How do I stop getting cucked?

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-01-01T19:51:50+00:00

If she kissed with you and then with some other random dude, she is just there to have fun and that’s it.

I know it can hurt your ego, but let’s be real it’s not like she was really gonna have a romantic relationship with the other guy or you after that party.

TheDynamicKing · 2022-01-01T19:49:25+00:00

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ScreamingButtholes · 2022-01-01T22:36:45+00:00

Nothing really, she’s there to have fun and dance/makeout with the most attractive guy that comes up to her. What you should’ve done is move on, forget about her, and hit on someone else and have your own fun. Don’t let some rando ruin your new year’s eve.

I used to get hung up like you when I failed with a girl but now I just brush it off and have my own fun and it’s been a lot more successful. Sometimes they even see you enjoying yourself without her and will come around.

Alex_O7 · 2022-01-01T21:25:57+00:00

Lol you were not cucked, before you could be cucked have to be in a relationship with a girl.

So next time worry less about a loss and just enjoy the night. If a girl isn't into you and prefere someone else is your fault only till a certain limit. Move to the next one and smooth the edges of your "game" to not make the same mistake all the time.

jellyroll20 · 2022-01-01T21:57:14+00:00

You got out competed.

That's the game.

Sucks.

Kiltmanenator · 2022-01-01T20:48:45+00:00

You weren't cucked.

She wasn't with you and didn't owe you anything.

Don't expect girlfriend-level loyalty from some girl you just met at a club on New Year's Eve.

EikechiOnizuka · 2022-01-01T20:56:26+00:00

Easy, stop acting like one ! Stop dwelling and start hitting the gym and not give a fuck about some hoe at the club

Alextryingforgrate · 2022-01-01T20:13:16+00:00

Women know how to play the game better than guys do. Any club chick always gets that sort of attention and is in it for the attention. That 6 2 chad that cock blocked you is her fantasy or better option. The same way guys fantasize over club chicks. Yeah she liked you because you showed interested and showed that you go for what you want. Just keep showing chicks you have confidence and you'll get yourself a chick. Just remember she and other women always has better options, what ever their standards are.

Glengarry_Leads · 2022-01-02T00:27:09+00:00

The mature answer is to find another chick, shit happens. The ego macho man answer would be to push that guy out of the way. Here's the thing tho, fights always start because of shit like this and totally not worth it even if you can fuck the guy up because nowadays you never know who's carrying a gun or is mma trained etc. Go watch active self defense on YouTube and you'll see lots of deaths and fights because of women and bars and alcohol lol. Messed up.

Silly-Leg-1124 · 2022-01-01T18:25:29+00:00

She’s wasn’t the quality girl you’re looking for

defpara · 2022-01-01T21:13:32+00:00

That guy knew yall werent dating. You thought you had all night. That dude put alot of effort in one moment and she fed. You could've kept fighting for her. But dnt trip you did well just move on try again.

Evo3-HD · 2022-01-01T18:44:20+00:00

You could do the same shit and find another girl. Some people are just like that & you can usually tell.

IOnlyCameToArgue · 2022-01-01T20:27:15+00:00

This whole game is just one nasty orgy. She wasn't yours, it was just your turn.

Talliss1 · 2022-01-02T00:06:30+00:00

Problem is you think you're special or deserve some kind of special treatment. So what, you thought you were her dream man because yall were flirting and kissing at a club on NYE? You think you're the ONLY guy she'd do that with because you're special? Lol Focus on yourself, improve daily, and women will chase you.

DarkSun18 · 2022-01-01T21:13:22+00:00

Block them or pull her away?? No, holy shit! She had no obligation to you, she chose another guy, move on.

MeWuzBornIn1990 · 2022-01-01T19:04:04+00:00

Personally I wouldn’t have gone to a club. I would’ve bar hopped.

JD42305 · 2022-01-01T22:02:11+00:00

You're afraid that you looked weak, but any other play in that situation other than moving on will make you look weak. Trying to pull her away from him would've done nothing but make you look pathetic and diminish your own dignity. You cannot force a woman to be with you. You let her do what she wants, and how she acts dictates how much time and effort you spend on her. If you let her be free, and the second you turn you back she gets with another guy, first of all, she's not a quality woman, and second of all, the only thing you can control thereafter is how you respond, and immediately moving on is the only play.

I, along with many men, have experienced the very same thing you have experienced. It happens. When you go looking for "love" or whatever at a club, you're going to run into a lot of unclassy club hoes that exhibit such behavior as making out or switching to multiple guys. You can do nothing but laugh it off, take the loss, and try to salvage the rest of the night by having fun without her. These things will happen, and as you have more experience, the easier it will be to let it go. It sucks balls in the moment, and I know very well the moment of humiliation you feel when you see your girl ditched you for another guy. However, it's just one night, and if you give it a few months, I bet you won't remember her name. Now, maybe you shouldn't have walked away from her after you were already dancing, but there's a fine line between sealing the deal with a girl you've targeted and created a rapport with, and being clingy and possessive. All in all, how the night went down is mostly about who she is, and not what you did or could've done better.

Decumulate · 2022-01-01T22:29:14+00:00

Perhaps you should perfect your game in venues where people aren’t getting so wasted that they latch on to whatever gives the next emotional thrill. Try day game. The environment you were in last night is more random and unpredictable by nature, and you’d have to be much more confident in yourself to control it. Day game is easier.

The woman leaves you not because the guy is more attractive - she leaves you because she finds you blah and he is giving more of an emotional thrill. If you stand out as different, she would tell the other guy to F off and stick with you. That’s how women are.

Jay-Ames · 2022-01-01T22:28:12+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. I have been through as well. But i have also done this to other guys. Literally stole their girls while they were talking to them. I never got beaten up or rejected by girls doing this. And trust me, i should given the stunts i have pulled. But me being so hyper focussed and confident makes him back off or overwhelmed and makes her want me.

It is like the confidence of a guy doing this plus her feeling wanted is just intoxicating for them.

You walked away and that is good. No need to get into a fight for some girl.

Just learn from this. You were already doing better than most guys because you were close. Next time you increase your confidence level to the same level that guy had (without stealing girls). So next time you will do better.

Also try to have multiple options options open. Losing one girl Will hurt less and women will find it attractive. They will say they hate it but they will actually only hate that they love it. Just don't wave it in their face.

One more thing. Sometimes you come across a girl that just wants to be fucked. Don't give her the girlfriend treatment. Be direct.

bestinwpb · 2022-01-01T19:49:27+00:00

Gotta go get another one it sometimes happens

whomeverIwishtobe · 2022-01-01T23:42:20+00:00

Why didn’t you try starting something up with another girl? That’s what I would have done.

Clearly you did make a mistake by giving the space needed for another dude to start doing what you were just doing with her, and if you hadn’t maybe you’d have gotten further with her. That’s not what happened though. Learning opportunity. When you meet a girl who wants fun keep the fun going or she will find someone else to.

OppaLadyKiller · 2022-01-02T00:15:38+00:00

"Girls just wanna have fun"

Dryingpan101 · 2022-01-02T00:19:54+00:00

She wasnt yours, it was just your turn. If you arent dating her then it isnt being cucked

ChrisFarleysCousin · 2022-01-02T00:51:47+00:00

Bro theres like a billion fine ass women out there im sure youll get another

dvidalm1983 · 2022-01-02T01:17:16+00:00

You could have avoid that situation telling her sooner in the night ‘lets get out of here’ or asking ‘wanna get out of here’ (implying sex). U had her interest, was aiready kissing, just pop the question next time bro. The worst that can happen is her saying no and you can move on

eyesopen1111 · 2022-01-02T01:53:58+00:00

Lol. This is a dark side of Game called AMOG--alpha male other guy--where sometimes you are the AMOG and other times someone else is.

When you GET AMOG'd it absolutely sucks. It happened to me early on and yes, I know firsthand how it sucks. (Too bad you skipped the reading on how to protect yourself).

[rant: To GenZ, GenX was publishing on all of this 20 fucking years ago. Do you honestly think reinventing the wheel is where you should spend your time?? And what’s this I read about the skyrocketing male virginity rates happening in Gen Z? You are the worst generation measured when it comes to getting laid, so please consider reading up on the topic of Game from guys who have real body counts and lost virginity as 14-16 year old high schoolers.]

One day, if you learn and choose to be, you’ll be the AMOG, but for now, watch out for AMOG guys and bounce to friendlier locations with your girl when you spot them. Do not create openings for them or challenge them. They’ll just make you look worse. Do not befriend or engage them. If you have numbers, look at them like you want to kick their ass so they don’t come anywhere near your group. An ounce of prevention is worth pound of cure.

massacry · 2022-01-02T02:42:46+00:00

That’s a cockblock. Not a cuckold.

The only way to stop a cockblock from going down is to be a bigger cockblock and go up to the guy and rub your ass on his cock so you ruin his shot at blocking yours.

Use the force.

You’re welcome.

mynextaccount3 · 2022-01-01T23:19:28+00:00

look up the old school AMOG tactics. it takes some practice and embarrassing yourself at first but eventually you could snag her right back. and that’s just for pulling. obviously a chick like that isn’t relationship material.

Lord_Augastus · 2022-01-02T00:02:09+00:00

Touching and kissing, escalate..... Also create sexua tension, kissing and touching is flirting and foreplay and if given liberally will not create tension (push pull i think they call it).

So you warmed her up and left her on standby, some guy came buy with sexual appeal and he took over your warmed spot. You needed to do more than just get to the touching and kissing, it has to go somewhere.

Also I agree with others untill you are married, consider your partner to be even with a commitment conversation to be able to have freedom to see who she likes.

mattgk39 · 2022-01-02T00:02:49+00:00

You just let a girl like that go and go find another girl who won’t do that to you. And I know this is easier said than done, but that’s the best thing to do. What would really make you look weak is desperately trying to “win back” a girl who just shit on you like that. Strength means having respect for yourself and not letting things like this shatter your ego. Choose people who choose you. If you’ve put in effort into someone and they don’t choose you, then there’s nothing else to do.

gannex · 2022-01-02T01:34:06+00:00

Once you've got things to that comfortable level of touch with a girl, you've got to lock that shit down. Suggest to get out of there. You have a narrow window of opportunity. If a woman from a bar is acting dtf, it means she's dtf, and all the other guys in the bar can pick up on it and are jealous of you. If you don't take initiative quickly, a more dominant guy will come cockblock you quickly. If it ends up happening, you have to subtyl insult the guy in front of the girl until he goes away, but it's a really unpleasant situation, so you're better off just asking the girl to go home with you as soon as she makes you aware that she's down.

forest0514 · 2022-01-02T02:17:42+00:00

Dude she wasn't even your gf, i mean if she wanted to screw any guy no much you could've done there.

Andrew-LeRoy · 2022-01-02T03:54:17+00:00

Was her name Chlamydia?

Blubehriluv · 2022-01-01T22:40:20+00:00

Also remember, if y'all came onto each other that quickly she can leave just as quick if not, quicker. She did it to you, she's done it to someone else.

Main_Clear · 2022-01-01T22:52:40+00:00

You were just The warm up dude 🤣 she wanted something epic for Nye , who doesn't ? She wasn't your gf so it is what it is ,if you had if met some other chick who was hot af and half drunk ...??! wanna spend special moments? get a real gf 😋 happy new year's ✌️

ikeepon · 2022-01-01T18:47:52+00:00

What is there to do? You can’t force people to act the way you want them to. Having said that, you should’ve introduced yourself to him and hung around. From his point of view she was just some single broad and he picked her up. Or maybe they knew each other (people don’t usually introduce themselves via a hug). Point is you don’t know because you reduced yourself to a bystander and allowed someone to move in unscathed. Next time join the group, disarm the other guy by befriending him and her and not backing down.

kisschicken · 2022-01-02T00:38:59+00:00

You just need to become 6’2” and muscular.

SplashOfBlack2020 · 2022-01-02T01:21:15+00:00

Make your move and get her outta there faster next time! That big dude did what you should have been doing. 🤷🏾‍♂️

CreatingDestroying · 2022-01-01T22:36:34+00:00

She belongs to the streets bro. You’ll be fine without her

Noblejunior · 2022-01-01T23:02:41+00:00

Nah bro don’t be hard on yourself she’s for the Street and onto the Streets she belongs

Dbest9 · 2022-01-01T21:32:57+00:00

Never be emotionally invested in girls at clubs. Soon as she does that you go and talk to other girls. It's the game do not be bothered. Talk to other girls and create a fun vibe.

SpecialistDesk9297 · 2022-01-01T22:11:13+00:00

You can’t and it’s not worth it to be honest. If the girl wanted to really be with you she would have chosen you, but instead she chose mr macho man. Let him have her not worth it.

Otman1818 · 2022-01-01T23:03:39+00:00

She sounds like a high traffic zone.... Fuck that shit

DevilDog709 · 2022-01-02T00:56:38+00:00

Hit the gym get fit only answer you need find a good gym buddy with the weights and threw time you will see result trust the gym

precense_ · 2022-01-02T01:01:59+00:00

you got emotionally invested bc she kissed you and held your hand, didn’t mean that much to her. Obvious bc the way she flaked as soon as she saw someone of higher value

Kobe_curry24 · 2022-01-02T01:08:08+00:00

She was nooo good once she leaves you and goes with another man that just lets you know she’s not a good women ,for game wise this is why you gotta go after women quick and early stick and move like boxing

13Xxx21 · 2022-01-02T01:39:53+00:00

A typical of a bar girl, don't get your hopes up in a bar, and definitely don't look for a relationship in such a venue.

"Lookin' for love in all the wrong places"
-Mickey Gilley

Lots of fish in the sea

Winter-Compote-9895 · 2022-01-02T01:39:56+00:00

I was at a NYE house party and one other girl insisted we go down stars and dance around with people on the streets. There was a guy that tried to grab her and make a move but she pushed him off! Lol, I think it depends on the girl. Don’t take it seriously and move on quickly.

chrisj654321 · 2022-01-02T01:41:13+00:00

Don’t go to the club with girls unless you’re very serious and have tons of value inside and outside of the club.

sooochris · 2022-01-02T01:53:02+00:00

Train muay thai and bjj. Put him to sleep next time.

5_7pickup · 2022-01-02T02:17:21+00:00

Your problem is that you never had her in the first place. If you can't let go of a girl and get her back later then you never had her in the first place.

How to remedy this situation? You need to more value and more comfort. If you offer so much value and you've built alot of comfort, she wouldn't have left you to begin with. The solution is to just be better at game during the initial interaction so she wouldn't want to leave you. It isn't "how to prevent guys from stealing my girl".

And yes, you should have definitely asked her to leave with you after the first bar. Why would you go to another venue when you could just pull to your place? That's another huge mistake you made. That was a logistical mistake on your part.

French-Johnny-Utah · 2022-01-02T02:31:24+00:00

She was never yours. It was just your time.

Plastic_Gas8682 · 2022-01-02T02:35:30+00:00

She just wanted attention. You filled it for a while and then she got it from someone else.

Don't take it too seriously

ProductivityMonster · 2022-01-02T03:57:21+00:00

you stop going to clubs to pick up women. It's really that easy. Clubbing to pick up women is mainly for the super physically attractive guys.

Now, if you happen to actually enjoy clubs for the music or whatever, then by all means continue to go.

inthebackground89 · 2022-01-02T03:58:18+00:00

The comments are brutal but honest

peykari · 2022-01-02T04:04:39+00:00

you just missed a threesome opportunity, not cucked.

Hatedbyfathertime · 2022-01-02T04:05:29+00:00

You should have ran around the club jumping/bouncing into him- using all of your weight as a catapult to make him fall over, wobble uncontrollably away an out of her sphere of influence & you into her sphere.

You should’ve done this randomly & strategically. Planning for each time the bass or song drops. Just BOOM. Hurdling yourself into his side. Every time he pushes you or hits you away. Ran cohesively back into the crowd. Just to strike again. Like a cobra. And danced with her every second until he came back. But, shouldn’t attempted kissing her again after she kissed him. After all, you have to assert your dominance some how. And let the club know. Ruin there night. Run me off. Make em have to get a room an make babies. Be so damn sneaky with your surprise dive bombings that even security is left scratching their own heads running around in circles trying to kick you out. If you do it right the next time they will have a picture of your face on a list of people banned from the premises. That’s why you wear a moustache Pete at the front, and whip that shit off once you get into the crowd. Once this no longer becomes a feasible aim. Easy.

Just move to the next big city over, and wash rinse an repeat.

Correct_Law_7171 · 2022-01-02T04:31:10+00:00

Dude, just let it go. She was never yours to begin with. If she had any consideration for you then she would have come back to you. You should have been dancing with other women too, then it would not have bothered you that another dude got in there. Easy come easy go. The enthesis on the night out was to have fun. If you pull then that is a bonus, but it is not the b all and end all.

norwegianmorningw00d · 2022-01-02T04:35:04+00:00

She belongs to the streets. Just move along.

RPslimjim · 2022-01-01T20:41:22+00:00

You missed out on a hook up that night dude. In the future don’t let go of her. Get her away from the crowd. Keep up the intensity and do your thing.

Chronfidence · 2022-01-01T21:26:10+00:00

Look at it this way that dude got the luxury of making out with a chick who just made out with someone else. He’s really winning

GitGud_Pirates_Inc · 2022-01-01T20:31:48+00:00

The quality of people tends to consistently match the environment. It's New York especially a NYE party (chicks more often than not are there to get exactly what you would assume) you're in a club as well.

redeyerds · 2022-01-01T22:03:14+00:00

Shouldn't have let go of her

DrinksAreOnTheHouse · 2022-01-01T21:31:40+00:00

Not your fault and not about you. Shes just a ho. She’ll do the same to that guy in another environment.

Blackcat0123 · 2022-01-02T02:43:48+00:00

Well, your first step there is to stop referring to this person as "your girl", as she clearly isn't yours, never was, and you're setting yourself up for disappointment by thinking someone you're having fun with at a party is immediately yours.

It sucks and the ego is bruised, sure. But that relationship clearly wasn't going anywhere.

Mundane-Currency5088 · 2022-01-01T20:16:38+00:00

Yes. If she was interested in you she would have told that guy. She wasn't. She chose to take a nuerotyplical "easy" way out. I'm not nuerotyplical so I would be direct and just tell you I'm not interested and why. So now people call me the ice queen. I'm ok with that

SuaveFuck · 2022-01-02T00:00:26+00:00

"my girl"? what a possessive douche you are. you met a girl. she danced with you. this does make her fuck all to you. she's free in her actions. if she had been your actual GF...well, different story. i somehow wish you had "intervened physically". they both would have laughed you off or brushed you off harshly, and had you kept being obnoxious AF, youd have been escorted off the premises.

if you have a shot at a girl....stay at it at all costs. its not you who looks weak, its your mindset thats endlessly weak. you only have yourself to blame.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-01T19:14:07+00:00

Nice guys finish last.

Ephraim_Winslow1891 · 2022-01-01T23:40:07+00:00

Reason #764 why I do not go to clubs lmao

rudebwoy100 · 2022-01-02T00:03:34+00:00

Vet your girls better, if she liked you this wouldn't be happening to you. I've had a girl do this to me before and i just left her so you also need to have some self respect if this happens on a first date and not tolerate that shit. You aren't a cuck if you don't tolerate the behaviour and know when to cut your losses.

MentalCelOmega · 2022-01-01T21:20:22+00:00

Sorry mate, but if you don't got good genes or high tier on the social caste system, then expect to get cucked if a female gets spotted by a genetically superior male. That's just how nature works. My advice would be to stay at home next time.

fkthlemons · 2022-01-01T22:12:44+00:00

Next time maybe look at it as a bit of fair competition, dance right back over there and remain in her vision but keep dancing like you don’t care. Who knows, she might get sick of him and swing back to you or while you’re focussing on her, another girl might come your way

williamroberthoss · 2022-01-02T03:45:41+00:00

Become uncuckable. You already know the answer. Become the person you need to be. Oh and Get off Reddit it’s a waste of time

rudebwoy100 · 2022-01-01T22:10:24+00:00

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sh1ftyswar · 2022-01-01T23:08:17+00:00

Fuck man idk, maybe stab a motherfucker next time shit....that's rough.

Edit: actually don't stab anyone,

....or do IDGAF

batalieee · 2022-01-01T23:17:53+00:00

Why didn’t you just find another girl then?

coldbrew18 · 2022-01-01T23:25:46+00:00

You aren’t a cuck in this situation, she was never yours.

rogue_52 · 2022-01-01T23:55:54+00:00

You don’t even know the girl you didn’t get cucked

supacigna69 · 2022-01-02T00:09:23+00:00

A lot of times it’s not about the best game. It’s about whoever is the most persistent.

Band1c0t · 2022-01-02T00:31:40+00:00

It seems you’re lacking of social club situation, this is when you need to show dominant, there’s no woman wants to be with a weak or coward dude, they want a guy who will protect them. If the girl is with you and enjoy her time, then you need to take her back, unless if she walks away, then you don’t chase.

In your case, you need to be smart, show your dominant and chill, tell the guy that she’s your date and she’s with you, any sane guy would understand and walk away.

Never ever give your girl away and just letting her to decide if she likes you enough, then she wouldn’t dance with other dude, you as a man need to take the lead

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-02T00:33:05+00:00

Think of this shitty situation as a chance to get better at what they call AMOGing. The best thing I think to do is just go and try and start talking to the girl again. This is a bitch to do when she's now engaged with another dude, but I think this is a skill in itself. Eventually you will get more and more good and pulling the girl back from other dudes.

However try and not let it happen from the start of course. But I would try not to be afraid that it's going to happen if you let the girl go for 2 seconds, because sometimes that is kindof necessary.

sunkized · 2022-01-02T00:37:54+00:00

That's just club culture. I've made out with women and then left and danced and made out with someone else. Now that I think about it, it's kinda gross

eonaled11 · 2022-01-02T00:57:35+00:00

She belongs to the street!!!

spiffyknobber · 2022-01-02T01:51:05+00:00

Lol enjoy the covid from some bimbo sucking face with everyone on NYE. Hi, Stop whining and lift bruh

Sensitive-Permit-877 · 2022-01-02T02:05:46+00:00

You arnt a cuck you have oneitis. She could smell your want of her and only her. You need to do as you were doing up until you get to club. Talk with other women. Dance with other women she will chase you all night. Or you go home with another woman. Two things all the women see you entering with a woman thats a massive plus. Two she chases you women see this as abundance more bonus.

TTV-DontEvnTrip · 2022-01-02T02:32:32+00:00

To be honest a lot of these people are right about the girl wanting to just have fun but those answers won’t help you. You missed a crucial stage in real attraction for a women. You didn’t build a mental connection. You said touched kissed flirty danced. But you didn’t have a deep or meaningful conversation with her at any point in the night, you need to be able to create a real connection and that means conversation is a must. Obviously this might not be that scenario but you asked what you may lack and it seems like deeper conversation, that way if you really did like each other you would of exchanged numbers and planned on talking more later. Good luck keep trying and don’t get so attached so fast that you can get upset and ruin an entire night over something like that. In reality you should of had a great night dancing/kissing/ making new friends. Instead of feeling bad for yourself saying you are an inferior man which is not the case

not_shajal · 2022-01-02T03:18:00+00:00

It was your turn till someone came along

dryo · 2022-01-02T03:26:37+00:00

How to stop being cucked? Define if the situation asseses as "being cucked" and that sometimes you don't get the last word

no_please · 2022-01-02T03:31:51+00:00

That's kinda funny. I know it hurts but maybe try learning to laugh this off in future. I don't really have experience in this arena but if you've been talking and hanging out and being somewhat intimate with a girl for a while and she literally walks off in 1 second when someone more attractive looks at her, what more can you do? That's just a little weird to me and besides being upset about not getting laid, do you REALLY wanna be involved with someone so incredibly easy? Maybe that guy had the same thing happen to him a minute later lol

Amkg2020 · 2022-01-02T04:29:25+00:00

Nah definitely don't be a blocker

nbh1995 · 2022-01-02T04:40:22+00:00

Well you could have re-engaged with her but that is a bit dangerous...

Emdeeze · 2022-01-02T04:59:23+00:00

If this is the type of girls you are trying to hook up with and it always seems to end up the same way Youre trying to get with the wrong girls.

Plus. This is exactly what happens when trying to hook up at bars and or clubs

Lifedeather · 2022-01-02T05:08:37+00:00

Tf lol, if you physically blocked him how do you think that would have ended. Think Turbulent Clock Think, being passive was the right move. If she would leave with anyone, obviously you aren’t that important to her.

samcrow · 2022-01-02T05:14:10+00:00

easy come; easy go

Zealousideal-Bar-154 · 2022-01-02T05:17:21+00:00

You grab that man by his muscular neck with your soft hand and let him know he has 2 choices; Let her go or … (you fill in the rest with a creative threat). If you’re creative enough, the dude runs off, the girl runs to you. You look like a badass and bam. (Hint: You could also just hand him $20 to walk away and still- BAM) I’ve been given $20 to leave the girl- skinny tech guy I had taken the girl frim one night. Didn’t even see him. Would have given her back but he handed me a dub for it anyways. Cheers mateZ there’s plenty of fish!

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-01-02T05:38:50+00:00

Ouch brutal.

Well it is clear what you have to do. Be tall.

GamerArcher98 · 2022-01-02T05:48:42+00:00

Jealousy is a powerful emotion. Show that it doesn’t bother you next time and dance with another girl or group of girls if that’s better as well

NewbieCasanova · 2022-01-02T06:05:30+00:00

The advice in this sub Reddit has gone to shit. It's a bunch of mainstream media advice. Stick with PUA content not "from a girls" advice.

You need to control your environment. You had the ability to lead the girl but instead you walked away. Next time bring her with you. She was with the other guy because you didn't build enough value.

BravoSix98 · 2022-01-02T06:08:29+00:00

Build muscles ✌

Delicatestatesmen · 2022-01-02T06:25:37+00:00

This has happened to many men gaming, she wasn’t that into you. Infact by her moving on to another guy saved you, shes for the streets. Remember women choose.

Women are non confrontational but will tell a guy to go away if they are not interested. They will also move to another guy if not interest. Nice way of saying get lost!

know-one is in control of anyone.

Never kiss a girl at a club unless your on a date and the nights progressed to that and its a fast kiss to give her a sample and show your not afraid of intimacy and a kiss is a- proceed to your house after or another spot.

You come off as thirsty. Never anchor in making out in public. You have to push her away when you show interest or do something to show disinterest. I believe you showed too much interest also.

1.) Quick kiss- push away lets get a drink! 2.) quick kiss- lets check out this other spot!

Wrong Way—-bad- kiss kiss kiss make out- hold hands - hold waist dont move away dont show disinterest - she gets boyfriend vibe or feels your not a challenge.

Also try to game other girls when your with the girl to allow her to not feel that your claiming her. You need to do push and pull more.

you also bounced her to a place with more men which is risky, I usually bounce girls to quieter less men spots that last thing I need is someone taking my hard earned work

creativeoutlaw44 · 2022-01-02T06:27:14+00:00

Girls + drinking + party environment = anything goes

Same can be true for guys, but it's more obvious with girls.

Sucks, but you'll do better next time.

tryingmybestatm · 2022-01-02T06:37:10+00:00

u didnt get cucked, the thing is this was a " not your girl just your turn" situation. why are you emotionally invested in a girl you just met?

tryingmybestatm · 2022-01-02T06:41:02+00:00

guys what if this was op's girlfriend and he stopped holding her for a second and this guy tries to hug her and pull her away, what would be your reaction as op.

TheOtherSonOfGod · 2022-01-02T06:47:03+00:00

A woman likes to know when she is desired by a man. The next time you meet a girl you find exciting, let her know right away! Make her " yours" by telling her how much you like her, and how she makes you feel. This isn't "game" , you're telling her the truth! You can't expect a woman to stay with you because you found her first. Tell her how you feel.

Sweet-Remote-7556 · 2022-01-02T06:47:35+00:00

she wasn't yours, you had an incomplete turn.

L3Kinsey · 2022-01-02T06:59:51+00:00

No one's going to talk about his misogyny here, cuz damn.

She wanted attention. You're better off not being the one giving it to her. On to the next!

Pro Tip: look up the definition of the word before using it in your title.

random_question4123 · 2022-01-02T18:50:39+00:00

IMO, you don’t have to lock her down for the whole night but you have to get her while she’s hot. That can be done by either just taking her home there and then, taking her outside or to a separate section to get a bit more touchy and to make it known that she’s with you, not with the group. Your mistake was actually going to the club with her in the first place, since you’d already locked her down in the bar. She didn’t go to the club with you, she went to the club with the group.

Once she went off to dance with herself, there’s nothing you can do, just let her have her fun. If she was dancing with the guy, you can’t act jealous, it’s a turnoff. But you have to do something. You could have gone over to them, shaken the guy’s hand to acknowledge them, ask the girl if you could dance with them, and start grinding on her from one side and the guy takes the other side. She probably would have found it very hot. The kicker is to make out with her while the three of you are dancing. And then pull her away. After a point, the other guy may have even conceded.

You just have to play the power move. The truth is that things can move fast, you just have to play with the hands you’re dealt so you always come up on top.

Title	How do I stop getting cucked?
Author	Turbulent-Clock9132
Upvotes	361
Comments	221
Date	January 1, 2022 6:22 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/rtp2j7/how_do_i_stop_getting_cucked/
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