Well, just now, my STBXW finally let me in on the worst kept secret on earth: She is "officially" dating the "work husband" she monkey-branched to.

Not a big surprise of course, but actually hearing the words spill out of her mouth with such conviction doesn't make it hurt any less. More, in fact.

Day 76 since she said she wanted the divorce, and it's not yet finalized. All the signs were there. Started many, many months ago when my wife told me this guy first confided in her that he was having marital problems of his own. The little gift exchanges she nonchalantly passed off as "normal" for Nurse's Week. Then, the phone call log between them that my son discovered back in July. Her recent urgency to get this divorce pushed through.

Sick to my stomach. 16 years gone. Oh well, such is life. I will NOT let this set me back to Day 1. It just depresses me to no end that loyalty means nothing anymore. Vows are a big joke to some people. Commitment is an option now. The woman has zero integrity.