Question for Women: In your observation/experience, what are the common traits of men who get casually laid very frequently and easily?

blebbyroo · 2024-03-05T10:26:59+00:00

Funny, highly extroverted and social, handsome, knows how to flirt and build tension

Makuta_Servaela · 2024-03-05T15:03:01+00:00

Easy going, fun, and putting themselves out there. Attractiveness helps, but it's subjective.

I tend to run in the kink community, and the guys I see who usually run orgies and gangbangs or have lots of FWBs and casual sex tend to not be the most attractive, but be the most fun. In my community, word gets around. You make a name for yourself as someone who is fun to lay, creative, and trustworthy in bed, and you can get so many people lining up for you. Hell, even my primary FWB is probably a mid to what incels consider attractive with a 3 or so incher, and he is one of the biggest whores I know just because of how entertaining he is.

I also tend to run around the bi crowd, so most of my experience is bi men, but the straight men tend to have the same or similar tendencies.

kalashhhhhhhh · 2024-03-05T13:04:36+00:00

Extroverted, very low-inhibition, into partying and drug use, charismatic and above average looking.

Acaciduh · 2024-03-05T13:06:45+00:00

Very outgoing with large friend groups. Either very handsome or willing to go lower than him on looks. Typically always in party and drug environments.

I’ve said this here before but my brother is this and he is no Chad. 5’7” and fat af and always has hookups - they’re usually as fat or fatter than him although he’s hooked up with a few pretty good looking women which I assume is just sheer numbers. He’s always out at bars and is the life of the party and has a large friend group. He’s very charismatic as well which I’m sure helps.

Dishonouronmycow2 · 2024-03-05T13:02:48+00:00

Handsome, extroverted, funny, social and is always out partying

Mentathiel · 2024-03-05T18:19:19+00:00

I haven't met many like this, but here's what I can think of.

Very good looking & taking care of appearance. Not only were they naturally attractive, they were putting in effort to be groomed, smell nice, often had ridiculously nice hair and skin.

They are all pretty extroverted.

Very impulsive. Parties, addictions, promiscuity, unhealthy lifestyle but maintaining appearance.

Often quite self-deprecating? This surprises me as I remember, but most of them cracked jokes at their own account and often were kind of whiny in smaller circles. Maybe it's just the ones I've met.

They were all quite liberal, maybe that just goes with promiscuity, but I feel like they embodied the casual attitude that allowed women to relax with them. They don't seem like judgemental people and their openly promiscuous lifestyles with many different people, some of them including with other men, give others reassurance that they aren't going to be judged for being sexual with them.

I think this view is quite biased though. There are many men who're desired by many women but choose not to sleep around. And there are many men who might score a lot of women, but don't brag about it to random women, so I wouldn't know. And I move in mostly more progressive circles and my more traditional friends are very monogamy, marriage, kids oriented, so they aren't exactly the type. Idk. Wouldn't generalize my experiences too much, although there's probably something to it at least.

mrs_seng · 2024-03-05T10:30:41+00:00

The only things that were consistent in 100% of the cases were being a good company, knowing how to talk, when to talk, reading the room, charismatic, humorous, extrovert, having impecable personal hygene, good dancers, having a personal style when it comes to cloths or accessiories.

Height varied, handsomeness varied, fitness varied, money varied.

toasterchild · 2024-03-05T14:46:49+00:00

Hands down the one thing all of these guys I have known had in common was they knew how to make women feel attractive without making the women feel like prey. They all have a very casual flirty way about them that sends the message that they want you but don't care if you want them back. If you are interested that is cool if you are not, no big deal. They don't take a rejection personally and know how to laugh it off.

Most of the ones I know aren't crazy attractive standing still but they have one feature they play up. One has nice eyes but he can smile with them and really show them off. One has wit so he learned to sexually banter.

PerfumedPornoVampire · 2024-03-05T12:35:22+00:00

Extroverted, but also surrounds himself with women. Lots of female friends to hook up with on occasion, and then getting to know the friends of friends, etc. A lot of these dudes are not “stereotypically masculine” because they have more common ground with women, but they definitely do have more chances for sex. Next in line is guys with a good mix of male/female friends, for similar reasons.

Guys who only hang out with other guys rarely get laid as often. This is just my observation.

januaryphilosopher · 2024-03-05T13:42:03+00:00

They're very social, they come onto a lot of people and they're not good at committing to things.

IncitefulSpiceRack · 2024-03-05T10:30:11+00:00

Honestly I spent a lot of time wondering how the dudes in my friend group get as much tail as they do.

We're all nerds

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2024-03-05T12:13:46+00:00

I really don’t know many of these guys because it’s not the crowd I ran with, but the common trait I would have to point to isn’t height or attractiveness. It’s that they were all very persuasive.

Prudent-Conflict-557 · 2024-03-05T15:26:37+00:00

Confident and witty.

Defundisraelnow · 2024-03-05T16:17:40+00:00

Men who hook up know where to find women who also want to hook up.

angelbaby933 · 2024-03-05T11:04:39+00:00

They usually have large social groups and get out a lot, confident and outgoing. Obviously being attractive helps but I know plenty of guys who aren’t who still get laid just because they put themselves out there enough.

lvlupkitten · 2024-03-05T14:40:43+00:00

Attractive, funny, confident, down to earth, social, charismatic, low inhibition, good at conversation, into the party/drugs/drinking scene, large social circle

Safinated · 2024-03-05T13:37:01+00:00

Hot but also social

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AngeCruelle · 2024-03-05T15:14:48+00:00

Frats. The only frat guys I knew who weren't getting laid on the regular were very overweight relative to the norm for our college. We were in the middle of nowhere and the nearest McDonald's was basically a 30-minute drive away. Plenty of other flaws were forgivable.

I knew of a frat guy with a premature receding hairline who had girls fighting over him. I asked one of my friends who hooked up with him why I kept hearing this guy's name and she told me he went down on his hookups and was easily the best at it out of all of the guys on campus. There was another one (on the chubbier side, but not to the extent of the ones I mentioned above) who was really great at cooking and always made breakfast for the girls who stayed over.

n-a-p-7 · 2024-03-05T15:19:53+00:00

Relaxed, confident, doesn’t take himself too seriously, knows how to read the room, has a “you win some, you lose some” attitude

Suspicious_Glove7365 · 2024-03-05T17:57:16+00:00

I don’t know any man personally who constantly gets laid to be honest.

GridReXX · 2024-03-05T22:40:03+00:00

He’s outside and social. He’s generally sociable and likes to have fun. He has a co-ed friend group and enjoys hanging out with people, men and women alike. He’s outgoing and goes to events and social gatherings often enough. He’s flirtatious, playful, and bantery without being aggressive and exhausting. He’s intuitive and has social skills.

He’s generally decent looking but this doesn’t mean he has to be a “looks 10.” Basically any “looks 6+” guy (before or after looks-maxing) who has the qualities of the first paragraph.

ConanTheCybrarian · 2024-03-06T07:23:57+00:00

There are 2 types:

1 somewhat successful but typically with mid to low level women

Cocky
Traditionally masculine
low inhibitions
low standards
Usually drunk and/ or high

2 as successful as they want to be with any level of woman they'd like

high charisma/ charm
androgynous or not overly traditionally "masculine"
artistic/ creative/ in touch with "feminine side"
very comfortable talking to women, being "one of the girls" and "a shoulder to cry on"
has sisters or close girl friends
keeps place clean and stocked with creature comforts women want (but not too obviously)

^edit: ^fixed ^formatting

SamanthaNicola · 2024-03-06T10:39:26+00:00

Confident, laid back, and appear comfortable in a social setting

apresonly · 2024-03-06T18:30:56+00:00

the ability to easily carry a conversation with women

Mayfloweronthewall · 2024-03-05T12:45:21+00:00

Extroverted, large social group, fairly good looking and funny.

Title	Question for Women: In your observation/experience, what are the common traits of men who get casually laid very frequently and easily?
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Date	March 5, 2024 10:24 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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