Theory Weekend - No Stupid Questions Thread Part II

DarkCotton · 2016-04-26T15:59:05+00:00

Starting a revolution.

I've never read anything about offering the red pill to anyone. Why is this? I showed it to four of my close friends and two took to it while one of the others went into denial and the other already knew about it. I've been lurking here for a very long time. Again, why don't you guys offer the red pill?

lund-gard · 2016-06-12T00:13:34+00:00

I greatly appreciate this sub for how it goes against popular opinion to speak the logical and scientific truth, no matter how bleak it may be.

However, since the sub is focused only on sexual strategy, I'd like to know if community members could recommend other resources (such as YouTube channels, subreddits or books) which also reveal reality in the same way on topics like personal finance, higher education, or careers.

Drinktime · 2016-04-26T01:28:10+00:00

The majority of my life and even at this very moment, I've been that introverted person, being unable to get along with people, especially with women. I can't seem to find my Alpha and I'm stuck being that Beta guy that doesn't come out of the lot. Good thing though, PUA and TRP are helping a lot to improve my inner maleness. Also, I'm just 18 (don't take that TOO seriously, I'm quite young and I know it. I'm not being desperate, only looking for advice).

Now here goes my situation. Last Summer, I started dating that fantastic girl that was chasing after me for 2 years (without me realizing it. Yeah I'm a fool.), but it didn't work out (it was my first time dating and you know, I pretty much suck at it lol). It's been many months since the "split-up" and we started talking to each other once again on Facebook, having conversations lasting for 3-4 hours. Now I still think she's into me (that's also what a lot of my friends tell me), but she never talks and/or replies during weekends. But when Monday comes, we get those huge conversations all over again. So my questions are :

1- Since weekends are mostly the greatest opportunities to hang out with people, does her remaining silent during that period tell me she's not into me and that I should let it go? I still need to remind you guys that we've been dating before so if she actually wasn't into me now, she wouldn't have taken the time to talk to me for 3 hours straight, right?

2- Should I just try to force things a little bit, or should I actually use the idgaf attitude and let her chase again?

rockin_rollin96 · 2016-04-25T21:40:05+00:00

Could someone explain qualifying and rapport to me? I often come across them together, and I understand building and breaking rapport is part of the push/pull dynamic of flirting. But shit tests are rapport breaks, so would dealing with them also be rapport breaks? Does one need to be able to switch between both depending on who's pulling or pushing? For qualifying, is it something you should be doing or something you should be causing the woman to do through breaking rapport and pushing? I haven't seen this fully broken down and if it is any links would be appreciated

fluffyshuffle · 2016-04-25T20:39:39+00:00

Many of the women in my peer group are hitting the 30-35 age range, and TRP has given me a lot of insight on the concept of the Wall, and it's a growing curiosity for me. My observation:

The Wall is the crushing pressure of adulthood: Thirties are an age when most people assume they would have had their life figured out - and granted many people do - but a huge swath of people, most of which are women, seem to be lost in the dust. What I mean is this: Many of the women I know haven't accomplished their goals, their dreams, or had success in some of the more classical measures like career or finances. And, at some point that knowledge comes home to roost: they've been wasting their time.

I've seen this play out in a few ways:

Panic, then find a willing guy who's half-decent and commit to a boring, unfulfilling life, until such time as they hit the next Wall they erected for themselves.
Double down, and blame society/men/patriarchy, while trolling the dance floor on weekends.
Turn to Woo, and embrace the healing power of crystals, pranic energies, and changing your quantum reality by focusing their animal spirits.

And I don't want to pick on just one gender here at all. I think many men hit this same Wall, but for different reasons.

My question is probably more of a discussion, but what have you all experienced of women, or men, hitting the wall?

ShopAndHover · 2016-04-25T21:18:50+00:00

I'm working as a waiter and plan on doing it until i finish my studies since it brings a steady income that passes many other jobs that require a degree in my country. It's a good job that can skyrocket your social skills if you approach it the right way, since you are basically cold approaching tables with sometimes multiple girls, and with a high enough game/looks, you get comfortable with talking to them soon enough.

My question is, it is in its basic form still a job that requires you to service customers, does it subconciously develop a submissive mentality, and can you fight it ?

stealthcreeper · 2016-04-25T11:37:19+00:00

Yesterday I was texting a girl that I will meet tomorrow.

During the interaction she asked me the true meaning of something I said, and instead of taking her seriously, I answered in a playfull way.

Her: you're just trolling, you know what I meant.

Me: I love trolling

After that, she didn't reply, and I was tempted to text her again but this time with the answer she was looking for, but I didn't.

Now, what I wanna know is if what I did was too much, or if I did good and she is just shit-testing me by not replying.

SoSconed · 2016-04-25T10:47:38+00:00

What do I do about a plate who's getting to comfortable?

Do I imply she's a plate, tell her she's a plate or just break it off?

I'm willing to put in a little bit of effort to rectify the issue.

Edwoodz · 2016-04-25T05:12:12+00:00

I constantly make contact with women, and have a pretty decent success rate. I can pull, I can maintain their attraction, but there's always something that can have some devastating effects for me early on in the texting period.

I hate being ignored, more than anything. So how do you approach it if a girl ignores your messages? I've never been able to find a good strategy to this. Is purposely ignoring texts a shit test by girls?

gghavoc · 2016-04-25T04:11:03+00:00

I'm trying to determine my best plan of action for a meetup with a girl i've known/talked with for a while. She lives out of state but we communicate almost daily, and I visited her once before. At the time, I was unaware of trp and made several mistakes I now see. We hung out and went to a local fair, mall and dinner of course. Had a good time but nothing materialized, as I was hesitant. She is a single mom, so it made it difficult to get her alone. As we continue our communications, she let's out that she was dating a guy who lives nearby and they had sex at some point. I was upset about this but realized it was dumb and if anything, lets me know she should be an easy lay at this point. My issue is with how to play it, as we may meet up somewhere later this year, as she is lonely and such. I'm pretty sure she has a wild side with her history, but is in that wall territory. I would like to remain friends if possible, but want to have sex with her of course. I have made it clear I'm not looking for anything serious, and she is cool with it.

Baylien2 · 2016-04-25T03:32:36+00:00

Hey guys so I'm starting to understand the importance of plate spinning and am starting to put it into practice. My problem is that I've been really only been meeting new plates off of tinder and POF. I know that social circle is the best way to meet new women, but I'm 28 and out of college and work independently. Most of my friends and fam moved out of my area. Fortunately I live in a big metro, but meeting new friends in general is not my strong suit. What's the best way to build a strong social circle with both guys I can respect and call friends and also with women that can be potential plates?

Mrstack97 · 2016-04-25T14:56:04+00:00

What do you guys do to cope with depression? Since I started seeing the world in this red pill way it has made me sad about how society and women work.

HookersAndBlow4ME · 2016-04-25T01:36:30+00:00

How many plates at you guys spinning? I'm going thru a divorce and have an 18 mo daughter and I'm spinning 3 currently. I just wanted to know how many is too few or too many to handle before I drop one.

kazaul · 2016-04-24T22:41:56+00:00

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Nexus2045 · 2016-04-24T22:37:02+00:00

I feel like my game is stuck and can't improve because the things I say "dry out" a conversation, and drive it out of possible seduction. I love talking about things like how life should be lived, realizations I've had, books I've read, etc... because I actually find these conversations fun for myself.

Its as if these things kill off any seduction vibe in the interaction, and trying to add back in physical proximity/touching at that point seems too awkward - the girl already sees me as this mature, sensible guy, but not the bad boy / seducer who makes her imaginations wild. I wish there was some guide to tell me what sort of conversations to avoid.

floriemorie · 2016-04-24T21:00:00+00:00

any of you have or had a pectus excavatum ? I want to start getting muscles but i don't know if it's better to have an operation first or if it will look good on the chest anyway. thanks.

IlluminableRed · 2016-04-24T20:21:42+00:00

How to find balance?

The Red Pill freed me from the clutches of my own prison that I have made for myself inside my own mind.

It also freed me from society in most part. Well... No one can escape either himself or society. But he can control the way they influence him.

But I have a big problem. I thought for a long time what my life aspirations should be. Should I live merely to serve myself? I fell into a pit of nihilism quite literally. I couldn't really find a way out.

But I had an epiphany one day. That living as a private individual without a care about the rest of the world would never make me reach my potential.

If I live merely for myself then there would be no point to living life. I could commit suicide and nobody would care. Life would be empty, because l wouldn't have anything to strive towards.

So I decided one day, that living to further my own human kind is the only worthy goal. To make us better. To make sure that we survive. To reach towards peace and help others optimize their minds.

But as we know, Evolution made our minds to survive. Not to be happy or peaceful.

We are only meant to survive, the rest is up to us.

So my question is this; How to balance my idealistic thinking that is driving me forward, with the reality of how humans operate, without being disappointed. I don't want to waste my life chasing after the "wrong goal".

I am flying in the oblivion of nihilism right now. I am free now. And yet, now I see that to reach anything I need a goal that will push me.

Thank you.

Garconanokin · 2016-04-23T16:48:13+00:00

OK, I've got one I've been wanting to ask. It's legit stupid. So let's say you're trying to avoid being looked at as being a provider male to a woman: what things can you say, do and reveal about yourself to get yourself out of this category in her mind? It's kind of like a self character assassination, and believe me I've done this a lot and I suspect some of you have too.

aequitss · 2016-04-24T20:20:34+00:00

When spinning plates and your plate bitches about her ex because she mis characterizes his actions as asshole behavior ( he was asserting his boundaries in stating that she gained some weight and doesn't find her as attractive anymore ) consequentially made her hit the gym more but he dumped her lol before he could see progress. I thought I was being neutral by saying shit like " eh, I mean there's just a better way to get his point across rather than being a douche about it " but reading posts suggest that this incidental test was to gauge how I'd respond and what category I fell under. ( AF vs BB ) I'm somewhat satisfied with my answer but subsequent shit tests threw me for a loop and thus I imagine colored the previous shit test BB. That said, I do think there's a better answer and am curious how you guys would handle that shit test in isolation and how you'd handle it In the context of a barrage of standard shit tests you receive during LMR. ( how many girls have you fucked? I'm not like this. i want to but I can't. we are not having sex etc )

Kisame_X · 2016-04-24T18:27:41+00:00

Thanks for the advice but I was thinking in terms of male female relations because my goal with a plate is to make her just that

563967325 · 2016-04-24T17:28:03+00:00

What if she says she wants to wait for someone special/someone who will love her/etc. to lose her v? Do I say I'm that special person?

Heathcliff-- · 2016-04-26T16:32:09+00:00

In the dark triad, what does "psychopathy" actually entail? I'm sure I'm not going to start axe murdering people but how can I be psychopathic in a productive way to achieve my goals?

yaysmr · 2016-04-24T16:16:37+00:00

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563967325 · 2016-04-24T16:13:02+00:00

When women say they don't like players/act upset when you say there are other women in your life, are they shit-testing?

breakingbadrule · 2016-04-24T23:45:12+00:00

I know that RedPill is about sexual strategy. And what we do to increase our SMV also improves us in other aspects of life. So please bear with me when I ask this.

I just don't like to talk to people from my beta days. (I am not an alpha. Far from one. I've just realized that in my current state I cant demand respect.) It's like, no matter what I do I know I will never gain respect from them. I am isolating myself from these people. And everyone else non important in general. Just trying to work on my shit. Holed up in my room, studying, working out once a day, studying more, eating, sleeping. Is this healthy? That feeling of worthlessness, I want it to go away. And I am doing everything I can to solve my problems. Not by 'feeling' bad about them, but by working on them. Will this harm me more than its helping me? Should I keep contact with people from my beta days?

Thanks

Devilsalwayscry · 2016-04-23T16:46:28+00:00

When it comes to a pre-existing LTR, how important are aesthetics, i.e. gains/muscles, on the man's part, to maintain most girls' attraction?

the_brolosopher · 2016-04-23T16:53:49+00:00

Okay, I've got one. What's a way that I can incorporate the amused-mastery-joking-around type game with women? I can be the guy that jokes and pokes fun at girls, especially friends, that I'm not really attracted to just because it's a fun way to interact. But when I'm trying to flirt or have a sexual vibe with a girl, I go to the beta supplicating interview style of interacting and it's gross.

slothsenpai · 2016-04-24T14:55:41+00:00

What's the exact difference between a nice guy and an asshole and how do I get to that asshole level that women fawn over? I consider myself friendly enough with them, I unapologetically objectify girls by making comments about their bodies and asking for nudes etc (though they eat it up know that I'm a hot enough guy) but even so, they still consider me that sweet boy. What makes an asshole an 'asshole' exactly, without the blatant abuse?

Dolphintorpedo · 2016-04-24T14:06:55+00:00

The majority of my life I've been the "no filter say what's on my mind" person. Many tend to find my jokes targeting in a way and crass. Could someone point me in the direction of what type of humor attracts and what kind repulses?

Ex. 1. How can you be a Mexican and not know how to swim 2. .... Probably because you have a stick up your ass

Might it be the tone?

Kisame_X · 2016-04-24T13:16:17+00:00

How do you build attraction as a high school student

cantFindValidNam · 2016-04-24T11:55:34+00:00

Can we have a community effort to translate rollo's writings to a simpler, more friendly english? I feel like RP content is too valuable to let language get in the way.

rp_phoenix · 2016-04-24T13:21:13+00:00

Okay, here I go. My school prom is next week. The girl I'm going with, I've known for about a year, I think she showed interest in me, I just didn't see it then cause I was dumb. She broke up with a guy about a month ago, and one of her friends asked to me ask her to prom, and took her up on it. What expectations should I have for the night? Is prom really the sex fest it's made to look like? And how should/can I increase my chances?

RedDeleter · 2016-04-24T11:40:34+00:00

Wow, that's a lot of questions, this should be done weekly at least.

Okay, mine one, a small background first. Know TRP for a while, learned cooking, learning programming, diet on point, lost 20+ pouds of fat (and got like 25 more to lose until 10%bf). I migrated from PUA, so i know game theory. Don't think i am in the 20% right now. Now I got a job in campus as a janitor, being a student myself. Even if it's a low SMV job ( i keep this one because it gives me most money i can get as student in my country without investing my time + i live in same campus so i save a lot of time ).

Still got a question about game. I can pull about 2-3 phone numbers from chicks weekly in job. Drunk ones, sober ones, doesn't matter. They can throw IOI's at me (touching me, eye contact, even leaving friends just to talk with me). After i get number and want to meet them, they lose interest. They don't answer or say they don't have time or other shit. Where is the border? I just can't find this spot between losing interest and or honestly having no time.

Redasshole · 2016-04-24T10:39:40+00:00

Question about upbringing. People often say that growing up in a tough environment sucked but that it gave up the strength to overcome obstacles or the will to improve their life and make it as great as they possibly oculd (A. Schwarzeneger said that).

I had a very soft and protective upbriniging. I was not allowed to leave the house, I wasn't allow to cut my own meat until lage 14, I was sheltered and protected. How can I turn that into a strength?

ScholarInRed · 2016-04-24T10:32:40+00:00

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ronaldobob · 2016-04-24T09:54:33+00:00

I have this girl in my hometown that I'm gonna fuck during the summer. She keeps sending pictures, alot of them nudes or 'makeup on point'. Nudes almost every day. How should I respond? I pretty much ignore her random snaps,never initiate contact, and respond: cute!, sexysmirk emoticon, perfect, kissing face to the rest so she's encouraged to keep sending(Had to reqest wet pussy pic, she denied first but sent the day after).

Should I expect to keep that up for every day til summer? I don't want her to be discouraged to send, and I don't want compliment inflation

fanthor · 2016-04-24T09:42:59+00:00

i hurt a girl, real bad.

she obviously still loves me, but she also hates me at the same time. too much of a blunt asshole.

the relationship wouldnt work anyway, so its not like i'm looking to get her back.

still i need to see her everday, and i would like it if she isnt sad anymore because of me.

do i chalk it as a loss? that i would have to take responsibility, be silent and live with the newbie fuckups i made?

TimeToLiveForMe · 2016-04-24T08:46:47+00:00

I don't know if it's especially relevant to my question but I'm 24 and recently divorced (don't ask, stupid BB/blue pilled man story, no kids though, so win-some, lose-some) I've discovered the red pill in the last 6 months and so much of what it tells me resonates almost too perfectly with my recent experience, and relationship failure. As a 5'6" guy, I still struggle with inferiority complex over my height, I'm going to the gym and should soon have a very nice software engineering job lined up, so I'm currently working on the parts of my SMV that I'm able to. But what advice can you give on jumping this hurdle I'm having over my height?

dmac777 · 2016-04-24T08:08:53+00:00

ok, been lurking and reading for a few weeks now. Had a stupid thought, and perhaps it is a good question?

What would happen if, in a state with common law marriage, a guy and 4 girls moved into a house on the same date.

After the sufficient period of time according to common law, one of the girls decided to move out, and take the guy to court.

Would the court be forced to endorse polygamy, as if her "marriage" is judged to be legal, then the other 3 women would have a similar claim? Or would it be thrown out of court, thereby providing a safeguard against divorce?

Just a thought, thanks!

DruZod · 2016-04-24T07:07:18+00:00

Hey there, I'm a guy with no game. Excuse my poor English. I got a question about escalating.

I've been in this situation several times: In classroom, mostly during a break, girl sitting next to me catches my interest. Since I'm not the best for starting conversations, the best thing I can come up with is something about the matter we're studying. For example, something like "how do you calculate this?" or asking for some formula (STEM student here). Perhaps not the best introduction, but it works nonetheless. After getting an answer (I always do), I go back to minding my business because I don't know what to say next. Then, usually between 2 or four minutes after, she starts again with a similar question. I guess it's easier for her since the ice was already broken. Then again, I answer and we go back to our business. Then either of us ask again, get answered, and the cycle repeats itself until I get to go. Technically I'm having a conversation, but it's an impersonal conversation, not something that would put me in a position to invite her to hang out or give me her number ("Hey, do you know why x leads to y? what's your number btw?"). My question is how do I go from an impersonal conversation like that to a more personal conversation (like just a casual conversation)? Also, despite it being impersonal, am I wrong to assume that it could be an indicator of interest the fact that she (re)starts the conversation several times? I mean, sometimes the questions are so obvious it appears like they ask them just to give me a chance to do things right. Or that could just be my optimistic imagination, of course.

I've also been in one situation in which this conversation actually escalated from impersonal to personal. Like, talking about subjects not related to class or work, calling each other by our names instead of "hey", and some occasional flirting. The thing is, I did not make the escalation here, she did. So I still have no clue of how to do it by myself. I also realized going personal was not the endgame, but just one stage ahead of impersonal. We were still talking only in the classroom. I suppose the next stage would be going from casual conversations in the classroom to hanging out or something. I also don't know how to escalate there.

I don't think I'm attractive at all (I would consider myself quite ugly when it comes to the face, tbh), but I think I'm getting a lot of chances I'm not taking because of being so socially stupid. I wish there was some sort of manual that explained all of this things. Is there any recommended reading for folks like me?

Also, this is a bit meta, can theory weekends become a thing here? I find it a great and productive idea, this kind of direct interaction helps a lot when it comes to learning.

HearTheRaven · 2016-04-24T04:46:31+00:00

Not a question, I would just suggest that AutoMod post this thread daily.

ScholarInRed · 2016-04-24T04:18:06+00:00

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Alpha-Bromega · 2016-04-24T03:50:50+00:00

Is it necessary for a man to sleep/plate many women before settling into an LTR?

Having found TRP whole in a relationship, I always wonder this. I didn't have much success with women in high school and early college. I work on myself every day and so far I've been really good at applying TRP to my relationship. Maybe older red pullers can shed some light on this issue.

Thanks in advance

Cpt_Charles_Rhyder · 2016-04-25T21:50:32+00:00

My stupid question, is TRP worsening the problem of finding quality women? For example, we moan the loss of loyal women who can pair bond and how terrible high n-count women are but then we go look for plates which increases the count in women even higher. Plus, if you're following all the advice, you're more likely to make her an alpha widow. It seems like we're making it worse for ourselves as TRP becomes more mainstream.

vverons · 2016-04-24T08:21:21+00:00

One more stupid question. I can not get rid of my onities. I can't even hear the chicks name without getting my stomach in knots. Worst part is people tell stories about fucking her in front of me and I have to sit and pretend it doesn't bother me when it does. It's been 7 years and it doesn't go away? Any tips on making this go away?

Manmore · 2016-04-24T00:42:26+00:00

I don't know if this belongs in this thread, but here it goes: do you really think women have a lower sex drive than men? This is the only thing I've read here that I'm not convinced about.

Many times the girls I'm seeing want to have sex more than I do, and others I've talked to (old plates and random girls in relationships) often say their guys don't want to have sex with them as often as they'd like. At the same time, I'm wondering if it just is a way for them to keep their men around.

KingKoopa1893 · 2016-04-24T00:22:00+00:00

Something else that confuses me is apologizing. I'm not really active here, but I get the feeling that apologizing is not looked to well at. Forget when dealing with a woman, when you are dealing with another man, and you KNOW you have made a mistake, do you not apologize? When another man wrongs you, do you not expect an apology because it's not the alpha thing to do, or do you call him out?

KingKoopa1893 · 2016-04-24T00:12:22+00:00

What is TRP view of seeking professional help for relationships/life (therapy)?

Dec30challange · 2016-04-24T08:31:18+00:00

Advice that is repeated here ad-nauseum is that guys should focus on themselves and women will follow. My question is how does one strike a balance between this passive approach and actively pursuing them.

smokebloom · 2016-04-24T00:00:09+00:00

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RedSugarPill · 2016-04-23T23:20:53+00:00

Is there some way to easily retrieve deleted comments? Sometimes there is a response to a post, but the original comment is missing. I understand there are at least 3 different kinds of deletions, including comment removal by the user, comment removal by a mod, and wholesale removal through banning, but I'm not sure about the last one. Are there any differences between these types of deletions (for the purpose of seeing what was written)? Is there a way to easily source deleted comments using 'Undelete', perhaps through some kind of plugin such as Reddit Enhancement Suite?

Edit: thought of a 4th possibility, wherein the user deletes his account, but I think those comments stay put.

Much appreciated..

SupDummmy · 2016-04-23T23:09:59+00:00

Question for successful plate spinners:

How often do you spend time with women? I have recently adopted a day-on-day-off rule, where every other day I don't have someone over. Anyone adopted a similar regimen?

futuretrackstar · 2016-04-23T23:03:48+00:00

How much has getting bigger muscles helped you with attracting hot girls?

Magensium · 2016-04-23T22:39:37+00:00

Brain: "Oh look, he's talking to a girl. Heart, you know what to do."

Heart: "Got it, beating faster. Veins, you need some more blood bro."

Veins: "Damn, I feel that adrenaline."

In other words, my heart begins pumping really fast when I'm doing something as simple as socializing. This doesn't happen to all girls, just most of them. How can I calm the hell down?

vverons · 2016-04-24T08:36:52+00:00

How can I bring up sexual things in conversations to show my sexual intentions?

I have been trying to do simple keno like touching hands, lower back, legs, etc.. But I feel like it's going completely unnoticed and I feel the vibe is turned to just a basic conversation.

I am learning a lot here over the few year and I have been cold approaching more and more but never been able to get a f. Feeling like no matter what I do I can't get a win.

Momo_dollar · 2016-04-23T22:24:45+00:00

What does it mean when a girl makes it obvious she is giving you the "I'm assessing you" look? Is she really assessing you, I always assumed girls do that naturally and if they were they consciously doing it they wouldn't make it obvious.

My reaction when it happened last week was genuine uninterest, even thou she is probably the hottest girl in the place I was consulting at. Basically I just looked and acknowledged her presence with a facial gesture, and then looked to my right to greet the person at the desk on that side.

rpthrowitout · 2016-04-23T22:24:37+00:00

How to overcome a weird oneitis-like mind trap? I was involved with someone for a couple months I know through friends. It started with me taking her to an event and sleeping with her that night (so I did something right). We kept seeing each other until she very suddenly avoided me and my advances entirely. That was a little while ago now. I've only seen her a handful of times since then among those friends, but I cannot shake her from my mind.

Logically it makes no sense. I find her attractive but a couple of my friends assure me she's only decent. She was kind of weird, boring, damaged, closed-off, rude at times. Tons of serious red flags. The sex was pretty good but it never got too interesting. I had a hard time making the most of it since so many interactions could get awkward and she could be weirdly picky.

I don't know how to stop it. I think it's partly the suddenness and lack of closure, so I keep going over what went wrong. I've also convinced myself there was tons of untapped sexual potential, which is annoying. But I don't have other plates or enough game to simply move to the next thing. It's frustrating because I know she's not that great, it never got serious and I wasn't trying to make it serious anyway, especially considering the red flags.

Part question, part vent.

AnAbsoluteSith · 2016-04-23T21:10:10+00:00

TLDR: How do I fully swallow the pill if my personal experiences thus far don't always reflect what I've learned here?

Extremely watered down version of the story:

I have a woman who I have been close friends for years and has stuck around with me through my worst times (cancer and other things). She is the only woman in the past few years who I'd ever consider LTR'ing. She continuously displays good qualities and goes above and beyond for me in her actions. Unfortunately her and her family migrated so it never happened. We stayed close friends and she became my "international plate" ie: she sends me 1080p videos of her doing whatever I ask of her. She saved up and visited me some months back literally just to fuck me. Things continued that way until I stopped it. She starts med school and I start law school soon. Her hope was to keep me there until we're done school so we can actually get together.

The Point is: she has never done me any wrong. As a result I've never gone through the kind of hurt that some other guys in this sub experienced that really woke them up. Everything I've learned here in the past year makes complete sense, but when I factor her into the equation it gets all confusing. Call it "oneitis" or whatever you want but I think it's preventing me from swallowing whole heartedly. What do I do?

SIDE NOTES:

Take into account cultural differences. A lot of what I described probably sounds like alien hogwash to you because where I live is a post colonial society that is a lot more traditional and conservative compared to the US/western states. It is by no means perfect and hypergamy stirs restlessly in all women here, but there are still pockets of them who are decent.
AWALT. Trust me I am well aware of it. Her compliance and devotion for me thus far has only come thanks to finding TRP. If I don't do my part; hold frame, lead her, have higher than average social value, I probably would not have this loyalty. I am well aware that she can just say fuck it and go ride Chad's Dick Airways^TM anytime she wants.
Going to the gym now to do squats. Lord knows I need it. All constructive response are appreciated. Thanks

Future_Alpha · 2016-04-23T20:27:03+00:00

Question 1 Does one need to be an 'asshole' who doesn't care about those around him to succeed with women? I'm a pretty nice dude by nature and don't usually try to be an asshole to people who aren't an asshole to me first.

Is it possible to be Alpha as well as a nice dude who cares about the girl and keep her attracted to you? Or does one need to go full Dark Triad?

Question 2 I know what to talk about with other dudes (money, women, video games, lifting, philosophy, books, science, etc) but I have no idea what interests women. I don't find conversations about shoes, or who is fucking who to be particularly interesting. So what does one talk about with a woman on a date? I heard that women consider talking about 'smart' things to be boring. Is that true?

NuclearTruthBomb · 2016-04-23T17:07:37+00:00

Now does somebody admire masculinity? Maybe its just how I'm wired, but there's little appealing to me to someone who exudes confidence to the point of arrogance. I also never loved "guy talk", sports, or mechanics. Trying to emulate these men for sexual success seems like sacrificing everything about my identity for a quick orgasm. Yet I know that my tastes and the role models I aspire to be are pretty unconventional, and I won't be rewarded for being myself.

Thenextprince · 2016-04-23T19:55:29+00:00

I'm usually 7-8/8 1/2"-ish inches erect. I've been jerking off to porn a lot for the last few months, and only reach like 5"-6" now. I stopped watching porn a week ago. Besides that, what else can i do so my dick will go back to its original erect lentgth? Just give it time?

manlykeAbz · 2016-04-23T19:50:53+00:00

Severely lacking in social skills.I'm unable to hold a normal conversation in school. Anyone know a way to improve my social skills?

10211799107 · 2016-04-23T19:26:02+00:00

Thanks to /u/redpillschool, everyone should be brushing up on all the basics by now. This enabled me to recap some theory and reflect on my LTR and how I believe it works, what I do that makes her till this day, love me(aka love me right now still).

I plan on starting a post or few posts with my observations and what I do. It won't be some googled psychology theory but things I do physically(and emotionally ) to keep the train going. I'm not perfect, just some guy implementing things that so far is working.

This is not a question but rather a thanks to this community. I'm also interested, when I post, on opinions on certain topics I'm unsure of and experiences of others.

manlykeAbz · 2016-04-23T18:42:19+00:00

any advice on developing game for a 17 year old?

trancedj · 2016-04-23T18:37:46+00:00

I have another one. I've had a couple opportunities to game some young women in the check out line at my local grocer. Every fucking time some post wall cunt is in line behind me and I've backed down because I was concerned about what their reaction would be. Im 40 but could easily pass for 35. Both opportunities have been with girls half half my age or more. I draw the line at 18, just saying. Should I be concerned with gaming young women in plain sight of post wall women? Or even other men for that matter?

dimarond · 2016-04-23T18:29:54+00:00

"What if she gets pregnant, because of me? " Does any of you get this thought a few days after sex. Or am I just being paranoid?

And theoretically let's say that I get a girl pregnant and she wants to keep my baby. What can I do not to get fucked over besides getting a vasectomy yesterday?

trancedj · 2016-04-23T18:29:50+00:00

Should I tell my 25 year old plate that I'm banging to forget about me and marry her fiancé? That I'll never commit to her and that if she wants a family she should marry her bb? It's not a morality question, just kinda feel like I should warn her that if she's looking to branch swing this branch won't hold her.

M1s4n7hr0p3 · 2016-04-23T18:22:26+00:00

I would like to ask about something I like to call "The Lebowski Effect." I struggle with cold approach due to a lack of social finesse from being in the USMC. I'm often told I'm too direct and intimidating in some ways.

Specifically, when I'm clean cut, shaved, dressed well and groomed I seem to regularly strike out. When I'm scruffy, unshowered, rocking a dirty t-shirt and shorts and sandals I seem to have a huge improvement in my success rate for cold approach.

What are some reasons this could be the case?

Lord_Fucker · 2016-04-23T18:15:50+00:00

I usually have no problems with approaching women, but my gym game is weak. It's difficult because they're always doing cardio or machines while I'm at the power racks or doing free weights. It comes off as unnatural and forced when I just walk up to a girl on the other side of the gym and try to start chatting.

What kinds of approaches do you recommend in a gym setting? Looking for replies from people with tried and true methods, not speculation.

DannyDemotta · 2016-04-23T17:59:01+00:00

In the gym, how do you tell if a woman is legit interested in you if she has in, and keeps on, her headphones, and isn't talking to anyone else? Like, you're minding your own business, lifting heavy shit, have on some sick threads, smile on your face having a good time, etc, and good-looking girls gravitate around you. You're doing cable push-downs - suddenly, she needs to do cable leg extensions. You're Benching - now some other girl is doing her ass/leg dumbbell routine 4 feet in front of you. Is she just fucking with you, irritated you won't acknowledge her presence like all the other lemmings - but as soon as you do, she'll just turn and leave?

Asking for a friend.

QPRCHOC · 2016-04-23T17:53:05+00:00

Is insecurity and lack of confidence something to be valued in a girl? This girl I've been seeing had a messed up childhood where neither of her parents took very good care of her and she clearly has issues with trust and confidence (she wanted to make sure I didn't have a girlfriend on our first date).

Bearing this in mind, she's also the kind of girl I imagine I can wrap around my finger quite easily. Is this a desired TRP situation or am I misreading red flags?

BlackJ1 · 2016-04-23T17:51:08+00:00

What's the explanation to the commonly held belief that: "Women love assholes."?

Is it just masculine behavior being misinterpreted as "asshole behavior" due to the constant scorn of it in today's society?

SupDummmy · 2016-04-23T17:43:59+00:00

What's the truth on monogamy? I haven't been monogamous for a good 9 months, am spinning 2-3 plates, and only vaguely see the appeal of getting in a relationship again (keeping someone sexually exclusive, satisfying my possessive insecurities).

Is monogamy fundamentally un-RP? I'm 30.

FarOrAMess · 2016-04-23T17:35:46+00:00

I got one - how should I go about being dominant in environments where masculinity isn't really admired?

For example, I'm currently studying music production in college, and while one of the students is a classic alpha (muscular, great with women, extroverted), yet he's not really socially successful in our environment because, well, he's the Israeli stereotypical equivalent of a dumb jock. While one of the more mysterious, yet super shy and introverted guys is probably the most socially "acclaimed" dude .

cockstantino · 2016-04-23T17:33:02+00:00

How can I tell if she's a "good girl" or a slut without having to fuck her and accidentally alpha windowing what would have been wife material?

Recently i had a day where i was on fire. I've been getting intense IOIs from almost every girl I know on campus, in the bus, etc. but this one day several girls who I thought were innocent started talking really dirty to me (subcommunication) and making moaning sounds around me pretending they were tired.

I'm confused. It's well known around our engineering group that this one girl is impossible to get with and is a virgin with religious parents. And I get these signs from her. Not sure what do pls halp

Redasshole · 2016-04-23T17:12:16+00:00

Why is being able to drink lots and lots of alcohol at parties something admired by both girls and men? I don't drink alcohol and it always baffles me when they treat that as some kind of feat of strength and value..

Title	Theory Weekend - No Stupid Questions Thread Part II
Author	redpillschool
Upvotes	70
Comments	481
Date	April 23, 2016 4:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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