Stuff of nightmares really

OrangeCatsAreNice · 2021-06-13T15:01:06+00:00

This is what happens when you give the "nice guy" a chance. He has no shame in responding to you in a way 14 year old boys respond to their mothers.

ivy176 · 2021-06-13T15:29:27+00:00

He's not OBLIVIOUS, he's fully aware and DOESN'T CARE

vvioletwwitch · 2021-06-13T15:34:01+00:00

I wonder what would happen if she just refused to take care of the child herself in favour of her own hobbies (not advocating for that, this is just a hypothetical). Would the kid just starve? Would the LVM just continue his gaming routine and allow the child to be neglected? Its absolutely insane how a father just refuses his parenting duties in order to play games, it’s absolutely disgusting. And then to totally dismiss her by saying “I’m not the AH”. Yes my dude you’re the AH. Hope one day she comes to her senses and takes the kid and leaves.

Edit: He made her the Reddit so she could complain to strangers instead of him sitting down to listen to her 🤢 ugh bin the whole man.

Lemon_bars_addiction · 2021-06-13T14:48:31+00:00

She has 2 kids

Zurflu · 2021-06-13T16:23:47+00:00

Does SHE have the option of just locking herself away for days at a time and ignoring the baby without a homicide charge? No? But what about muh 50/50 tho 😩

January_Rain_93 · 2021-06-13T15:04:33+00:00

Just a million red flags... "He made me this reddit account so I can vent."

Oh honey.... that's so he can more easily ignore you.

FDS-GFY · 2021-06-13T14:55:30+00:00

What a loser.

AcademicMobile1 · 2021-06-13T15:44:11+00:00

Sis, go flip the circuit breaker switch for that room then leave the house forever. He won't notice for hours.

Independent_Leather3 · 2021-06-13T14:48:41+00:00

Men like this are a waste of life.

the-worst- · 2021-06-13T14:38:15+00:00

Sis, he saw you. He HEARD you. He knows. He just chooses to ignore you.

Even if his headphones were turned up he should have heard you. If not, he could turn it down to ease your fears.

Repeat after me: if he WANTS TO he will.

I'm sorry but she might even be a place holder. In 5 10 or even 20 years she'll likely find out he's been cheating for a long time, and that the new woman can get his time and attention easily, as if he isn't gaming or wearing headphones at all.

KakyoinCherryCola · 2021-06-13T16:12:38+00:00

He made her a reddit account so she could vent rather than actually address the problem??? Wtf the bar is in hell. His game is more important than his partner and child, and she's the one wondering if she's the asshole??

SapphireAmethystZeus · 2021-06-13T16:21:45+00:00

I think a lot of women are plagued with low self esteem, and are more excepting of lvm behaviors like this because of that. And it totally sucks. Correct, he doesn’t care. She thought she could change him, some of us have been there. I feel for her and their child. I wonder if she all of a sudden was busier and needed him to step up and care for their child alone while she was out, would he step up?

Mcccy · 2021-06-13T14:44:41+00:00

She should run and never look back, I doubt he would notice anyway.

GeorgiaPeach_94 · 2021-06-13T15:42:33+00:00

How do we even begin to get through to a woman who's adamant not to leave such a scrote and doesn't even see how WRONG this all is?

It reminds me of when I was offering online support to women in abusive situations. There was nothing I could do to make them see that they were being abused until they reached that point themselves. Some never did and could not be helped no matter how much we tried. It was heartbreaking.

Kristeninmyskin · 2021-06-13T16:11:00+00:00

She’s NTA, but she’s a clown for staying with him. Her fears are perfectly valid. It’s not a question of if an emergency happens and he won’t be helping her, it’s a question of when and how bad it’s going to be!

Is she really willing to risk her child’s safety? She would be better off as a single parent then with this loser who is most certainly endangering her child!

Thucydideez- · 2021-06-13T18:26:52+00:00

According to her post history, they're not even married and he refuses to propose. What in the world?! I hope she gets out as soon as possible.

mashibeans · 2021-06-13T20:32:46+00:00

I legit get triggered by these kind of posts, I know they are important here, but I've seen so many lately, I have to log off and put some wholesome show or anything nice in the background for a while.

I absolutely cannot stand when these poor women come to reddit/forums and describe disgusting, vile, disrespectful situations a man is putting them through, like they literally write all this shit down themselves, it's THEIR words! And then still end all up with a "I am NOT leaving SO."

Fucking hell, it makes me so fucking angry. I objectively understand how and why the situation came to be, and why they react that way, society, brainwashing, oppression, gaslighting, etc. etc. etc., we discuss it plenty here! But it still makes me so, SO angry to see these women describe awful scenarios, and then actively choose to stay with that shitty person, or even go on a defending spree when comments dare to even allude he's not a good man or to leave him.

I particular get upset when I check back these ladies accounts history, and they come back with similar posts over the last 1-2 years, same LV SO, keep on asking for sympathy or "advice," and basically ends up they just want to emotional dump on us and not accept any of anyone's advice.

I have deep respect for women who still choose to help and aid these women, because I just don't have the will to go above and beyond. I can barely carry myself, I'm not gonna carry someone who not only refuses my help, but actively gives me shit for it. I just can't.

Sorry for the rant, these kind of posts are regular in our sub I understand, and they're very helpful, and I am thankful because they may help other sisters out t here in similar situations to maybe see the light, but at the same time I cannot handle them as much as I want to.

akashyaboa · 2021-06-13T19:56:08+00:00

"I am not leaving SO." He knows and he takes advantage of that.

CynicalSucculent · 2021-06-13T18:27:10+00:00

As much as I despise the man I have to question this woman's actions. WHY does she not leave his ass? WHY does she not leave and sue him for child support? WHY did she ever see father material in a scrote like this in the first place?

divination__ · 2021-06-13T19:09:37+00:00

it is going to take her a very long time to realise that the problem isn't a lack of communication, but simply a lack of care on his behalf. he knows he's not helping, he knows she is struggling, he can probably see what's going on, he's not an idiot. he just plays the idiot so she can remain frustrated thinking some nebulous force is causing the problems in their relationship rather than simply him not giving a shit.

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-06-13T15:41:39+00:00

This exists in more cases than I'd like to think. It's the way most relationshits with gamer guys and porn addicts end to be: a fucking mockery of domesticity and family life.

Big clown energy 🤡: she just wants him to use noise cancelling headphones... She isn't asking for much, 😒 so why won't scrote give this to her?

🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎺🎧 Tale as old as timeeeeeeee🎧🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎶🎶🎶🎧

sveji- · 2021-06-14T01:41:42+00:00

I hate the avid "I am NOT leaving no matter what" type. It's like, you know you and/or your child can be in real danger and he wouldn't bat an eye until it's too late, but you're so deep in your pick-me state that you're numb to reality. And for what exactly? More chores, more stress, less time for yourself (and to rest, so you can be better for you and for your child)? Yeah, no

eveloe · 2021-06-13T21:59:04+00:00

4 words: fuse box; dump him

_laufaeson · 2021-06-13T18:13:43+00:00

Hold on, he created a Reddit account for her specifically as a means for her to rant? WTH

throwaway88043468 · 2021-06-13T22:16:18+00:00

I am not leaving my SO

Then why even ask for advice, honestly? She's describing breakup/divorceworthy shit and she knows it. I hope she decides to stop taking the abuse someday.

onceuponasea · 2021-06-13T22:00:02+00:00

Omg girl. Jesus. Lord. Please for the love of everything holy please leave him.

Jaelismyhomegirl · 2021-06-14T03:13:05+00:00

I am not leaving SO

WHY👏 THE 👏 FUCK👏 NOT👏?!

He is not just acting like a second child, but an older child who is jealous of the new baby, and acting like a brat. Except unlike a child, who would (normally) at least view his mother as an authority figure, he sees her as beneath him.

twoormoreraces · 2021-06-13T16:13:26+00:00

Wth is an LO?!

elferiss · 2021-06-13T18:19:26+00:00

I saw this post yesterday before she added the edit. I don't understand why she wants to stay with this LVM, she had nothing positive to say about him. It's not even about the headphones, he is actively ignoring her and the child he helped create.

raphaellastorm · 2021-06-15T01:46:31+00:00

Wow, the last part really sucks—he created her Reddit account so she could “vent,” i.e. so she would shut up and he stopped having to listen to or care about her feelings or needs. Brings back bad memories of my LVM ex who, every time I would tell him I was sad or upset about how he treated me, told me to talk about it with my therapist. Trash.

babyfrog98 · 2021-06-14T01:54:27+00:00

He didn’t make her an account, she’s using reddit language that one has to be familiar with before adapting properly into a post..: bet he doesn’t even know she posted it, and would be angry for seeking an opinion outside of the relationship

Lavender_flow · 2021-06-14T12:25:01+00:00

Omgggg he created a reddit account for her to vent on. Sooooo sweeeeet. Omgggg now she can talk to her reddit friends while he games. What a caaaatch. He is likely fat from all the gaming and not moving. So you know. Fat men are harder to kidnap. So you know he will never leave her. What a prizeeee. She is so luckyyyy.

🤣😭😭 🖕🖕🖕

TwistedRose1882 · 2021-06-15T17:39:58+00:00

Option one

Stay with him and continue making these post which will steadly contain even more depressing content until your entire sense of self worth and self love is stripped from your bones.

Or

Option two

Leave him and watch your life steadily improve after cutting him out, joining FDS, and realizing you are worth your weight in gold. Resulting in the creation of a world that is so encouraging and full of opertunities that you and your child both thrive in a peaceful loving environment. One that will also give you the knowledge to know the difference between a HVM and LVM so you dont get caught up again in that debauchery.

Or option three which is just like option 2 but with more queen like flair in the leaving portion. That would probably be my choice. But then again I like to make a grand exit on occasion. 😉

Title	Stuff of nightmares really
Author	shinyjewels
Upvotes	430
Comments	68
Date	June 13, 2021 2:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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