We matched and he messaged me within 10 seconds. He really thought he ✨did something✨ here

fetchingmorbid · 2020-07-11T19:34:41+00:00

Allow me to translate. I'm fluent in Brokewaneze.

"Paddle boarding" = "CaN I SeeZ uR aSs in a BikiNi plZ? LOL. Me sO lOneLy..."

"Are you a serial killer?" = "Look maw, I flipped the script! Cause now she definitely won't suspect I'm a serial killer. Bomb diffused. Hyuk hyuk."

"I'm driving" = "I'm currently beating my dick so hard that the friction deserves its own mph."

"Cut through the bs" = "my years of online gaming taught me that an aggressive snipe on the opponent earns me a hundred points of Cheeto creds"

"Have a beautiful dayb" = Remedial English and crusty phallus.

Aaannnd, scene.

sweetpotatocupcake · 2020-07-11T19:12:25+00:00

He's so nauseatingly demanding too. Like call ME I'm driving. This is where we're going. Bitch who is you?

ChristianGirl93 · 2020-07-11T19:21:17+00:00

Like fr though why scrotes always got a 2 hour window? If they gave me even a 3 hour window I might at least be able to replan my off day enough to get lunch, get dressed and make it back in time not to be rushed- and that’s IF I knew them, was dating them LT, and maybe was a husband but if not, No. why is getting to know people BS? His employer must have hired him on the spot too for him to get this impression

askmeifilikeanal · 2020-07-11T19:52:05+00:00

Guys do this to catch women off guard. He says it’s to see how high maintenance she is but the truth is they want us to knocked down and not prepared. Then they would later on act like you are too available if you actually went on such short notice. This guy is every red flag to be an asshole. “I know you saw this” wow that is threatening and only the first message!!!

redbirdflies · 2020-07-11T20:38:35+00:00

Men think that being spontaneous is cute. In reality, he’s testing the strength of your boundaries.

I used to think that this was cute. Guys would invite me for weekends in the Hamptons, days out hiking in the park, whitewater rafting etc. It sounds so nice! Until you realize they think that these cute trips are a gateway to fake intimacy and easy sex

They need to take you out to a meal in a safe, public place and put the work in to get to know you. No exceptions.

sofiacarolina · 2020-07-11T19:15:21+00:00

'no excuses'???? ok rapist. and he expects you to stop everything youre doing and run over to him immediately when you havent even exchanged a convo. the entitlement is strong with this one. and already using abusive tactics within the first convo. glad you defended yourself and dodged the bullet

JaneDough_ · 2020-07-11T19:21:49+00:00

If a man wants to meet up too fast, put him in his place. They understand we want to be careful of who we meet up with, they just don't care about our safety and comfort.

Mindeska · 2020-07-11T19:47:49+00:00

I always found this a super useful way to screen out scrotes looking for an easy lay and/or dudebros with zero empathy for women and zero understanding of how fucking dangerous it is for a woman to go meet some complete stranger.

'I don't like chatting for days, we're here for dating, let's just meet up and see how it goes'

Or maybe, jerk, I'd like to decide if you're worth my time before I meet you?

The worst is when they try to gaslight and patronise you and say things like 'you can't really tell what people are like on apps anyway, they can say whatever they want' - except you CAN. LVMs often out themselves very quickly.

woldielocks · 2020-07-11T21:39:10+00:00

This is literally a maneuver straight from the seduction sub. First he sends a time sensitive offer that fosters a sense of adventure, unpredictability and a ticking clock. The success of this method depends on the girl not wanting to turn down his offer and offend the guy. After all he's being spontaneous and fun!

If you said yes, this tells him you're agreeable and he can do other maneuvers on you once you meet, like going to multiple locations to force a sense of intimacy and make it seem like you've known each other for a long time even though it's been 3 hours. Meanwhile he's doing kino and using the manufactured trust he's built to invite you to his place so he can f-close. Bingo Bango you go from matching on Tinder to fucking in under 4 hours.

OP, browse the guides and terminology on the seduction sub to familiarize yourself with the various methods these guys use. When you encounter it, disengage and block immediately. Your last 2 texts to him were Cringe City. He knows exactly what he's doing and he doesn't care. When you didn't bite he completely disregarded you and focused on the girls who did seem agreeable. Please develop a zen attitude about these encounters and leave them ASAP.

chateauduchat · 2020-07-11T19:26:04+00:00

Good for you for calling him out on his tactic. I hate when men try to play hard to get. The audacity to act like they are the prize.

4E4ME · 2020-07-11T19:45:54+00:00

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PatternedCollar · 2020-07-11T19:29:11+00:00

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2020-07-11T19:55:42+00:00

I love when guys try to pressure me into going on a date w them bc I’m on a dating app so apparently I signed up to accept every single offer that comes my way?

Capable_Okra · 2020-07-11T20:07:16+00:00

"guys who make an effort to meet you" lmao didn't realize the definition of "making an effort" now includes demanding a stranger meet up with you outside with zero notice

seraphinelysion · 2020-07-11T20:00:24+00:00

If he looks like an ass and sounds like an ass. Chances are... he's an ass.

AnniaT · 2020-07-11T20:40:56+00:00

Even though I appreciate guys inviting to an actual date and not spend weeks and weeks online talking and dodging taking the initiative for an actual date, asking someone out of nowhere to leave their home NOW for a date they chose and didn't ask the girl about it and her availability and ask the girl call them just like and then be cranky because the girl is put off by this behavior ain't it.

szarcat · 2020-07-12T00:00:21+00:00

I’ve had experiences with men where they invite me to their house for a first date or expect me to do things that compromise my safety as a woman. Then they patronise you with ‘haha what do you think I’m gonna do?’ Mf kill me that’s what.

peanutbutterismylife · 2020-07-11T22:13:13+00:00

Gotta ask, is this in ATX? I used to live there, and it was sure full of entitled tech bros just like this guy who felt they were above everyone else because they were from Cali and making six figures.

This whole scenario is especially ridiculous because the city is breaking records every day in its COVID numbers, it makes it even more necessary to vet the people you're dating prior because 1. you don't know where they've been and 2. it's more risky to go out so it sure as hell better be worth it.

Shaakie · 2020-07-12T03:09:48+00:00

Lmfao "no excuses" you ain't my dad stupid fuck, go fuck yourself!

These predators think they can force us women to drop everything for them? Nah

-badmadAM · 2020-07-11T20:20:24+00:00

We really need to stop "educating" those dudes, save your valuable time and just block and delete.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-07-11T20:46:35+00:00

Bullet mf dodged. A lot of them act like this. Like they are god's gift.

virginiagirl27 · 2020-07-11T20:54:58+00:00

It’s so alarming how many men still get upset when you don’t want to give out your number right away. Instead of getting upset they should hold the ones making us caution accountable. Huge red flag.

ImPiqued1111111 · 2020-07-12T00:39:04+00:00

He's even issuing commands in his parting message. What a dipshit.

ten-of-wands · 2020-07-12T13:54:31+00:00

Why do men always act like messaging you on a dating app is the equivalent of them hacking through the jungle, in the heat of the day, with no water, being chased by wild animals, without a compass, on his way to you. He’s worthy y’all! Look what he went through to message you!!!

That and “if you want something real” 🙄🙄 the ones who say that never do, or our concepts of “something real” are vastly different

adajoana · 2020-07-11T21:37:09+00:00

How old is the scrote?

TERFSareawesome · 2020-07-12T13:30:57+00:00

LOL seriously the entitlement of men asking women to meet up within hours. Why do so many men do this? Seriously I think it's a male thing- there is a lack of regard for someone else's time, schedule, plans. It's just like "Hmm, I feel like going paddle boarding right now, and it'd be nice to go with someone but I dont have any friends- I know, I'll just ask this random lady from tinder!" Even with my best friends who I call every single day and tet random shit to, I wouldn't tell them "Get dressed we're going paddle boarding we're leaving in two hours." like the amount of entitlement, thinking someone just has nothing else to do and is going to drop whatever they were doing for you... it's incredible. I have been texted by SO many men for "meet me in an hour for a drink/dinner" and it's pathetic. That is now an instant next for me. If you cant give me the respect and decency of a plan ahead, so I can adjust my day, plan my makeup/hair routine, pick out an outfit, etc, then you will make the worst boyfriend on the planet. I seriously think this is a new power technique men are using, stemming from that same "women have it sooooo easy!!!" resentment, so they decide to offer dates ONLY when it's like some panicked "get all your shit ready NOW you hve ten minutes!! Go go go!" bullshit. I have zero tolerance for it, and it is a LVM hallmark.

hilariouslystated · 2020-07-12T04:16:59+00:00

He texted you at 1:31 to meet him at 2. As if you're just going to drop everything you're doing to go on a date with his ass. An HVM gives ample notice for dates.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-07-11T19:59:56+00:00

I like his initative - at least he doesn't bullshit about going for a walk or a generic hang out thing.

But this dude needs waaaay more tact. Like he needs to go to Costco and buy some in bulk.

alluringiv · 2020-07-12T02:29:47+00:00

Why do guys fuckin do this

jointsbeforesex · 2020-07-12T02:59:26+00:00

Awesome answer!!! I usually unmatch, and talk to the next one I matched.

randomgirlimok · 2020-07-12T06:36:32+00:00

A text asking to paddle board is something you send to a friend, not a stranger. Setting the bar low from the start that you’re “just a friend”

leftytheft · 2020-07-12T12:22:28+00:00

I used to read about redpill strategies. This is one of them (immediately asking women to meet up so you show how adventurous you are, and don't "waste" time texting.)

TigreImpossibile · 2020-07-12T14:30:36+00:00

Honestly, I loaded up Hinge last week trying to have a good attitude about it and I got so OVER pushy males in literally one night. Like, I am not going to exchange two messages with you and then agree to a date or give you my number just like that. I want to see if there is a rapport first, nothing over the top... A couple days of communication. I'm not here to have a drink with every guy who asks just like that.

It just kills the conversation when you're a couple messages in and it's "I don't like talking on here, I want to meet in person"... Uhhh no. It's already easy enough for you guys with these apps, it won't kill you to make a small effort to show interest and build rapport and show me you're actually worth an evening of my time and real date. FFS.

2020-07-12T04:17:19+00:00

The entitlement is nauseating

rasperry22 · 2020-07-12T19:13:04+00:00

Too much too soon, pushy, demanding?= 💃💃💃

thighsmatch · 2020-07-11T21:58:18+00:00

He seems like a cluster B for sure. You told him off so well but I bet he’ll start accusing women of micro aggressions now, sigh. Also the man can’t even spell Hula Hut correctly, and also who the hell is going out to eat right now in a state with that many new covid cases??

ETA: I get why you did, but these guys aren’t worth it. My fear is by telling them off and teaching them we will just teach them to be sneakier with the red flags.

Summerisle7 · 2020-07-11T19:27:43+00:00

You should have ignored him completely

wootykins · 2020-07-11T21:10:20+00:00

I’d waste his time and lie that I’m at the beach to have him spend several minutes looking for me

thedevinefemme · 2020-07-12T15:59:43+00:00

Awwww I miss Austin! 💜 Although I’ve read ATX has the absolute worst dating scene in America. Yay! 😩

PatternedCollar · 2020-07-11T20:22:08+00:00

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OrchidLion · 2020-07-11T19:50:15+00:00

You tell him!!! You handled that perfectly

miwamus · 2020-07-11T20:25:41+00:00

I love the way you handled it.

Pecuche · 2020-07-11T20:57:40+00:00

Good on you for breaking down his actions to him. They're so oblivious!

PatternedCollar · 2020-07-12T09:53:32+00:00

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Title	We matched and he messaged me within 10 seconds. He really thought he ✨did something✨ here
Author	PatternedCollar
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Comments	124
Date	July 11, 2020 7:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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