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I ditched my fuckbuddy when she caught feelings because she's "drama", now I'm too sick to fuck other women. She's got a bf now, I want her back. Help, please :(

anywaysheresrational

April 10, 2021

464 upvotes

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Title	I ditched my fuckbuddy when she caught feelings because she's "drama", now I'm too sick to fuck other women. She's got a bf now, I want her back. Help, please :(
Author	anywaysheresrational
Upvotes	464
Comments	95
Date	April 10, 2021 5:20 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/mnypsf/i_ditched_my_fuckbuddy_when_she_caught_feelings/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/i-ditched-my-fuckbuddy-when-she-caught-feelings.1189243 https://theredarchive.com/post/1189243

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Never have I heard or experienced (during my pick me days) friends with benefits arrangements benefiting the woman.

If I'm not good enough for you to want to have an actual relationship with me and be with me for who I'm as a person, then you don't get to have access to my body.

Why should I risk sexual transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies with unreliable men (yes even using contraception), attachment to someone who doesn't want me (increase of attachment hormones after sex) and psychological damage for someone who doesn't want me?

Also notice that this "friends" in friends with benefits it's always us towards them and not the opposite. They can use us as emotional dumping ground but if we treat them as friends and try to have them as support or people to talk to about our issues, suddenly we're "too much drama/too much work".

[–]anywaysheresrationalFDS Newbie[S] 22 points23 points24 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Also notice that this "friends" in friends with benefits it's always us towards them and not the opposite. They can use us as emotional dumping ground but if we treat them as friends and try to have them as support or people to talk to about our issues, suddenly we're "too much drama/too much work".

Of course it is a one-way-street, exactly in the way you just described.

That's another thing right there - the absolutely disgusting inflation of the word "friend" for acquaintance. Irritates the fuck out of me. They're your "friend" ? Gee, you have an awful lot of "friends", do you give your friendship out and up that easily ? I don't. I know a lot of people. I only have a handful of "friends". And yea, guess what - that's a mutual friendship.

Men are the real whores of this world.

Fucking a tree if they must. Wanting to have lots of (especially women) "friends", giving up their loyalty to so many so easily.

This sub is doing the Lord's work, busting men and their bullshit one after another. And we're just warming up.

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"She'd leave the bf for me, the door is still open, yada yada yada" I have witnessed this mindset with a guy I expressed my feelings to 12 years ago(it was the last time I commited and will ever commit such a foolish thing😑) . As a 20 something woman I caught strong feelings for men very easily, the infatuation was intense but also short termed. I moved on, forgot about this one, the feelings passed. As usual, I don't even know what I 've seen in this guy to ever fall for him, you know the drill. But imagine this, this guy TILL THIS DAY is absolutely certain I'm still in love with him. He reappears occasionally in my dms hinting how much he'd fancy to be my bf, how he' s sick of his current gf, despite me telling him off every single time. For the last year I just ghosted this loser, but next time Ill just block. Anyways, I'm pretty sure he will convince himself that I blocked him because I can't stand this sheer rollercoaster of feelings every time he appears in my life lmfao😆

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