“Boost your confidence by humiliating yourself and subjecting yourself to constant male rejection.”

AudQueen · 2021-06-30T03:48:52+00:00

I can think of much better , less harmful ways to boost confidence...

Cook more/ eat healthier
Exercising consistently
Learn a new skill or language
Pamper yourself; new hair, nails, massages, or new clothing pieces.
Completing that task you've been putting off.
Cleaning X that you've been putting off.
Traveling and exposing yourself to different cultures/places you've never been.
Taking yourself out on dates to places you've been wanting to go.

souredskittles · 2021-06-30T03:25:38+00:00

Yeah uh no. They are going to start to tell us it’s empowering now? Lmao then why do men complain about it. Gtfo

RussianAsshole · 2021-06-30T06:05:59+00:00

One of two things will happen when you ask a man out.

He says “yes” half-heartedly while not being fully interested in you because he didn’t have to work for you. He will keep you on the back burner without your knowledge. He will leave you immediately upon finding the woman he actually wants.
He’ll say no, think less of you, and take pleasure in feeling like the prize and it’ll be an ego boost for him.

Platipus6 · 2021-06-30T02:09:29+00:00

I'd rather put paint-ball pellets in the freezer overnight and then shoot myself in the boob.

motioncaptureF · 2021-06-30T02:26:59+00:00

Next thing u know there is another vid of her saying

' Ladies I want you to propose to men . Kneel down and ask them to marry u ! I PrOmIsE it's for u and ur self esteem ' I hope till then she gains some confidence and don't need men for bOosTinG hEr cOnfiDencE

Like literally why are pick mes hell bent to make woman do everything in the relationship and make it easier for lvm 🤢

balletstar707 · 2021-06-30T02:49:58+00:00

Eh honestly the more often u face rejection in any form the easier it becomes and the less you’ll fear it. However, instead of asking men on dates she could’ve walked up to random women and asked to hang out as friends.

IndigoTR · 2021-06-30T03:27:16+00:00

That’s gonna be a no from me dawg. When will women understand men are going to be trash 8/10 times whether you approach them or they approach you, so you might as well save yourself the energy and humiliation and let them approach you lmao.

ceramicunicorn · 2021-06-30T04:07:13+00:00

Well shit. Looks like this account doesn’t exist anymore. I was going to comment, how about mustering the confidence to ask for a raise? Or to ask for a fair price on something that’s unreasonably priced? You know, stuff with a material benefit.

BoxingChoirgal · 2021-06-30T04:46:27+00:00

Oh Stop it.

lifetime of experience here.

I have been a heterosexual woman from1986 onward (earlier if you count the college years)

There were times when I was young and conventionally beautiful , lacking in patience, when I would do such a thing as approach a man.

it never ended well.

N e v e r.

Even when the man in question thought he was blessed with a gorgeous enthusiastic lover, and followed up by accepting my initial offer,..

I ended up undervalued in the relationship. 100% of the time. Because. I had. approached. him. first.

This is the voice of experience, yet again. Please save yourself some time:

Even if you are Gorgeous and have everything to offer, ..but you're the one to approach him and initiate the Chase,

he Will undervalue you. He WILL.

. He will either start to question your worth beyond fuckbuddies, or -- even if he engages in a relationship -- he will assume a higher priority status and never really value you as he would a woman he had to pursue and win over.

I used to hesitate from commenting on this topic because I thought maybe the younger generation had evolved and things were better.

Nah.

As a mother to young late teen/early 20 women, I can confirm this is still the case.

There It's nothing liberating -- and everything emburdening -- about taking on their role for them and making men even lazier

Objective_Ad7771 · 2021-06-30T03:27:42+00:00

The rejection part is a tactic to boost/gain confidence (getting used to rejection, training to overcome the grief of rejection and so on). On the other hand it can give an ego boost to the person you're asking out (in this case) and holy molly we don't need more overconfident mediocre men.

Barkingatthemoon · 2021-06-30T02:29:17+00:00

Nuh, ain’t nobody got time for that

datthingy · 2021-06-30T02:38:20+00:00

See this is what we are not gonna do Lmaoo.

It really shouldn’t take anymore than a few coy glances to get a man to approach you, if you desire.

Prayin for her lol

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-06-30T03:32:54+00:00

This never works.

frostedgemstone · 2021-06-30T08:05:16+00:00

“Ladies I need you to do what I just did, to make me feel better about the fact I just wasted time I’ll never get back on the most cringe, unnecessary activity of my life”

catlady4u · 2021-06-30T03:10:55+00:00

What? Hell no.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-06-30T06:17:09+00:00

I can't take anyone in a jean jacket and poppy seeds on her eyes seriously.

LeighHolloway44 · 2021-06-30T03:30:05+00:00

Is this real or satire?

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-06-30T09:50:03+00:00

Buckle up for how many men who are in relationships are DTF. Also I never in my life seen a healthy relationship flourish from a women randomly picking a guy and asking him out. More often this is the beginning of some shocking dating disaster story. This DOESNT boost esteem in only lowers standards. Everyone who goes through this, lets call it a phase, ends up 🤦‍♀️ regretfull.

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-06-30T02:04:26+00:00

Oh no. 🤦‍♀️ She is giving random male strangers many of whom are probably LVM unnecessary ego boosts that they don’t need because pickme society already caters to them. And what is she getting out of it? If they say yes, a man who thinks he doesn’t have to put any effort in pursuing her. If they say no, let’s not pretend she doesn’t feel awful afterwards (because if she needs a masochistic exercise like this to boost her confidence, clearly there are some self-esteem issues already there) and will like you said be subjecting herself to unnecessary humiliation and possibly even cumulative trauma. Edit: She would be better off working on her self-confidence by building a high quality life outside of men and then using that authentic self-confidence to weed out LVM to only date HVM who chase her as she and all women deserve.

I don’t like this at all. Now if she was just sharing her own experiences with it...ok, bad enough but promoting it to vulnerable young women online is even worse. People don’t have to join in on this. I hope they don’t.

SkiesEclipse · 2021-06-30T09:23:13+00:00

How about ✨no✨

beliebeigh · 2021-06-30T04:06:16+00:00

Ew no. Never.

PorkNeckBone · 2021-06-30T14:08:13+00:00

“Every month this year, I have offered myself up to a random strange man to feel more confident in myself! I don’t care what he says because I’m doing it for MYSELF which is why I ask random strangers to spend time with me but I only make sure to offer myself to men I find attractive because it’s ~EmPoWErInG~ to feel uncomfortable approaching strange men if they are attractive !” 🤡

ShegoGreen · 2021-06-30T07:28:55+00:00

No thanks, I think I'll decide what's good for my self-esteem.

europoor24 · 2021-06-30T07:51:21+00:00

nope fuck no. How is he supposed to feel lucky he's with you when he didn't put in the effort in the first place?

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-06-30T10:18:14+00:00

I saw this one on Instagram and I was like, " ewwww. I'm sure this one is going to be made fun on in FDS 🤣"

Elegant-Emergency-60 · 2021-06-30T12:13:07+00:00

So you’ve been harassing strangers every month but it sounds like none of them have taken you up on it.

springtulip475 · 2021-06-30T17:12:01+00:00

if you were truly doing this for yourself and not for male validation and approval, increasing your confidence would not be tied to male interaction? if you were truly working on your confidence, you would prioritize working on yourself to channel it from within instead of seeking external validation from scrotes.

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-06-30T21:33:38+00:00

"IT IS FOR ME" - cope harder.

Also... "I can't tell you how much this has increased my confidence and I don't even do it for the man." That's such a self-burn, admitting her confidence is usually tied to doing things for a man she doesn't even know. It shouldn't be a revelation that doing things for yourself increases confidence. It wouldn't be if she was raised with the idea she was, idk, a person.

Male attention isn't rare, and it's not like no woman has ever asked men out (though it's admittedly less frequent).

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-30T04:59:41+00:00

Jesus. How desperate can you get?

Blackbeakvesta · 2021-06-30T15:09:14+00:00

I gave up on Bumble the other year (pre FDS) because aside from women having to start the conversation I was ALWAYS the one asking the guy if he wanted to swap numbers/meet up. Barely any of them followed through on an in person date. Two years of misery on that app.

NotSoSmartChick · 2021-06-30T19:24:06+00:00

You can boost your confidence by talking to people, preferably women, in public. I don’t know why, but complimenting a woman, helping a woman that clearly is lost or looking for something, or just making a funny comment as we're standing in line is a confidence booster.

luvmyvulvaxoxo · 2021-06-30T02:38:58+00:00

This reminds me of women who say “I wear sexy makeup and sexy clothes for me”

frostedgemstone · 2021-06-30T05:21:44+00:00

[permanently deleted]

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-30T19:17:34+00:00

Eh?

It is for you?

How?

🎵🎶Baby I don't understand🎶🎵🎻

Lavender_flow · 2021-06-30T09:38:30+00:00

SO not only is this horrible fucking advice, it literally is her boosting her confidence in how men value her. if you only measure your selfworth in relation to other people, then it means nothing. It means worth of SELF, valuing yourself/your energy and your emotions. Pandering to LVM is the opposite of self-worth. She is treating herself as a commodity and disposable.

Also what is up with those dotted eyes, I am sorry but I just can't take that seriously. It reminds me of my sister when she was a toddler, she would paint funny things on her face too, but putting on clown make up does make me take anyone seriously, the red nose and white face however would go right along with her "advice", because it is clown advice.

restlessGal · 2021-06-30T08:20:57+00:00

I’m the type that does sometimes initiate to show interest (think of it what you may, I’m fine if you disagree but this is a me thing), HOWEVER why the fuck would I waste my time to just ask people out for… asking them out? Granted i don’t believe in dating strangers and I only date friends I’ve known for a while and people that I know how they truly are, but this seems too much for nothing

I hate it when men and women do it, you’re just making others uncomfortable to “boost your confidence”. This ain’t it sis

boiledgatorade_ · 2021-06-30T15:11:59+00:00

I’d rather eat my dogs shit tbh

NotYourCirce · 2021-07-01T23:44:43+00:00

Wow okay if she’s saying this now then I can’t take her investment advice seriously anymore

Tanalize · 2021-06-30T23:07:28+00:00

"I don't care if he has a girlfriend" 🙄 okay daddy issues

eveloe · 2021-07-04T06:57:49+00:00

Isn’t she married?

Japanese-Spaghetti · 2021-10-22T02:47:05+00:00

How about just walk up to a woman you don’t know and compliment her on something she’s wearing? That’s a win win and the worst thing she’ll do is be shy or walk away

assdistroyer · 2021-10-24T05:17:00+00:00

Love her financial advice and how she empowers women with money

but hell no...

men that I have to chase, they don't want me.

Title	“Boost your confidence by humiliating yourself and subjecting yourself to constant male rejection.”
Author	PossiblyJennay
Upvotes	314
Comments	62
Date	June 30, 2021 1:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/oamufl/boost_your_confidence_by_humiliating_yourself_and/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/boost-your-confidence-by-humiliating-yourself-and.787685 https://theredarchive.com/post/787685

Comments