling relationships won't always be easy but they are fulfilling because they contain a mutual give-and-take. Today, it seems that people completely prioritize their hyper-individuality by leaving relationships as soon as there is an issue. Not only does this harm the other person in the relationship, but it also harms the individual because they are denying themselves future happiness by prioritizing momentary happiness (Note: I'm not referring to issues of abuse here).