Scrote wants to start secret “poly “relationship with gfs sister

galian84 · 2021-08-29T17:10:48+00:00

He wants to cheat on her sister after ONE MONTH. Wtf!! And the poster doesn’t know how to tell her sister? I hope she tells her sister to throw the whole man out, omg.

RabidWench · 2021-08-29T16:49:42+00:00

"Secret poly relatuonship"???

The word he's looking for is cheating. He wants to cheat on his gf with her sister.

razseh · 2021-08-29T17:40:25+00:00

I have 3 sisters. We are all adults now, so of course there have been multiple boyfriends introduced to our family. One of my sisters dated a guy, let’s call him Matt. I never liked Matt, in fact I disliked him so much that I didn’t even try to hide it. Well a few months after my sister and Matt broke up, the scrote was in my UNDERAGED (I’m talking 15 here) sister’s DMs asking for nudes, saying how he always thought she was the prettiest. If I had even so much as an inkling that one of their boyfriends were mistreating them in any way, let alone asking to CHEAT on them, I’d send the screenshots to her before even taking another breath.

I’m a lesbian so thankfully I’ll never have to deal with men, but wow has this sub been useful when helping out my sisters. Sooo happy I found it.

wonkyeyes8877 · 2021-08-29T16:50:39+00:00

Seriously?

She's been dating him a month and the sister is acting like he is the only man left as an option because she saw her smile a couple times. Omfg. Call her and tell her. She's being a pickme on her sister's behalf by stalling and saying how sad this is. Yeah, it's sad that men pull shit like this, but it isn't sad to dump them.

ariadn3-268 · 2021-08-29T17:04:02+00:00

First of all, how dare he even suggest this.

Secondly, holy sh*t, my sister is my best friend in the entire world, but even if she wasn't, I couldn't IMAGINE even THINKING about betraying her like this. The fact that her knee-jerk reaction wasn't to call her sister up and rat out this garbage should-be-an-ex boyfriend is infuriating to me. Why does she even need "advice" on what to do??? Pickmes like this are a menace.

ALWAYS protect your sisters, blood related or otherwise.

Status_Theory_726 · 2021-08-29T17:34:12+00:00

it's not cheating, it's secret polygamy!!

TERFSareawesome · 2021-08-29T17:50:56+00:00

OMG what a little sweetheart! Definitely the sweetest guy ever, trying to coerce this girl's sister into some beyond fucked up incest type relationship. What a cute little teddy bear!!!

How can pickmes be this stupid... I mean seriously....

CanadianRadFeminist · 2021-08-29T18:19:06+00:00

LOOOOOOOL what is this manipulative, fake woke, psychobabble nonsense? He's a filthy cheater. Poly has become some kind of safeword against men being called misogynistic douchebags who seek to use as many women as possible, but that's what they are.

danikow · 2021-08-29T18:38:43+00:00

I feel bad for the sister being harassed. It sounds like she wants to tell her sister but is afraid of losing the relationship with the sister.

I have a friend that was in the same situation and she instantly told her sister (married to the NVM) that the NVM had wanted to get with her. She thought she was doing her sister a solid and letting her know that her husband unfaithful and the married sister turned on her and said that she was coming onto her husband and was just jealous. The husband had already brainwashed the married sister and caused a huge rift between them. Both sisters didn't talk for 20 yrs.

It wasn't until married (pick me) sister left that piece of trash that she made amends. The sisters are still working on their relationship. What is sad is the pick me sister has already clung to a new man. Her divorce wasn't even finalized and she was already clung to a new man to depend on. The sister I am friends with stays a bit leery of her sister because of how nasty she was 20 yrs ago. That bond is forever scarred.

saint-jezebel · 2021-08-29T17:25:51+00:00

A polyamorous relationship is not the same as wanting a side chick. She need to tell her sister because all he is going to do is cheat anyway.

Maude2010 · 2021-08-29T18:41:51+00:00

Secret poly relationship? lol that’s called cheating.

Hippofuzz · 2021-08-29T17:32:18+00:00

Why is she even asking for advice, I would have sent a screenshot one second after receiving it to save my sister

Also. Why are they acting like one month means anything?

And another also: why did he already get to meet anyone from her life? What is going on here

Novemberinthechair · 2021-08-29T18:38:50+00:00

How do you NOT tell her? He's going to fuck her up if she stays with him.

WiggleWormDelux · 2021-08-29T18:57:29+00:00

Ok is it me or does it seem like this is the kind of situation your expect of people at least 10 years younger? A month!?

Like yes it sucks, shes not going to be happy to hear it, but she needs to be told- no brainer.

madamejesaistout · 2021-08-29T19:05:26+00:00

If a man dating my sister or any of my friends tried to pull this shit I'd be forwarding his message so fast to his gf. No hesitation.

Also, I love the scrote-logic, "it's not cheating, it's being poly. But my primary partner doesn't know or consent."

Who is stupid enough to fall for that??

Ok_Neighborhood_6971 · 2021-08-29T19:43:17+00:00

Secret polygamy? This needs to be added to the scrote dictionary ASAP!

happytoll · 2021-08-29T19:06:33+00:00

I really hope the younger sister realizes he's a jerk and is asking for advice on what to tell her sister so that she junks the douche but somehow spares her feelings and keeps her from taking all this on as baggage in a new relationship.

I don't think the younger sister wants to let her keep dating him but she does see that the older sister is completely and blindly "in love" - so much potential temporary hurt. There's really nothing to learn from this ass and the sooner she gets rid of him, the better. I think the younger sister just wants this end result without having to disgustingly repeat the awful suggestion or even think about it.

The audacity he has to not only suggest this but to put it in writing! Part of me also feels like it's a ploy to get the younger sister to do the dirty work and break them up. He shouldn't have the younger sister's contact info after a month. That's super inappropriate.

RecentSprinkles5997 · 2021-08-29T17:13:53+00:00

My favorite thing about this is it really is mask off about what poly really is 99% of the time in practice . Just a way to manipulate women into thinking they’re bigots for not allowing their partners to cheat on them

paperwasp3 · 2021-08-29T19:47:19+00:00

Tell her right away and show her his messages. He will absolutely turn this back around onto you. She needs to know before she gets blindsided by it.

i_h8_m3 · 2021-08-29T19:41:32+00:00

As a sister myself i can not even imagine letting my sister unknowingly date someone like that. Good lord id rather every bit of evidence and spill the beanz to her asap and be there for her if i could. Im so disgusted by that post and that she had a doubt :/

bubblegumsparkles · 2021-08-29T19:45:34+00:00

Blood is not thicker than water, prime example of it!! To even ask such a question is baffling.

wolf_town · 2021-08-29T21:39:21+00:00

this shouldn’t even be a question. the answer is clear. she needs to screenshot the messages and send to her sister, should be instinctual 😖

kinkardine · 2021-08-29T23:22:44+00:00

I met two guys who did this as fun play to turn sisters and besties against each other, they love to see two girls wrestling over for them.

Optimal_Grapefruit_5 · 2021-08-29T18:55:25+00:00

I'm not poly but even I know that actual polyamorous people are all about transparency and consent in their relationships. "Secret side chick" is not polyamory. Guys like him aren't nearly as "woke"/progressive/open-minded as they try to sound.

MyLifeIsWandsXIII · 2021-08-29T20:35:28+00:00

"Do I tell her?"

C'mon sis 🤦‍♀️ I think the answer is crystal clear. If this same scenario happened with one of my sisters I would immediately run to tell her, no questions asked. And I know they would do the same. The fact that she has to ask this...

Basem3nt · 2021-08-29T22:28:37+00:00

Secret poly relationship aka regular cheating haha

bombas- · 2021-08-30T00:48:11+00:00

Imagine being 31 years old and being this spineless and morally flimsy.

I am the same age as this “sister” and I do not know a single living breathing adult woman who would nEeD AdVicE about this issue.

VgraceD · 2021-08-29T20:38:23+00:00

How is there a question of telling her or not!? Like wtf!? 🤦🏼‍♀️

spicyspa · 2021-08-29T21:02:37+00:00

Should we tell her? Yes we should tell her.

Caspian-sea · 2021-08-30T03:26:30+00:00

What level of insecure desperation have countless women fallen to in the modern age? Are family/friendships/any other life relationships worth anything to them in their pick-me existence, when there’s a guy around? That post is unreal - it’s hard to even hold such No Value males accountable anymore when toxic pickme women are everywhere nowadays.

fdsonlynoscrubs · 2021-08-29T21:31:19+00:00

The sister needs to ditch this guy and then get professional therapy. Something is way the fuck wrong if 3 boyfriends in a row are cheating on her.

FlockAroundtheClock · 2021-08-30T01:12:51+00:00

Uh, that's just straight up cheating. He's a creep. Why does she need advice on this? Protect your sister asap.

Familiar-Let-5035 · 2021-08-29T18:54:57+00:00

"This guy makes her so happy, the other guys would online date behind her back"

I feel like trying to date your sister behind your back is magnitudes worse in the realm of cheating but okay

grizzlygirl69 · 2021-08-29T18:58:26+00:00

I get the vibe that’s she low value and is lowkey into the scrote and his proposition, because there’s no other reason that I can think of as to why she would need any amount of counsel on this situation. Yeah the sister will be hurt, but 1) it’s the scrotes fault, no one else is will be responsible for the sister hurting and 2) a little hurt now is better than a world of hurt later. It’s not that complex. She needs to protect her sister.

Luci_Fabia · 2021-08-29T22:13:17+00:00

I have sisters. We may not always get along.

If someone my sister was dating pulled this, I'll 💯 take a screenshot & send it to her. And if she hasn't dumped him within a day, I'm posting the screenshots in the family group chat because the entire family needs to talk some sense into her & make sure she dumps the scrote.

Competitive-Donut589 · 2021-08-29T22:57:55+00:00

Somehow this post reminds me of my cousin who met LVX and he tried to triangulate me against her. When things ended b/w him and I, she still had him on her Insta. That shit bothered me so much and I was especially hurt because I would never keep any of her exes on my social media.Hell, I would block the moment I would hear things were over. However, she removed him from Insta after a while(more than a year since breakup) and her reasoning? “he saw my stories like a creep. He had nothing on his profile. Not even a PFP”. I was thinking like why is she telling me this and what the fuck did she expect?. What I mean is there are certain things you do without doubting and it is essentially right.

Why is this lady even asking others for their opinions when she knows he’s a disgusting scrote for even thinking sexually about her let alone voice his thought out to her. Yes, her sister will be sad initially but in the long run she will be cheating scrote free. Why do people even start thinking from their kneecaps when it comes to matters like these.Urgh

Major-Panda522 · 2021-08-29T23:15:44+00:00

How is it even a question? The moment he reached out should’ve been the moment she told her sister 🤦🏼‍♀️

bmbmwmfm · 2021-08-29T23:28:02+00:00

Tell her. If you can't, or won't, put me in touch and I will! Poly my ass, he wants to cheat with you. And for some reason, you sound like you almost would...(that take is on me though, I don't know why I'm feeling this about you)

shedipity · 2021-08-30T04:49:27+00:00

he wants to live his fantasy of sleeping with sisters. that is all. “secret polyamorous relationship” = cheating

ZumaQueen · 2021-08-29T17:17:32+00:00

How can she not be sure wether to tell her sister?? Does she honestly believe her sister can be happy with that guy? If after only one month, he tried to cheat on her sister with her, he’ll surely try again soon with a different woman, if he hasn’t already.

BoogelyWoogely · 2021-08-29T19:17:52+00:00

….She’s come on the internet to ask if she should tell her sister that her boyfriend is a slimy POS??

She’s awful, I hate knowing that women can’t trust other women when we should have each other’s backs in any situation involving scrotes like this

ShapePsychological74 · 2021-08-29T20:24:03+00:00

The fact that its even an option to not tell her is beyond infuriating. “Do I not tell her?” Ummmm im confused as to why you’ve taken all the time to tell the internet but didn’t immediately tell your sister. Wtf

ForeverSwinging · 2021-08-29T21:08:07+00:00

Tell her.

depletedundef1952 · 2021-08-29T21:42:07+00:00

I sure hope she saved the communications, if possible. She definitely needs to gently sit down with her sister and show her all written/cyber communications as proof.

callingoutthelies-1 · 2021-08-30T01:51:29+00:00

For goodness sake! Just show her the messages he sent you. She has only been dating him a month and he's already trying to cheat - and manipulatively deceptively using false language to define it otherwise. Cheating on her and trying to manipulate you. The definition of polygamous relationship is not cheating behind your girlfriend's back with her sister. The longer she is with him and doesn't know the more it will hurt her when she eventually finds out. Tell her now!

Kingofpotat0 · 2021-08-30T02:02:05+00:00

Screen shot and send.. seems quite straightforward.. if your actions are motivated by good intentions for your sister, you really shouldn’t worry how she feels, but rather the results of your actions..

If your sis wants to continue dating a man like this, at least she has the information on hand, and is not being cheated into doing something she doesn’t want. Either way, it’s her choice to make, but (in my personal opinion) your obligation to inform.

Title	Scrote wants to start secret “poly “relationship with gfs sister
Author	RecentSprinkles5997
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Date	August 29, 2021 4:44 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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