There have been a few men lately that have come in here to say that women aren’t attracted to men. That men desire women for their bodies. And that we are our bodies. That our personalities and character aren’t us. And since women care about mens personalities and characters (as well as their bodies), we don’t actually like men (just what they do and how they act and how they make us feel)

They say that because women think about how a man touches us, how he makes us feel wanted and desired. How we think about touching and grabbing him. How we get off on them getting off on us. That that is not liking the man. “That’s using him like a tool.”

For a lot of women hearing that men only care about our bodies makes us think that men would have the same enjoyment fucking a coma patient as they would an enthusiastic partner. Since it’s just the bodies that they get pleasure from.

I don’t think this is true. I think men get enjoyment from the things that women do too. I think men feel “like a man” if he can make a woman orgasm. If he can make her twitch and moan. That they like when we grab them. Hold on to them. Beg them. That they feel validated because she chose him (even for the night)

I think men like how we look. When we jiggle and bounce. Just like women like how a man looks when he climbs on top of us. When he looks at us. We like looking at men we are attracted to. We get aroused by the thought of our man’s chest or shoulders. Their hands or thighs. Their backs or the blessed V line. Nmpht.

So I’m asking. Do you get enjoyment and pleasure during sex from just our bodies? Does how we respond, act, feel, etc., mean nothing? Does having sex with someone you know isn’t in to you feel the same as being with a woman who tells you how much she wants you? Is it just visuals and friction? When you fantasize about being with a woman is she just laying there looking good?