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[–]rolltonotdie107 points108 points109 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I remember a guy I shared a house with back when I was younger coming home one day to frantically build his bed, which had just been stacked in the corner, because he was bringing his then girlfriend over. He'd been sleeping on a mattress on the floor of his room for nearly 4 months at that point!
I ended up moving out anyway because he would basically do no cleaning in the hopes that I would just do it for him and I was just his room mate! Joke was on him when I moved out and took all the furniture which I'd bought!
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice56 points57 points58 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I ended up moving out anyway because he would basically do no cleaning in the hopes that I would just do it for him
The audacity, damn.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 41 points42 points43 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Omg! I wasn’t exactly that girl but close. I was dating and this dude and he invited me over for a date since he know how to cook and his complex had this outdoor area he shares with his floor. (I knew his mom so it wasn’t sketch) but me being the anxious person I am arrived in the area three hours early to go shopping. He’s texting me, trying to not get me to show up or to go straight to the outdoor spot and not his apartment. I sense a sore spot so after a little pressure, Well... dude has no fucking furniture.
I was obviously confused, his profile had a very well decorated apartment in the background. one of the reasons I matched. Turns out I really liked his ex’s style. she had come back two months before with a moving van to collect her stuff. during all that time he never thought to get any more furniture. That’s subsisting on his camping gear was totally fine. Bonus points she came back for the suits she bought him and all he had left was raggedy t shirts and those shinny basket ball shorts.
I definitely told his mom.
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I know this is totally out of topic, but how did you match him on a dating app and met his mother before coming to his apartment the first time? (just curious, such a weird guy lol )
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I work with his mom in a professional setting. I matched with him later on. I had to ask him because he’s from the community my grandfather came from and my grandfather had 12 brothers and sisters so I had to make sure we weren’t related. I have a very good relationship with his mother and she’s incredible.
She thought it was a good match and endorsed it. We had gone on 4 or 5 dates before the apartment thing. He was broken up with his girlfriend a long time before that (I think a year). I’m still unsure on the specifics myself, like WUT? But she apologized to me, unnecessary but I get it she was embarrassed. I know she let him have it. His father verbally smacked him upside the head. My life feels like a soap opera sometimes.
At the end I was feeling like “aww that’s so sweet you guys” in the process I met his older brother... so I might just upgrade.
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So mess that his ex would come and get furniture and clothes she got him so much time after the break up. He wasn't ready for sure after such a messy break up. You dodged a bullet.
[–]rolltonotdie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh god! I couldn't help smiling imagining him sat in an empty apartment with a sleeping bag and bedroll but that's awful! I'm glad you managed to dodge a bullet there though!
I know for a fact after I left the guy I lived with didn't get any new furniture for 2 years! We still had friends in common who would periodically tell me how awful the house was, he was using those old folding garden chairs in his living room and his tv and xbox were just on the floor! I just, I cant even imagine.
I'd even offered to leave him the furniture when I moved out (I was planning on buying all new anyway) in exchange for my share of the last months rent, and it was probably worth more but he was so annoyed that I was leaving that he refused.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Based on what I heard the breakup was amicable. similar to what you described she couldn’t fit her furniture in her new place, so when she upgraded she came back to get it. He knew this ahead of time and planned nothing and then did nothing after it happened. I heard he said something to her and in a flash of pettiness I can get behind she showed him exactly where he’d be without her intervention.
So what I learned is he never spent any money on anything to improve his and her life or improve even himself that whole time. He only spent money on his own hobbies. She created a home for him and went full queer eye to raise him up.
[–]LaBaronessaFDS Newbie656 points657 points658 points 6 years ago (38 children) | Copy Link
"Dodged a bullet, that gold digger didn't like my nest, so superficial" /s
[–]redbirdfliesFDS STRATEGY COACH252 points253 points254 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
The nest!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
[–]HowslapFDS Disciple161 points162 points163 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I scrolled down looking for someone to mention something about nests, imagine my delight to see it in THE FIRST COMMENT! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
[–]LaBaronessaFDS Newbie108 points109 points110 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Our forever meme.
MiNiMaLiSm
[–]corn0flakes91 points92 points93 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
haha this reminds me of a guy I once dated. All he had in his bedroom was a yoga mat on the carpet. That’s it. He said “minimalism” and I said “bye”
[–]highoncatnipbrowniesFDS Newbie46 points47 points48 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He slept on the yoga mat? Didnt he have hips or bones in general?
[–]redbirdfliesFDS STRATEGY COACH68 points69 points70 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And this is one of the many reasons I love this group of funny, amazing women !
[–]TigreImpossibileFDS Apprentice41 points42 points43 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right?!! Long live the nest jokes 👏👏😆
I was coming to make a nest joke 🤣🤣🤣
[–]strangerinthealps_FDS Newbie91 points92 points93 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My brain still refuses to comprehend that a woman could date someone for three years and never see the inside of their home. Three years! Three years. Three. Years. 😐
[–]PasdepromessesFDS Disciple34 points35 points36 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
IKR?! If I don’t have a ring in two years I’m out of there. Cannot imagine it moving so slow that three years is the ‘seeing his home landmark’.
[–]nattyhattie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Side chick for sure.
Wait what? This really happened? Why?
[–]gcthrowaway2019FDS Apprentice82 points83 points84 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"never had a guest in his nest" 🤣🤣🤣
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[–]radarieFDS Newbie114 points115 points116 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
there was a post, i think it was on relationship advice, where a woman went to visit her boyfriend for the first time and instead of a bed he just had a big clump of unwashed clothes that he slept on in the middle of the room.
the poor girl actually tried not to be "judgemental" and tried sleeping on it but obviously could not live with that and the guy got super offended when she told him that.
he just had a big clump of unwashed clothes that he slept on in the middle of the room.
How did he not smell the stench?? Ewww.
[–]LisaRVFDS Newbie22 points23 points24 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ewwww baby girl, needs to get better self esteem. Tried to be non-judmental 😂😂
[–]riotous486saturnFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🤣🤣🤣🤣 i’m ded
[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Wtf? A mattress in the middle of unwashed clothes?
[–]radarieFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
no mattress, just dirty clothes!
How is it possible to even sleep comfortably like that? My body would be in pain after a night lol
[–]mermaid-babeFDS Newbie18 points19 points20 points 6 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Commenting so I can check this later since I’m out of the loop too 👀
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[–]ms_monquisFDS Disciple6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh. My. God. At least the first reply to that tweet was reasonable and sane.
[–]FodderFigureIllushunFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She's dating Big Bird.
[–]MonarkiFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is hilarious but it cannot be real.
[–]44756771800FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
https://www.removeddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/hiqw9u/my_24_f_boyfriend_25m_sleeps_in_a_nest_of_clothes/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
here you go. if you ever want a post that's been deleted, just convert "reddit.com" to "removeddit.com"
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[–]44756771800FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Wait for it ? It doesn't for me
[–]MuffinSongsFDS Disciple17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ouch and burn! Yass
[–]BabaAuRhumOhlalaFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Why don’t you like his nest?!?!?!
[–]No_Fact_3906Throwaway Account2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
A guy I dated only had a bed and a desk in his two bedroom apartment. He also used Clorox wipes to wash his hands instead of hand soap. I was horrified
[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😂😂
[–]4E4MEFDS Apprentice189 points190 points191 points 6 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
You know those crappy metal bedframes cost less than $100. Sure, you can hear them squeaking and shaking but at least you're not down on the floor breathing in dust bunnies and covered in dog hair.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice63 points64 points65 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Or just have a proper single bed on the floor with one pillow that you can push towards the wall if you want to sweep the floor (it is common in East Asia) if you are that stingy. A nest... of unwashed clothes... really?
[–]olexatuch50 points51 points52 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
i like the concept of floor bed, i find it very cute. my favorite lifestyle youtuber has one, but the actual bed is laying on another mattress. the vibe of for her whole bedroom is very sweet... but when men have those floor beds, it’s always so dirty and cheap.
[–]SayNadFDS Apprentice36 points37 points38 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It will be very cozy and very farmhouse-chic if executed properly with pillows and lights and all that. And if you sun dry the mattress weekly at least it will stay fresh (use multiple lighter mattress/futon instead of one heavy one, easier to care)
But men don't decorate or even maintain their floor bed, let alone sweep the floor and clean the room. So it ends up looking really dirty. No wonder even broke ass men can't stop going after women - they want somebody else to clean after their lazy asses.
[–]i-wish-i-wish25 points26 points27 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
a floor bed is indeed cute! but you HAVE to have something to separate it from the floor or put it against the wall everyday to prevent mould from growing.. and I think it’s safe to assume most men won’t bother with doing that
[–]highoncatnipbrowniesFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is true. An ex of mine had a king size bed he kept on the floor. It was well made in a nice bedroom with wood floors so not a LVM-nest-bed. Once the season became cold we discovered condensation forming on the box spring and had to set up a bed frame in a rush to prevent mold. Luckily he had a frame in his garage, he just liked the look and feel of the floor bed.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 98 points99 points100 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Their $12 at junk/thrift stores. I had to start all over once, habitat for humanity and kajiji were my bitch.
[–]nattyhattie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Or free on Facebook. Always loads of people giving away stuff like old bed frames on local groups. But OMG effort.
[–]CloacaDiddlerFDS Newbie93 points94 points95 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Funny enough I just came across an article that showed humorous bachelor pads, typically college age or older men. I think my favorite was literally just a tv on the ground and a cardboard box to sit on. A lot used ironing boards as kitchen tables and camper chairs....Most of them looked like hoarders with the level of mess, laundry, wires, and dishes that were all over the floor, naked mattress, and spilling out of boxes. Someone explain the “biological reasoning” behind that, while same age women probably have matching towels, a dresser, and a full cookware set? 😂 Or at least soap and a closet....
Oh and then the guy with no furniture except a computer chair, foldout table, and three large monitors... these are the people that think girls only date rich chads because the thought that they wouldn’t want something to do with them is inconceivable and mind boggling lol.
[–]jeanneeebeanneeeFDS Apprentice8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I always think about this when I hear or read about people - it's almost always men/boys - who go off to college and literally can't function without their mom or whoever to be there to tell them every single thing they need to do. Like they rarely shower and when they do, they dry themselves with a dirty t shirt off the floor, which they will then pick up later and wear. Get sick from not eating properly because they can't operate a stove/microwave or keep track of the dining hall hours. Don't understand that they need to sleep at night so they can go to class during the day. It's insane. Like I know going out and being independent for the first time can be daunting and challenging, but not understanding that you need to shower regularly and have at least one towel to dry yourself with? Or that you have innate biological needs for food and sleep? My 8 year old could function better.
[–]Usemeabuseme102 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Went to a guys house after a date whose bed was an old waterbed, which had the water emptied and filled with air, on a box frame that was too large, with no frame. The floor was 100% laundry. The only other furniture was a foldable lawn chair which was partially broken. He felt zero shame about it.
[–]shortywannarockFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I doubt the guys prefer to live like that, but they’ve probably been raised to take no part in household upkeep and decoration so to them the effort of doing literally anything above the bare minimum seems monumental. They probably have the expectation that eventually they’ll find a girlfriend to do it for them, or as the euphemism goes “this place needs a woman’s touch.”
[–]seashellseashell52FDS Newbie71 points72 points73 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There is no bar. The mattress is on the floor.
[–]huna-lildahk62 points63 points64 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
God I need to come in here and the tell the story about a guy I met when I was a bartender who tried to bring me into his room with a twin sized mattress on the floor without a sheet. Fucking comical night.
[–]pissed_afFDS Newbie12 points13 points14 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yikesss
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie214 points215 points216 points 6 years ago* (13 children) | Copy Link
The difference is when women don’t have our shit together we work towards it.
I don’t have my shit together yet; working on it. Won’t date anyone until I’m in a stable place and have my shit together.
Men just feel entitled to date.. whenever.
[–]BovvsetteFDS Disciple145 points146 points147 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yup, even if a man is depressed, lives in a nest or at parents, plays video games or watches porn all day, is too poor to afford even a meal for his date, has no job or skills, has issues and is in desperate need of therapy, he still thinks he has any business trying to hit up women and starting new family, while having no role or value in it, risking having kids which require maturity and financial stability. But he's probably going to run away from any responsibility, as always, adding to the statistics of single moms, if anyone would have thim in the first place. Or continue being a burden on everyone around him, because he needs a maid and his dick wet, while he offers nothing of value in return. Dealing with this shit is a nightmare, being straight woman is a curse.
[–]hyacinthgirl95FDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Precisely. Men really think women want to fix them.
[–]throwawayaimitFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This was a word by word description of an ex. Sucks to be him!
[–]Languages525604FDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I assure you being a lesbian is no better ;)
[–]enemy0frealityFDS Newbie90 points91 points92 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Exactly, and the audacity gets me every time. I asked my ex once why he think it's appropriate to date despite not having his shit together at all. He said something along the lines of "Well I'm a human being and I want to feel loved." So why don't you start with yourself, bruh. Get a job and a therapist.
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fucking hell🤦🏼♀️
I’m excited and nervous to start intensive therapy and get my act together after trauma and I want to become a therapist (not for men though lmao. On someone else’s dime.) If I don’t love myself then idk how anyone else will cause I won’t be able to feel it as much. They will always be empty seeking fullness outside of themselves, and too emotionally immature to see it.
[–]seashellseashell52FDS Newbie50 points51 points52 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yes! Like therapy! Women are willing to explore the depths of mentality while most men consider it a sign of weakness.
[–]MissCandidFDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I kind of feel bad for them in that regard. Imagine feeling that insecure about having emotions.
[–]Newwavesupport3657FDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s what makes them weak too
[–]TVsFrankismyDadFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because they've been trained to have women fix them. Men date specifically to find someone to manage their lives for them.
[–]RadarFemefFDS Newbie26 points27 points28 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This isn’t an exaggeration, this is exactly how they behave when you reject them or state your standards. They act like you threw knives into their chest.
[–]throwaway93731FDS Apprentice40 points41 points42 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The last guy I dated didn’t even have a mattress. It was literally a thin mattress pad type thing on the floor. He had a few blankets thrown on there, one of which was, I shit you not, a fucking sleeping bag. He was almost 30. How the fuck is that comfortable?!
[–]_boring_daven_FDS Newbie45 points46 points47 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you spend all your money on a mattress, sheets, and a bed frame, how else will you pay for cam girls? /s
[–]BroffaloSoldier1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Christ. Sleeping bags aren’t even comfortable when you’re using them for the intended purpose. Perhaps I’ve only ever used shitty ones, but I always end up drenched in sweat and never wake rested. Could not fathom sleeping in my own bed with one.
[–]nomorepickme1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The ex a friend of mine dated (He was 37 or something while we were 20-ish back then?) didn't have a bed, or curtains or blinds, and he used one of those warehouse pallets for a table. I swear, almost a 40 year old man. The shit we put up with back then..
[–]Cobmobster21FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why is this even a thing 🤦♀️
[–]ihavenoideadwhatimdoFDS Newbie112 points113 points114 points 6 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
This and the men with twin beds into their 20s🤮
[–]DallasOMalleyFDS Newbie87 points88 points89 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And the men who don't have a bed at all, into their 40s.... 😐
[–]LateNightLattes01FDS Newbie67 points68 points69 points 6 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
What’s wrong with twin beds?? They’re small, take up less space, and fit me perfectly 🤷♀️ I’ve never liked king sized beds. I don’t like huge beds in general. But I also prefer a literal futon like I used in Japan (not the weird American couches called futons).
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 108 points109 points110 points 6 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Twin beds aren’t for multiple people, that’s why it’s called a single. Full or doubles are totally fine. Keeping beds on floors is asking for mold and mildew, which can be straight up deadly. Japanese Futons need to be put away everyday and get moved as well as put outside to be aired out. That’s not what these guys are doing.
[–]LateNightLattes01FDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yes of course Japanese futons are moved out of the way during the day. That’s the point, and airing them out is how you take care of them. I prefer them exactly because you can take them out of the way during the day and use that space for other stuff. I’ve never seen anyone/met anyone with just a mattress and am not defending that- no need to downvote. I was just asking the question because I don’t see anything wrong a single person living alone owning and using a twin bed(with a bed frame). If you move in with someone or have someone over regularly then get a bigger bed.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 20 points21 points22 points 6 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I didn’t downvote you? If you can tell by reading the other comments and likes a lot of us have experience with guys that have a naked mattress on the floor. Those guys think it’s fine, and I think it’s fine to have a standard that a guy I’m interested in to have a bed frame. It’s one of those pesky high standards of mine.
I really don’t know why you brought Japanese futons into the discussion, that’s not at all what the meme is referring to. This meme just isn’t for you and that’s also fine.
Edit: forgot a whole ass word.
[–]LateNightLattes01FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Oh okay, sorry then. I mentioned futons because I own one, and I wondered if people applied this to them as well. I’ve never heard of the mold thing for a mattress on the floor though- the more you know. I still enjoyed the meme. Never thought this would be a thing tho so now I know 😳.
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 35 points36 points37 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Look up neck beard nests if you want nightmares. Some dude are just better at hiding the ugly until your confronted with the mattress on the floor, a lawn chair instead of a couch, styrofoam plates, and a gigantic 8k tv on the wall. Nah imma pass on that, thank you next.
[–]slaynmantisFDS Newbie14 points15 points16 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmao! Neck beard nests?!? I fear you're sending me down a rabbit hole of google depravity but I'm looking this one up.
[–]IWannaBeAnArchitectFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
/r/neckbeardnests
[–]Cuccoteaser0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How wide is a twin bed? Me and my partner sleep in a 120 cm bed, were we bachelors all along?
[–]Moira_SpiceFDS Disciple41 points42 points43 points 6 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Twin beds aren't conceived for two people to sleep in. It's not really comfortable (trust me, I did sleep with my ex in a freaking twin bed for one year 🤡), and it just screams "virgin bachelor" to me.
If you want to change position in a twin bed, you wake up the other every single time, and you don't have much space and possibilities. And it gets very hot in the summer (nowhere to move to cool off, you're stuck in one place).
[–]LateNightLattes01FDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Welp- that does sound uncomfortable. I see what you mean now!
[–]BodhicaryavataraFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I don’t get it? I’m early 30s/F and have a twin bed (yes, with a frame). I’m not sure how that makes me a loser or an unfit partner?
[–]Moira_SpiceFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It isn't inviting for a couple.
Imo it signals "I'm single and I'm be staying this be way for decades!"
[–]BodhicaryavataraFDS Newbie9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
No. I spent my 20s largely focused on school, career, bettering myself in all aspects, etc. rather than men. Didn’t go on my first date until 27, but that doesn’t mean I aim for lifelong singlehood. The fact that I happen to have a twin bed doesn’t communicate anything.
[–]Moira_SpiceFDS Disciple-3 points-2 points-1 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ok, allright, enjoy your uncomfortable bed once you invite someone into it!
[–]BodhicaryavataraFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m from a culture where it’s uncommon for couple to live together prior to marriage. Were to live with a partner/spouse, of course I’d get a full or queen bed. I meant, as a single woman it’s a needless expense at this time in my life.
I thought this sub was about pointing out toxic, patriarchal male behaviors in romantic relationships and not looking down on other women for no legit reason?
[–]Moira_SpiceFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was assuming you were in the American culture, my bad.
Also, personnally, I think this sub is also to reevaluate and view critically our choices :)
[–]BodhicaryavataraFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s ok, no worries! I’m Indian American.
On a related note, I feel like a lot of dating subs really look down on adults living with their family, and imo it’s unfair. I stayed with my family during law school to avoid six figures of crushing, nondischargeable debt. If a guy looks down on me for taking care of my financial health, he’s LVM to me.
[–]PhantomApricot0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Have you ever tried to sleep with someone in a twin bed?
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
Also men need to spend the money to get some nice sheets (not nessesarily top tier but just some good sheets).. Sleeping in a properly built bed but terrible sheets that feel like sandpaper and holey blankets is still bad. I also do get having to start over and being on a budget. But a good night's sleep is vital.
[–]_wannaseemediscoFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Can we have a sheet conversation real quick?
I personally love soft sheets, preferably ones with a heavier weight to them (but not like flannel or anything). I had an ex with the PERFECT SHEET SET and it changed my life, but I haven't been able to remember who made them and fuck reaching out to that guy to find out, lol.
Any recommendations? Which are your favs for soft and weighty? Money is not a concern to me FYI.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I finally bit the bullet and bought a set of sheex. Holy crap they are amazing. Expensive. But worth it! They are soft, keep you cool yet cozy at the same time, and actually stay on my deep mattress.
[–]_wannaseemediscoFDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok, I ordered some! So excited!
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tip: exfoliate your feet because you'll easily see how rough they are in those sheets! The first night I slept like a baby.
[–]CassieGreen85FDS Apprentice67 points68 points69 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I don't need to know the original content of the drawing to know the one who drew it is a goddamn fragile snowflake.
Sure bruh, here you are getting "stabbed" by some words like a freaking spoiled toddler, while women all over the world are being LITERALLY stabbed, molested, raped, murdered, trafficked, by MEN (and yes, some women who are monsters also participate, but sexual slave trafficking is by men mostly because guess what? The customers are all MEN)
[–]RadioactiveJoyFDS Disciple[S] 45 points46 points47 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The original was a blank version created by Russian artist Alena Sofronova.
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Thanks for the that, I'm really loving her work.
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Fucking THANK YOU 👏🏼👏🏼
[–]_wannaseemediscoFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
While dating a guy I made a comment about men without bed frames and it was a few weeks later that he mentioned putting one together at his new place. He specifically said he bought it because of me. I'm glad he was open minded on that one, lol.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I don’t have a bed frame.. rip
[–]BroffaloSoldier2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Me neither. I had one break and badly injure a cat who was sleeping under the bed years back, so it’s always been a fear that it would happen again. It was horrible and I was racked with guilt for so long.
I have one in my shed, but I don’t want to set it up.
[–]skyerippaFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Okay now I have a new fear...
[–]winogrigio8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My first boyfriend didn't even have a bed and I lost my virginity on a futon lmao
[–]freebirdflyFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg!!! I love this haha
[–]miss_kay4FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Omg this one NVM I embarrassingly kept running back to... he had moved into his first place (just a rented room) and didn’t even have a mattress, just a blanket and a few pillows on the floor that he was sleeping on. He brushed it off by saying the Japanese slept on the floor and that it’s better for you. He tried to get me to have sex with him on this arrangement of blankets and pillows on the floor. That was the last time I saw him.
[–]snejonopkaFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LOL OMG
The last guy I dated wouldn’t drink anything but filtered water, but was too lazy to buy a water filter, so instead he would just fill up used water bottles from the fountain in the hall. I asked him why he didn’t just buy a $20 pitcher and he just shrugged and said, “yeah I guess I should” like it hadn’t even occurred to him.
[–]whatislife2298FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Last ex I dated had the grossest apt with a moldy mattress on the floor. Never cleaned, and expected me to still spend the nights over at his place. gags if you can’t afford a damn bed, don’t date.
[–]marykatiepants5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok, I kinda get the no bed frame thing, tbh. I have 2 beds in my house, one with an expensive frame/headboard and another with a cheap frame, but I have both frames in the basement for storage because I like them lower (on just a box spring).
[–]Pete_the_rawdogFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I have one downstairs, no frame because it sits perfectly level with a natural lip in the wall- PLUS the lip makes a great bed table for phone/glasses! But my bed is on the frame upstairs because it is a decent mattress that my sister gave me that wont sleep properly without support. Also my bed frame would take up the whole downstairs room whereas the mattresses would only take 1/3.
Different things are okay for different people, preferences are fine! I think the problem is that most men just don't care and that's why they don't have one and that transfers to other aspects of their life e.g. relationships.
[–]myplotofinternet2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cries in bedpost
[–]endorphins_FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How about a man that knows how to iron his clothes????
[–]Salt_SatisfactionFDS Apprentice2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even better, one who actually irons them
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