I had a date tonight...

kaoutanu · 2021-03-08T07:34:55+00:00

OMG!!! Do you think this was some PUA garbage he learned and did on purpose or he’s just a jerk/idiot? 🤡

I love that you just left! I hope without explanation 👏👏👏

bisanti · 2021-03-08T07:46:50+00:00

The way you wasted no time leaving 👏🏽👏🏽 queen shit. I hope he returned back to his incel forum to cry about how his neg didn't work.

slipperyfoots · 2021-03-08T08:43:09+00:00

What a way to start a conversation. I don't understand how he expected you to respond to that, but you sure as hell chose the right option

veniphyl · 2021-03-08T11:13:56+00:00

You're a pro 😆. A pickme would have laughed it off and felt more insecure.

mandiefavor · 2021-03-08T11:46:34+00:00

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PinkPetalCdistbeauty · 2021-03-08T08:37:24+00:00

Love how you handled. What a dipshit... males complain left & right “why won’t anyone date me”.... this is reason #916,942,654 why.

RojavaLover · 2021-03-08T12:10:13+00:00

Thank you for walking away and being a good example. It feels like a personal victory every time a woman refuses to put up with disrespectful, mean spirited men. Cheers! 🍻

TigreImpossibile · 2021-03-08T11:46:03+00:00

You handled yourself PERFECTLY 👑

barbedwiredaisycrown · 2021-03-08T13:50:57+00:00

Omfg imagine getting a date with a queen and completely blowing it with the first words out of your mouth lmfaooooo

Date speedrun any %

Bbqchilifries · 2021-03-08T13:55:17+00:00

You handled yourself like a queen.p Makes me wish I did that many times in my past.

I flashbacked to when i was supposed to go see a guy i had been talking to online for a few months. He told me he was afraid that I was going to be too fat for him. (1. Who says that?. 2. I had a guy friend tell me oh hey. He was just being honest and vulnerable. Don't take it personally.)

We finally met up. I was staying with him for a week because he lived so far away. He said that I was much less fat than he expected, which was a relief. All the shit I didn't say. He was shorter than he claimed. He had an insane kink. He had told me he wondered if he had made a mistake in choosing to date me because he had "other options". He made us go dutch. Idefk.. So many red flags. I wanted to leave that first night. I absolutely could have.

He was 22 and this was my first "real" but not at all real relationship. There was slight chemistry eventually but it was fleeting at best. We never got past kissing. He said he wanted sex and oral but refused to do the same for me so I never did it. After our break up he complained to me that he had tried to lose his virginity but he couldn't keep it up due to performance anxiety and n he blamed me for not letting him practice on me.

Lavender_flow · 2021-03-08T11:10:17+00:00

Can't believe you had to deal with this bullcrap (or I absoluty can believe it with the amount of trash men in the world). You wanted a nice time and you had to listen so someone showing up late and insulting you???? Good on you for leaving. I am so sorry you had to endure the things you went through and then this useless scrote on top.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-03-08T14:34:01+00:00

It reminds me of that Stephen King story of a man who delusionally sees everyone as monsters. Scrotes in the throes of personality-disordered delusional attachment panic hallucinate flaws that no one else can see. They hallucinate that women are trying to corner them into commitment just for nodding hello. It's psychotic.

Seeing friends who worked as fashion models picked apart by men in the same way really brought home how deranged the behavior is.

circescircus · 2021-03-08T13:36:13+00:00

Wow. Outed himself immediately. He assumed that you'd be dumb and/or insecure. Bullet dodged.

I'm sorry you went through that. You left and blocked him, but he still wasted your time and ruined your evening (to some extent). But remember, this guy is probably miserable 24/7. Only a miserable insufferable cunt would treat another person that way, and on a date no less.

mtan15 · 2021-03-08T10:30:55+00:00

Cheers to you!

chainsawbobcat · 2021-03-08T14:40:59+00:00

Good. I can't tell you how many moments like this I've had before I even knew about FDS. So many times where men said wildly inappropriate things to me and I just noped out. Point blank left physically or metaphorically. I've been told too many times that I am a bitch, too aggressive, and generally viewed as overly politically correct or uncooperative because I have ALWAYS struggled to laugh off this bullshit and I cannot hide the way my face looks when I'm faced with it.

It was only recently however that I've learned to be in my power about this very wonderful and necessary natural reaction. No, it's not that I'm sensitive it's that you are not acting right.

AnKeWa · 2021-03-08T12:18:36+00:00

I see three possible explanations for men saying stuff like that.

He was negging you. Then he's a manipulative and possibly abusive asshat. Not husband material.
He's 15 and doesn't know how to talk to people he likes yet. Not husband material.
He's got autism. Rough for him because he can't figure out what he did wrong just based on the fact that you left, but it definitely ain't your obligation to help him get better at communicating, nor is it your obligation to give him the "benefit of doubt".

In all three paths of "Why the fuck would he do that?", it's good that you left or at least justified, so in case there is some sort of push back against you when you tell others this story, don't let them gaslight you into "taking his perspective" or "giving him another chance".

I'm not saying this to you specifically, OP. From this story alone, we can already see you are a queen and won't be manipulated so easily 👑 I'm just leaving this here for anyone that might be in a similar situation and needs some advice.

eaucitron · 2021-03-08T14:11:03+00:00

Dude I’m at the point where if someone tried this with my I’d probably spill or maybe even throw that beer on them. Negging needs to die.

2021-03-08T07:19:13+00:00

On hell no! He did not say that? What a POS!!! Good for you for leaving!! And yes expose him, I would do the same.

sleepysiri · 2021-03-08T07:37:41+00:00

I’m so happy for you that you walked out of there, that’s exactly how you should be treating yourself! You know what you deserve and it definitely ain’t what he was giving. 💖💘

goatismycopilot · 2021-03-08T13:04:51+00:00

Good for you. What a moron.

FitResearcher5 · 2021-03-08T12:16:59+00:00

Yes!! So proud of you! As other people have said, he may have been trying to pull some PUA shit. It’s hilarious because I usually see straight through that shit and it immediately turns me off. If he negs me or gives back-handed compliments or unnecessary criticism it’s a straight up NOPE.

GlamorKiss · 2021-03-08T15:12:24+00:00

bUT iT wAS juSt A harMLeSs jOKe / s

i’m not being serious, just repeating what some man might advise you (men’s advice always benefits other men you see)

I’m so proud of you for walking out on a serious note

Talktothecat1 · 2021-03-08T11:29:08+00:00

good on you Queen. just a gentle suggestion not to tell anyone you work with. just because its none of their business. the less people know about your personal life and especially love life at work the better x

uptownxthot · 2021-03-08T14:41:15+00:00

my jaw literally dropped at the forehead comment. but anyways, IM SO PROUD OF YOU!!!

RikaRikaw · 2021-03-08T11:14:20+00:00

"Probably still bigger than your small pathetic D"

spinsterchachkies · 2021-03-08T15:45:49+00:00

What a loser. Imagine having the opportunity for a date with a great woman and doing something like that? It’s sounds like he is a practicing PUA so I would warn all my single female coworkers against dating him. I am so proud of how strong you are, and you deserve better than that bullshit male behavior.

StarfishSabbatical · 2021-03-08T12:29:24+00:00

Absolutely not. Sir, look to your manners!

whiterabbit818 · 2021-03-08T07:53:11+00:00

So sorry to hear about all the awful stuff that you’ve been through! Good for you for walking away!

catgirlmoonqueen · 2021-03-08T08:11:54+00:00

Good for you Queen 💖

veruscka · 2021-03-08T16:40:35+00:00

What the FUCK. Imagine thinking that’s an appropriate thing to say. You handled the situation perfectly.

Cross_Stitch_Witch · 2021-03-08T12:36:17+00:00

I'm speechless lol.

corago513 · 2021-03-08T13:02:54+00:00

I was so nervous for you walking home. So he didn't even try to run after you and apologize or anything?

Also, love your peace out energy.

Sensitive-Shoe-1079 · 2021-03-08T12:22:27+00:00

What a fucking dumbass. I hope you left him with the bill.

2021-03-08T16:09:54+00:00

karabnp · 2021-03-08T12:52:10+00:00

Please tell me, you put an L (What you do to Losers) to your forehead, before getting the hell out of there!!😂 I would have. I can be petty at times, though.💁🏼‍♀️

I also have a big ass forehead, too. If anyone ever comments on it, I say: “I needed the extra storage space for my brain.”🥂

Summerisle7 · 2021-03-08T13:17:50+00:00

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Stuffnthings1840 · 2021-03-08T15:43:42+00:00

That guy is dumber than I remember.

fruitloopcoco · 2021-03-09T14:38:35+00:00

My ex sent me a big forehead nene AFTER we broke up, he used to neg me all the time about it. Blocked.

KateJ1982 · 2021-03-09T20:37:26+00:00

Thank you for the laugh, that is just comical. Has there ever been a man with a weaker opening line? Your response was absolutely perfect!

Title	I had a date tonight...
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Date	March 8, 2021 7:11 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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