Or do a lot of blue pill folk not quite realise they’re basically red pill light?

To be blue pill, you have to believe the following.

True unconditional love. Humans loving each other because of their authentic unaltered selves. Nerdy guys, autists, short, bald, fat, whatever, get loved for who they are.

Loyalty, unconditional loyalty. Most people are loyal, is what you have to believe, most people are loyal through most circumstances. Better partners of unattractive qualities developing in your partner or plain old sexual boredom don’t exist for the vast majority of blue pillers. These things rarely happen and you can go into a relationship as your authentic self, whoever that may be, with all your flaws, and chances are your partner will love you unconditionally and probably never cheat, because most people are moral and principled. That’s what you have to believe.

Casual sex? Almost never happens. Only loving sex in a loving loyal unconditional relationship.

Height, looks, muscularity and all that nonsense carries very little weight. It’s vastly blown out of proportion and most people don’t select for these traits. They select for personality 95 percent of the time and you’re lucky because even than will match “somebody’s” taste out there regardless of your character traits because there’s pretty much somebody for everyone.

Most women are attracted to most men also.

Oh and in order to attract a woman you’ve got to essentially focus less on looks, and not even on developing a strong masculine personality. They’re not actually attracted to decisive men who take charge and are confident and funny and don’t worship them. They are more about matching energies, essence, kind souls and even sometimes shyness.

Strength as a personality trait is give or take, same physically. And excitement does very little for them. They’re looking for loyalty kindness and humility, though be your authentic self.

I don’t see how those beliefs don’t trigger your “this sounds like a hallmark card sugar coating of reality” alarm.

Like, it sounds legit childish. Almost like “if you dream it you can live it” etc. There’s a BRUTAL amount of uncontrollable aspects to success in the market and business etc, and most people kinda get that nepotism and luck and circumstance GREATLY impact your chances of success. You can absolutely dedicate your life to a rags to riches story and succeed, though most don’t. This isn’t a controversial opinion, and morality has no bearing on success. Yet we seem to apply it to relationships?

I just feel the blue pill version of the reality of dating and relationships sounds like a far easier, sugar coated and idealistic version of the grittier, more brutal reality. Yet blue pill is the mature view of people who “went outside”? Where by all accounts it reads as somebody who hasn’t left their teens and lived on a diet of rom come and romance novels….