When a guy says “Most or All of my friends are females” oftentimes we are confused as how it should be interpreted. The words “female” & “friends” make it seem so harmless and perhaps a positive thing since it maybe signals that he has a supportive nurturing network of friends that happen to be mostly female. Or maybe it even means that he’s supportive and nurturing himself that women like his company enough to stay friends with him. This naive self-projection from us (because we ARE supportive and nurturing) is the cause of the confusion. It is, however, very FAR FROM THE TRUTH. If I could go back in time, I would run at this revelation.

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Speaking from my experience of a 7+years marriage with a LVM who has mostly "female friends", what the sentence “Most or All of my friends are females” actually translates into is:

“Most or All of my friends are PICKMEISHAS” that:

—Listen to my problems that I don’t trust the males in my network enough to talk to because I’m directly competing with them. My female friends just listen when I talk, like, really listen. 🙄

—Take care of me, cook for me sometimes, even pick up some groceries for me because they were always going there anyway.

—Accept and laugh at misogynistic jokes because I am cool and my female friends are also cool and know how to have fun. 🙄

—I can exploit emotionally and materialistically in other ways as long as they’re weak enough to pander to my need for validation 🤗

—I even have occasional free sex with, if they’re pretty and desperate enough!

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(The list goes on, please feel free to add)

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Having mostly "female friends" means he’s just PREDATORIAL. When he's in relationship with you, he’ll just continue to exploit these women (including you) via these so called friendships and at the same time dances with these women around the border of what’s considered appropriate for opposite sex friendship. If you were confused when he said that, it will be 1000x worse now that you're emotionally invested in him.

DON'T BE CONFUSED. RUN!!!!

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EDIT: I made a few grammatical errors so I corrected that. I'd also like to add that:

From my experience, whenever your partner is interacting with a "female friend" of his either chatting or hanging out and you have that pang of anxiety in your stomach, it DOESN'T mean that you're "jealous" or "insecure" with the friend. Especially if you know you wouldn't feel this way about the friend outside of the context of your own relationship.That pang of anxiety... it just means that you're allowing a situation to fester that DEEP IN YOUR SOUL you know isn't right.