LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD

Spread-Em-Plz · 2025-02-11T00:37:15+00:00

I hate when people here

-Anyone, men, women, redpill, bluepill, blackpilled, or whatever other descriptor fits them

Acts like shallowness is something exclusive or done worse by one gender, or is exclusively done by “bad” people or is exclusively done by “people you don’t want a relationship with anyway”

Wrong in every way, and the latter two sentiments are annoying because they’re clearly a way to help someone sleep at night

Like nah G, it’s not that the team is being unfair for not picking you/them; you/they just didn’t make the cut and that’s how it is.

Those folks you think are too “shallow” to have a real relationship with could very well go on to have great relationships in their lives, marriages, beautiful kids, etc.

And you, yes you reading this, you’re shallow too. It’s okay and it’s part of being a human, why try to fight it for the sake of holding yourself on some moral pedestal or for the sake of seeming “deep and profound”?

Dishonouronmycow2 · 2025-02-08T17:04:38+00:00

I look like a toad

cardboard_pyramid · 2025-02-09T17:12:48+00:00

Woman’s Prayer

That didn’t happen — “I didn’t body shame you”

And if it did, it wasn’t that bad — “You can’t handle a little joke?”

And if it was, that’s not a big deal — “Fragile male ego in action here”

And if it is, that’s not my fault — “The patriarchy made male beauty standards, not me”

And if it was, I didn’t mean it — “Small dick energy isn’t actually about the size but about his attitude. If you feel hurt that says more about you than me”

And if I did, you deserved it — “You have a Napoleon complex and small dick energy. You’re toxic and deserve to be body shamed”

Eyoshias · 2025-02-09T03:31:53+00:00

Good looks = people will treat you better, give you more opportunities, give you the benefit of the doubt = you are socialized to perform better in interactions with others due to their bias and to the amount of people who want to interact you = seen as having a good personality. Ugly = people best case treat you like an NPC, worst case bully/tease you = bad personality due to ill treatment and lack of experience. There is nothing and will never be anything wrong with being upset that others can have good things due to their genetics and social bias that you will have to work to overcome.

Spread-Em-Plz · 2025-02-08T22:02:55+00:00

What if the real looks-pill isn’t “Women only want Chad” but “Only Chad gets actual quality relationships”

Not saying I agree or disagree but just putting that out there, like what if though

CompetitiveSugar6451 · 2025-02-08T17:12:21+00:00

Me overanalyzing every text message I send to women on dating apps; not wanting to appear too direct/over-enthusiastic but also not wanting to appear too nonchalant; or not wanting to appear too funny to the point they would think I am a clown but also not wanting to appear as a serious boring guy.

Meanwhile chad can just send ‘sup wanna fuck?” and women will be like ‘Oh my ovaries!! Here’s my home adress Chad”

MalePsychopath · 2025-02-08T20:49:32+00:00

Most people vastly overrate their own looks

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2025-02-12T16:40:28+00:00

A common piece of advice many people say is:

- Be attractive

- Don't be unattractive

Some might see this the second statement as a re-emphasis of the first, but I don't believe it to be so.

This was mostly an exercise in improving my own self-esteem, but I tried to look at random people in public and notice things about them that are attractive and unattractive.

Most people aren't lookers, yes; but the vast majority of people I've see are very much not unattractive. I've seen big guys with great facial hair and a fantastic sense of style that elevated them to at least a 6, 8 on a good day. I've seen women with fucked up teeth look good when they have a genuine laugh or smile.

It's incredibly hard to be drop dead gorgeous, because that's mostly genetics. But believing that most people are genuinely unattractive is very much antithetical to my own experience. That being said, I find it harder to come across people who are genuinely genetically repulsive compared to those who are gorgeous.

Logos1789 · 2025-02-08T18:50:58+00:00

If looks don’t matter, then do you read every single profile on a dating app when swiping?

Alwaysnthered · 2025-02-08T17:11:56+00:00

hung out with some new-ish friends last night and we started going around just telling our crazy stories.

I've always thought one of the ladies in the group was conservative/demure - saying how she grew up religious, had strict parents and just in general had a very cautious slow vibe in dating - as in over the past year of knowing her she would always say how she never kisses on the first date, is looking for something serious, and is very cautious with men, and values personality a ton over looks.

lo and behold, after 4 drinks she admits to multiple one night stands / situations, recently, where she saw a man and "just had to have him since he was intoxicatingly hot, I could not help myself" - and literally went up to those men, chatted for a few mins, got their social media, and ended up inviting them over for sex later that night and often sent them harcore nudes / etc.

looks>>>>>>>>>>everything else.

Muscletov · 2025-02-10T09:32:38+00:00

Why is Reddit so obsessed with playing down the impact baldness? Redditors act like shaving off your hair and """embracing""" your baldness is no big deal and just as good as having a full head of hair. But in reality, being bald looks neutral at the very, very best and that is if you're overall masculine looking, with good beard growth and a nicely shaped skull. Most men however look moderately or even severely worse bald than with a full head of hair worn in any remotely fashionable hairstyle.

Shaving your head is damage control in most cases, not more, not less.

G4M35 · 2025-02-09T16:15:59+00:00

Nobody wants to be seen in public with ugly people with whom they have sex.

New-Western-4819 · 2025-02-13T05:10:13+00:00

what is it with people who used to do meth and still being arrogant af even tho they're living in a trailer

Muscletov · 2025-02-13T13:07:07+00:00

Q4All: Do you think tattoos make men more attractive?

Studies are all over the place and slightly veer towards "no", but from my experience, women (nowadays) respond very well to men with tatoos.

PracticalControl2179 · 2025-02-14T23:24:38+00:00

Man’s prayer

That didn’t happen - “I didn’t say women my age are disgusting

And if it did, it wasn’t that bad - “I simply said they don’t take care of themselves and are fat and don’t dress well and are expired because they didn’t pick a good man in their youth”

And if it was, it’s not a big deal - “they can simply put the fork down, dress better, and get married young”

And if it is, that’s not my fault: - “I’m not the one being a fatty who made bad decisions in her youth. It’s their fault”

And if it was, I didn’t mean it: - “it isn’t superficial it is about attitude. She can lose weight and put the fork down and should have aggressively pursued me when she was 21”

And if I did, you deserved it: - “you’re fat and ugly and expired. The boat has sailed for you to ever find love. You’re bitter that a good guy like me doesn’t want you anymore. You should have married me when you were young you b***”

LoFiPanda14 · 2025-02-08T17:05:46+00:00

Dead thread

BichonFriseLover · 2025-02-08T18:20:20+00:00

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JetproTC23 · 2025-02-09T04:34:39+00:00

Why are both men and women obsessed with getting a hot/beautiful partner who doesn't know that he or she is beautiful?

Do people enjoy their partners' having insecurities?

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Weestywoo · 2025-02-08T17:07:18+00:00

Third

Electric_Death_1349 · 2025-02-08T19:05:14+00:00

Q4W - if you discovered that a guy who attends the same gym as you had publicly (i.e. on a sub Reddit) expressed a desire to sniff the seat of the exercise bike you’d used during a spin class, could that be seen as a romantic gesture? If a guy is willing to risk public humiliation, social ostracism and potential criminal charges for public indecency for but a tantalising sniff of you, is that not, on some level, flattering?

Mouslimanoktonos · 2025-02-11T10:56:50+00:00

Desiring beauty is as natural as desiring tasty food; one should not feel entitled to it, but one also should not be derided as abnormal for wanting it, simply because one is deemed unworthy of it by their peers. By all means, desire beauty (κάλλος) and disregard ugly (αίσχος); you are under no obligation to fight back against your natural instincts that cause no evil and will bring you happiness merely because it offends someone.

UnionOk8886 · 2025-02-11T22:04:19+00:00

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TheRedPillRipper · 2025-02-13T21:25:34+00:00

The Perfect Analogy for Looks and Attraction

Music. It is almost as varied, as there are categories of human beings. Yet, there are nearly universally popular artists. Taylor Swift. Beyoncé. Liked by millions. This, is a perfect analogy for looks and attraction.

CMV.

QuantityAcademic · 2025-02-08T17:14:48+00:00

Day 86 of dailyposting (and a reminder that women don't want virgins).

So they're firing my mom from her job at her school. I dunno why but this makes me anxious. Dad makes good money + they do own some real estate that they will rent out, so it's not like they're going to starve or anything. But still, it scares me.

Anyway, what will you do today?

waffleznstuff30 · 2025-02-13T02:28:03+00:00

Looks are completely subjective.

We all find different things attractive. And what people find physically attractive varies. Like some person's imperfections would be the thing someone finds uniquely attractive. People's flaws make them unique?

There isn't this one size fits all mass produced standardized brand of attractive. It's completely a unique experience and at the core an individual experience. It has emotional/physical reasons. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pleasant-Camera7101 · 2025-02-11T22:55:06+00:00

QFW: Do you think men have unrealistic beauty standards for women?

ThatBitchA · 2025-02-08T21:21:17+00:00

Biweekly reminder that women view looks as looks, vibes, and personality. Women are viewing looks as much more than just the space between eye balls and the sharpness of a jawline.

Women are looking at their smile, the way they carry themselves/their vibes, the way they talk/their personality, and most importantly, the way he looks at her & how that look makes her feel.

Men are too focused on looks from the male perspective. They encourage each other based on how men view attractiveness. And then tell women they are wrong for how women view attractiveness.

Siukslinis_acc · 2025-02-08T17:35:01+00:00

Like the style of the dude with the dark jacket

FunPoltergeist · 2025-02-08T18:19:53+00:00

You don’t need to be hot or have a good body to pull women easily, it’s mostly your face being appealing to look at and frame.

Also, I saw a post on here with a guy complaining about having a micropenis, that would suck so bad, most women are gone once they find out. I’m a grower, one of my future girlfriends saw mine before it was hard, I had to send a dick pic she was never going to talk to me again.

Title	LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREAD
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