When do I stop wearing my ring

that_daddy_nxtdoor · 2024-08-18T17:56:27+00:00

I took mine off when she took hers off.

Maseworld · 2024-08-17T11:40:33+00:00

Still separated and I took mine off a while back. Was a reminder that the marraige wasn't anywhere near I needed it to be. Oh, I also took her 8k ring back to Costco. Lol

Sea-Day141 · 2024-08-16T23:21:16+00:00

Yesterday

bungleweed · 2024-08-16T16:13:42+00:00

Took mine off the day she told me she wanted to separate. Chucked it in a bin at the park. Pointless dragging these things out if it’s done. I then got her engagement and wedding ring back and sold them. Used the money towards my son’s school fees, so at least it went towards something for him, which she couldn’t argue with! 😀

Gnauck · 2024-08-16T15:50:04+00:00

Whenever it feels right to you my guy. I wore mine for a few months after separation. Moved it to my right hand when divorce went underway. It hangs out with my sobriety ring on my right ring finger. Probably will for a long time.

traveler12166 · 2024-08-16T03:43:39+00:00

Yesterday I've been married for 29 years and have never worn a ring.

ChevyJuice · 2024-08-16T02:17:15+00:00

Sell it!!

Interesting-Doctor-5 · 2024-08-16T00:02:38+00:00

Now.

disgustinbrother · 2024-08-15T22:52:11+00:00

I left it in house when she kicked me out I don't care if I see it again I do like the flush it down the toilet post

Accurate-Ad-6189 · 2024-08-15T22:30:34+00:00

If you want my opinion i would not wear it ive gone through this its hard but i got over it my biggest help is im a drummer and that has keeped my spirits up i would suggest may be getting some sort of hobbie it really does take your mind off things Goodluck man it will get better time will be your healer.

MonarchistExtreme · 2024-08-15T20:12:33+00:00

I took mine off when I realized we weren't going to get back together. I still wear it sometimes though when I go out to a nightclub or a bar just to assess how many girls with no morals are there on any given night. It's sad to say but I always got way more female attention wearing it than with it off. I don't take any of these women home mind you, I don't go to clubs for that reason. I'm usually going to see a DJ I'm a fan of. I just sometimes wear the wedding band for sport lol

samk002001 · 2024-08-15T20:08:58+00:00

I took it off after knowing that the divorce is imminent. It’s raw but it needs to go

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-08-15T19:36:30+00:00

I took mine off when I came to the same realization that our relationship was over. It was a few months prior to the divorce on paper.

I remember feeling naked I had been wearing that ring every day for 22 years. I bought another ring for my other hand and fiddled with that instead. I kept the ring one of the kiddos may want it. It has absolutely no sentimental value now after 3 years....a good place to be.

black65Cutlass · 2024-08-15T15:02:10+00:00

I stopped wearing mine after she filed the divorce papers. Took it off immediately, never looked back.

l3tsR0LL · 2024-08-15T13:09:59+00:00

It's been about a year for me, and I still instinctively touch my finger with my thumb to see if it is there. 20 years of being paranoid about losing it. LoL

rsmiley77 · 2024-08-15T12:53:11+00:00

Yes you should have stopped yesterday. Next answer is now.

Any-Dare-7261 · 2024-08-15T08:47:16+00:00

Whenever you feel like it. If she files like 75% of women do, then she’s done. If she’s sleeping with someone else, she’s making a new connection and your old one with her is done. I took mine off when I realized it was over and never coming back. I gave it to my son and he keeps it in his treasure box/piggy bank.

dfb54749014 · 2024-08-15T04:16:34+00:00

I lost 40 lbs within 2 months of her telling me she wanted a divorce, due to the stress.

I looked at her and said "I'm not doing this to piss you off or prove a point or to make you think I quit on us, but...."

I held my hand down over the countertop in the kitchen and it slid right off. Never put it back on again.

JeckiLonsFeet · 2024-08-15T04:04:28+00:00

I flushed mine down the toilet…totally serious

WorkingItOutSomeday · 2024-08-15T03:00:40+00:00

I had stopped wearing mine a few years prior. I lost/forgot it at a park after a bad fight. Real bad fight. I said fuck it, never said anything, never replaced it, just to see if she would notice or care....she didn't. Silence spoke volumes.

TexasTornado3 · 2024-08-15T02:18:43+00:00

Thanks fellas. Being a part of this community has been helpful more than y’all know. I refuse to disrespect her so I’m not going down that path, but I will choose to take care of myself and do what makes me happy. Tomorrow is a new day, let’s get some money, get in shape, and make it better than yesterday brothers.

Lucky_Idiot210 · 2024-08-15T00:37:40+00:00

First step is taking it off and selling that shit buddy trust me ik it’s hard but that’s when you’ll start to feel better

AffectionateFactor84 · 2024-08-15T00:15:27+00:00

I had put on some weight. and couldn't get it off. I obviously changed my diet, and one day, it slid off. felt great in many ways.

AlexBanich · 2024-08-14T22:28:49+00:00

Should have taken it off the day before yesterday. The fact that you're asking is proof enough

lyricbaritone2 · 2024-08-14T22:05:35+00:00

It's over homie. These bitches don't love you as a man. Other men do. It's a fact. Back me up fellas. Only your sons will truly love you. Not your daughters. That doesn't stop men from simping for validation from the Golden pussy. But let's be real outside of some titties an orgasm and a pretty face, women for the large part are a liability. Put yourself first and if you had kids with this woman, if she makes it hard for you then walk the fuck off and get your bag up. No one else will give a fuck about your outcome, not even your kids as they get older. They'll just see you as you are. So what's it gonna be? You a superhero who conquered thw world or a dusty ass broke ass nigga begging and pleadin to the symphony for someone to come and bail your lazy ass out of the situation you out yourself in? Please tell me.

Scharmane · 2024-08-14T21:55:49+00:00

I initiated the separation 2 months ago and put the ring off a few days ago. I realized, that there is no reason for this habit anymore. But a ring is a sign to others, specially to potential partners. It could a sign, that you are not ready for something new at the moment. That can be useful in a time of selfhealing. But put it off, if you feeling open for somebofy else in your life.

Ok_Perception_1836 · 2024-08-14T21:00:48+00:00

Only when you're ready. It took me a few months. After two years, I still look for it on my finger sometimes.

Ancient-Homework7557 · 2024-08-14T20:36:47+00:00

If you feel dumb with your wedding band on your brain is already telling you the answer. Take it off and put it in a drawer.

Poundsi3 · 2024-08-14T20:33:43+00:00

My advice. Throw it away. Quickly. Granted, everyone’s story is a bit different. Do what’s best for you.

Hot-Rub-2518 · 2024-08-14T20:26:56+00:00

When the planes wheels touch down in South East Asia, the ring disappears forever. Its like magic.

LostPhase8827 · 2024-08-14T20:05:15+00:00

I still wear mine.

Icerunner45 · 2024-08-14T20:03:13+00:00

I stopped wearing mine today. She ran away with our kids a few weeks ago now. I asked when I was going to be able to see our kids, specifically for one of their birthdays in a few days. She told me our lawyers could figure it out. She’s not just wanting a divorce. She’s wanting to hurt me and is weaponizing our kids to do it. My desire to reconcile was destroyed when she said that. No more ring for me.

binglybinglybeep99 · 2024-08-14T19:57:07+00:00

O/T

As much as I hate to say this, plus I'm not sure of the legalities.

If you bought her rings and SHE has decided to break up the marriage, shouldn't the value of the rings count towards "your" settlement?

marsfifth · 2024-08-14T19:42:11+00:00

Lost mine as soon as I decided I wanted a divorce.

Pro-IDGAF · 2024-08-14T18:06:08+00:00

the day she moved out, which was 2 days after she told me she wanted to “take a break”.

i knew what that meant. i didnt want to get “halved” but i didnt want her anymore either, for reasons.

jmus3drum5 · 2024-08-14T18:01:28+00:00

I wore mine through the initial separation. It came off when she said she wanted the divorce. She’s not been wearing hers since we separated though. I should have known then that it was over.

In the end it’s up to you and when you feel like you can take it off and not feel so broken because of it. My ring line is beginning to fade after a few months of not wearing it. Still makes me sad though.

Acceptable_Piano4809 · 2024-08-14T17:49:24+00:00

I personally threw mine out of a car window. I’m hoping someday someone will find it and it will make their day, it wasn’t worth much, just a beat up gold band.

NorseVegan · 2024-08-14T17:27:07+00:00

My situation is a little different, but I haven’t worn mine in years. Partly because of my job and partly cause the marriage is shit. I’m stuck on disability and don’t have the money to just leave so I am waiting for the papers to get served to me. It’s either now or when the kids graduate but until then it’s separate beds and we ignore each other.

pokeraladin1 · 2024-08-14T17:13:46+00:00

My wife took hers off after 2 days.. 22 years married💁🏻‍♂️

Xan-Diesel · 2024-08-14T15:52:01+00:00

I did everything I could do after my ex-wife left for her affair partner. I wore the ring until I was "done". That'll be different for everybody but once I'd gotten to the point where I'd done everything I could think of (and lots of things I didn't think of but suggested by friends and family) and was at peace with knowing it (meaning I wasn't worried about "well what if I would've tried *this*) I was able to take the ring off and throw it away.

dnbndnb · 2024-08-14T15:31:23+00:00

When my ex- cheated decades ago, the ring came off and never went back on. She rejected you. The ring is a symbol of bonding. There is no bond. Go sell it.

l3landgaunt · 2024-08-14T15:27:15+00:00

I’m still not even technically divorced and stopped wearing mine. It took a few months of her living in the basement but now I feel free

NothingIsEverEnough · 2024-08-14T14:53:20+00:00

She left. That means, it is highly likely that she’s been contemplating the leave for a long time.

While this is brand new, it may feel realistic for you that there is hope. But given that she’s likely processed this for quite some time, you chances are almost nil.

Take the ring off.

FartKnocker-3246 · 2024-08-14T14:35:54+00:00

We know you are hurting emotionally right now, as we all were, and we get it. However, you will one day look back on that phrase 'fight for our love' and you will cringe so hard your face will turn inside out.

P_Galley · 2024-08-14T14:07:22+00:00

Day by day the strings of connections slowly severed; she moved out of the master room, stopped making family dinners, stopped doing my laundry (even though she is sahm), stopped texting/calling unless we were discussing kids, then finally stopped wearing her rings. I questioned her why she stopped and would put them back on then take them right off again. Her actions coupled with an affair made it clear no reconciliation was possible. That's when I took off my ring. Now I live in a state of limbo living beside her, with her but any remaining strings of connection are now severed.

SouthParkTimmy · 2024-08-14T13:46:17+00:00

When I found out she was having an affair.

recovering88 · 2024-08-14T13:33:54+00:00

Took mine off when she said she didn’t want me anymore. It hurt but had to be done

Acericex2 · 2024-08-14T13:29:20+00:00

2 weeks after D day when I knew it was over for good

richreason1983 · 2024-08-14T13:27:11+00:00

I sold mine a couple days after she moved out and bought my self a nice dinner to celebrate

Movieman_Steve · 2024-08-14T13:14:53+00:00

In my 20+ years of wearing it, I never took it off. But 2 months after she left, I tossed mine on the bathroom counter. Sure it felt like I'm missing something on my hand, cause I'd rub it with my left thumb while driving. And I still catch myself doing it now but unfortunately if there's no hope of her coming back, you have to mentally and physically take it off to move forward.And even when it's off, keep moving forward. I don't know the circumstances on why she left and you may never will, but make this time about you not her. Let her find out the grass isn't greener. Do things new for yourself.

BanjoKfan64 · 2024-08-14T13:03:17+00:00

I pretty much stopped wearing mine a few months before she announced divorce because I didn’t feel married since my wife didn’t care at all

TheWormTurns22 · 2024-08-14T12:41:18+00:00

if you feel weird without a ring, just go get another one. MGTOW rings are good, but I had to custom make one via amazon.

westerngrit · 2024-08-14T12:27:46+00:00

I made that decision before court time. Set it on the window sill. She came by and took it. I noticed days later it's gone.

HerbEverstanks · 2024-08-14T12:11:25+00:00

When you give it away to a homeless person - because it is worth more to them than it is to you.

qmoorman · 2024-08-14T12:10:20+00:00

Pawn it and buy yourself something

IslandSparty · 2024-08-14T11:26:22+00:00

Now.

Title	When do I stop wearing my ring
Author	TexasTornado3
Upvotes	12
Comments	84
Date	August 14, 2024 11:17 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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