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You know how to tell if a guy does CrossFit? He tells you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/17 05:44 PM
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Do you know why some guys do dread and it works, while others do and it does nothing? Because the ones who have it work aren't trying to teach their wife a lesson. Damn, that should be engraved somewhere
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/16 06:13 PM
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send a picture of you (topless) Damn, I'm tempted. Good to see you're still kicking, StonePimp
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/16 10:31 PM
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Irrational & Limitless confidence - in all matters Hell, just embrace this, and you're the most attractive man most women will ever meet.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 03:54 PM
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You don't have to show "risk." You just truly must not give a fuck. Don't fear failure or rejection, in anything. That's what its all about.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 03:39 PM
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Ever notice when a guy who runs walks into a room? Its OK, nobody notices. Ever notice when a guy who lifts walks into a room?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/16 03:33 PM
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I'd ignore it and redirect the conversation. Or say ANYTHING. It really doesn't matter what you say.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 12:15 PM
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Definitely. Go out alone and sober.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 07:06 PM
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I think it comes from guys wondering if they deserve what they have. My journey was similar: wife turned into a sexy, beautiful, respectful woman. What did i do to deserve this life? Oh yeah, i paid my dues for years. Gotdamn right i deserve this. If not me, who? Ya know why she's the Queen? Cause I'm the fuckin' King. And the King doesn't grovel and kiss ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 04:24 PM
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No. Just no. You are already viewed by this woman as a provider first and foremost . Your job is to be viewed as a lover first and foremost.
/r/askMRP27/07/16 03:08 PM
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None of this would even cross my mind. That's the measuring stick of success. When you don't even have to think about what to do or say anymore. It's just you in the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/16 01:33 AM
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No, i here ya. Occasionally there's one (for whatever reason) that tempts the shit out of me and i have to remove all contact. Because I'll fuck up if i don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 07:27 PM
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I have a married friend who actually says "i want to hit it, come find me if you're game." He says he's had good success with the direct, honest approach.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 07:24 PM
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I've had two recent offers that "just happened. " Both times, i was playing hard to get (i.e. kept walking away, moving on, telling them "I gotta go, nice talking with ya"). Both times, the girls said fuck it, chased, and just offered. One chick pointed out the "partner", the other called our potential partner over, told her the deal, and she agreed. It's preached here that the man must initiate. In my experience, that's not always the case. They will either approach you, or their friend will an…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 07:03 PM
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I live in a tourist town, so my experiences may be different. I meet wimen who are away from home, boyfriends, husbands, and ready to get their freak on. This aint a humblebrag, if you're improving, you'll get all sorts of offers. And I'm 50. You younger guys can probably do even better. Point is, if you want to stay married, learn catch and release. It's the hunt and the fight that's fun for me, then release them so someone else can catch them. Leave them better off than you found them.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 06:27 PM
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It's a lack of abundance mentality Bam! Listen to Doc. Your value is rising, and you became attractive to a woman. Your wife is slow to get on board. So you're thinking about dipping your pen in the first hot ink that comes along. Dude, it will become more difficult (and more easy) to walk away from. Wait until a 22 yo shows some interest. Wait until you get some threesome offers. You'll look back at this and laugh. My advice is: assume your wife will find out. Do you want to be married or not? …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 02:13 AM
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How about saying this? "I invaded your personal space, and I was wrong." Then go on about your day.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 12:22 PM
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The best way of dealing with shit tests is to not acknowledge them. By trying to pass them, you're in her frame. You can't fail a test if you refuse to take it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 12:18 PM
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Sure it does. A hypertrophic program like a PPL or bro split can be done every day. Most guys would make much progress with a program like this instead of those beginner strength programs. And if OP is less than 10% bfp, he'll look like no one else in his circle and he'll have to beat young girls of with a stick.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/16 02:14 AM
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Somebody's cutting onions, my eyes are watering
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 11:57 PM
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The Way of the Superior Male
/r/seduction21/06/16 11:50 PM
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I have the same injury, pulled lower trap. Should be back to 100% in a week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 12:40 PM
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Sounds like, from the limited info here, you've outgrown SL. Try something like a PPL (there's a popular one on Reddit). You'll progress, get a more aesthetic look, and you won't wear yourself down (like many of the linear strength programs tend to do to you). And don't be scared to eat more, if you have your nutrition on track. You won't get fat if your diet is on point. Good luck.
/r/askMRP20/06/16 08:26 PM
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Every single fuckin' day
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 08:11 PM
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A man's gotta be proud of what he has
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 08:08 PM
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Eh, you handled it fine. You didn't acknowledge his shit test. Which means you're definitely operating in your frame, not his. The idea that we even try to pass shit tests (from men or women) means we've lost our frame. By treating the test as if its meaningless, you never lose frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 08:02 PM
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You want a BJ? Be the kind of man that gets BJs. Not getting BJs? You're not that kind of man yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 07:58 PM
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If your posts don’t involve some kind of action then it’s probably humble brag (I am awesome) Ha! That caught my eye. All of my posts are humble brags, because ... well, I'm pretty damn awesome. But to DEER, I did take action to become awesome. And I've been told by many women that I'm not humble. So I guess I just brag.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 07:56 PM
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Good stuff. And google the "tdee spreadsheet reddit", pick the revised version, track weight and calories for 3 weeks, and just follow the number it gives you. Losing weight is simple. Not easy, but pretty damn simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 07:53 PM
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I was gonna say "establish boundaries," but TTB beat me to it
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 06:04 PM
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I quit reading after a couple of paragraphs. You are entrenched in HER frame. I'll go back to trying to read the OP now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 05:42 PM
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Be the hottest man your woman has ever seen, a man that gets offers on a daily basis, and you don't have to worry about increasing your value.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 05:36 PM
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Sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/16 05:33 PM
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Stay manly, gents. Good to you again around these parts. Nice FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/16 03:47 PM
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can see there's more posturing, back biting, and bitch talking than my daughter's high school cheerleading squad. Will the real Alphas please stand up?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 08:34 PM
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This. My wife pulled the "we're getting a dog", and Cad showed me the light. "If you get a dog, get a big one, one that can protect you when I'm gone. Because I'm not living with a dog."
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/16 05:01 PM
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Hey, that's my go-to
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 06:09 PM
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Alpha (Masculine) men break molds and disregard things that don't bring value. That fuckin' simple right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 06:05 PM
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Frame battle. Stay the fuck out of her frame. Hell, she's giving you an out, and you keep stepping right back in. Your post reads like you need her attention and approval. And you're creating drama (which may excite her, so seize that opportunity) Why? You're running your own show.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 04:08 PM
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This was the book I was supposed to review.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/16 09:12 AM
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Her: If you get home earlier tonight then you can grab the bills to keep in your office. You want to "win?" Your response: crickets
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:20 PM
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If you don't want to buy a bigger house, don't. You don't have to explain yourself. Just say no. There's a book somewhere about Saying No and ...
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:16 PM
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"It makes me feel like you're not happy with our sex life." You: I hear you saying that you feel I'm not happy with our sex life. What makes you think that? Her: her answer. You: Huh! Then get back to washing dishes. edit: If that doesn't help you maintain frame, drop something like "If I have a problem with you, I'll address it with you, like an adult." Then STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:07 PM
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I've said it before, and YMMV, but Models really clicked with me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 05:01 PM
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Guys like me don’t have many chances A guy like that doesn't have many chances. Its so simple looking back now. Just.don't.be.that.guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 04:58 PM
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Count me in. Shitty behavior is shitty. Makes no difference where a woman is in her cycle, or my nagging tendinitis making me grumpy.. Don't ever accept shitty behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/16 01:50 AM
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Wow, you found a unicorn. Except she exhibits shitty behavior. Don't accept shitty behavior. She's not a high value unicorn. She's a female, there's billions of them. Tell her your standards for behavior. If she doesn't meet them, show her the door.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/16 04:26 PM
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MRP...changing mens's lives. One cocky/funny line at a time.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 06:01 PM
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Girlfriend problem? Easy fix. Get more girlfriends. Problem solved.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 05:05 PM
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You're boring. Yeah, your SMV may be higher than hers. What does the market say ( the M in smv). Are you gaming her? Are you exciting, mysterious, focused, fun? Be those things.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 04:59 PM
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Interesting study. Here's the thing, if you're 25%, yeah, your numbers may come out to +/-8%. If you're 10%, your self administered pinch will be much more accurate. That's why I like the Accu Fitness pinchers, they snap tight. Fuck the cost of Dexa. If you can see your abs, you're lean. If not, you're fat. There, I just saved you $75-$150.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 02:00 PM
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I'm actually feeling a bit indifferent toward sex this month. I would guess that's your libido fading while cutting. When you start eating you're calories back, your test will increase, and you'll be good to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 12:57 PM
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AccuFitness calipers are cheap and easy to use yourself. I go for the 3 point vs 7 point (because it's easier to do yourself).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 12:55 PM
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If you like that one, here's my go-to: Doesn't matter a person's status or station, I usually end every interaction with "I'm glad you got to see me." That was my Dad's line, and I've inherited and embraced it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 10:36 AM
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"I’m glad I picked you" Mother fucker! That's my line. Now that you've lost the easy weight, time to focus on the hard to shed stuff when you're lean. Great FR, btw
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 03:46 AM
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You eat too damn much. Don't eat so damn much. You say you cheat. Don't cheat. Problem.solved.
/r/askMRP13/04/16 06:30 PM
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This. Thanks, you saved me the time of typing out the same response.
/r/askMRP13/04/16 06:27 PM
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I made it through about half, then I gave up. First, why are you married to a woman that you don't live with? Second, I'd reward her with time and attention when she's positive, pull back when she's negative. I'd give her a heads up first, "That's negativity, and I don't like to dwell on that. Let's talk about something positive." Then I'd go from there. Again, why are you married to a woman that doesn't live with you?
/r/askMRP13/04/16 06:23 PM
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I thought Day Bang was cringeworthy. Between asking where pet stores were and inquiring about pens, the author came across as "creepy try hard."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/16 12:55 PM
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I gain or lose 1% for every 3 lbs, I'm guessing I'll add 3-5 lbs in a week of maintenance cals, so 9.5-10% sound about right.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 05:13 PM
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Sucks ass. I'm hungry, lethargic, and my body retains water like a camel. Energy, sex drive, strength all down. Just 3 or so weeks left (at .8 lbs per week), then I can eat again.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/16 02:23 AM
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Most married men assume that since they're married, they can quit trying. That's a horrible path to take. Fat, weak, lazy guys get the relationship they deserve.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 09:42 PM
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I'm cutting, I have 2.7 lbs to go and get to 8%. I look emaciated ATM. But, damnit, I want to get super lean before resuming a slow bulk. My lifts suffer, my sex drive suffers, and everything I'm wearing is getting looser by the day. Women seem to be attracted to me, though. Like beards, there's a subset of women (younger) that like lean guys.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/16 05:36 PM
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Pretty much this.
/r/askMRP11/04/16 01:30 AM
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Every high functioning, respectful relationship has a brick wall moment. That watershed moment when one partner says, "oh hell no!" It resets the relationship, or ends the relationship. Either way, the relationship becomes healthier.
/r/askMRP08/04/16 02:15 PM
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She doesn't do it. "That's unacceptable." No argument, no anger. Find something to do instead of spending time with her. She can't comply with simple household duties, she doesn't get your time and attention. What would you do if a coworker wasn't pulling their weight? "That's alright, Joe. I'm sure you were busy. Let me take you to lunch." Said no one ever. The only thing you truly own in life is your time. Spend it on people who bring value. Your wife isn't bringing value. It's really that sim…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 02:28 AM
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Why not tell what you need, and then hold her accountable? You know, like adults interact.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 01:27 AM
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Lol, can I have a burger and a backrub? No. See, it's not hard.
/r/askMRP07/04/16 01:24 AM
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You fucked up. Pick up the whole tab for this ridiculous outing, lose 40 lbs, act like a man, and throw a couple cases of beer on ice, grill some shit, and invite her friends over next year.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/16 01:20 AM
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Poker and relationships. You'll do well if you have Outcome Independence.
/r/askMRP07/04/16 01:11 AM
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All threats are honored. That was my first thought when I read OP. Then I thought, naw, don't get this guy divorced. He mentioned he was on the ropes a few months ago. So I thought it was worth fixing this colossal fuckup of a relationship before getting papers drawn up. My next thought was to just nuke this shit, and set some boundaries. Then my next thought was to have fun with this shit.
/r/askMRP06/04/16 10:05 PM
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Back rubs? No. Staying up listening to crazy shit when you could be sleeping? No. Going to get her fuckin Burger King? Hell no. And Captain, provide some nutritional leadership. She can feed herself. .. I don't respond since I'm busy. There's the answer to that text bullshit. You have read the basics around here, right? This is 101 shit right here.
/r/askMRP06/04/16 06:11 PM
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Great post. If you're not married, there's nothing to fix. "But she's great! Except she treats me like shit." She's not great, she treats you badly because you let her, and ... fuck it, move on. I like your analogy. Sometimes, it's just time to replace that thing when you're spending time and money trying to fix it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/16 06:02 PM
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You do what you can, others make the decision whether or not to follow your lead. In your example, you are an informal leader (informal leadership happens when formal leadership sucks or is non-existent, nature abhors a vacuum). But the formal leadership overruled you. Fuck it, you did your best in your role. Pick a better battle to fight than fighting your boss. If you are firing on all cylinders at work, your boss will seek your counsel, because they trust you. Your boss didn't trust you here.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 03:41 PM
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Knock 10% off your work set weight (if work set is 200 lbs, your drop set would be 180), and if you were repping your work set for 6, shoot for 8 reps on your drop set. Extra volume. Edit: Doc beat me to it. Edit2: Research blood flow restriction, it's awesome for a pump, and it's recovery free volume.
/r/askMRP05/04/16 01:36 PM
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Man, I'm a believer in cut/bulk, but not a dirty bulk. A lean bulk (~200 calorie surplus per day) will let you stay lean AND progress. I just came off a 10 month lean bulk (only gained 3 lbs of LBM, but I think I'm getting closer to MY genetic potential), and kept my abs the entire time. I'm on the 3rd week of my spring cut, down to 9% BFP, with 4 more lbs to lose to get to the magical 8% number. Fuck, I'll be glad when this is over, I miss my calories. But my advice is don't swell up into a fat…
/r/askMRP05/04/16 01:16 AM
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Fuck her schedule. Initiate when you want. If rejected, withdraw attention and affection. Rinse, repeat. Keep working on yourself. And why are you arguing with her? She wants to argue? Laugh, walk off. You don't have to answer every question she asks. If she wants to stay at the station, meh. Your entire post is about her. What do you want? Figure that out, and go get it.
/r/askMRP04/04/16 03:16 PM
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I like this post. Don't be a guy that a woman would be a bitch to. Problem solved.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/16 01:09 AM
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Progress report? Where the fuck is the progress? You should get a tattoo next. Make sure you tell her before you do it. Or, you could just do what you want to do without announcing your actions and then searching for approval from your wife.
/r/askMRP31/03/16 06:03 PM
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I liked reading that. Really hammered home the point that women are mysterious, complicated creatures. But I'm not buying that. They are just different than men. Which is fine with me. I like women and their quirks.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/16 11:03 AM
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Not answering for WMP, but I like Mark Manson's Models. Some folks here don't like Manson's message. It works for me. And the more you experience as you improve, the more natural and unconscious your frame becomes.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 11:00 AM
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Women that say shit like that are out of shape, lazy creatures. The progression is: I don't like muscles. Why are you wasting time at the gym? We can't afford your gym membership. I wish I had time to spend hours in the gym Do you have a gym girlfriend? I'm thinking about joining the gym, I want to get tone, but not bulky. I'm going to do Couch2 5K. I'm thinking about lifting weights, can you recommend a program? I'm going to get in a bikini this summer. Some boys at the gym were hitting on me H…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 02:06 AM
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Personality tests help define your preferred attributes. Doesn't mean you can't be otherwise. I'm a ISTP, but I speak in public for a living and can turn on the extrovert when needed. I just need some "recharge" time to myself afterwards. Tests like MBTI can help figure out your strengths and weaknesses. Doesn't mean you can't function (well) in your weakness areas. Just because a weakness is uncomfortable doesn't mean you should run from it. Just takes a little more effort.
/r/askMRP30/03/16 01:58 AM
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I wrote this on the MRP thread that was moved/deleted. Here goes again. and starts trying to pick him up. So you witnessed your friend's wife flirting with this dude. I wasn't there, I don't know what trying looked like. You said you threw her out, so maybe there's more to the story. I don't know what you're going to tell your friend. "Your wife came back and was overly flirtatious?" If you continue on the path to self improvement, you're going to be Dave at times. Are you going to run to women'…
/r/askMRP30/03/16 12:07 AM
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and starts trying to pick him up. So you witnessed your friend's wife flirting with this dude. I wasn't there, I don't know what trying looked like. You said you threw her out, so maybe there's more to the story. I don't know what you're going to tell your friend. "Your wife came back and was overly flirtatious?" If you continue on the path to self improvement, you're going to be Dave at times. Are you going to run to women's husbands when some randy SAHM propositions you? Without knowing more a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/16 12:35 PM
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Her and the holding out thing: "You want to try that again? Use your adult words. You don't want sex? Just say no, and I'll go along about my business." Then I'd withdraw attention. I'd probably leave the house for a few hours. She's going to say she was "just joking" or something when I return (or the next day). I'd STFU, and go on about my business until I wanted to initiate sex again. And I'd work on gaming her first. Her: "We need to talk." "Who do you think you're talking to?" You're a grow…
/r/askMRP28/03/16 12:59 AM
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I'd nuke that holding out shit and the "we need to have a talk".
/r/askMRP28/03/16 12:37 AM
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Cut my calories by a pound per week. Fasted LISS cardio with caffeine and yohimbine HcL. Will probably slow loss to .8lbs per week at the 4 week mark. Should reach goal just in time for Memorial Day. Then I can do another 10 month lean bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 09:07 AM
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My wife complains her squats are getting difficult to progress. I've convinced her that adding a rep at this point is progress. And if you want to lift more, you must eat more.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/16 02:03 AM
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Run into an asshole in the morning and you ran into an asshole, run into assholes all day and you are the asshole. Raylon Givens
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 03:17 PM
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Lifted my ass off. I think I added another dimension to my delts. They're no quite 3D, but definitely 2D. Starting my spring cut this week, have about 6lbs I want to cut. Bought some new clothes and some bad ass oxford with brogue shoes. Some gay guy offered to take me to lunch. Must be the shoes. Bought a Superman and a Spiderman compression shirts for the gym. They fit me great, I get complimented, and it's like not wearing a shirt at the gym. You can see my abs through them. Gym owner took a …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 03:16 PM
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OK, I'll admit. I have a man crush on Scurve. He's bringing the alpha. Scurve, I'm guessing you don't validation. But that's the thing. When you no longer need it, that's when you get it. Validation, sex, money. Doesn't matter. Keep bringing your brand of alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 01:05 AM
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Fuck, Cad. You know I like you. We disagree, but I often disagree with people I like. If I didn't like you, I'd give you no attention. But this is a shit post, followed by a brief victim puke. You're better than this. Bring your fucking "A" game.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/16 12:50 AM
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Dude, hug your wife. And tell her "If I ever get to the point I want a divorce, I'm man enough to tell you. Well, after I hire the best lawyer in town and consult with every other divorce lawyer in the region." Slap her on the ass and go about your day.
/r/askMRP24/03/16 06:43 PM
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Does this get better? One way or the other. I'm guessing this is the later stage of the anger phase. I'm guessing you're working your ass of on yourself, and you're still not getting the response you want. You meet new, younger options every day. Then you go home to your wife, and ... you're thinking "fuck this, that hottie that I met today would ..." My advice is to give it more time. You likely have more work to do anyway. And when and if your woman responds, it will be like a light switch sud…
/r/askMRP24/03/16 06:39 PM
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Great post. While I don't get the anger thing, I think this post will definitely help those guys that suffer from this. Me personally? I'm not mad at anyone, don't feel lied to, don't blame others for presenting me a world view that doesn't quite match up with reality. Or at least my interpretation of reality. I believe that those who present that world view actually believe in it. I just choose to view the world differently.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 06:34 PM
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You're a mod? Congrats? My condolences? Where the hell have I been?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 11:10 AM
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I got home tonight, wife and daughter had planned to go to the gym with me. I walk in, ask if the girls are ready, wife starts to flake. I say "Cool." Tell daughter were leaving in 5 minutes. Wife is still flaking. Not my problem. As we're backing out of the drive, wife comes running. Jumps in the truck, sets a new PR on squats. See the difference in this story and yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 03:35 AM
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think she's upping her game in response to you getting in better shape. And/or she's mate guarding, if you go to a public gym. Gym bunny talks or touches me, wife is there quick to claim her man. Which causes gym bunny to do more to get your attention. It's a beautiful circle.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 03:22 AM
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That 12 hour window. Previously, she feels she's DTF. Later, that feeling had passed. You didn't do anything wrong, you just weren't there when her buying temperature was peaking.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 03:13 AM
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You're the Captain. You're stoked when the crew plays catchup. My wife squatted 195 3x5 tonight. I'm proud for her. Good on her! Edit: OK, her last few reps on her last set were barely parallel. But I'm not going to tell her that. I like me some girl squat ass.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 02:17 AM
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Every fucking couple of pounds is an extra pullup or two. I abstain from drinking water when I do pullups. Every ounce helps.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/16 02:16 AM
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You're so fucked. When they tell you they're DTF earlier in the day, that's a great indication that she's going to sleep on you.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 05:57 PM
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Ha! I liked your FR. My only.advice is don't overthink. Sometimes (well, most times) people choose the easiest path. Which means, most people will sleep late vs ... something else. Don't fall into the trap where you're killing flies with a newfound hammer. Great leadership, though. I enjoyed reading that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/16 02:59 AM
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It's like when presented with 6 paint samples of white. Just pick something. Decisively.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 07:47 PM
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How would you feel if she wanted a girl's night out drinking until not sober? Dafuq is that shit? OP went out for beers, responsible for not drinking and driving. And GNO should consist of drinking until "not sober." Again, WTF is that shit?
/r/askMRP22/03/16 07:39 PM
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I woke up to this message Just ignore it. Not every question deserves an answer. If she asks you again later, face to face, just make up something funny. Something that's suggests you don't take bullshit like that seriously. "She's my Tuesday night girl. What day is it again?" I'm more amused that you felt you had to DEER to US.
/r/askMRP22/03/16 07:20 PM
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I have a castle. I'm King of my castle. Mancaves are like living in your mom's basement.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 06:26 PM
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Can't help but comment on the Commercial link. That's a little truck.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 01:52 AM
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I'm not sure where I’m at right now and would appreciate some input. You're at the point where you realize your wife isn't attracted to you. And it's your fault. That simple realization puts you miles ahead of most guys. Now, you have a plan. Be attractive to women. Improve yourself and be the best man you can be. For you. That's where you're at.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/16 01:27 AM
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If you're a true 13% at 220, you'll look like a beast at 205. You can drop weight just like you dropped the 80 lbs. Count your calories, eat massive amounts of protein, and lift heavy (factor in recovery time during the cut, and drop your volume), you won't be skinny. You'll be shredded. I'm 6'3" at 202 and a little under 12%, about to begin my spring cut toward 8%, nobody calls me skinny. There's a whole subset of options when you get less than 10%. Be the fittest guy in every room you enter.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 10:49 PM
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You do you. But if you leaned out to less than 10%, there would be little to no resistance. She'd probably initiate most of the time. I'd guess you would need to get down to 205. At your height and size, there would literally be a new option every day.
/r/askMRP21/03/16 06:06 PM
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Every good looking chick has a guy tired of her shit. That's some BP shit right there. A guy isn't tired of her shit if he's a leader, respects himself, and enforces boundaries.
/r/askMRP20/03/16 08:25 PM
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For my metabolism Considering how little I eat, putting on weight is hard
/r/askMRP20/03/16 08:16 PM
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Can't remember the post, but dude had some candles, some music, other funny shit, and he was stretched out nekkid for his woman, who... surprisingly... wasn't interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/16 05:17 PM
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Holy shit! This reminds me of the dude that built the fuck altar a few months ago. What was the point of this nonsexual rubdown? Dude, fuck your wife if you want to. If she's not interested, go do something productive. If you like giving massages, that's cool, own that shit. But giving 120 minutes of massage and getting laid once? Chad doesn't do shit like this. Embrace your inner Chadness. Your time could be better spent on becoming fuckable.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/16 04:55 PM
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I don't visit RPW. I think it's great there are Red Pill Women, but I have no idea what that means. So if RPW likes TRP, but doesn't like MRP or TBP, or any other combination of letters, IDGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/16 01:26 AM
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Do I have a timeline? Here's the thing, when you stop giving a fuck about when you have sex, sex will become readily available. I'm not talking about the spoken DGAF attitude. I'm talking about when you really DGAF when you get sex next. When you get to the point that every day brings a new, potential option, you'll be getting laid regularly. A man with options and confidence is a powerful attractor.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 06:30 PM
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A dominance battle between the sheets? Shit, that's fun, turns into a sexy wrestling match. Don't overthink, just go with it. that egotistical husband She's right, your ego is an obstacle. Kill it. And enjoy your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 11:11 PM
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I'm guessing he/she is a girl. "My seats comfy", said no dude ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 03:02 PM
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I can't figure out if you're a girl or a boy. But no way you're over the age of 30. That's a hell of a hamster you have. What happened here is that you gave shitty advice, it was downvoted, and you've obsessed on explaining to me, because apparently I'm the only one who will engage you. So I need to figure out why I would engage someone like you. "Never wrestle a pig. You get dirty, and the pig enjoys it." I don't know you, but I just looked back over your history, and you have a pattern of want…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 11:32 AM
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TIL OP is Facebook friends with Dwayne Johnson
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 01:16 AM
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what needs to change so that normal little boys don't wind up as the twisted, sexually-violent freaks that post here? The idea that a man can save his marriage, improve his family's lives, and have his needs meet at home and at work is proof positive that he's an emotionally abusive, manipulative control freak. If only there was some way to convince that guy to go back to being a pussified egalitarian with a Dad Bod.
/r/askMRP14/03/16 05:07 PM
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I honestly can't tell if you're oblivious to politics. We'll agree to disagree. Awkward silences aren't a problem. It's not your job in life to make everyone comfortable and happy. OP's woman disrespected him in public, he handled it fine. His woman now understands that kind of shit doesn't work with him. as soon as you start having business meetings or dating a woman with any sense of class. I'm LMAO. And as far as politics go, I have experience. And I tell people no all the time. If I ever utt…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 12:51 PM
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and evaluates how others perceive him. I'm not anti social, have plenty of experience around people, and have no fucks to give about others' perceptions. A "no," followed with nothing else said, will always work. People respect the word "no". They may not like it, but they respect it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 12:19 PM
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"Ha! I'll take a Jack Black on the big rock."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 01:09 AM
1

I like a 3 set RPT for cutting, hitting body parts once a week let's me recover. But if you're not cutting, it sounds like tendinitis waiting to happen. Plus, 2 or 3 work sets? Your CNS won't fry, it will die of boredom.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 05:42 PM
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Wendler's stuff always seems to try to make programming too complex, with the mesocycles and such. But do any program for 12 weeks, then reassess. And if it gets you in the gym, ... it's the best program for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 05:39 PM
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You're bulking? That workout looks too low volume.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 03:13 AM
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Too much bullshit on the db forum sugar coating every fucking thing. If you're looking for no bullshit, you came to the right place. First, I remember you. You were DB, then ExRP, and now you're here. So slap yourself on the back, you've gone from DB to getting laid twice a week. Hell yes! You deserve an atta boy. Now that I've validated you, let's talk about your fuckups. You're in the anger phase. Gotta work through that. Get busy. You are not OI at this point. You're injured. Women will not l…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/16 02:27 AM
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I lift weights and eat 250g+ of protein every day.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/16 06:09 PM
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Nice post, /u/bogeyd6. I enjoyed reading that. I do a good Morgan Freeman and it drives her nuts I do the same, except I do it as Matthew McConaughey (or Bill Clinton, they both sound alike when I do them, my Bill Clinton includes the half thumb). I always end it with "ya want me to take my shirt off?"
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/16 11:49 PM
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You did fine. She wasn't feeling it, so no big deal. You were quiet during breakfast. You're allowed to be quiet. Your wife felt bad for turning you down. Your comeback to the door and the long kiss left her wanting more. I'm not a proponent of the LMR fighting; my thing is, if I'm being the best man I can be, she'll desire me. Or not. Her call, my life doesn't revolve around whether our not I got laid 20 out of 20 attempts, or 18 out of 20 attempts. I mean, what kind of fuckin' prize are you if…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 07:17 PM
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I'm taking my daughter with me to the gym prior to the girls coming over, so I'm thinking it's a good night to go shopping for a new sport jacket/blazer.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 06:08 PM
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Does Fifty Shades count as a book? Ain't it great when we stop trying to solve their problems? It's like, gasp, they appreciate being treated as adults. My wife's having GNI (at our house tonight). Gotta figure out what to do and where to go while they, ... do whatever girls do when they meet at your house for drinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 01:43 PM
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"ummm ....try again." You: Nope. goes back to work Test passed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 03:21 AM
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Hey, no need to get personal. :) I'm cutting in April/May, getting my 8 pack back. Just want a shot at the end of the month for a deadlift PR first. Yes, I've eaten my way toward it. This unflexed 6pack and rounded Adonis belt makes me feel like a land whale. Fuckin' dogs and their genetics.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/16 02:37 AM
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Wife is clearly comfort testing him. Maybe. Probably. Possibly. But I'm nopeing the hell out of that conversation. That's just drama for the sake of drama. "Do you think that could happen to us?" "I dunno. I'm going to the gym, it's Deadlift Day." If you want to dread your woman, just be fucking awesome and have your shit together. Going on the internet to ask strangers how you can turn your neighbor's divorce into a win for you (if you want to profit from this, just go fuck the neighbor lady), …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 03:40 PM
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Dafuq? You should take care of your own shit, STFU, and definitely not gossip about the neighbors. That's what women do. Be her man, not her girlfriend. And it sounds like you have a crush on this dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 12:01 PM
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You need to change your relationship with food. Food is not a reward, its fuel, use it as such. This. Make your food hit your numbers, whether you're cutting or bulking. I can cut at ~2,200/ cals a day, and still be full. I can lean bulk at ~3,000/cals a day. I generally eat the same foods for bulks or cuts, only difference is the amount of carbs I eat.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:19 AM
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Really looking to more steadily / easily maintain 10-12%; and improve definition of abs and Adonis belt . Any suggestions for exercises in this regard? Go below 10%, your Adonis belt will pop. You'll have deep creases, really stands out. If you're carrying enough muscle mass, you won't look gaunt. You may look cartoonish, but womenz love cartoons. For obliques, air bicycles and windshield wipers can really dial in that Adonis belt. An article I read once (can't remember where, you can probably g…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/16 01:12 AM
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Become attractive to women, be comfortable in their presence, and stop giving any fucks about your wife's bullshit. She threatens to go? See ya, my son stays with me. Its really that simple. My question is...what the fuck am I doing? What you're doing is trying to placate your wife. Fuck that. Improve yourself. I'm not very good at STFU. Also, I'm angry at her for being an entitled cunt, but mostly at myself for failing to be a good captain. So I enjoyed pointing out all the logical (yes, I know…
/r/askMRP05/03/16 05:25 PM
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Sam's not country, more pop. Not going into the whole "who's country, who's not" debate. The ladies love some Sam Hunt. But you got his haircut.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 04:37 PM
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Not a fan of the Trumpster, but he's amusing. His frame is very strong, but I think he could benefit from STFU more.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 03:54 PM
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Dude, you're Sam Hunt.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 03:39 PM
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Lifting makes you naturally carry yourself like a boss. Which you are. A boss.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/16 03:31 PM
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This is the only way to give ultimatums.
/r/askMRP03/03/16 05:43 PM
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The sighs and ooohs they were making were very disrespectful. TIL that women gossiping like women is very disrespectful. OP, just STFU next time. If you've put your time in the gym, your wife will say the "great legs and cute butt for real" comment in front of the inlaws. Then MIL and SIL start looking at you, scratching their wrists, flipping hair, etc. Or not. Who cares? Women being women. If it wasn't for women, we'd be dating each other. And there would only be like 5 colors of shit to choos…
/r/askMRP03/03/16 05:38 PM
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Hell yes. Game EVERYBODY. Dominance is key. Be dominant, friendly, comfortable in every situation (even the situations where you're not comfortable, I highly recommend The Charisma Myth). Be a leader, have strong body language, strong steady eye contact. EVERYONE is attracted to you. You get to decide who brings value.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/16 02:28 AM
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I think when you say no, you feel guilty. If only there was a book about how to say no and not feel guilty.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 07:21 PM
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After one fucking day of passing all her shit tests. Imagine what she'd do if you had actually passed any of those tests.
/r/askMRP02/03/16 07:15 PM
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Off topic: I have a neighbour who's somewhat RP, meaning he goes off on Disney shit and "Everybody Loves Raymond." His wife went on a cruise for a week. Neighbour is home with kid. He comes over for beers. My wife says "how have you survived with your wife gone?" Neighbour looks at me, then my wife, and says "dafuq did you say?" My wife turns red in the face, I have to leave the room, I'm laughing so hard. Wife apologizes, says she has no idea why she said that.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 07:08 PM
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It's two nights, OP's wife will survive. Plus, he has to go, right or wrong. He's staked his claim here. And it's 3 months away, plenty of time to give the wife some leadership. And I don't see the huge discrepancy. Wife needs to learn to attend to her own needs. Sleep is her responsibility. But thanks for the discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 06:30 PM
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Seems like you have plenty to do at home before you go off in the woods fucking around. Part of fixing shit at home is going off in the woods and fucking around. OP needs to establish a life that doesn't require him at home 24/7, catering to his wife. IMO, the best thing OP can do is remain committed to the retreat. This will be a seismic shift in his relationship dynamics.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 06:14 PM
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should add that we ended up making out in bed after the argument was over. Then I rolled over and went to sleep. I'm not about to gratify her with the D. No, you should not add that. You're married. That's called "kissing your wife goodnight."
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 05:36 PM
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Great response! That was useful to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 05:23 PM
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Gonna miss the TTB perspective, good luck in your endeavors. And, I've had a few glasses of wine, and I think I posted this response on another thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 02:50 AM
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First, when responding to comments, use the reply function under the comment, so your responses make logical sense. Now, is it a big deal? Or are you beating your chest in front of the wife? You mentioned that your wife was fucking with him, and she got her feelz hurt? Why is that your responsibility? If that's what happened, laugh and tell her not to poke mean dogs with sticks. If he's being inappropriate, just pull him to the side and be dominant with him. No reason to fight, that's weak, and …
/r/askMRP01/03/16 04:12 PM
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Namely that she envied people on fucking Facebook that always posted about being married to their best friend and that she felt she didn't have that. Translation: Get back in that box I keep you in. This self improvement nonsense is making me nervous, and I feel I'm losing control over my Provider. If you get back in the box, I'll offer some implied sex that will likely never happen. Now, your "that's stupid" comment was unnecessary, but I wouldn't worry about it. It's a natural reaction to what…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 02:22 PM
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The local high end grocery store wine aisle is full of chatty women in yoga pants.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 02:35 AM
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Unrelated to sexual strategy We're misogynists, so every thing is related to sex. When Ump/Ref greets you pre game with a handshake, calls you by name instead of "Coach," let's you argue (in a respectful/friendly way) calls, etc., the 50 or so people at the game like you. Which doesn't hurt. Plus, Mrs. MILF wants to work the concession stand with you, "because you're a familiar face." Plausible deniability.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/16 02:28 AM
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The "snack coordinator?" Powerful chick huh? Damn right, that chick has value. She sets up the schedule for the concession stand. And you want to volunteer to work the concession stand. With the better looking MILFs. Plus, you interact with all the moms over the course of a night.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 08:12 PM
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"Assistant" is fine. The assistant coach will often be better with the kids than the head coach, anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:51 PM
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Fuck yes. I host the annual team pool party. With alcohol for the 'rents.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 07:49 PM
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I like Jack's posts. But I subscribe to Greg Nuckols strengththeory.com, and I like the way Greg (who's wordy also) starts his posts with: What you're getting yourself into: 3,500 words, 12-25 minute read time. Or I could STFU, read what I want, and not read what I don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 04:40 PM
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Girlfriend of ... I stopped reading right there. Next!
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 04:36 PM
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Have dude over for beers and grilling. He's your typical friendly neighbour guy. Maybe he's lonely. Maybe he's a CIA assassin. Maybe he's a closet gay. Maybe he's cool as hell. Only one way to find out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 02:21 PM
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This. All day long. Be the coach (or assistant coach, in my neck of the woods you have to pay your dues to get head coach job). Like cad says, plausible deniability. Just be cool, dominant, in control, and they volunteer numbers. And they will find excuses to contact you. Where you take it is up to you. But just knowing Susie is plenty of dread enough. Especially if they touch you when they talk with you. You'll know the interested ones. It becomes amusing. Even the fatties. Even the beta dads. …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/02/16 02:07 PM
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Boss. I can manage 80 names, and then my friends say "remember that girl. " And then there's 40 or so that I can't remember names. Point is, OP is wanting to live that free life that we lived. He wants to be 20 again. So he'd needs to figure out, "Do I want to fuck random chicks and up my count, or am I cool with what I have?" Only OP can answer that question.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 03:24 AM
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They both are sub optimal on deadlifts. You can deadlift more than 1 set per week. You're not going to fry your CNS, you're going to bore it to death. This 1 set per week bullshit is why most guys look like a praying mantis when they pull. They simply need more practice on the lift.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 06:08 PM
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Tangent: Are you modding weightroom now? You have my vote.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 03:07 AM
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I've mentioned it before (I'm getting old, so I tend to repeat myself), I've spit that quote in two interviews, and both times I was offered the job. They look at you like you're fuckin' Nostradamus.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 02:45 AM
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Liquor cycle. (lick-er sick-el), so it rhymes. Edit: It's fun, until your friends see you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/16 02:41 AM
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I've quoted this before, but I think it bears repeating. I have this on the wall in my office: Your Leadership is your influence. Your influence is the behaviours you choose to exhibit. Your behaviours determine your relationships with others. Your relationships with those you work and socialize determine your leadership successes and leadership failures. Leadership is all about relationships. Directing doesn't factor in the "relationship" component.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 06:27 PM
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I'm 50, I've learned that when older dudes spit some knowledge and experience, I need to STFU and listen. I look forward to your posts when you quit holding back.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 04:53 PM
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Send me tit pics. Damnit. MUST.FIGURE.OUT.HOW.TO.RETRIEVE.THAT.LAST.TEXT.MESSAGE.
/r/askMRP25/02/16 04:10 PM
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Fuckin' drama. Seriously. You're right. Carry on. Edit: Yes, I disagree with you sometimes. I get to do that. Not because of you, because of the idea you're advocating. That's how discussions happen. Fuckin' echo chambers are boring. Your feelz are your responsibility. But that's enough AMOGing. Just chalk it up to I didn't get the value of this post.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 03:45 PM
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This thread at least provided an opportunity for your comments, and I always like reading your perspective.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 03:33 PM
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Its interesting. Its a hobby. And you dont have to be a sperg with your selfimprovemt on a constant upward trajectory. That's boring. I don't even know what a sperg is. Assuming it's some sort of insult, but whatever, I dunno. Boring is constant validation seeking for one's behavior. And, comes across as needy. If your self improvement isn't on an upward trajectory, there's no "improvement." I like to read posts by dudes who turned their shit around. IMO, that's not boring. I liked the recent po…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 03:30 PM
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I'm missing the teachable moment here. A link to guys making fun of dudes who make excuses for their wives' poor behavior. Yes, there's sad dudes out there that feel like they have no options. Subscribers to this sub are not likely in this group. Just looks like another excuse to use the word "cucked." Or an excuse to call women "cheating whores." Men and women do some fucked up shit. Don't do fucked up shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/16 02:01 PM
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Her: I have no idea what you do at bars when I'm not around You: I don't kiss and tell Wink, slap her on the ass, and carry on, swoldier.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 06:26 PM
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I've often been accused of being a black/white/simple man. I would tell my wife, "I've decided to start eating meat." She can complain, stomp, threaten, whatevers. I'm STFUing, and after a few minutes of her "whatevers," I'm going to repeat, "I've decided to start eating meat." I'm going to eat meat. And I've addressed it, like one adult to another.
/r/askMRP24/02/16 06:17 PM
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There are several explanations for why a woman will hit you. *She's fucking crazy; *She's emotionally immature; *She's a victim of abuse herself; *She's attracted to you, strange emotional outbursts=IOI; or *All of the above. My response to any of them? Don't ever hit me again! How to enforce? Remove yourself from that person. You decide how long you need to remove yourself. You may decide permanently. [MINI FR]: My wife and I were hanging out with friends last summer, drinking, having fun. A yo…
/r/askMRP24/02/16 05:58 PM
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OP, not much to add to Jack10's thesis. You received good info there. But let me address this: Long read sorry Stop apologizing. Today. This is a place where men with an issue ask help from other men that have/have dealt with issues. Nothing to apologize for.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 05:52 PM
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Well, itz definitely knot tiped on mobil. I'm with ya though, a lot of his writings make my eyes glaze over.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 03:09 PM
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I learned some shit by reading that. I'm going to dazzle the wife soon with my newfound Jedi comfort skillz. Well, that, and the body paint.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 03:00 PM
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No, they fed me crappy food, that I voluntarily ate. MIL still eats horribly, wife not so much. MIL was in town last weekend. My 9 yo daughter and I cooked breakfast, an egg fest, turkey bacon, turkey sausage. MIL was like "dafuq?", but admitted how good it was. Maybe she'll get her nutrition under control?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/16 02:52 PM
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Great FR, great job fixing your shit. PSA Announcement: Before you follow OP's path here, check what your woman likes. This may mean, ...talking to her. Or do a mojoupgrade type test with her. Point is, if I twisted my wife's nips, it wouldn't be received very well. You hear AWALT around here all the time. AWALT doesn't mean all women like the same shit. You may be thinking, "Redneck's SMV is too low. His wife wants to be choked by Brad Pitt." I'm pretty damn confident that if Brad Pitt slapped …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 07:02 PM
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This stuff really is simple.
/r/askMRP23/02/16 06:23 PM
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I never bought into the global conspiracy. I'm sure my wife and her mom didn't conspire to turn me into a fat, lazy fuck. Don't understand the women hate. If it wasn't for women, we'd be dating each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:41 PM
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I read a quote on the main sub, really stuck with me: You make a mirror happy every time it sees you looking into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:35 PM
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just don't see the point in blaming women, our upbringings, lack of masculinity, etc. It's a waste of time. Totally agree. I've never experienced the anger phase. Because I don't feel "lied to." I just didn't speak Powertalk. It's like complaining about last week's weather. Pointless.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 05:30 PM
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Upvote for quoting Zac Brown
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 01:59 AM
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“Why do you always have to be that way?” Nice FR. I'm reading my life story. I love women, I respect women. But they talk in absolutes. "Why do always..?" Some A&A, and they forget whatever the hell they were complaining about.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/16 01:52 AM
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Your wife gets first shot. This. Literally. I told my wife this. She got it.
/r/askMRP22/02/16 08:37 PM
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Her quotes are loaded with PowerTalk. Reading between the lines, "Sam has no options."
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 08:26 PM
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inb4 someone else mentions Pat from SNL. Edit: Digging that shirt. Gotta find that pattern in slim fit. Edit2: He was completely different to the sort of man I usually went for: being overconfident and funny, plus a gym fanatic, with well honed muscles. Um,...
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 07:55 PM
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His time could be better spent with a fork in his hand
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/16 06:13 PM
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Instead of adding reps, think about adding sets. Volume, volume, volume. Your back hurts because you're likely coming forward on your toes and "good morning" your squats. If you want to deload weight, look into paused squats. You'll be doing less weight, better able to keep your form tight, and taking the stretch reflex out of the equation. And your legs will blow up.
/r/askMRP18/02/16 06:34 PM
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We both do. That fucker is a legend in his own mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 06:21 PM
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Doesn't have to be one over the other. Like most of RP, pick what works for you, discard (or file away for later use) the rest. The main takeaway is that nonneediness is attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:58 PM
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Vulnerable means easily harmed physically... Yet the contrapposto, a stance where the male can easily be knocked off balance by an opponent, is "vulnerable," yet projects power. I mean, it's the classic masculine stance. It suggests a calm and relaxed state of mind. A thousand Greek and Rennaissance sculptors can't be wrong. Interesting discussion. I'd end this with "you do you," but I'm out of lipstick.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 05:53 PM
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She has even commented that she would rather I stay in a hotel room until I am better. That's not typical female nature, that's poor behavior. If you don't want that, draw a boundary, call out bad behavior, and enforce accordingly.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 03:40 PM
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From Manson's Models: ...making yourself vulnerable doesn't just mean being willing to share your fears or insecurities. It can mean putting yourself in a position where you can be rejected... In this way, vulnerability represents a form of power, a deep and subtle form of power. A man who's able to make himself vulnerable is saying to the world, "I don't care what you think of me, this is who I am, and I refuse to be anyone else." He's saying he's not needy and that he's high status. This is wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 03:28 PM
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I wouldn't sweat it too much. Learning experience. Next time, "I injured myself, I need x. Should be 100% in a week. Thanks for your help with x." See how that's more assertive and operating from your frame? Just don't mope around while you're healing, and you'll be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 01:50 PM
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"Vulnerability" that shows weakness = loss of attraction. "Vulnerability" that shows no fear of rejection = attraction. Just to clarify "vulnerability."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 01:43 PM
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This may be the best post I've read here. OP "just gets it."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/16 04:02 AM
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Others have given you plenty to think about. I agree, you're taking individual steps, but aren't grasping the overall concept. This quote really stood out: My SMV is rising and I would dare say far higher then hers. I bought some wheels and tires for my truck. Put the old ones on Craigslist for $600. I thought they were worth that much. Nobody else agrees with me, apparently. I still have them. I'm going to repost them for $300. But, I realize they may not have as much value as I think.
/r/askMRP17/02/16 06:05 PM
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I've let my gut grow. I need to do a cut, and next time bulk slower. I play way too much Xbox. It's hurting my social life, I don't interact with my wife, and I stay up too late gaming. I need to throw out the console. Great summary. Let me add a few things: "I feel like my wife should fuck me more. I mope around a lot. I suck at gaming my wife. She says she has no feeling in her vag. Unless she's talking with her Facebook orbitor, then she tingles. I've tried active dread, but it blew up in my …
/r/askMRP17/02/16 05:48 PM
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That Redneck fucker can't ignore a post about nutrition and lifting. Narcissistic fucker probably lives for nothing but lifting, eating, and sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 03:35 AM
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No worries. Tweaking your nutrition can yield great results. Wish somebody would write a sidebar post about "You Are What You Eat." I'd wager that, if young guys have less test than their grandfathers, its likely because of a sedentary lifestyle, poor sleep habits, a deficit of fat in their diets, and a lack of Vitamin D (fuckers spend too much time indoors nowadays). But, maybe its the GMOs. Or something. My main point is, abs are developed, not just revealed. I can eat $8/lb free range chicken…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/16 02:07 AM
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And a pocket knife
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 08:52 PM
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I'd guess a mix of Texas Method and Madcow
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 07:54 PM
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Rock it, dude. You made my day.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 07:47 PM
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Talk to your doctor, but I'd eat my maintenance calories +150 each day, to aid with recovery. And I'd get on a treadmill (or outside) and do LISS cardio as soon as possible, just to stay active. You'll get your gainz back fairly quick once you fully recover. Remember, you're a man, and you're walking this path alone. Resist the urge to get into a mother/child dynamic with the wife. She's not once said anything about stopping riding. Would it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 05:23 PM
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am concerned that if I cut to loose the gut, my numbers will go down, and I will loose some of the muscle I have gained. Yeah, you'll likely lose some. But you're 260 lbs. You have a lot of weight to cut. You'll look bigger lean than you do now. Whatever lean muscle mass you lose will come back real quick when you stop cutting. Just keep protein high, and the LBM you lose will be minimal.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:49 PM
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You can pull 4 plates w/those squat numbers. And your OHP is out of whack, should be ~.66 of your bench. So you have more bench in you. Except your rows will usually mirror your bench. That OHP is an anomaly. Have you considered wrist wraps for bench?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 04:37 PM
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Set aside $200-300 and watch your local retailers weekly. In the northern hemisphere, the changing off the seasons should offer some good deals. A few hundred dollars, and you can substantially upgrade your style. If you're still not finished with your cut, I wouldn't go buy a suit just yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 02:01 PM
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Abs are made in the kitchen. Abs are made on the deadlift platform and in the squat rack. They are revealed in the kitchen. And some ab rollouts, air bicycles, hanging leg raises, cable crunches, dragon flags, and windshield wipers won't hurt. standard diet You mean a diet composed of protein, carbs, and fat? Your body doesn't know if you bought your macros at Whole Foods or the discount grocery store.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 01:50 PM
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I don't do the all inclusive scene, so I always stay in San Jose del Cabo, down the road from the high rise shit. But I do surf Monuments while I'm there. And take a cab into town for the nightly festivities. Acapulco is sketchy. Crazy tourist town. I'm partial to Zihaut. Or Vallarta. Puerto Escondido is the craziest town in Mex. It's real surf, and you better bring your solid inner alpha. In and out of the water.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/16 12:07 AM
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8 out of 10 had the answer that the man was acting more like a woman 20% get 80% of the ...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 08:31 PM
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Dude, tell your wife what you're doing. "Hey, going to hang with Dad. Be back around x time." That's what considerate adults do. A dog? You know that this dog will be your responsibility. So, if you want a dog, get a dog. Some folks on the main sub will remember I got the triple dog shit test about 6 months ago (wife, daughter, MIL at the same time). I don't want a dog. Advice I received was to tell the ladies "get a big dog that can protect you, 'cause I won't be here. I'm not living with a dog…
/r/askMRP15/02/16 07:59 PM
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Maybe you guys just haven't been to Cabo or something. I've been to Baja Sur a half dozen times, Mainland Mex about the same number. I've taken my wife twice. Sure, there's DTF women everywhere you go. Mex wasn't much different than most other third world destinations. Now, if your woman is planning a trip to Bali,...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 07:03 PM
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How about a slap on the ass for the Sweet 16?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 05:57 PM
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Somebody recently watched Straight Outta Compton.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:47 PM
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we will fragment I would argue this is already happening. I don't think it's guys being more or less palatable. IMO, there's already a divide between guys who are stuck in anger phase, and guys who skipped anger phase.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:38 PM
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Just looked back through the list, made sure it wasn't already on the list. I'll review and post when I get some free time
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 04:08 PM
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I'm a ISTP, and there's nothing we hate more than repeating ourselves. But, Game is being attractive, vulnerable, nonneedy, and competent and comfortable in the presence of the opposite sex. Your "game" is your comfort and competence level.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:17 PM
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Oregon. Ross Jeffries is a creepy codger that waves his hands as he says "below me." And lives with his mom. Like Roosh. My college roommate and I did well in our early twenties. Our go to opener? "Hey girl." No anchoring needed. But if creepy Ross is your guy, you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 02:35 PM
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I disagree. Game is being attractive, vulnerable, nonneedy, and competent and comfortable in the presence of the opposite sex. Your "game" is your comfort and competence level. Not the emulation of some script. Running around asking random women where the nearest pet store is, or whether she likes her pen isn't game. It's just creepy. You can probably guess I dig Mark Manson's stuff over Roosh. And Manson's work is based on "be yourself." Edit: women actually prefer a consistent archetype that I…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 01:33 PM
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There's a book that doesn't get mentioned here, but I thought was a great read that lays out evo psych in a easy-to-digest way: Practical Female Psychology : for the Practical Man Or MMSL.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 11:37 AM
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How the fuck would you know that? Damn, my redditing skills suck, I'm still trying to figure out line breaks and you know how to rank yourself on a sub? Wait, why the fuck would you know that?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 05:38 AM
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it's the wrong attitude. Gotta disagree. "You do you" is figuring out what fits your personality. Some guys can do stoic well. Other guys can do cocky/funny. IMO, you don't have to be a Dark Triad sithlord to be attractive. Fuck, we have dudes that claim success, and they are all over the anger spectrum. There's no discernible archetype, IMO. Unless irrationally self-confident, fit, dominant dudes are the archetype. But there's dudes who have never heard of RP that fit that description. So, I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 05:30 AM
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Damn, just finished editing it. Oh well, ...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 03:27 AM
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I bought her a card that said "you're my girl." She bought me a card that said "you're my guy." Then I grilled some beef ribs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 12:45 AM
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Not going to happen. It's fairly intuitive. If you use clippers without a guard, don't drink prior to. I've learned by exhibiting bad judgement in the past.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/16 12:36 AM
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You're learning how to be a happier, more successful animal. This is likely one of the key changes I've experienced in the last year. Women are tough on you? EVERYBODY, male and female, is shit testing each other all the time. Once you recognize what's happening, life becomes a video game on Easy Mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 05:15 PM
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You'd be better off spending an evening trimming your sack. Refer to last week's DoD Hygiene post. That's ways to do that without causing serious injury. As far as OP's post, ... um, sad story, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/16 05:09 PM
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These boot cut Levis I'm wearing today are getting snug. Life as a T-Rex sucks. Except for the female attention. I've found Chaps jeans to have wider legs. I'll look into your suggestions.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 04:29 PM
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Man, don't get me started on jeans. I have to get relaxed fit in jeans. A regular fit or, gasp!, slim fit and I look like a high school girl trying to put them on. Apple bodied men with stick legs is the perfect description. To get a pair where the legs fit, I have to get my seamstress to take in the waist. Add in my height, and it's almost a waste of time looking for clothes on the rack. Athletic cut dudes are so discriminated against. HAAS (Health At Athletic Size).
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 03:49 PM
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pants are expensive, right? After finally cleaning out my closet of all "pants too big in the waist," I bought some new ones in November. Not to tight, fit just right. Wore two pair this week for the first time since Christmas. Freakin' squats. The waist is fine. The damn thighs are too tight. Have some serious pocket flare. FML.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 03:18 PM
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I lift on machines every morning. The gym I go to has a schedule they write on a white board with what exercises to do for that day. It seems to be working, I've lost weight and have gotten a lot stronger. I let myself get to 240's, I'm down to 211. I want to see under 200 in the next few months. Ding, ding! We have a winner, no more callers, please. Other than anger and butthurt (which, like fitness, takes time to control), you're not at the point where you're turning your wife (or other women)…
/r/askMRP12/02/16 04:28 AM
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Somebody's (/u/stonepimpletilists ?) cutting onions.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/16 04:00 AM
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Haven't heard the term "beta shit goblin" in a while
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/16 01:10 PM
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Ha! Your wife A&Aed you. Totally respect her girl game. Carry on, swoldier.
/r/askMRP10/02/16 06:20 PM
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It's been a while since my kid was a toddler, but I don't recall supervising 24/7. Wish I had more than 1 upvote.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 06:14 PM
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"I'm going to be an alpha male and you'll be more submissive." "OK, hon, take the trash out first. I'm going to take a nap."
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 06:07 PM
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Anything you say can and will be used against you.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:52 PM
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How about the next time your husband wife gives you instructions, say No, and have an alternative plan. Also, if you're concerned about child safety, express this concern to your wife. If my wife handed me a chore list at 10pm (well, actually, ever), do you know what I would say? "Goodnight." "if you want to lead, then lead" Son, the door is open. All you have to do is walk through it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:48 PM
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Why is she talking like that, what have you said to her? Most obvious explanation is the OP broke the first rule of Fight Club.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/16 04:44 PM
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OP - your wife won't divorce you just yet. The fact that she left WITHOUT the kid suggests, to me, that she's aware she needs a cooling off period. Then she'll figure out her next move. But I agree with you. There's likely a history of control issues that extend further than "I got caught looking at her phone a second time." There's no RP in his situation. This is old fashioned control/jealously. Edit: The fact that OP wants to victim puke and give us more background indicates there's a history …
/r/askMRP10/02/16 03:03 PM
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It would be an extremely low value person that made fun of OP or his wife in this situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 08:08 PM
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The hamster is strong with this one. Daycare=prison. Got it. I'll let my kid know tonight that she served time in prison, because Daddy worked. Instead of staying at home with her and not working. If you ever voice these opinions to your woman, you'll find your relationship in trouble. You should consider reading The Way of the Superior Male.
/r/askMRP09/02/16 04:36 PM
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I fucked around with Rogaine and propecia in my late 20s-early 30s. It slowed my hair loss. Looking back, I wish my insecure ass had invested that money. A straight razor head shave is awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 02:13 PM
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I knew there was a hair farmer here. Thanks for adding this. My only disagreement is that dudes need to be jacked to pull off the bald look. Whatever you have or don't have, own that shit. Like the fuckin' boss. Women don't want hair (well, maybe some do, never really give it much thought). They want CONFIDENCE. Irrational self confidence. Great writeup.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 02:09 PM
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You do you. And own it of you're going to be a stay-at-home. But ... State sees fit to hand me a pretty fat check (if you ask me), as long as I don't do anything. Don't know anything about where you live. But your wife isn't your mother, and the State isn't your daddy. I know nothing about your education level. But if I were you, I'd put myself in a position to slay some dragons. The daycare thing is your hamster. Kids need socialization. They will survive (and prosper) in daycare. They'll be in…
/r/askMRP09/02/16 01:54 PM
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I was about to write "sure you're doing it right?" But you beat me to it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/16 04:37 AM
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Huh. All I noticed was a Bono clone, a Prince clone, and baby shouldn't have had an extra helping of baked beans.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 03:53 PM
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I'd visit a dermatologist with any skin issues. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/16 01:24 PM
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Double meat roast beef 12" on italian, honey mustard is 720 kcals, 100g of protein is my fast food fix in a pinch.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/16 03:43 AM
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Quick summary: Stop caring about wife Start working out, gain (back) muscle Socializing with new people Start flirting with other women. Other than show some leadership, I think he's got it. Edit: Granted, he may be running RP-Lite, but he's nailed the basics. I know guys who get this shit naturally, and they do the same things in his list. As we hamster around here with theory and such, it could actually be this simple. The bar's set awfully low.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 08:51 PM
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You've slipped, you're trying to improve yourself, and you want your girlfriend to know you talked to another girl. Do you want some pics taken? Then do it. I get free food from the local Subway when a certain girl is working. I don't rush home and tell the wife. Do you know why? Because this kind of thing happens all the time. OK, it doesn't happen all the time. But I believe in the saying: Act like you've been there before. Even if you haven't.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 02:48 PM
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Yes! My wife and I have RP conversations. I don't use the term "RedPill," but she knows I study evo psych and "man stuff." The other night, we took a Macchaveillan test online. She scored higher than me, that manipulative bitch. She agrees with most of RP. She's fascinated with kino, comes home telling me about dudes kinoing her (she's in fundraising), and how she recognized a back touch or a pull forward when she sees it now. Point is, she can know your playbook, and it doesn't matter, she'll s…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 02:29 PM
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In my case, I am trying to move high frequency / low spontaneity sex to a more varied/spontaneous affair. The dogma here is that a man initiates, a woman responds. In my relationship, I initiate when I'm in need of sex. The rest of the time, I still game my wife, but may forgo sex for sleep, other interests, whatever. My wife initiates about half of the time. I respond. Sometimes I (gasp!) reject her, because reasons. That being the case, it becomes somewhat spontaneous, because neither of us re…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 02:03 PM
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The learning experience that applies to MRP (well, just about all of it applies) is that the OP developed real DGAF and real OI. Then, the wife was left with two options: 1) check out of the relationship; or 2) get on board. A man displaying value, not because he's trying to fix his marriage but instead trying to fix himself? Wife choose Option 2. It's been said many times that women won't often abandon an improving ship. The takeaway for guys struggling with this is concentrate on fixing yourse…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/16 01:34 PM
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This is a great post. And I agree with it. I don't know why I haven't read it before now. Great job, OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 05:42 PM
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Great read. You talking about Blanchard's Situational Leadership?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 05:24 PM
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Love reading Mark Manson. Especially liked the distinction between indifference and, well, ... giving targeted fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:48 PM
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Love this comment. I remember reading it recently. You really nailed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:53 AM
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I'm at a point where there is no role for fapping in my life, but I'm a busy guy with a wife whose libido mysteriously reappeared when I got my shit together, so I really don't have time for fapping anymore. I'm not even that busy. But I save my bullets for primetime. Wife is DTF whenever, don't want to be a 30 minute man because I cleaned my gun a few hours earlier.
/r/askMRP03/02/16 02:47 AM
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Somehow, I convinced my wife to lift. She started running on the treadmill at the gym, and eventually showed interest in lifting. She didn't want to get "bulky" either. Over time, she saw how hard it was for me to gain muscle. She realized she wouldn't be Arnold if she lifted. Now, she squats 185 3x5 (as of today). Dat ass looks great. Just encouragement and comfort. She'll eventually see that the best way to reshape her body is by lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:35 AM
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Nuance. Not my greatest strength. My porn name is Christian Grey Black&White
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:28 AM
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/u/TrainingTheVader
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/16 02:23 AM
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New stuff involves risk. If you're not fucking up on occasion, you're not trying. I make mistakes all the time. I laugh at myself, learn from it, and keep moving forward.
/r/askMRP03/02/16 02:21 AM
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Buy a set of micro plates, and make smaller increases to the bar. Bench moves up slowly, increasing at 2.5 lbs v. 5 lb jumps can keep you progressing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 05:03 PM
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yours would have doubtfully screamed at you at this point. Not more than once
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:47 PM
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State your expectations with respect to this issue. Great point, and this is what I did in my house. But a woman, pregnant or not, screaming at me to do something gets no comfort.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 04:13 PM
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A man that respects himself, draws boundaries and enforced them, owns his shit, thinks about his actions PRIOR to doing something and therefore doesn't have to apologize, will very likely find that all of his relationships (including his marriage) have improved.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:56 PM
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Apologize if YOU want to. Not because someone tells you to. Just say "no" and go do something else. You don't have to listen to her tantrum. And there's no reason to explain why you're not apologizing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:33 PM
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Shredded mofo at 7%. Damn good work. Tell these men there's a whole 'nother level of women that show interest at <10%.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 03:28 PM
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Your wife is way too fucking comfortable. On this, we agree. I would literally flip the script. No longer chase her. Let her chase you. "Honey, let's play board games." No thanks. "I don't like you groping me. You ask for sex too much." I have needs, and I'll get them met. You get first shot at meeting them. She's way too comfortable. I would flip her world upside down. The chaser becomes the chasee. I can sense OP's frustration clearly. And he's mentioned several times he's doesn't care to stay…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 02:10 PM
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I like to keep things simple. I like this program.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/16 01:16 PM
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How's your marriage? Does she respect you? Do you have the sex life you've always wanted? If the answers to those 3 questions are great, yes, and yes, who cares if she reads Cosmo, TBP, or Pinterest. If the answers are sucks, no, and no, ... welcome to your new reality. But I have a strange sense of deja vu.
/r/askMRP01/02/16 08:39 PM
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Work in deadlifts. Your Adonis belt will thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:28 PM
2

Consider D3. It's cheap, and a quick search on examine.com will show you it's benefits. Drop the creatine when you're close to your goal. Boom, you just shed 5 lbs and the vascularity will pop.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 05:25 PM
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If you're pulling 8s with day game, why the fuck do you need our advice? Edit: And I mean that as a compliment. I'm more interested in your improvement path than whether or not you should be honest with your side piece.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:04 PM
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Consider eating meat (steak, chicken, pork, I eat 2 lbs/day), and supplement with fiber. You're full, you hit your protein goals, and no protein supplement needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 04:01 PM
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If your fat ass would just count your calories for a few months instead of worrying about insulin, gremlins, and cortisol, you wouldn't still be cutting weight 6 months later. There's a whole 'nother level of options for <10% bfp dudes. Winning, to me, is enjoying your life. And being the fittest guy in the room.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 02:12 PM
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Simply asking yourself "why" before you do something will lead you to a life where you never have to apologize for your actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/16 02:07 PM
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So there is no way she will run across these people to hear it from them. There's enough going on in your social circle that you don't need to talk about Susie from work who keeps touching your arm when she talks to you. Your wife notices the attention you get. She notices attention you get that you don't notice. A couple of her friends have likely told her "your husband's hot." Keep up your hard work. You don't need to remind anyone. Everybody notices.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/16 05:35 PM
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You answer what you want. No one's entitled to your time or attention OP, please internalize this. Every question does not need an answer. Like /u/stonepimletilists says, shrug. Or wink. But STFU. Mysterious is attractive.
/r/askMRP30/01/16 06:21 PM
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There's no competition. Nobody in your age group looks like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/16 04:27 AM
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Fuck, dude. I'm with your wife. You're right.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 10:07 PM
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I don't get why you feel like you must retort or respond to everything your wife says. Don't DEER. After I stood up for myself, I would leave the scene. Why the fuck world you give attention to someone openly disrespecting you?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 09:47 PM
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It depends. Most of the time I can lift an eyebrow, she'll apologize. Or, at a Christmas party, we were talking to a couple, and she mentioned that she did something "after I put Redneck to bed." After the conversation, I calmly pulled her aside and told her I was a grown man, no one puts me to bed. She apologized. In your case, I'd pull the "who the fuck do you think you're talking to?" card. No argument, no debate, just establishing and reiterating my standards of adult interaction. I respect …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 07:20 PM
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I don't argue with my wife. If she disrespected me, I'd call her on it. But argue? No. She can get her drama fix elsewhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 06:45 PM
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Exactly. You weren't alpha. You didn't give a fuck because you had absolutely nothing to give a fuck about.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 05:03 PM
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I'm all for telling someone to own their shit but posts like the one above aren't helpful. This isn't a circle jerk. We all have valuable experiences and opinions. I agree with the comment you're referencing. And this is the Captain's Table. Where men speak straight.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 01:58 PM
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Interesting FR. I like where you're heading, except ... You're not watching what she does. In this case, her words match her actions. I'd revisit my fitness, nutrition, wardrobe, etc. I'm not a fan of the talking about her following your lead. Lead by example. If your example is strong, you don't have to tell her. She'll follow a high value man. Now, she acts like the emotionally beaten down wife who is giving in to keep the peace. “Woe is me.” Is this to illicit my pity?? I don't see that as a …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/16 01:50 PM
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I'm a dick swinging alpha among alphas with a SMV of, conservatively, 9.5. I make 8 figures in a bad year. My SMV is higher than hers. We have sex every leap year and the last BJ I had was during the Clinton administration. But I read the first link on the sidebar and started Stronglifts yesterday. I can already see a difference. But my wife is an alpha female and bossy. How long should it take for her to respect me and give me anal nightly? Excellent post, Bogey.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 08:52 PM
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Helps explain that chick cop at the school who was all about my bullshit last week, but not this week. And that tall Amazonian girl with dat ass at the gym who insisted on working out near me the other night. Or maybe I just have no game.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 08:41 PM
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I was going to write this, but scrolled down first. You nailed it. Hamster is strong with OP. but I don't wear my glasses so I can't be totally sure.. How the fuck can you not tell when a woman is giving you fuck me eyes? OP, just look around. You don't need glasses to tell if a girl is giving you IOIs.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 07:53 PM
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I just laugh. Or, "5 for 5." Back rub for 5 minutes, bj for 5 minutes. She doesn't ask very often anymore.
/r/askMRP28/01/16 07:46 PM
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Sounds like my wife. Just try stuff. Don't discuss beforehand, the hamster will work against you. If it doesn't happen, try again in a month. Or less. Leave your ego at the door. And do not shame her. Your goal is to develop trust.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 06:25 PM
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it's a male fantasy to expect crazy sex from a LTR While I like your original post, this quote I do not like. Why shouldn't a married man expect good sex from his wife? You seem to be suggesting that married women aren't interested in "crazy" sex. Anecdotal, but have you been to a school assembly or kids sports game? Those women not interested in crazy sex will eye fuck you, touch you, hit on you, etc. So maybe a better theory is "it's a blue pill beta male fantasy to expect crazy sex from a LTR…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 05:24 PM
2

This article is about Freak Week. Eventually your wife will be so drawn to your frame that she'll gladly give up the goods at all times. She'll give up the good because she needs to keep her high value man from pursuing other options. What I learned from this post is what we already knew (thanks to OP for science!). The ladies want full alpha a few days per month. The rest of the time, it's on you to keep her attracted to (and wanting to retain) you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 04:42 PM
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you broke up and continued to see her AFTER sex was off the table... I quoted this because I'm still thinking WTF?!? From mate to orbitor. Stoic as a mofo. Yeah, there's contradictions. But this shit is fairly intuitive, once you make some basic improvements.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 07:01 PM
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Central nervous system. Not suggesting you overtrain, but it's not going to kill you if you're wiped out after high intensity squats or deadlifts. I've mentioned here before, but the joke in my house is my wife gives me a break on Deadlift Day, because I'm spent and not bringing my A game.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 06:54 PM
1

Ha! First, set a boundary about taking the kids. Unacceptable. Second, as an Aussie, you can understand my similarities to your life. I surf and fish competitively. The fishing contests are set in stone. I can't change them. And surfing, which I've done for 40 years, depends on conditions. I literally pick up and go when there's waves. Our vacations are to surfing destinations. These things are non-negotiable. This is me. She doesn't rewrite my life. You told her you will take a family vacation.…
/r/askMRP27/01/16 05:38 PM
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I don't wear my ring. Not for "availability" (most of the women that flirt with me are married also) reasons, but because I lift and have an active lifestyle, and rings are just not practical. So if you're not wearing yours for reasons, you don't have to DEER, but a little beta-plaining here won't kill you. And FFS, fuck your wife again when she's begging you for some satisfaction.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 01:49 PM
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Enjoy her golden frame. Good luck, OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/16 01:31 PM
1

Folks have told you to do what you want to. Do that. And as I type this an epiphany comes to me. I am there to entertain her, to keep her from being bored..... Let me rephrase that for you. You are there to make yourself happy and not be boring. See the difference?
/r/askMRP26/01/16 04:17 PM
1

I picked two celebrities, and created my own look by stealing parts of theirs. Tim McGraw and The Rock.
/r/askMRP26/01/16 03:53 PM
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You're enjoying your life, your kids have a good parent and role model every other week, and you're no longer with a person that was bringing you down. OK, she wasn't responsible for bringing you down, but you see where you fucked up. Sounds like you want to prove something to your wife. There's that frame thing to consider. Do you want to try again with your wife? I can't answer that for you. What do you want to do? (In before stonepimp asks you the same thing).
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 02:27 PM
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If you're busting every time, you're leaving something in the tank at the gym. Fry your CNS on squat or deadlift day, your "problem" will magically disappear.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/16 02:15 PM
1

I've got all that down, trust me. Any time a man says "trust me," I know the next words out of his mouth is total bullshit. You nailed it, your wife isn't attracted to you. You know why I can do that bullshit out of the shower and get away with it? Because I've spent the past year fixing all the shit you're doing wrong. And even now, I wouldn't even try shit like that. No game, no attraction, just "honey, look at this hard dick." If you pulled that shit on a second date, would there be a third d…
/r/askMRP25/01/16 08:29 PM
1

When my wife asks if I'm mad, she's looking for me to fill her drama quota. Not gonna do it. I come from a Country Crazy family (extended, my folks are/were normal). Shit like that is commonplace. I avoid it. My wife would like engage it, because she actually gives a shit about social standing and social graces. In your situation, I'd give no fucks and be happy I didn't have to be there. I'll.listen to my wife, but for only so long. I have the following sound effect on my phone: http://rethinkca…
/r/askMRP25/01/16 08:16 PM
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being told exactly what to do, what weight, how many reps and how much rest has been superb The sooner you learn to program your own routines, the better off you'll be. I use FitNotes, but you'll have to program your own stuff with it. If you want an app with canned programs, StrengthCalc is worth checking out. Not passing judgement, for me I like to know why I'm doing something.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 01:58 PM
1

"The Charisma Myth" is great on learning to game everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:10 AM
1

Mark Manson "Models" is the best I've read on the proper mindset.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:09 AM
1

Shave head daily. Get new natural soaps with glycerin in it. I shave my head with conditioner. Get a closer shave, keeps skin conditioned, and the stuff is dirt cheap.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/16 02:03 AM
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You get laid 6 times in 4 years? And you're stressing over PE? Holy shit, I wouldn't have held out before I got my pants off. The good news is, as you get in better shape, eat better foods, lift weights, this issue will resolve itself. I'd laugh about it, and keep moving forward.
/r/askMRP17/01/16 12:27 PM
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G2
/r/askMRP17/01/16 12:20 PM
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Hey, we're the same age. So are our wives. She's not a 9, and you're probably not a 7. She's trying to become your beneficiary again. And she'll cheat as soon as you take a sick day off with a cold. Plate her.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 11:59 AM
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That was the advice his father gave him. But after he whipped the Gatlin boys, he revised his father's advice. His father, who died in prison (probably after being repeatedly raped), gave him horrible BP advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/01/16 06:43 PM
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Came in last night from the Iron Temple. Wife was cooking dinner, had me a glass of wine, playing 70's Country. In the words of Kenny Rogers, Coward of the County, "Sometimes you gotta fight when you're a man."
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 07:42 PM
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Doing everything right? Yet your sex life has declined, you get a blowjob only when time changes each year, and your wife has a low libido. You realize where you're posing this question, right? This is MRP, not Deadbedrooms. This place is populated with guys who were exactly (in some cases, worse off) where you are right now. I'm one of those guys. We read the sidebar stuff, improved ourselves, and fixed the problems. And found that we were the problem. So get busy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 07:28 PM
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The simplest, and correct, answer is be a man worth blowing. Are you that man? You'll know when you are. I am fit and have good hygiene. She even thinks I'm more attractive than her. There's your problem right there. Are you a dominant, cockstrong man with options that has every facet of his life firing on all cylinders? Because that guy gets blowjobs.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 07:06 PM
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That movie also gave guys a horrible male aesthetic role model. You wanna look like Brad Pitt in Fight Club? Easy, do some kind of weight machine circuit, and do Insanity for 8 weeks. DYEL, Brad?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 06:56 PM
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I see shades of my 10 yo daughter here. She has a neighborhood orbiter. He's friend zoned for life. She disrespects him, bosses him around, just runs all over him. Now, I should take responsibility for creating my entitled princess, and I discipline and counsel when her behavior crosses the line. But, this boy needs to learn to deal with women. So I actively plot with him against my daughter. So far, I've taught him dominant body language, how to.A&A, AM. Since he has no abundance, I've helped h…
/r/TheRedPill15/01/16 04:11 PM
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Just stop then. She isn't going to return the affections, so you are wasting your time I agree. Stop wasting your time trying to seduce a woman that acts repulsed at your touch. Keep working on your shit. You can't expect years of fucking up to be fixed because you read some shit on Reddit. You MUST make changes, and she must notice theses changes. There's going to be a lag, where you're killing it in most aspects of life. But Wife is still apathetic. Just be prepared. And keep working on yourse…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 01:50 PM
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"I have needs and I'm giving you first crack at them" That's not a nuke, that's flirting. Business as usual. Do you have your shit together? Are you gaming her the moment your feet hit the floor in the morning? Are you dressing for success? Are you getting eye fucked by random women when you two go out? If you answer No to any of those c questions, that's where I would start.
/r/askMRP15/01/16 01:32 PM
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could possibly be a learning experience to her to get called out on every time she does something that isn't conducive to a healthy relationship. Love this quote. If you have a problem with something she says or does, call her out. Set your bar high.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:16 AM
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Every one of these. If she says she doesn't like something, and you want to do it, that's just extra incentive.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:11 AM
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She's a very bossy, stubborn woman. ... who's waiting for a man to tell her to knock the bullshit off.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:07 AM
2

Dollar Tree has coconut oil, and argan oil. You can pick it up the next time you make a Glo-Stick run.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/16 02:05 AM
2

Welcome. Interested to read your perspective. Not often enough that we get natural alphas. I mean that as a compliment. Right now I just focus on leading my family and improving my SMV. Do what works for you. But we say LIFT for a reason. Tall skinny guys don't turn heads when they enter a room. Tall skinny guys don't get default AMOG status. Jacked, ripped dudes do. Best way to improve your SMV.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 09:16 PM
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Don't forget to lift your chin slightly when you click
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:39 PM
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Her problem. I have luxury items, a boat, a jacked up truck with mud tires. I'm at a place in life where I can afford these things. I don't ask permission. I don't answer to anyone. And I don't accept other people's problems. Unless I want to.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 05:02 PM
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The fact that she was going to throw him out of his castle if they had enough money to buy whatever luxury items they wanted made my blood boil. Oh hell no. Gonna throw me out of my castle, after I built that throne of entitlement that you pretend is yours? "Sugartits, you make me laugh." This isn't about earning respect. This is about civility that adults show one another.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:57 PM
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seem to inspire double takes and eye fucking from a different subset of chicks than I got before. This. A beard attracts a completely different group of women. A beard can take an already awesome dude to a different level. I shaved mine right before xmas. Missed the attention and validation. Yeah, I admit it. The female attention is unreal. Plus, I like how it makes my chin look, well, more masculine. Grew it back. Got it back to a 1/4" right now. If you're old like me, Just For Men will take 10…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:50 PM
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I'm nopeing the fuck out of the default.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:15 PM
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"My god given right to grow this glorious beard." You want to have a beard? Grow your beard. I have a beard. Wife loves it. She used to complain about it. My face, my beard. She learned to accept it. If she's going to follow you around and bitch, leave the house. That point system? Laugh at it and ignore it. If I got in bed, and my wife was playing with a coloring book, ... well, anything would be better than watching her mindless TV show while she fucking colored. And keep improving yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:13 PM
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I wish I had more than 1 upvote to give
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 04:00 PM
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" Bring home a GTO , and i'll be taking all that money and your stuff will be in the front yard" And you just let that go? Maybe it's the season, and there's some cabin fever going around, but women disrespecting their men seems to be the trend this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/16 03:40 PM
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When I read victim vomits, I see some poor dude sitting around feeling sorry for himself, just wanting a bro hug and a "it's going to be OK." So, here's your bro hug. It's going to be OK. You're special. Now, get to work, own your shit, and become awesome. You don't need a mentor. Or anyone to hold your hand. You need to take control of and responsibility for your life. You got this, dude.
/r/askMRP14/01/16 01:41 PM
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This is my thing. Every Sunday evening, I grill my lunch meats. Alternate between chicken breasts, pork chops, pork tenderloin, and when I have a little extra money, boneless turkey breast. Cook it up, slice it up, (I do two huge sandwiches every day), weigh each day's meat and put the weight on a Ziploc bag. I average a pound of meat for every lunch (comes out to ~120g of protein). Then, I'm not worried about hitting protein goal at dinner, because I'm already mostly there for the day. Gives me…
/r/askMRP14/01/16 01:28 PM
1

I ran this program this fall: https://www.t-nation.com/training/simple-deadlift-program
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 08:40 PM
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when she tries to say: "Not tonight" or whatever, that is when you take her hard and fast. That is what the man wrote. I consider that bad advice, regardless of context. And to answer your question, at this point in my relationship, I don't push past any "no." Edit: my wife pushes against my "no" on deadlift day.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 08:11 PM
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You don't diet, you eat towards a goal. Yep. The better you hit your daily (or weekly, for those of us who carb cycle) numbers, the better progress you'll make in the gym.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 07:26 PM
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A tbsp is a tbsp, not all-you-can-eat mayo. It took me a few fuckups to learn to count more accurately. But when I started, MFP didn't have the scan function.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 07:10 PM
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In my world, and marriage, "not tonight" means Not Tonight. I'm familiar with LMR. Also familiar with No.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 07:00 PM
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I'm at 200 lbs at 6'3". Back in September, I started a deadlidt program, with the goal of hitting new PR over xmas break. Pulled 455 x 2, missed 475 x1 (looking back, should have warmed up with singles, but had to try another rep at 455, because reasons, lifting partner pulled it twice, and I tripped over my ego). My plan is to do that program again next fall and try to hit 500. No straps, mixed grip with chalk.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 06:11 PM
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when she tries to say: "Not tonight" or whatever, that is when you take her hard and fast. I wouldn't do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 05:59 PM
1

Well, I'm getting closer to the 12% mark on this bulk. If all goes well, at the ended of March, I'll be 12.8%, then cut back down to 9% over 8-9 weeks. I feel like a fat kid at the pizza buffet. Not living up to my standards. Good news is, I put 20 lbs on my deadlift over the past 3 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 05:55 PM
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Fat ass Disclaimer: My standards
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 05:18 PM
1

MFP let's you scan most packaged stuff, hard to fuck it up
/r/askMRP13/01/16 05:13 PM
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Plus, you just look like a man that has his shit together. The confidence, the body language, the way your clothes fit you. The increased testosterone that's seeping out of your pores. The social proof. There's literally nothing better you can do to make yourself more attractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 05:09 PM
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Love this response. You nailed it. I'm not even flirting with the waitress, the chick is just all up in my shit. And my wife just grabbed my arm.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 04:57 PM
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Your wife's not very attracted to you. And you're doing all kinds of "trained monkey" shit, and still getting rejected. How about this? Read the sidebar, improve yourself. Become a man a woman would want to fuck, eagerly. Not the kind of dude that a woman fucks, begrudgingly. When that happens, you won't be asking for blowjobs or rearranging furniture. So what have you done to unfuck yourself? Edit: Whacking off in the bathroom just seems so ... pathetic. Edit2: think I look good without a shirt…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 04:36 PM
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Butt crack showing? My wife's had some plumbers crack one day. I put a quarter in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/16 01:50 PM
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Kids, especially young ones, go through phases. There will be times that your child wants to be with her mom all the time, and times she wants to be with you. Right now, she is in a mom phase. Hell yes! This. My daughter went through those phases. She's at an age (10) now where Dad can do no wrong. This will likely change in a year or two. I'd spend my time working on myself right now. Get ripped, pas your wife's tests, dress better. Provide leadership. You'll notice your wife isn't as stressed …
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:43 PM
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Cat, does not like my RP tendencies, What are you doing that's so overt that the sister is reacting to? RP around family, at least for me, I'd just being an awesome dude and teasing my wife's sisters. That said, ignore him. And/or laugh at him. I'm trying to imagine examples of what he's doing, but drawing a blank. Can you give some examples?
/r/askMRP13/01/16 01:30 PM
1

Do what you're doing for 12 weeks. Then come back and ask your question. Anything you do toward nutrition and fitness will work right now. Good luck.
/r/askMRP13/01/16 02:06 AM
1

From your OP, you're quite familiar with it. I fight a daily battle to prevent early onset glaucoma.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 08:31 PM
2

Dam, I'm such a hijacker. No, not brainstorming. Implementing
/r/askMRP12/01/16 07:47 PM
1

It's on the list now. I've been researching body paints this morning.
/r/askMRP12/01/16 07:39 PM
1

Off topic, but I broke out the black light bulb and a highlighter last night. Wife's been texting me pics of different color highlights today. Her words last night: "that was fun and exciting"
/r/askMRP12/01/16 07:35 PM
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Regardless of where you are, you must respect yourself first. Nothing builds confidence like standing up for yourself. Is his wife going to leave him because she disrespected him and he called her on it? And set consequences? If so, she's a shit woman, so don't let the door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya.
/r/askMRP12/01/16 07:14 PM
1

I'm not isolating my wife unless I intend to fuck her.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:54 PM
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tell her that if she was to talk like that to me again alone or in front of kids she would put us on the path to divorce as there is no way in hell I will tolerate that level of disrespect I wouldn't even be "sweet" about it. I'd use my man voice (low, calm) and tell her in no uncertain terms that if this ever happens again, I'm done. OP, regardless of where you are in your journey, there's never a time when blatantly disrespecting you is OK. Especially in front of your children. Nuke that shit.
/r/askMRP12/01/16 06:51 PM
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go do whatever it is without her and that can easily be translated into "being childish" or whatever by her hamster... So I could be overthinking this You're definitely overthinking, imo. And why are you trying to isolate her? Removing your attention from someone acting inappropriately is different than isolating a person.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:36 PM
1

I would guess Low Self-esteem
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:23 PM
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In your example, I would continue as planned, if it's something I was looking forward to doing. If it was something else, I'd say "no thanks." A party where all my friends are there? I'm going to have a good time, be social. Wife can have a good time, too. If she wants. Her call. Or, if she and I were planning to do something, but she gets mad/grumpy/etc, I'd change my mind about going out with her. I have the right to change my mind. And I can find something better to do than spend time with so…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 06:17 PM
1

Not to belabor it, but I was thinking after I posted that. I only flirt with women who make eye contact with me. In front of my wife, in front of their husbands. But always starts with eye contact. I seldom go out of my way to talk with a woman who doesn't make eye contact. And I'm not a special snowflake. So I'd guess that's how it works for other guys, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 05:06 PM
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To clarify she doesn't currently look at other guys Yeah, she does. And most of those guys flirting with her are flirting with her because she gave them "that look."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 04:53 PM
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As I mentioned earlier, your wife has an inferiority / low self esteem issue. Give her a little beta from time to time, but this is not your problem to fix. And she keeps trying to hand it off to you. My interests lie more in making money and growing my empire than chasing pussy In my previous statement, I mentioned offering her a little beta. But this quote comes across as "I'd rather be a better provider than a Chad." Embrace a little Chadness.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 04:36 PM
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She's going to hit you with pissy behavior again about this issue. A&A, DGAF. She'll figure out you're not playing along, and will stop. "Were you looking at that girl?" You: "yep"
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:28 PM
3

Please, I can't take the Chinese "Pursuit of Happyness" again
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:23 PM
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You're a man. A .7 waist to hip ratio walks by, you're going to look. Wife gives you shit for looking at a woman? A&A it. Then she says, "I'm going to start checking out dudes." OK, shrug, walk off. She already checks out other dudes, what do you care? How are you handling them? You're DEERing and in your wife's frame. Don't do that. Your non apology was weak, IMO. Your wife call you out for looking at another woman? Truly DGAF. As far as her back pain, that's legitimate. I wouldn't pick her up …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 03:07 PM
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I wouldn't read to much into it. It's just your wife maintaining street cred in the female social matrix. Shit like that makes her feel good, because she posted it, shows she "cares" about the plight of young women, and her social network liked it. One of her FB friends will likely post a video about bullying or something. Feelz, man. It's like that Ice Bucket thing a few years ago. How many fucking people dumped water on their heads, instead of giving to charity? Feelz, man. Doesn't matter if y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 02:13 PM
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Normally like your posts and perspective. But goddamn! Got it the first time you went full Grammar Nazi. I post regularly, and I don't know all the markdown tricks. Not everyone writes 8,000 word and 20 minute reads on Reddit. Check yourself, dude. FWIW, imo OP ia almost there, if he can get out of his own head. Loved the cold "this shit ain't gonna last" talk. I see many parallels with OP. We're about the same age, we're had similar experiences in marriage. And we like our chiba.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/16 01:42 PM
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"It's inappropriate and wrong for you to go out alone to a social function with any man other than me." I tend to lean toward the "give no fucks, be awesome", but I like this. Lay down your law calmly one time. Then, let her hamster go for a run.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 08:57 PM
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I'm going home tonight and declare my own born again virginity. Gotta hold that solid "virgin again" frame. I suspect my wife may throw a shit test or 3 my way.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 06:37 PM
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He at least walked away (likely not to the Farewell Tour he was hoping for) with ideas on self respect, being attractive, being assertive, and establishing boundaries. At worst, he has the basic tools to be a better man.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 05:56 PM
1

Bro needs a Tivo
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:44 PM
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I'm ignoring her for the first 24 hours.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 03:02 PM
3

Ok. My wife and I switched those roles last night. I was tired, she was DTF. So I starfished her. I'll bring my A game today. Her and I joke about our sexual performance. It's a lot like going to the gym, 1 out of 5 workouts suck, 3 are average, and 1 out of 5 are fucking awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 02:37 PM
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So you normally let her call all the shots in the bedroom? If your woman is asking YOU what position would you prefer, you done fucked up. Just initiate, direct her. I'd definitely try to fuck her today (I'd say "again," but she tried to fuck you). Work on your dominance and assertiveness. Start early every day Like TTB says, start when your feet hit the floor in the morning. I told my wife this morning as I was heading out the door, "I know you have a busy day at work, so don't let the thought …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 02:25 PM
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I'm not sure what you're asking. So your girlfriend "confessed" her number (yeah, I'd buy that, just like when a woman says "I never do this" as she expertly does it). But with you, she wants to go slower, and "not compromise her values." Still don't know what your question is. this was a sign of how into me she is that she let it go this far. Thanks for a good laugh. Let me see if I understand. She fucked the previous guy silly, but won't fuck you until you get married? That actually sounds lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 02:15 PM
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Is it something she can do for herself? I don't do it. And I don't choreplay prior to sex. If I'm back rubbing for 5 minutes, I'm getting blown for 5 minutes. Those are my terms.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 01:49 AM
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Fuck it. Concentrate on yourself. If your wife's going to cheat, I seriously doubt she's going to tell you the name of the dude AND the night. She can have male friends. If your shit is tight, you're good. "He sounds like a nice guy. Have fun, blow him for me." And truly DGAF.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 01:42 AM
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wife who cheated twice Absolutely fucking no.
/r/askMRP11/01/16 01:33 AM
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If u can't Take the Time 2 spell ur shiT out, I can'T Take the Time 2 help u. Try /r/AskMRP. There's more patience with lazy bullshit there. edited to add more capital T
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 01:28 AM
1

But maybe always means "no."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 01:24 AM
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There are many women out there who didn't consciously want much sex until the right guy came along. That right there. The "right" guy will get sex whenever he wants, the other times the woman will initiate. It's hard to provide the supply when the demand is so high. As a man, you're Apple, and if you've marketed yourself correctly, she'll beg for the new overpriced IPhone.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 01:23 AM
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I thought I was the only one who literally left the house when rejected. Like you, doesn't happen often, but I literally leave. Don't know if it appears butt hurt or not. I don't care. I have other things to do than sit or lie around when rejected.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/16 01:10 AM
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Be gone, woman. This is the men's locker room.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 10:33 PM
1

80% of 1rm max X 8 works well. But you'll need to switch up your rep scheme every couple of months (at least I do ).
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 07:47 PM
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Do you pin him, or does he pin himself?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/01/16 07:39 PM
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He might have somebody else? No! No! He doesn't. He wouldn't. I better find out... He is dressing well lately. And he's looking good from the lifting. No, there's no other women. But it wouldn't be hard for him to get another woman. And that slut Susie from the PTA was eye fucking him the other night at dinner. Well, that bitch needs to be content with that fat tub of lard she's married to...I'm.so going to rock his world tonight... Says he's going to work out, but I dunno. Could he have another…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 05:38 PM
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Ignorant rednecks What??
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 05:04 PM
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I get what you're doing. Different ways to skin a dawg. I have this same problem in my house. And I see it everywhere. Moms (and dads) yelling at and arguing with kids. My wife and daughter do this shit. Way too much. I've brought it up to my wife. But never tried to solve her problem. Not even jokingly. Mom and daughter were so proud to tell me their New Years resolution was to respect each other. Time will tell. I'd have fogged the hell out of your wife's statement, but its your dawg. Edit: th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 02:49 PM
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I'll let you guys (jack and cad) debate where each other is on the MRP spectrum. That said, this quote caught my eye: I'm going to put them through a wall next time they speak like that to you. I'm not a fan of solving my woman's problems. Direction and advice offered when asked. But from your report, she didn't ask.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 02:02 PM
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Being a leader also involves benevolence and empathy. This idea does not get as much airtime in the TRP community as it should. I've mentioned it several times before, but I'm claiming it here: Benevolent assholeTM
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/16 01:48 PM
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You can have my goggles when you pry them from my cold, dead fingers
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 07:47 PM
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Without doxxing myself, the thesis involved farming. This cute 30 something freshly minted PhD was on my committee. She demanded that I explore the effect that male ownership of farms had on women. Totally unrelated to my thesis. I laughed my ass off, she got madder and madder. Finally had to dump her from the committee and replace her to finish and defend it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 07:40 PM
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She told me tonight she's realized that she can't make me happy and is letting me go. Nothing of value to add that hasn't already been said. Except, just think about how she phrased the above quote.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 07:04 PM
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Nothing to add, great post! Its a double edged sword, but beats the hell out of mediocrity. My favorite part of the post, right there
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 06:53 PM
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just don't like the idea of using manipulation in a relationship but instead of being genuine What does that mean, being "genuine?" A man pursuing happiness and getting his needs met is "genuine," IMO. A man that does things with the expectation that his woman will reciprocate in kind, then being mad when she doesn't isn't "genuine." A man doing things, in hopes of validation? Not "genuine." Not looking to convert you into a cult member, or debate you. Just thinking out loud. Edit: I don't know …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 06:36 PM
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Old guy here. I started losing my hair at 24. Went to dermatologist, diagnosed with male pattern baldness. Took rogaine for a few years, minimal to no change. Finesteride hit the market soon after. Took it for 3 years, had some moderate regrowth. Quit taking it, because of expense ($50/month back in the 90's). Lost my regrowth within 6 months, plus continued to shed. Finally said "fuck it" and shaved it all off. I have a misshapened head (and/or body dismorphia). Very self conscious at first, no…
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 06:06 PM
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I'm 49 and clean shaven. The 23 year olds embrace my look. Get swole, get lean, and own that shit. They're not attracted to a head of hair. They're attracted to confidence.
/r/TheRedPill06/01/16 05:45 PM
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All the positives carried within RP are negated by your posters who treat it like a science of social manipulation instead of realizing that embracing a spirit of self worth and taking action in response is more valuable than any tricks you can learn. Wait, there are tricks? And science? Maybe even scientific tricks? What I understood from your post is "I like the idea, and message of self-improvement. But I don't like hamster. Take what's useful, leave the rest. That's what I do. And I think th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 05:25 PM
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So you're a fat mangina. Will your wife come around? One thing I'm sure of. She won't for an overweight puss. Fix yourself. Stop worrying about her problems (narcissist, OCD, alpha female). That's just your hamster making excuses for your failure. Instead of being a fat puss, become a fit man. And learn to act like a man. Be confident, assertive. You want something? Go take it. Women (including narcissistic, obsessive, compulsive, alpha, disrespectful women) are attracted to confident, assertive…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 02:50 PM
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In any event -- if you want advice on how to reconcile, PM me. Since the consensus here seems to be that your wife's a piece of shit, and for all I know you actually agree with them, no point in taking up space here if that's the case. I'd like to read your advice, and I don't think it would be taking up space. Your perspective is interesting, and I think your thoughts on reconciliation would be beneficial. Especially for RP Rambos that reach too far, too fast (not that OP did, his wife appeared…
/r/askMRP06/01/16 02:01 PM
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but I really didn't want to get all messy If I hadn't been laid in a month, I'd be down with getting messy. Any fuckin' time of day. But that's me. After fucking that encounter up, you continued to fuck up. But I think you know that. BTW, she was in your frame. Until the end. Then, she was just frustrated. Get out of "monk mode" and start interacting with your wife again. She's DTF. Don't overthink it. And buy some damn rubbers, FFS.
/r/askMRP06/01/16 02:21 AM
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Great response!
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/16 01:07 AM
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moving away from strength training, and back onto volume, for cutting. My 2 cents, but I'd drop the volume and focus on maintaining strength during a cut. Your recovery is going to be shit, and adding volume is going to grind you down.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 09:48 PM
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A while ago, I.wanted a BJTC. So in the heat of the moment, I told her what I wanted. I didn't get it. Fast forward a few days, I'm gaming her in the kitchen. I tell her "I need a BJ. To completion." She rolled her eyes. I told her, "I'm going to get my needs met. I'm giving you first shot at meeting them." Then left the room while she took the hamster for a walk. Every time I requested one since then, I get my needs met. She even asks how her performance was and how she can improve. I praise an…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 08:56 PM
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A couple of ways to approach this: Laugh and keep walking "Is that something you can do for yourself?" "Please what?" Make her call you sir or your majesty But fetching shit for her? Not going to happen. If she's pissed, she'll get over it. Or she can leave. Her call. My wife used to do stuff like this. Nixed it a few times, now is hardly an issue. I say "hardly" because she may ask me to get her a beer, but she tells me that she'll get the next round. She even uses "is that something you can do…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 08:34 PM
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You say you would have handled it different. How so? Not picking on you, but you asked, so ... Your post is a lot of talk, no action. You're saying "I accept responsibility", then you don't. You're saying "I don't care about the money" and then you do. I still don't see any RP behavior from you here. I'd work on re-establishing (or establishing) a leadership role in my family. Where I'm the Go To Guy for finances. Where my family happily comes to me for all major financial matters. Instead of ma…
/r/askMRP05/01/16 05:41 PM
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But the lead dog has the best view
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/16 02:51 PM
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I'm not digging the punishment of the wife. Sure, wife shouldn't have had all that cash in an unsecured place. But shit happens, things get lost. And OP seems to think it was the wife's fault for his lack of leadership. From my perspective, OP paid $3 grand to learn the lesson of owning your shit. Except, after paying his tuition, I don't see where he owned his shit. and an entire afternoon of winter vacation time spent at the bank. Fuck me. A leadership failure. Lost a nice chunk of money (OP's…
/r/askMRP05/01/16 02:33 PM
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You're scared to try and fuck your wife because she may say "no?" How many times is she DTF, but you won't initiate? How much sex are you missing out on? Yes, you're being a pussy. In your readings, did you come across the concept of frame? You're scared to try and fuck a girl because she may say "no." I'm not picking on you, I'm just trying to understand your problem. Do you have this problem in other areas of your life? This fear of risk?
/r/askMRP04/01/16 08:06 PM
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Act like a guy who's been around a woman that's shown attraction to him before. As a married guy, this shit happens often. You don't have to fuck every woman that's attracted to you. Flirt. Don't flirt. Do what you want to do. You're a masculine prize, of course women are attracted to you. Look and act like you've been there before. Even if you haven't.
/r/seduction04/01/16 07:27 PM
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I'm watching this same scenario happen with a couple that are friends of ours. Over the past few weeks, I've witnessed his wife call him an idiot in public, and the other night at dinner, she berated him over the dinner check (trying to get him to pay for everyone's meal, which was not expected or acceptable, prefer to pay my own way). I've dropped some RP nuggets on him in the past, but he's unwilling to pick them up, so he's on his own. But he's mentioned several times he's frustrated, and he …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/16 06:44 PM
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Cool story, bro. What are you going to do to fix the mess you've created?
/r/askMRP04/01/16 04:35 PM
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It's not your output that's the problem then. It's your intake.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 11:42 PM
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This sub is for guys who, by default, have actually gotten laid before. But the my sub is better than your sub is pretty damn funny. The RP Network? Is that owned by IHeartMedia or Cumulus?
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:52 PM
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I'm 6'3", and I had to gear up in my late 20's to get to 235 lbs and lean. But that was many years ago, and I'm been AAS-free for almost 20 years now. I'm hovering around 200 lbs right now at 11.5% bfp. Which I'm happy with, since I've been on a lean bulk for 8 months. Three more months of gaining weight, then cutting in April and May to get back in single digits for "shirt off" season. My hat is off to you if you're natty. I don't care how you got there, as long as you got there. No need to con…
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:49 PM
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Dwayne Johnson (the rock) had fat sucked out right below his pecks? The Rock likely had gyno.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:44 PM
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I don't recall recommending that you switch to 3X12. I do recall posting a link to Greg Nuckols' thoughts on DUP: http://www.strengtheory.com/the-bogeyman-of-training-programs-and-why-it-may-be-just-what-you-need/
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:43 PM
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Everyone's different, but I'd bet if you leaned out to, say 10% bodyfat percentage (different than BMI), and held your bodyfat at that percentage for 6 months or longer, most of the loose skin will tighten up. Sure, some folks are left with loose skin after an extended lean period, but most folks will find their skin tightens.
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:41 PM
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Your problem is that you need to lose weight and gain muscle mass. But if you cut weight now, you'll have nothing to show. Count your calories, set up your macros for a .5 lb/gain per week and keep lifting. You should be able to increase your volume and your muscle gain at a rate like that. You won't be lean for a while, but you need to increase your strength (which will increase your muscle mass), so you'll likely hover around 15% until you get to a point where you think you can cut weight and …
/r/askMRP03/01/16 08:32 PM
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I took my daughter to basketball practice this morning, and read his blog.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/16 10:31 PM
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Until you get control of your nutrition, you're destined to return to the same size. It's like paying of debt, but not changing your spending habits. Yesterday I did 4x10 curls, 50 situps on the machine and ran on the treadmill for 20 minutes. Ah, the Bro Workout. Fuck situps, abs are built during weighed pullups (do chinups instead, and you will never have to do curls, unless you want to), deadlifts, OHP, and squats. And count what you eat. Some guy wrote a great article on how to fix that shit…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 10:07 PM
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So you lost your shit in front of the wife and kids? OK, you know you fucked up. And you'll be more self aware when you find those feelings bubbling up again. You wanted a pat on the back and some validation. Instead, you got a frame-rattling shit test. So, fix your shit. Are you starting over? No, but you're going to go back your self-improvement list and find where you can improve. Good job calling out the communication with the other dude. You've set a boundary. Now, enforce it with your life…
/r/askMRP02/01/16 10:00 PM
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"So many women, so little time." Laugh that shit off. Let her say what she wants to. Act, don't react. For the record, her complaints are unjustified. Then carry on, soldier.
/r/askMRP02/01/16 03:34 PM
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For me, a few of these are the day I bench pressed 315lbs (that’s three big plates on each side) Yeah, let's assume we can do plate math. I liked his post, except when he stumbled over his ego several times.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 06:38 AM
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So I'm watching The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo with my wife. SPOILER ALERT: So there's the scene where the guardian rapes her. My wife says "that's disgusting." I say "because he's a rapist." Wife says "no, because he's fat and gross."
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/16 06:23 AM
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Remove the idea that my wife just isn’t into any of that. Yep.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/15 11:12 AM
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that I'm the shit and not becoming shit How do you think you're doing? You said things have gotten better, and you're getting unsolicited sex. So, continue on your course. Reevaluate in a month or two, calibrate what needs fixing. You got this.
/r/askMRP31/12/15 01:38 AM
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"did you not like it? Do you not think I'm sexy? Are you cheating on me?" No, yes, yes. Wait, what was the order of questions again? One's I don't really care for get a "nice" or "thanks." One's I like get a more detailed response of what I'm going to do to her later.
/r/askMRP29/12/15 06:49 PM
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Instead of handing her the bowl I put the bowl on the floor, out of her reach and walked on. She had to get her fat ass off the couch to get it. You actually nailed that. Much more effective than "no." Well played, sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 04:16 PM
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My wife used to tell me that she would never send nude pics. I'm a guy in shape What does that mean? "In shape" of what? Are you the highest value, hottest guy she could get? Because she'll send nude pics to the hottest guy she could ever get. He would just send a text saying "need pics." She would text back "no" or a pic of something stupid. The hot guy would ignore her text. The next day, the hot guy would send a text saying "need pics." She'll say "no" or change the subject. Hot Guy ignores h…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/15 01:08 PM
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The wife will see this new you, she'll deny you've changed. And if you're doing it right, she'll claim credit for the improvement in your relationship. Grab a beer, take a sip, smile, and enjoy the fruits of "her labor." Just make sure you don't have a mouthful of beer when she claims credit, because you'll spit it everywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/15 09:55 PM
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If it is desirable to instil a RP mindset, how do you go about it. Fix yourself. She'll respond, one way or the other. Either way, you'll be happy. Slow down, become a Jedi. Not Rambo. Is it simply a result of your RP mindset, frame and behavior? Yes. Does anyone have experience with this? Yes. edit: I think the problem you're having is that you feel the need to explain what you're doing. In short, you're treating your woman like a dude. Ask just about anybody in MRP how explaining stuff worked …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/15 09:33 PM
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She then added that she refused to "live like this" as my "mother and maid" and even threw out the word 'divorce'. "Divorce because of dirty dishes? Sure, I'm make an appointment with my lawyer tomorrow." "Are you my mother or my maid? Pick one. I prefer wife." "Don't want to live like this? You mean with a bitchy wife? Welcome to my world." Don't forget to laugh. A lot. I'd nuke that "divorce" shit, though. That's a serious word, she doesn't get to toss that one around.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/15 09:58 PM
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And my third edit was gonna be: /u/stonpimpletilists is gonna say: "that's some straight/power talk."
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/15 04:53 AM
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You have to establish yourself as your own man. "Thanks, dude. I got this." Listen to his bullshit, hear him out. Thank him for his advice. Then do what you want. Over time, he'll stop. My FIL used to try this. He even went off on me once during a drunken rage. I didn't argue, just thanked him for his hospitality and left with my family. Didn't visit for a couple of years. Wife and child did, but I didn't. He gets to do this, whether I agree with him or not. It is his daughter, he's her father. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 07:50 PM
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thought after a half decade, this relationship would be strong enough to go through some struggle. My bad. Yeah. Most of us fucked up longer than that. "My bad." Now we're making progress. Admitting things are your fault is the first step. Fix yourself, dude. Whether you keep her or next her doesn't matter. If you don't fix you, your next relationship will end up in the same place. Unfuck yourself.
/r/askMRP26/12/15 07:35 PM
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Fuck that. She values my credit card all right. TRP has its points, but I ain't exactly a fat loser or anything. For some reason, it's got way worse since I've taken the pill. Exactly what part of the pill did you take? I'm missing what your question is about MRP. What actions have you taken? What parts aren't working for you? Subscribing to a reddit sub isn't taking the pill. Self improvement, increasing your value and attractiveness, that's taking the pill.
/r/askMRP26/12/15 07:27 PM
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Making perpetually angry people madder by arguing with them? Giving their beliefs validation? One upping assholes for entertainment value? No thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 12:08 PM
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What can I do to fix my relationship? What have you done so far? What have you read? What's your plan? This is a self help deal.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/15 12:04 PM
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I'm that guy. This. Welcome to responsibility. Be the Oak.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/15 02:49 AM
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not a small man by any means, though still have to flex if you wanna see side ab, work in progress Fix that shit. I got pinched this morning, came in at 11.51%. I'm pleased, not bad for a 7 month bulk, although I only put on 3 lbs of muscle this year. Whatever. I ate my way to this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/15 02:37 AM
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So you're doing a longer-term push/pull? Nice job leading the hamster. Should we (dudes) powertalk, or just be able to recognize it? Should we stick to straighttalk? I dunno. The best was people asking what I do at the company, and answering them all without lies. Ha! I go to company events with my wife, I make up lies. Sometimes, I'm the caterer, and everyone compliments the food all night. Last time, there was a bunch of new guys, so I became a retired hockey player. edit: Nice flair, you fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 07:26 PM
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She's trying to pile shame and guilt on you, which she is more than entitled to attempt, but you need to cut out the bullshit of stepping into her frame and letting that shame and guilt actually get to you. That's it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 01:09 PM
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I don't know much about your religious beliefs, but the next time she touched me, I'd try to fuck her. Keep it simple, bro.
/r/askMRP23/12/15 12:51 AM
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"Me either. Come here."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 12:44 AM
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Be non needy and cocksure That right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/15 12:39 AM
1

Try this
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/15 01:41 PM
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need advice on what to do next here You don't do anything. You handled it, although you stumbled your way through with the explanations. Do you feel like you need her permission or approval to add someone to Facebook? No? Then laugh and tease her about her jealousy.
/r/askMRP21/12/15 10:36 AM
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Rip off her underwear. Just watch out for those that have way too much elastic. Ripped a pair like that recently, I think I moved her 3'
/r/askMRP19/12/15 09:36 PM
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adultery, addiction or abuse are examples of things which I consider so obvious as to not require an overt contract I can't see what harm would come from establishing boundaries and stating the consequences of crossing them. I've had the adultery and abuse talk with the wife, we both agree on the consequences (for either one of us). There is no misunderstanding.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 09:26 PM
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asking why and communication about these feelings do not work. Who cares why she's angry or upset? If she needs to tell me something, she can use her big girl words. Not sulk around and be pissy. Fuck that. Powertalk is pretty damn effective, when you need to use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 09:22 PM
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My birthday? Wife being a bitch? "Later!" I'm 5 years old, its my special day, and I'm going to be a fuckin' rockstar. Gonna eat some good food, drink some beers, buy myself something. Then go home and try to bang the bitchy wife. If she's not DTF, her loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 06:30 PM
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Two nos? gets up, puts in clothes Wife: "Where you going?" You:"Out, see you in the morning" Wife: "blah blah" You: crickets That's literally how it works. Do it a couple of times. Then, the next time you get rejected, all you have to do is get up and ... things change.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/15 06:21 PM
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She starts hitting me In what kind of world is this a "typical night?" Call that shit down. If she gets irrational, leave the room. This isn't about whether or not to apologize. This is about protecting yourself and your children. I mean, what does this woman do when you're not there, and she's frustrated with the kids? "If you ever hit me or my kids again, your ass is in the street." Not acceptable behavior. Ever.
/r/askMRP18/12/15 01:24 AM
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I was thinking an MRP cruise..... No. Just no. Besides, that boat already has a Captain.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 10:17 PM
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For a bunch of self-proclaimed alphas, you guys have a lot of drama. I don't give a fuck how you get there, just lean out and get in the 1,000 lb Club. Count your calories, insulation, gremlins, or leopards. But lean the fuck out. Look like a man that has his shit under control.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 08:26 PM
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We are all biologically and genetically different Yet the Law of Thermodynamics remains the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 01:49 AM
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The best part is I now understand that I'm a real prize ... Someone's cutting onions, my eyes are watering.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/15 01:41 AM
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Great job, OP! I'm biased, but I like this post. I've heard this guy looks good naked (small sample size, YMMV). I'd like to hear OP tell us more about how his weight loss improved his attractiveness with women.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 11:12 PM
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Just shut up and do something when you get home. This is why we say text is for logistics only. So you're not staring at your phone for hours this afternoon while your hamster runs a marathon. "understood?" So you're asking for sex and waiting (patiently) for a "yes"? And if she says yes, how pissed will you be when it doesn't happen? You're protecting your ego here, so you won't initiate if she says no. Kill your ego, dude. You know what's attractive to women? Vulnerability. A man that's not af…
/r/askMRP16/12/15 05:51 PM
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Is your game that strong? I dunno, your wife doesn't think so. How's your game with her? Bring your "A" game at home. My wife doesn't care for her job, either. I listen for a few minutes, tell her "that sucks," and keep flirting with her. Hell, I don't really want to work, either, but I do because we have bills to pay. The biggest "bitches" (according to my wife's perception) are usually the easiest to win over. You're changing the dynamic in your relationship, brace yourself for more. Doesn't s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 05:34 PM
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started to apply "a next date rule" That works well in my house. If it happened on the second date, would there be a third? No burping, farting. Take care of your hygiene. No sloppy clothes. We're dating here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 03:51 PM
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the book is for her to learn that being a bitch will only get you kicked out the door Or, you could tell her that.
/r/askMRP16/12/15 03:45 PM
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I'm digging the Johari Window reference. I set some terms that I thought she would fail and laid out what I require for the relationship to continue and thrive. Maybe I'm misreading this. But why set people up for failure? IMO, that's not what leaders do. In response to your question, I did a gradual reset. And it stuck. Wife says she's happy, her needs are met, mine are met, and she even regularly points out the flaws (in private conversion with me, not to them) in the marriages of our friends.…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 03:29 PM
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go get your teeth cleaned whitened But she's good with the finances and since we've done it this way, I've never really learned how to handle the finances Adding and subtracting, bro. I'd start paying bills together. While you're doing that, develop a financial plan, for the short and long term. Sidebar. /r/askMRP is there for you once you do your due diligence, and have questions.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/15 03:42 AM
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Good job taking control of your nutrition. I cook each week's lunches on Sunday evenings. That way, I'm nailing my macros. I pick meals for dinner and provide nutritional leadership. Wife had her ob/gyn visit yesterday. She couldn't wait to tell me how her blood pressure is now 110/67. She's suffered from high blood pressure since the birth of our child 10 years ago. She quit taking medication last year, and her diet has helped her get her best reading in years. Plus, she's killing it at the gym…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:57 PM
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Good post. The worst thing your woman can ever say is "I feel we're stuck in a rut." Because, if she says this, its on you and your fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:44 PM
1

Un fuckin predictable. Plus, slow day at work. Think I'll call the missus and tell her to meet me at home for some afternoon delight. (shit, now I'll.have that song stuck in my head)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:30 PM
5

It's the Chinese version of The Pursuit of Happyness. You deserve this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/15 05:04 PM
7

In my weaker days, I once gave my wife a book to explain what I was going through. She never read it, nothing changed, and we almost divorced. I don't plan on offering any more books to her. If she ever asked about my shit and wanted a book recommendation, I'd probably offer her MMSL. So now, she reads what she wants and I read what I want. I lead by example, she's happy and does her girl thing. YMMV.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 04:04 PM
1

"Yeah but those are all family things, we don't do things together, and I feel like you just want me for sex." (Notice the you's start flying). I respond that if I only wanted her for sex I wouldn't be doing family things and bought a house with her, etc.) It's easy to sit here and arm chair quarterback, but here goes: Any response that's cocky/funny will work with the "only want me for sex." Then, initiate. You'll be surprised at how often she's DTF. But that "I bought you a house" bullshit? Or…
/r/askMRP15/12/15 03:51 PM
2

Next time she does it, just leave. Don't say anything, just wander off while she's not paying attention and go do something you want to do. This. Guaranteed, you'll only have to do this 3 times or less. As far as the lunch thing, just go out for lunch a few times. You'll have your answer.
/r/askMRP15/12/15 12:29 AM
3

Set the stage. Having sex regularly is the default. Not having sex is rare, and a solid reason is necessary (like, in my case, Deadlift Day).
/r/askMRP14/12/15 04:58 PM
9

"I'm glad I picked you"
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 03:33 PM
1

Don't women find it to be a sign on weakness, that you won't guard her sexual resource out of indifference? Guarding her resource is her responsibility. Weakness? How so? What's weak about a man that doesn't worry if his woman is going to make poor choices? You do you, she does her. If you're awesome, what does it matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/15 01:19 PM
3

Whenever my wife flirts with other dudes, I make note and make it work for me. She's hot and bothered by some dude? Cool, I'm getting porn star sex when we get home. I may or may not tease her about it, really depends on the situation. She does the same with me when some girl gets frisky. I don't get why you're angry about it. Your wife's a woman, she's attracted to alpha males. I'm attracted to a .7 waist to hip ratio. Just the way the game works. Make it work for you. People are people, we all…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 11:11 PM
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You're better off ignoring it and teasing her about it when you're alone with her afterwards. Definitely. It's amusing, its funny, and tease her about it. "You guys make a cute couple."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/15 11:04 PM
2

He will get more sex by being a dude who makes women want to fuck him. I haven't even read the entire post, but that quote sums up MRP. Do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/15 03:39 AM
2

Great response! Only thing I can add is to reiterate what you said: Own your shit! Apologize, don't apologize, you do you. But whatever you do, make damn sure you don't come across as needy (which is a huge fuckin' step, considering what got you at this point was being needy). In short, drop the neediness. Today. Own your shit. Keep improving and moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 07:42 PM
5

We place almost 100% of the blame on the man. Because we only have the power to change ourselves. Others can follow our lead, or not. Their choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 07:35 PM
2

Had to wait until I got to a keyboard (instead of my usual short, choppy vague bullshit I post from my phone), but Greg Nuckols explains the Don't Deload thing much better than me in this article.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 07:33 PM
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From reading your FR, you fucked up because you didn't provide any coherent vision. Just lay out your vision, no need to start over, IMO. Just own your shit. "I take responsibility for x. Here's what I have in mind for the future." If she has good ideas that make sense, amend your vision. Now you have buy-in and she's invested in the goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 06:25 PM
2

I'm not a fan of the deload principle. Also not a fan of back sliding when making progress. rep 4/3/3/2/2. Next workout, 4/4/3/3/2 In this example, you gained a rep. That's progress. Instead of deloading, I'd add a drop set of 10% less than your working weight and hit AMRAP. Not sure how that fits with your analogy, however. OK, maybe I do. I don't understand how doing less causes the Gainz Fairy to visit you. And I don't know how dropping back to predominately beta behavior helps your progressi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 05:45 PM
1

This. And I'm highly impressed with the Count's formatting skills.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 04:33 PM
1

Makes Christmas shopping easier. Bag of skittles and a couple of blankets.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 03:58 PM
1

Through introspection I realize I still deep inside hope that my marriage will improve as a result of my actions. Your life will improve, including your marriage. I wouldn't consider that a covert contract. And if your marriage doesn't improve, that issue will become overt quickly. Keep working on yourself. You can't unfuck years of fucking up overnight.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 02:01 PM
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I was at a concert recently with the wife, in line to get a drink. Pretty young girl was walking toward the line. Locked eyes with her, she smiled and looked down. I looked back towards the front of the line. Someone grabbed my arm, assumed it was the wife. Turned around, it was the girl. She leaned in and said "just wanted to say hey." Wife moves to the other side of me, they have a staring contest, girl leaves. Wife says "who's that?" Me: "Apparently a fan." Be attractive, don't be unattractiv…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 01:31 PM
1

PSA: Don't try that first move on her ring hand.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/15 01:23 PM
4

tried initiating in different ways up to slightly aggressive but she got nearly violent. Sleeps wrapped in several blankets to keep me away. A&A that behavior.
/r/askMRP10/12/15 01:08 PM
1

Great FR, really enjoyed reading your thought process
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 04:49 PM
5

I'm more of "girl eating ice cream cone" myself. All Rednecks Are Like That
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 04:38 PM
3

Excellent post. She doesn't have to see it. What she sees is a confident man. A man that knows women are attracted to him, simply because he's himself. A man that is unimpressed by a woman's attention, because it happens all the time. Just another day in the life. I have a wife and daughter. Both will mention women looking at me. Daughter loves to point out to my wife when a woman shows interest, sometimes without me even noticing the woman. There's a couple places around town where I eat for fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/15 02:23 PM
3

If a woman ever mentions my shaved pate, my standard is: I fired my hair before it could quit.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 02:20 AM
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Bruce. You can be bald, or balding. Bald is a choice, balding isn't. Girls aren't attracted to hair. They're attracted to confidence.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 06:55 PM
2

Does this rely on being the "genetic lottery" guy who looks 30 and still has hair, or just looking great compared to other 50 year olds? Hair is optional (as long as you shave it, no horeshoes!) A shredded 50 yo is sadly a special snowflake.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 05:35 PM
1

My wife does MadCow. She started with Strong Lifts, but squatting heavy 3 times/week was tough on her tendons and recovery. She's switched to MadCow and feels better, while making gains. Or consider something like Greyskull. It's a linear progression program, you work at less percentage of your 1rm max, so its not as stressful on connective tissue.
/r/askMRP07/12/15 05:23 PM
0

They follow RP around with their Emotional Abuse and Rape hammers, looking for imaginary nails.
/r/TheRedPill07/12/15 02:46 PM
3

My wife and I used to do shit like this, keeping score.of who went where x amount of times. Usually ended up with seething resentment by one of us, because I wanted to go surfing that day instead, or she wanted to be somewhere else. Just doesn't work. Go where you want to go. Same for her. Now that I do what I want, I find myself going to her family's shit more often. And having a good time. Because I'm doing what I want to do, and so is she. Keep it simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/15 01:41 PM
2

Cutting onions again?
/r/askMRP05/12/15 03:52 PM
5

I just got a RP boner. Love reading success stories. Great job.
/r/askMRP05/12/15 03:50 PM
1

I'd talk less. And if Susan has special needs with her alcohol, Susan can bring her own. I would just continue on becoming an awesome dude. Wife is responsible for getting on or off the tracks herself. Awesome dudes don't get manipulated for buying the wrong shit at the store. Awesome dudes with awesome women laugh at shit like that, then have awesome sex.
/r/askMRP05/12/15 03:45 PM
2

Luck is the intersection of opportunity and preparation. We make our own luck. You need some metric to measure your improvement. In this game, sex is a solid measure.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 02:03 PM
3

I dance with my wife daily. Have a sign that says "in our kitchen, we dance." Dance with your woman. Spin her. Touch her. They love it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/15 01:44 PM
1

This. Natural as hell. I'm attracted to Kimberly Perry but I'll never act on it because reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 06:30 PM
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I think you have it under control, from your description. There's just some chicks that have that ... that "it" that attracts you. Hard to explain, different for everybody, but you know it when you see it. You're infatuated with a fantasy. Likely not even the girl, just the idea of the girl. When I do weighted pullups, there's this girl on the treadmill and her ass is hypnotic, I can get an extra rep by just staring at it swinging back and forth and ... yeah, I know what you're saying. It's not …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 05:45 PM
5

My wife used to say "I'll never send pics via text." I get pics now whenever I ask. Sometimes when I don't ask. I don't know if it's leading to anything; never thought about whether or not it leads to sex. It's fun, flirty. She likes to send them at inopportune times. I'll be in a meeting, get a sext pic, and lose my concentration. Fun as hell. If only my colleagues knew why I'm stuttering. But I think it falls under "start gaming her the minute your feet hit the floor in the morning." I'm going…
/r/askMRP02/12/15 05:32 PM
1

My wife and I occasionally look through CL Casual Encounters and play "hooker or freak?"
/r/askMRP02/12/15 03:47 PM
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Point is, she may have been looking for some encounter. Or she may have been amusing herself. There's some funny shit on Casual Encounters. You freely admit you do it, too. But you're going to crack your whip on her? What kind of leadership is that? It's a nonissue to me. Do what you want to do. Ignore it, next her, whatever. But confronting her? That's weak.
/r/askMRP02/12/15 02:48 PM
5

Spot on. And definitely add cologne. Look and smell good.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 02:05 PM
4

hell I've done it myself a few times since we've been together
/r/askMRP02/12/15 01:32 PM
1

I was alpha in the relationship early but beta in bed There's your problem, IMO. You are just as freaked out at what you're doing as she is. Slow down, get some confidence in your newfound dominant side. And just ignore what happened here. Man, I try shit sometimes that just doesn't work. We both get a good laugh out of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 12:28 AM
1

This. You can pull off your new frame with people who just met you. The folks that have known you for years, you're just acting weird. But they will accept your changes the more they are exposed to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 12:21 AM
1

Read it all, apply it all, and keep what works. Absolutely. Man, I've crashed and burned with stuff. I've learned to take what works (and you're comfortable with), discard what doesn't. But don't forget the stuff that didn't work. I view MRP as a playbook. Gotta keep it fresh, the other team (in this case, my wife) is watching what you do and will make adjustments. You can revisit it later. And if you like it and she likes it, put it back in the playbook.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/15 12:16 AM
5

That dude is no Chad. He's a friendzoned little bitch. I encourage my wife to have girlfriends. This dude sounds like a good one. Yougogurl!
/r/askMRP01/12/15 07:47 PM
1

My question is if you want to do something selfless for your own reasons, can you do it without your wife thinking you're a pussy? Unrelated. You helped people that add value to your life because you wanted to. Your wife wasn't interested in sexy time. I'm not moving heavy shit in hopes of a BJ. I'm moving heavy shit because I want to help. Just not on or a day prior to Deadlift Day. I wouldn't give this a second thought. There are days when you'll.get rejected. Then there are days that she'll i…
/r/askMRP01/12/15 07:31 PM
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Take what makes sense, discard the rest. Make it work for you and your situation. But you'll begin to understand that there are no unicorns and special snowflakes. Congrats on your progress. Take charge of initiating more. And get your ass in the weightroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/15 04:36 PM
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She needs "space" to see other dudes. Next.
/r/askMRP30/11/15 03:35 PM
2

What was the optimal play there? Her comment literally begged for STFU. You have the right not to answer every question.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 01:57 PM
2

Having an oyster roast Saturday night, I'll start prepping with extra water on Thursday to combat the dredded water weight gain.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 01:51 PM
3

I find joy in reading the stories of guys who are reclaiming their life with a wife who seems to be onboard. I can't say it any better, so I just quoted it. Oysters (any shellfish) add 6-7 lbs of water weight overnight, takes me 3-4 days to flush the water and sodium out.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/15 01:15 PM
1

It's the Athol Kay test. It's like the first thing we read here. If you continue your self improvement, you'll likely be facing shit like this often. Be patient. You gonna hump every chick that's attracted to you? Wifes are slower to buy into your new bullshit; they've seen us at our worst.
/r/askMRP25/11/15 02:55 AM
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They know what works to get their spirms into vagina and that's all they care about. Not to take you out of context, but I'm pretty damn confident this does not describe me. Is there a full moon this week?
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:25 PM
3

An epic post
/r/askMRP24/11/15 08:21 PM
1

Fishing with live bait is like taking a bath with your sister. It's OK when you're little.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 07:11 PM
9

The game goes on, whether you're playing or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 05:28 PM
2

Don't get mad. (jk) Somewhat off topic, but the best thing about RP for me is I've learned not to get mad. Everything that used to make me mad makes me laugh now. Although, I admit that I got mad at Tivo the other day. Until I realized the batteries in the remote were going dead. Then I laughed.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 04:57 PM
2

As a fisherman, the palomar knot always wins in knot wars.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:57 PM
1

It was Xposted in MRP
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:56 PM
1

The list is a good idea. In last week's OYS, I mentioned that I was losing attraction. Your comment makes sense, its likely a carryover. Add my lack of creativity in the bedroom, and the hamster has plenty of food. I'll watch more closely for comfort tests. Thinking back now, her Halloween costume was a unicorn. So this has been going on for several weeks now. Edit: Shit, I'm starfishing my wife. Hmm...
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 03:53 PM
3

Why do you care what your detractors think? /u/Omlala handled TBP expertly. Get your ass back in YOUR frame, dude.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:25 PM
2

People choose pleasure over pain. But they will choose pain over being ignored.
/r/askMRP24/11/15 03:07 PM
1

Shit I Need To Own Need to add some variety. With the colder weather, its an indoor game, my creativity is waning. Need to make some decisions; wife is running around finding stuff to do to the house (we need new gas logs! we need to paint!). Need to give her solid leadership. Being indoors and reduced sunlight is killing my motivation. She's testing me a lot lately, I just need to get out of the house. Shit I'm Owning Nutrition and lifting on point. Wife made a comment about how good my abs are…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/15 02:19 PM
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Wife went without consulting me to a psychiatrist 3 months ago My wife went to the gyno without telling me. Big fuckin deal. She has agency for her health. Obviously something going on with her that your "research" (google) didn't uncover. Going to a psychiatrist is a big decision for most folks. It's not her medication that's the problem and cause of her weight gain, its her mental health. I read your post twice and you come across as a controlling dick. Edit: if you're not trolling, then holy …
/r/askMRP23/11/15 08:08 PM
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"The king has got this. Your job is to look and act queenly. Preferably in those skimpy red panties. But panties are optional." Your wife offered suggestions. Take them, or leave them. She wanted drama, and you gave it to her.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 06:13 PM
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would love to have her so hot for me that if I was about to leave the house for a few hours that she would get on her knees. Well, ...yeah. If that's what you want, make it happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:58 PM
2

You only think RP has religious overtones because the Christians have been active on here lately. True. I don't get the sense MRP is based on Christianity. I don't buy into the recent postings regarding religion, so I just ignore them. No need to piss in their punchbowl. But I'm not drinking from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:52 PM
1

Never use the word "totes" again. Unless you're a girl or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/15 05:36 PM
2

You're doing fine. I would have skipped the "what's wrong," but that's knitpicking. Ialways want to dance with you Followed by a hug would have been perfect. Me not wanting to dance with you is never the problem. WTF was that? Dudes don't drama, that came across (to me) as a drama instigator. How much have you read? After the basics, I'd suggest Sex God Method to help your woman enjoy sex more. That low sex drive may be higher than you think.
/r/askMRP23/11/15 02:25 PM
2

The past few days, I've been very assertive with success
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/15 03:08 PM
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This has been a deflating post for me this morning Kill your ego, dude. You've been offered new perspectives. Hell, reading the responses and finding nuggets I can work into my life inflated me. My advice is to not commit a cardinal sin here (i.e. trading your wife's validation of you with our validation).
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 04:50 PM
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I'm just trying to level the playing field a little by showing her I have options and the game skills to pull women. Dude, you're 36. Shred yourself up, work on your body language. Then open your eyes and look at the plethora of options you have. Your wife will see those options, too.
/r/askMRP20/11/15 03:48 PM
1

T thanks for posting this. Its good to see this perspective from a guy who lived it. Have a good friend in the same situation. SAHM, he'll give up 500k if they split. I'm going to show him your story.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 01:51 PM
2

Good job. I've dropped RP on two dudes in my social circle, without calling it RP. Both were, unsolicited, complaining about their sex lives. One went home and RP Ramboed his wife. She called him out on it, and he BPed again immediately. Other dude was hosting a party, kept complaining, and asked me my opinion, because he said I seemed to have a good relationship. I declined 3 times to engage, he kept on. A circle of guys crowded around. So I dropped a 30 second elevator speech. He went ballisti…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 01:32 PM
1

Like slathering all sorts of magical "age defying homeopathic natural" oils on her face at night Rodan Fields!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/15 02:43 AM
2

The difference in my mind is that a tease it's just good ole ball busting. A neg is delivered to level the playing field. There's too much risk and not enough reward to neg your wife, IMO.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 04:41 PM
2

You're married. Tease, don't neg.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 02:59 PM
1

Resist. It's a relatively new thing, not sure where I'm slipping.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 02:56 PM
1

Hi honey. There's no way in hell my wife's attention span will hold out to Google AWALT or oldest teenager in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/11/15 02:04 AM
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The other day she made a comment about how it seems that I "could take her or leave her". The correct answer is always "yep"
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/15 08:29 PM
3

Take a dick pic, text it with "I'll get the ladder, you'll get this." And go get the fucking ladder. Or just STFU and go get the ladder.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 07:26 PM
0

Damn that level of manipulation pisses me off Agreed. If she hasn't fucked me in a year, I don't care what she says to me. Whatever she says will be to the back of my head and my ass, because every time she tries to give me shit, that is what she'll see. OP says he believes in the institution of marriage. Wife obviously doesn't. After holding out for this long, I'll come and go as I please, won't even tell her where I'm going.
/r/askMRP17/11/15 05:54 PM
2

Don't worry about other people and "telling your wife." What other people see is a fun, friendly guy talking to people. "Your husband was fun and friendly the other day." "We need a female opinion on something" would have worked fine on the 3set.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 04:41 PM
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Shit I need to work on: For the last week, I haven't been attracted to my wife. I've got some covert contract issues lately, and I need to shake them. She offered two bjs last week while flirting with me, then backed out at gametime. I'm sure the butthurt was all over my face. I know better. She likely senses my loss of attraction, but she's going to have to own that. I'm going to game the hell out of her this week, see if I can't get that spark back. Shit that's working: Rocking at work. Owning…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 02:12 PM
3

Fuck, that was raw. Thanks for sharing that, Litz.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/15 01:56 PM
1

"Yes, Mom." And continue.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 06:34 PM
1

Maybe some women get so accustomed to living with dread that they increasingly need higher and higher doses. There's definitely a "dread tolerance". At least in my experience. My shit was slipping, couldn't put my finger on it. Then Halloween party came around, and wife got a shot of "other women are digging his shit." And things ramped back up, and the full menu was on the table again, instead of the lunch menu offered during my slide. Or, I just needed some new cologne and a new pair of shoes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 05:38 PM
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You've been at RP for a week and you're ready to divorce your wife. The next ltr will end the same way. Slow down, digest and implement the stuff you read. You may be married to an awesome woman once you exhibit some leadership. with a relatively high SMV (at least top 50% of available men). Set the bar higher, dude. You're a fucking 5.
/r/askMRP16/11/15 04:54 PM
2

Try to be a little more understanding and fraternal like a Mensch and less bitchy and destructive to other men. Said no man ever.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 03:18 PM
5

Seriously, there has to be a point of diminishing returns where the pleasure derived from an additional serving of pussy isn't worth the work required to obtain it. Put a Trigger Warning on crazy shit like that
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 03:16 PM
1

Cool, thanks. I'm not a real redneck. I went speckled trout fishing today.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:56 AM
2

Taking charge in a situation like that is good. The wife likes to see her man with principles.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:41 AM
8

Next. You're 27, fuck everything. Fuck a snake if you can catch it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:36 AM
1

Still breaking them in. I was wolverine for Halloween and wore them.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/15 01:31 AM
7

Good comments here. Here's my take: EVERY.PERSON.YOU.KNOW fucks up from time to time. Look around you, every single person you see has had an egregious faux pas. What you did is human. First things first, apologize to your wife. "Honey, the other night I was trying to be funny and I wasn't. You're a beautiful woman. What I said was inappropriate and untrue. I have no excuse. I was a dick. You have every right to be disappointed in my behavior. I apologize." And take her in your arms. Its done, i…
/r/askMRP14/11/15 05:57 PM
2

I'm at the point where I’m competing against myself Quoted for truth
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 07:40 PM
1

crack all of the glow sticks you bought and throw them around the room? TIL I'm the only guy who wraps them around his thighs. I'm a fan of the 4 pack of 22" ones. If you wear one around your neck, that fucker will end up in your mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/15 07:35 PM
2

My wife, early on, would give me the "no" when I told her to do something like that. I would disengage, and later she would cry and tell me that "she disappoints me." I kept taking it slow, but always trying regularly to break those barriers. In many cases, my perseverance just made it part of our sexual experience. I've successfully broken must of those barriers, but still run into resistance at times. So I go back to the DEVI drawing board and try to figure out where I fucked up. Usually, I'll…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 04:31 PM
2

"Thanks, mom!" Works every time
/r/askMRP12/11/15 03:59 PM
3

Are you a filthy talking director in the bedroom? My wife has inhibitions and stated boundaries. I constantly break them down. I've found that telling my wife what I want in the v heat of the moment, in the filthiest language possible, gets her compliance and piques her interest/immersion. We now have a sign on the bedroom door that says "Vegas." Because what happens in there stays in there. My advice is to keep working on getting her trust. Then break her barriers down.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 03:46 PM
2

I read the other responses. They are good. I'm going to take a different approach. I'm not arguing with her. But I'm calling out the disrespect. "Thanks for taking out the trash. Don't ever disrespect me like that again." And walk off. She gets the silent treatment for the rest of the day. You're not butthurt, but you will stand up for yourself. Tomorrow, you can go back to normal interactions. But there's a price to pay for disrespecting me, and that price is my attention. It's off the menu tod…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 02:02 PM
1

I'll try those. When on the go, the Pure Protein bars are my go-to, always looking to cut corners. I'm on a 6 month bulk at the moment, so I'm averaging 230g/day. I just eat a lot of dead animals. My broscience advice is eat a lot of protein, never mind the .82/lb stuff that gets mentioned. It will make you feel full, and won't hurt you. I eat about a lb of meat for lunch, another lb for dinner. Usually comes out to 200-250 g/day.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/15 01:41 PM
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Unless you're in full on angry asshole mode, I wouldn't even entertain her discussing it with you. She asked me if i would be interested in sitting down with other "men" to talk about my new attitude. Just say no. "Honey, the sheep are nervous now that you're becoming a wolf."
/r/askMRP10/11/15 03:43 PM
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Southern Californians speak like that as well??
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 06:06 PM
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hamsters how she did it for her Damn straight. My wife still on occasion mentions how she fixed our relationship. Sometimes I can't help myself and I ask her how she did it. She'll rationalize some shit, ("I made you a priority", my personal favorite "I quit trying to be the perfect wife", etc) and then I'll burst out laughing, give her a "good job" and fist bump her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 01:33 PM
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This is one of the best posts I've read here. Great job, OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 01:19 PM
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For abs, I usually go in on my off days, and do cable crunches, hanging leg lifts, ab rollouts (with the barbell, because I can vary my grip), and air bicycles. And I'll do biceps/triceps. I make up workouts. Use FitNotes to keep up with my lifts. Everybody's different. I like to try shit, see what works. I'm currently on a 3x8 kick for my compound lifts.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/15 02:54 AM
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that suggests 90 seconds rest between sets You'll likely need longer as you progress. I have to take 5-6 minutes between sets.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 12:02 PM
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Shit, for some reason, thought you were TBP. Great job on your progress. That's some serious weight you've lost. Do you count calories? Counting calories, high protein diet, lifting will get you to your goal weight by this time next year. Keep initiating, keep plugging away at your transformation. You'll like the result.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 06:56 PM
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You can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter. Seriously, would like to hear more detail from OP's journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:22 PM
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Coastal south. And I don't do rebel flags. I traded my old truck and now have a late model Silverado crew cab, leveled, rolling on 33s. You can use one of my guns. We'll sip some peach and bust a cap on a deer sign. Edit: And to keep it relevant to OP, I have a set of 20" Fuel wheels on the new truck.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 05:11 PM
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Her: So you're just gonna leave me here downstairs? You: No, I'm going to bring the upstairs down to you. No need to dodge bullets. And when you're sick or injured, expect to be tested heavily.
/r/TheRedPill04/11/15 04:55 PM
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Yes, sex is a given. The default is yes. No is rare. That's what you're working toward. After a few months, I just spelled out my expectations to the wife with the disclaimer that I was going to get regular sex, with her or someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:33 PM
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I'll bring the Duraflames and a jar of peach brandy. And we're doing it in a picked field of cotton right now in my neck of the woods.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:27 PM
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Good point. TTB nailed it in his comment below (or above)
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 04:24 PM
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Great explanation. I get this. Sums up my personal thoughts on this topic better than I could verbalize it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:58 PM
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Thanks for the context. But surely you did more than brush your teeth, wash your ass, and use deodorant. Give us something useful that teaches or confirms RP behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:47 PM
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High value men don't get oneitis because they have an abundance of females after them There's lots and lots of high value men that have oneitis. Not all go on a fuckathon like Tiger Woods. Hell, even George Clooney got married. And fuck it, I like being married. Maybe against the party platform, but so be it. Edit: Interesting post, OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 03:40 PM
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Some people are flat broke, because all they have is money. AM works on dudes and dudettes. Laugh at Dad's bullshit.
/r/askMRP04/11/15 01:42 PM
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replace country music Heretic! You need to include a Trigger Warning on something like that. I quit reading OP after the second N.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:30 PM
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We had fun with it. The wife was embarrassed/amused, the girl played along, the guys in the group were entertained. The girl made up her own stage name, bantered some more, and hugged me as I was leaving. I have no interest in following up. Just a funny, entertaining guy at a party. The gay porn line is just something I throw in because the person (girl or guy) ALWAYS say "yeah, I watch a lot." Its the punchline, and delivery timing is key. I give no fucks, and in my case, nothing drives that po…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:20 PM
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My sarcasm just isn't working today. There's always tomorrow. Had fun at a Halloween party this weekend. Was in mixed company with the wife, a girl asked me what I did. Told her I was a struggling actor, she's probably never seen any of my films. Then said "I don't know, maybe you have, do you watch a lot of porn?" She smiled and said "yeah." I said "gay porn?" Told her my stage name was Chad Thundercock. I was dressed as Wolverine.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:55 AM
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she tells me to shower We all fuck up on occasion. In that situation, grin, and tell her you're going to eat first. Slap her on the ass on the way to the fridge.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:49 AM
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My advice is to do something you love. Don't worry about money. If you're passionate about whatever you enjoy doing, you'll make money at it. (though I would really like to try some overtly sexual openers like "you have a great ass" just to see what happens). I wouldn't open a random woman with that line. A "I need a female opinion on something" or something regarding whatever she's buying will get you used to opening random people in public. You're the Prize, let them qualify to you. Girls get …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:43 AM
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My wife fights me for dominance pretty much all the time. Then, if I'm doing it right, she'll just submit. She swears she's never been happier in our relationship. Probably because she's banging Chad on the side.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:34 AM
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Sounds like a variation of "I disappoint you." Which is fairly typical in your progression. There's plenty of AskMRP posts about that. Just ask her for clarification the next time it comes up.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:25 AM
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You tell me
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/15 01:20 AM
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Are you worth it for her to "act right?" That was my thought, too. Is OP's game tight enough that the little lady had rather spend Friday night at home with him? My wife and I lead fairly active social lives. But we are the Jones's.
/r/askMRP03/11/15 09:28 PM
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I think you guys take for granted that we're married to simple, easy-to-manipulate, low self-esteem women. If we were married to a 20-something year old grad student college girl with no life experience pushing an agenda, this shit would never work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 07:16 PM
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Good post! be perceived by all as the dude who is having a great time and somehow knows the secret to a happy life. This. Now, some folks aren't going to dig you. But as long as you're living your life for you, the folks that don't like you can go eat said bag of dicks. People tend to accept whatever you project.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/15 08:22 PM
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My wife used to give me the "I'm tired" thing every day. Also told me to get a girlfriend. Give it time. As you step up your game, that kind of bullshit disappears
/r/askMRP02/11/15 03:50 PM
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When I started my self improvement, I kept waiting for someone to call me down. To date, no one has. Walk around everywhere like you own the joint.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/15 03:27 PM
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Not to get off on a tangent, but why would you give any fucks about shit she discusses with her family and friends? It's her life apart from you, and her place in the female social matrix (to reference /u/IanIronwood, and I may be misinterpreting his work). Who cares what women talk about when men aren't around? She gives no fucks about what I talk about with my friends when we go fishing. Not judging, you do you. You have the right not to DEER. Just intellectually curious.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 04:20 PM
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Mine is so pissed about losing her pedestal, she's dressing up as a unicorn for Halloween.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 03:48 PM
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In the words of /u/stonepimpletilists, "you do you." If "you" means opening your shit up, ... Me, I don't do things I have to apologize for, so IDGAF for me in this instance means its all out there for the world to see. But stay out of my shit, because I give you the same respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 03:31 PM
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We'll call it even. You've got abs, and I'm not getting a dog.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 02:25 PM
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Had this discussion before, but this is where Cad and I take divergent paths. I literally have no interest in my wife's emails and texts. IMO, doing so flies in the face of IDGAF. this post makes you upset then you don't yet understand the true nature of women Doesn't upset me. There's lots I don't understand, women included. My phone isn't locked, open book. Wife's phone is locked, she's shared the code. I could look through it, just don't. If my.wife was going through my shit, I'd have a probl…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/15 12:42 PM
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Don't know, never researched it. So as far as science goes, n=1
/r/askMRP29/10/15 04:51 PM
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I'm scaring old white people No idea why, but I laughed. Seriously, you argued with a dude about a sex doll? I'm not even sure how that comes up. On a related note, dude at the gym asked me to spot his bench. Fucker was pushing 335. Proceeded to tell me about some married girl he's banging, and how her husband is a pussy. I don't even know this guy. I described my wife and asked if that was his chick. He told me I was a funny guy. I still have no idea how I got into that conversation.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 03:58 PM
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You just received an enthusiastic BJ and your asking our opinion? Hell, you should be teaching the class. My wife went through the "you don't care" thing. I ignored it, AAed, AMed it. Then it hit me: comfort test. Once I treated it like a comfort test, she relaxed, became sweeter, and hasn't brought it up again. You just did the same. doubt this is a watershed moment But it is. You recently mentioned that you were losing attrraction to your wife. Now, you developing the marriage you want, things…
/r/askMRP29/10/15 02:28 PM
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Why doesn't the sister give her a ride?
/r/askMRP29/10/15 12:35 PM
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I like what you're saying. But at some point, you must break the cycle. And a little pain up front is required for any change. Not saying "I love you" and breaking a habit or ignoring a bullshit text isn't RP Rambo, IMO. I unplugged slowly, and as a result, avoided a Main Event. If I had to do it again, I'd ramp the timeline up. At some point, you have to step into the batter's box and face big league pitching. Because most women are throwing some serious heat.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 03:24 AM
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Mine has gray in it. Told wife, she said no. Me: Now I'm growing it on principle. Her: What would I have to do to prevent it? Me: ATM Her: You'll look great with a moustache. This thing is going to be awesome. By Thanksgiving, firefighters and policemen will be saying "that's a sick stache."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 01:41 AM
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Dude, you just doxxed me. Thanks a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/15 01:37 AM
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I can't wait until November. I'm going to grow a sick pornstache.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 09:35 PM
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The other guys have called your shit out, so there's no reason to pile on. But if you're considering divorce, why the fuck are you giving your wife's best friend a heads up? STFU, lawyer up.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 07:12 PM
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Good point. I guess I should have included this picture. Be Putin, not Obama.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 06:55 PM
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Get it out of your head right now. You have the right to not respond. Why must you placate her need for drama? She can only "keep on" if you just stand there. Leave. The room. The house. Whatever, just leave. Get out of your wife's frame. Bring her into yours. If you have absolutely no self control and have an overwhelming desire to respond, say "Yes, no, maybe" with a smile on your face and then leave the room. Edit: From this point forward, those goodbye kisses are earned, not freely given. Sa…
/r/askMRP28/10/15 02:49 PM
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Don't. Just don't. Every question doesn't require an answer. She hits you with it when you get home. "I texted you and you didn't respond. Are you going to be like this?" You: "What? Am I going to be awesome? Come here." Lay a 10 second kiss on her, I'm talking up against the wall, pelvis grinding kiss. Then walk off. Preferably leave the house. Then, if you want, come home and initiate again. See what happens.
/r/askMRP28/10/15 02:40 PM
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You don't game women. You live an exciting, interesting life, and people are attracted to you. Including women. Are you motivated to be exciting and interesting?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 12:29 PM
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"No. I spent 10 plus years constantly caring if you were happy; it didn’t make you happy. I don’t care anymore.” Welcome to the world in your frame. As soon as I saw this quote, I copied it, because that was your turning point. Calm, cool, collected, expressing your needs. And from your writing, I sensed you really didn't GAF. Your wife sensed it, too. Not accusatory, not hostile, just a "this is where I am. Are you with me?" Well done, OP, well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/15 12:52 AM
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No, not silent treatment. Just do something else. Make yourself scarce.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 04:26 PM
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You need to get comfortable with getting attention from women. So much this. The first few are like crackers to a starving man. Then, you'll start to notice crackers everywhere you go.
/r/askMRP27/10/15 04:11 PM
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I can pound her like a railroad spike but kissing is too much? Are you doing the Athol Kay 10 second kiss every day? This will get your wife into the habit of kissing you. And if you're doing sex right, kissing during sex is minimal. You're a hard pounding caveman that's out of breath. Kiss her after you guys have finished.
/r/askMRP27/10/15 04:02 PM
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Mrs. TOMG and another guy I know recently told me I didn't want to lose too much more weight or I'd start to look sick. Don't listen to that shit. Out of shape people ALWAYS try to hamster others from meeting their goals. I was a fat fuck at 20% and my wife told me I looked "great for my age." WTF?!? but I don't find myself caring all that much. (Edit: I know the answer to this is STFU...) You don't want to lie to her, and you can't agree with her. So STFU is the only answer. I always look forwa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 02:47 PM
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You guys have any tips for delaying orgasm I can try next time? High intensity deadlifts. After deads, I can't feel a thing. You likely have a mental thing going on. I used to suffer from something similar. Once I stopped worrying about wife's orgasm and just started focusing on my needs, it just went away. Now, the wife is begging me to finish. SGM has a section on how to clear your mind and just be present in the moment. And once I stopped choking the chicken, my lasting power increased expone…
/r/askMRP27/10/15 01:21 PM
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If I get shot down the night before, I'm not going to respond to some "loving" text from the wife. UNLESS I text back and tell her to send me a sext pic. But the standard advice for new guys is to limit text to logistics. Because then they don't fuck up. So, yeah, your friend should ignore the text and initiate again tonight. His wife will likely respond positively, since her beta didn't immediately climb back in his box after getting shot down. "Unpredictable and uncontrollable" is the mantra t…
/r/askMRP27/10/15 01:08 PM
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In the end, it's a toolbox. We have to pick the right tools for a job. I'll stick with you and Rollo on this one. Just like anything in life, get whatever you can from various sources and make a decision that works for you. I'm I'm the minority here, and comfortable with that, but I'd be OK with the wife going. She's an adult, knows the consequences for fucking up, and it's her sister. The sister may be a raging crackhead, I don't see the wife following her lead. I'm not going through life worry…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/15 12:42 PM
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Man, let me point out where you went wrong. At about 3am, she nudges me, wakes me up, asks me to set an alarm "No". And go back to sleep.
/r/askMRP26/10/15 04:58 PM
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or if you are playing a role and will break character "I'm studying method acting."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 06:15 PM
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As long as it wasn't a public display of disrespect, it really didn't matter what you say, as long as you don't take it serious. A&A, AM, STFU, or a simple shrug when you're lost for words. She was flirting with you, so a tease back with some sexual innuendo would have been good. Keep up the good work.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 06:14 PM
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I'll read at home (currently Day Bang by Roosh Thanks, now I have a mental image of a dude on a train asking a woman, "Is that a good pen?" and she says, "yes, I got it at the pet store."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/15 12:05 PM
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Just make it work for YOU. "If you're a bitch, I'll go fishing." I wouldn't pat myself on the back for solving the riddle of the Sphinx just yet. I don't do nuance.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 05:49 PM
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My sex drive is great, it's my life drive. My first guess is your weight loss. Are you low carbing? If so, look into IF/LeanGains and cycle those carbs. When you get closer toward your weight loss goal, your libido may fall off. Cycling.carbs helps prevent some of the sides of prolonged calorie deficit. Great progress!
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 05:43 PM
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TIL, thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 04:52 PM
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Then fight on. I give no fucks about a flag.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 03:26 PM
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but you can get that anywhere And that's what I don't get. There is a very small minority that intuitively gets this shit. Look at the divorce rate, or most martial interactions. It's hard to find a guy that just gets it. "Common sense?" Where have they observed the average marital couple that practices these "common sense" self improvement techniques? RP is a framework that provides the tools to get your shit together.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 03:24 PM
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29% body fat with a skinny fat dad body Your wife and I are trying to figure out what your credentials are for giving nutritional advice. Fix you. She'll get in board when she sees that you are a man worth listening to on fitness maters.
/r/askMRP22/10/15 03:12 PM
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In your case, there's no need for a Main Event. If you've never lived with her before, you have a blank slate to set your standards and expectations.
/r/askMRP22/10/15 03:00 PM
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All the Jodies Not to hijack, but I'm guessing you're a Southerner. Because Chad was "Jody" when I was growing up. Still hear guys talk about Jody.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 02:56 PM
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It's like they like the product, but not the brand. I like apple products, but itunes is a no go for me. Same with those folks. AWALT and "oldest teenager" are their itunes.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 12:37 PM
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He definitely brings value, I'm assuming I bring value to him, since we talk almost daily, about lifting, fishing, etc. He didn't ask for my help with his relationship, and I'm not a RP prophet, so I steer clear. My other buddy swears he could fix DB's relationship in a week. I'm guessing it would take me 2 months. Natural RP's solution is hilarious. His take is that he would walk into the house, throw DB's wife face down on the dining room table, give it to her good, then tell her if she wants …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 12:28 PM
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It's like porn. Hard to define, but you know it when you see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/15 12:21 PM
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I once wrote a published article on the geography of place in film, so I resemble that insult. The key to getting published was always "capitalism bad, socialism good."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 10:49 PM
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No worries, and I'm comfortable being an average of my two best friends. They are the brothers I never had. My point is, I haven't shed any friends because they're not RP. I've shed friends, but always because they are too much work. You shouldn't have to work too hard at being friends with someone. IMO Edit: Look at that. It's possible that we disagree. I don't mean to point to the obvious, but we suck as a cult. Need more brainwashing, pronto.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 10:45 PM
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I have two best friends, same guys for the past 30 years. One is a natural RP (we've never talked about Fight Club) and the other is a DB BP. They bring value to my life. My natural RP friend and I talk about male/female relationships all the time. My other friend and I hardly ever talk about it. Our relationships pre date our marriages. I don't cull friends based on their frequency of sex, or how they handle the women in their lives. Or their body fat percentage. For me, I don't have a need to …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 08:56 PM
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Usually the dude that says that doesn't realize his wife is giving me the doggie dinner bowl look.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 06:28 PM
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TTB, looks like you're getting lucky tonight. I get that one on occasion. Always the same response: "I make my luck, son."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 06:23 PM
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I used to write shit like that in grad school. Thought it made me sound intelligent. That was back when I had no life experience and all the answers. Strangely, as I got older and more experienced, I became dumber.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 05:39 PM
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Briefly wandered over there. That DB dude from a couple weeks ago had a post, asking for help. Hate that he didn't give some stuff a try. If I remember, he had set some arbitrary date for wife to get attracted to him. My situation was never that bad, but my wife just told me last night "you make me so happy." Even with all the emotional abuse, misogyny, my participation in a cult, and the fear that BPP will ban me and you guys will ostracize me if I don't toe the cult party line, my wife is happ…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 05:33 PM
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Surely a new born child takes priority over hobbies and travelling for a while I took my 2 month old and my wife to the jungles of Central America on a surf trip for 3 weeks. By the time my daughter was 2, she had traveled internationally 4 times. She's 9 now, and is the most well traveled kid I know. She can speak passable spanish, and I think she's tall enough to learn (because I think she can now reach the pedals) to drive a stick shift. Don't tell the rental car company. This kid can pilot a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 04:15 PM
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I'm digging this post. Mainly, because I'm a semi-pro (meaning, I make just enough to pay for my habit, but not enough to make a living) fisherman and a less successful surfer. Every time I've tried to bring a woman into my world, I've ended up in theirs. I've learned that my interests are MY interests. The girls just want to see me happy. And, my interests give me time away. Which is a good thing. Now, my woman is perfectly fine spending a couple weeks in Oaxaca, or coming to a fishing tourname…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/15 01:43 AM
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You can get a DEXA, but you're less than 10% when your lower ab veins show. My advice is save the DEXA money and spend it on clothes. flirted back right in front of my wife If you 're actively flirting with other girls in front of your wife, learn some PUA openers/routines. Or more advanced routines like palm reading routine, ESP, and the Cube. You can run them on your wife, too. She's a girl. Occasionally, when we're out, I'll just open random people, girls and guys. Wife is feeling good, becau…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 05:40 PM
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How much would you pay per month not to be married? 50% or less sounds fair, in today's society. The old joke is: Q. Why is divorce so expensive? A. It's worth it. My wife hates that joke.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 05:22 PM
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Drinks + Pussy = Trouble These are my two favorite problems in life. I love 'em both and don't want to solve 'em.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 03:20 PM
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Wife is 41, I'm 49. I wrote about this the other day in another thread, this was my opportunity to own it. Well, not to turn it into a mini FR, but I did burst out laughing, she cried, I laughed again. Then she said, "I'm scared you'll leave me!" I took her in my arms, told her she was "my girl," and mentally pictured myself hanging on the rim after a massive slam dunk. Then she recovered her shit and said "well, I don't need you, but I want you. Blah blah..." Have no idea how I got into that co…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 03:08 PM
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The other night, I took my wife to a concert. We tailgated prior, drinks were had. My wife said "you would be so lost without me," and that was all it took. She had me deep hooked. So I entered her frame and discussed our relationship. Didn't tell her about Fight Club, but I have no excuse for engaging in this conversation. She told me our relationship is better because of all the changes she had made. I think I even used the word solipsism. WTF? I know better than this. Looking back, I wanted h…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:45 PM
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You don't see it right now, but your ex did you a favor. You got a free practice LTR, got out with no kids, no monthly payments, and a shitload of life experience. Your test level hadn't even peaked yet. You, sure, are a fucking blank slate armed with RP. Do you know how fun it would be to be in your shoes? Go be whatever you want to be. And slay pussy all along the journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 06:10 AM
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she hinted we'd do the dirty but we both drank too much and went to sleep instead You're adults, and you're sexual creatures. Its called fucking. Start referring to her naughty parts as "my pussy." I'm serious. Lose this stigma of shame you have with sex. Did you read NMMNG? You're going to become an awesome dude that displays predominantly alpha traits. Alphas fuck women. Betas do the dirty, get nookie, make love, get lucky. You're going to change your mindset. First step is use words that reve…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:42 AM
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I just don't have any ammo to waste
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/15 01:33 AM
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No kidding, this is basic stuff. She actually asked me last night if I still loved her and if I was cheating "Yes, honey, I love your cooking. But I must confess, I did sample another woman's pie." OP's wife is compliment fishing. When she does something right, compliment her. But stay out of her frame.
/r/askMRP20/10/15 01:23 AM
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would appreciate a married rp perspective on this You're in a long distance relationship with a girl that's banging some guy named Brian. My advice is next her and find some girls around your hometown.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/15 05:11 PM
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Maybe like it's her way of just making sure she made the right decision letting me do all those nasty things I did to her earlier. I pass the tests, and she immediately goes back to sweet submissive self again. My guess is its belated ASD. Blow it out of the water (shit v comfort), and you're good to go. Or, rather, she's good to go (again).
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 11:47 PM
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My wife used to do this. STFU is fine. But so is cocky/funny. "Yes, mom." "The adults are talking." Looking at the family member. "Did she act like this as a kid?" Or nuke it. "Don't speak to me that way." I pulled that card once, FIL gave me a bro nod. Just don't be butt hurt or upset. The cocky/funny stuff is delivered with a smile. Even laugh out loud. Your wife's reaction is of no consequence. She can put, get mad, whatever. Not your problem. The nuke is delivered with a raised eyebrow. But …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/15 06:07 PM
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She's begging for variety. From your description, your sexy time is a checklist. Break the pattern. Are you gaming/seducing her? Role play with her. Display higher value. All sorts of avenues to explore here. Make EVERY sexual encounter fun and interesting. If she doesn't respond, just quit and walk away. Hell, even when she did respond, occasionally walk away. And get that body fat percentage down. Show off your gains. Become a masculine dominant force during sex. The Prize doesn't jump through…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 10:34 AM
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-She blames me for things that aren't actually my fault, finds a way to blame shift her mistakes on to me, speaks to me with an attitude, etc. So you're married to a woman. Crank up the dread. Lifting and diet tight? How's your wardrobe? Your game? Your body language? What can you do to increase your SMV? Where in this list can you tweak out some points? And call that disrespectful stuff out, man. Mix it with A&A, AM, pressure flips, etc. Take the sting out of her bullshit, she'll quit doing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 02:33 AM
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Well, not to turn it into a mini FR, but I did burst out laughing, she cried, I laughed again. Then she said, "I'm scared you'll leave me!" I took her in my arms, told her she was "my girl," and mentally pictured myself hanging on the rim after a massive slam dunk. Then she recovered her shit and said "well, I don't need you, but I want you. Blah blah..." Have no idea how I got into that conversation with her. There's a Own Your Shit post for me next week. I'm such a dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 03:58 PM
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I'm in the same boat as you. Should have moved to the coast. Should have bought that lot in Costa Rica. Should have gone to law school. Should have gotten 4x4 on that old truck. Mad at my wife for not fucking me more passionately for 10 years? No. I'm looking forward to the future, concentrating on today. Yesterday's shoulda/woulda/coulda is a waste of time. I'm going to be one of the most awesome 50-somethings the world has ever seen. I'm just going to need a bigger stick to beat the women off …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 03:20 PM
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she tried to take credit for my positive life changes Ha! Imagine that . Solipsism in action. Who'd have thunk it? My wife and I were talking about our relationship last night over drinks. Why I was having that conversation with her, I dunno. Anyway, she was talking about how our relationship is better because of the changes she has made. AWALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 01:27 PM
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i.e. if she puts her self in a situation where she has the opportunity to cheat im gone... if she gets obliterated when im not there... im gone... Damn, Rambo. In a situation? Like in the presence of men? Get obliterated? You mean, have some drinks without you? You gonna perform an honor killing or something? She gave you a heads up, you acted, she responded accordingly. I'm missing the problem here.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 01:20 PM
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Great read, thanks. There was a recent post about this, and I wanted to comment on it, but couldn't find the right words to convey my thoughts. This article encapsulates my thoughts better than I could. GNO? Go, have a good time. I'm not denying her from going, I'm not subtly threatening her with anything if she goes. My SIL is getting married next weekend. My wife is helping plan a Bachelorette Party. I'm responsible for entertaining the family guys while the girls go out. I'm guessing the groo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/15 12:32 PM
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OP needs to take a step back and realize the world isn't about him, and he isn't better than anyone else. Can't speak for OP (I was surprised to read this, usually OP had higher quality posts, but he can post whatever he wants and I can agree or disagree with it). Anyway, can't speak for OP, but I'm pretty goddamn confident I'm better than 95% of other men.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/15 03:22 PM
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If you live a long life, all your friends and most of your family will die before you do. I agree with you, the best way to honor them is live your life to the fullest.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/15 02:08 PM
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and its very likely to happen again If you're lucky, you'll see lots of death. But the people in your life need you to keep your shit together. You want to shed a tear at graveside behind your sunglasses, OK. You want to wallow in grief for days? Not OK. You're a leader, and in sad times, people need a Man to make decisions. But at the expense of you? No.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/15 01:51 PM
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Women have a hard time making a choice. Look how many cocks she swallowed before she chose yours. Saving this. Well played. I can't stop laughing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/15 01:09 PM
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This worked so well because you unintentionally dreaded her. I mean, I just read advice from a mod to another oyster poster (damn autofill) to do this very thing intentionally. You're a lucky mofo, Brodin is smiling down on you. Definitely buy a lottery ticket today. But don't explain why you're doing shit. You're a grown ass Man, you can read anything you want. No permission needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 04:16 PM
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There's an alpha/beta ratio. BPP suggested it was 70/30 on average, I believe. But you'll have to figure out what your woman's personal ratio is. Experiment. My wife is 80/20 for half the month, and 90/10 for the other half. She's been receptive to full alpha the past few evenings. I'll likely have to dial that down within a few days. See what works for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 03:02 PM
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If it makes you cringe , it ain't a tactic for you. Like the butt plug thing
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 02:57 PM
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Your intentions go deeper. You texted her to see if she was still angry. Then you texted her and essentially "asked" her for sex. If you got a No, then you weren't going to initiate, and thereby protected your ego. If she doesn't fuck you tonight, you're going to be upset. And you should be. FFS, you're only 2 days into this stuff. IDGAF doesn't happen overnight, literally. Keep reading, keep lurking, keep learning. It took you years to fuck yourself, it will take more than a few days to unfuck …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 02:50 PM
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She's setting up her "out" on sex with you. She may fuck you, or she's a tired mom who doesn't have the energy (there's even an article that agrees with her!). Either way, her bases are covered. There's a place for text game. But not a few days into a fundamental restructuring of your relationship. So don't text. You need to focus on lifting, reading, lifting, reading, lifting, reading ...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 02:44 PM
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Nice job! Nothing like disappearing from the world. The people in your life get a chance to see how valuable your leadership is.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/10/15 12:17 PM
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One neighbour, and a random at the local tourist bar
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 09:20 PM
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It's your call, but as you get in better shape, and she gets in better shape, you may find your wife to be "new pussy." Little did I know that my bossy bitch of a wife was hiding a sweet porn star all along. And when you get swolested, my advice is don't show them your abs until they show their tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 08:19 PM
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Ask? WTF is that? Tell her. Or, just put it in her face. Are you a Man worthy of a blowjob? If after telling her and/or directing her and she still says no, you've got some work to do. But the first time she sees another woman show interest in you, it's on. If she's not giving you reasonable sexual access (blowjobs are reasonable), then you withdraw attention and affection. You could really benefit from reading some PUA stuff and definitely Sex God Method.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 07:52 PM
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Not to pile on, but you can't be Captain if you're scared to pilot the boat.
/r/askMRP13/10/15 07:35 PM
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Good refresher list. But I couldn't help.but think of "The Jimmy" from Seinfeld when I started reading it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 06:15 PM
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Instead of calling them out, consider a "that sucks", and remove your attention. Some folks get the message, some don't. I just avoid the ones that don't.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 06:01 PM
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Girls will love you if you give them a mixtape? Don't give them a mixtape. Let them experience your playlist. With you. It's all about frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:58 PM
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Plus, she's responding better to my flirtations with her (instead of meeting them with disgust like in the past) Great progress! I used to grab my wife's ass, she would get a disgusted look and scold me like a child. Now, she v looks forward to my groping. So consider this real progress if you were where I was. As far as awkward around those girls, your aloofness probably attracted them to you. You're a man on a mission, and alphas are often aloof. So, game them if you want. Or don't. It doesn't…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:26 PM
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I've also got to start initiating and fucking her in places other than the bedroom Have you considered a short term goal of fucking in every room in the house? You can even tell the wife your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 05:18 PM
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When I told her to, instead of expecting her to read my mind. The best advice I have is that when you stop caring whether or not your wife blows you, your wife blows you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 09:33 AM
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Congrats! Your mom thinks you're cute. Not the ideal path to generate Tingles. Now tell us what you've done to generate attention from other women. And the effect this has had on your wife. You know, Teachable Moment shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/15 01:46 AM
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Congrats on a BJ and not wearing a vest. Now, lean the fuck out and become the Prize in your life.
/r/askMRP12/10/15 04:59 PM
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More OI? Less time together? More positive dread? Go back and re-read your post. And then figure out who the Prize is in your relationship. If you come to the realization that you view your wife as the Prize (I did when I read your post, apparently your wife agrees with me) there's your answer.
/r/askMRP12/10/15 04:54 PM
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be attractive, let other women tell her how attractive you are, let her witness other women showing signs of attraction to you, and her perception of your value as a sexual partner will increase This.this.this.
/r/askMRP12/10/15 04:48 PM
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I don't trust you enough sexually to do exciting or more imaginative thing and I need emotion happy feelz to get in the mood Said no female 6 to a male 8 ever. Well, OK, a 6 may tell an 8 something like that, but watch what she does.
/r/askMRP12/10/15 04:45 PM
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What is the fascination with "setting up the room?" Where did you get the idea that lady bits moisten when they see some kind of Fuck Altar? Learn about game and seduction. If you want your wife to wear lingerie, tell her to wear lingerie.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/15 02:24 PM
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My wife used to tell me that she didn't like giving BJs. Before we married, she gave them regularly. So, she either reacquired a fondness for giving them, or I changed something.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/15 02:18 PM
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think he's well past a little game Halfway through the post, I started expecting a fucking mariachi band to show up. The fact that OP gets laid regularly with this approach suggests that he doesn't have a long road ahead. Increase SMV, learn some game/seduction, drop the covert contracts, and display some alpha. The girl will be on her knees in no time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 04:35 PM
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Damn. If you want to fuck your wife, never do any of that shit again. And FFS, just stop talking. Let me tell you how this should go: DYEL? OK, good. Wife comes home, have a few drinks or whatever, game her, tease her. Then isolate and escalate. Push her up against the wall, pick her up, whatever. Build her excitement, be unpredictable. If she's into it, fuck her well. If she's not, tell her "I'm not feeling it" and go do something else. See how that's a better approach than laying out her cloth…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 11:51 AM
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"If we have kids and the girls want to be tomboys and the boys want to dress up as princesses for a day, that's perfectly fine." You: We'll raise them well And STFU
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 03:16 AM
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"Happy birthday. I'm glad I picked you." That's what the Prize would write in the card.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/15 03:10 AM
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It's like I'm a detached observer at times. I watch people's interactions, especially in my social circle, and their behavior stokes my intellectual curiosity. And I just STFU during conversations in mixed company.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 05:51 PM
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don't get cliff notes of anything Seriously. If something doesn't grab my interest, I quit reading it. Why would I want to read a summary of something that didn't spark my interest. Noam Chomsky For Dummies?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 05:45 PM
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Unsolicited dread from a child on the mother? I really can't find a better vehicle to deliver it. Now, I egg it on with "don't tell your mother." Which is exactly the first thing the kid does. Daughter even brings it up randomly. I maintain plausible deniability. Wife gets pissed. I laugh and remind her, "I'm like a pretty girl with big tits."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 03:29 PM
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It's my dick and I'll wash it as fast as I want. It's a habit, dude. Decide if YOU want to break the habit.
/r/askMRP09/10/15 03:23 PM
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There are some girls at the local Wendy's (grilled chicken go wraps, I'll eat 4-5, they meet my macros) and the local Subway that give me free food. My daughter dreads my wife about it (I never mention it, but if daughter goes with me to eat, she can't wait to tell my wife about it). So anytime I mention that I'll have to stop for some fast food on the way home, my wife is adamant about cooking my favorite meal and having it ready for me. Last night, I came home after work at 10:30 pm and had ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/15 01:30 PM
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My wife and I used to say some harsh shit to each other. Start now. How can you fuck up? You're openly hostile to your wife. Just STFUing will make your house more pleasant. I wouldn't go into any long, flowerly self improvement speeches, just progress through the dread steps. Keep reading and internalizing. There's a happy life around the corner.
/r/askMRP09/10/15 01:20 PM
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Fuck the quotes. Get shredded, crank up the dread and the alpha. Become the most fuckable guy in your social circle. Doctors? Phew. Most of them are out of shape, skinny fat runners with no game. Your wife wants an alpha. Become one.
/r/askMRP08/10/15 09:19 PM
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Good show Now, flip the script. Tell her to make you dinner. If she does, you did good here. If she doesn't, well, ... You made her dinner after she told you to. Report back. Or, say fuck it, and make dinner whenever you want, regardless of what your wife says. I'm working late tonight. I'm responsible for my own dinner. If my wife had an appointment, she is responsible for her own dinner.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 08:13 PM
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Yeah, that post contributed to a great post-game party.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 04:27 PM
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If and when you begin this journey, you're likely starting it for the same reasons most of us did: I want to fuck my wife more. Then a strange thing happens. You discover that the journey isn't about fucking your wife. It's about becoming an awesome Man, in life, love, and career. And when you start being awesome, women want to fuck you. Including your wife. A year from now, you'll be more assertive at work, a leader in your community, and getting attention of women everywhere you go. And you'll…
/r/askMRP08/10/15 01:11 PM
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IMO, having your phone with you and ignoring a bullshit text from your wife is a powerful message. Just a not--so-subtle reminder that I'm running the Redneck Show. Off topic, youth sports are the bars for the married with kids crowd. Daughter had a game last night, I wore some good fitting jeans and tight t-shirt, gamed some MILFs in front of the missus, and it was freakin' on when we got home.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 12:44 PM
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I get what you're saying. But my workout and all my music is on my phone. I'm not leaving it home. I just don't see my wife seeing my powered down phone sitting at home while I'm away and thinking "what an alpha". Plus, my calorie counter.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 11:06 AM
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You teased your wife, she teased you back. You can A&A it, AM it, or STFU. Doesn't really matter. Bringing it up later was bad, but just put it behind you, no pun intended. Her talking over you? Women love to talk, they hear almost nothing you say because they are thinking of what they are going to say and/or can't wait to blurt it out. When my wife does that, I go silent. Or if I'm feeling froggy, I'll stop her and remind her I was talking. When she talks over me, then wants to revisit what I w…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/15 02:12 AM
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told her I took her power Well played
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 01:15 PM
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Ignore the complaints. But... blaming me that I'm a bad dad for not spending every waking second with my kid Draw a boundary and enforce it. "Don't disrespect my parenting again." No argument, no discussion. Recently, I was talking with my daughter. Daddy Daughter time. Daughter was doing her homework. Wife comes into the room and says "stop talking to her so she can finish homework." Daughter finished up, I tucked her into bed. Approached my wife and said "don't ever interrupt me again when I'm…
/r/askMRP07/10/15 01:33 AM
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Nothing wrong with stepping up and calling a professional. Lots of guys think they need to know how to fix shit when it breaks. A woman just wants it to work. If you're the Man that gets it fixed, you're good in her eyes. Just take charge, fix what you can, and get someone to fix the things you can't. Don't overthink it.
/r/askMRP07/10/15 01:16 AM
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Public speaking gets easier and easier. I pretty much do it for a living. Just remember, you know more than your audience. The Charisma Myth is a great resource.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 12:50 AM
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Maybe my shit to own is I am not finding much shit to own. Works for me. If your frame is strong enough to run experiments, there's not much left to own. Except just getting better at everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 12:46 AM
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Now that you've tasted the good life, just keep moving forward. It gets better.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/15 12:39 AM
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Fuck it, no shame. I can't believe some of the shit I used to do. But it gets better over time. Then, it's like somebody flipped a switch, and your wife starts looking at you doe-eyed. Stick with the program, you got this.
/r/askMRP06/10/15 05:47 PM
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The girls flirting with you are acting on first impression. You're high value to them. Your wife? She's seen all the weak, groveling, pussified bullshit you've pulled for years. She's not as easily impressed. Nor should she be. But this is your journey, not hers.
/r/askMRP06/10/15 05:26 PM
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yohimbine often feel like they are going to die from heart explosions Haha. I took it once (ONCE!) before deadlifting. So I get what they are saying.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 03:13 PM
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I don't know what adderall is, but yohimbine it's like an hour and a half of adrenaline, so if you suffer from anxiety, it probably wouldn't work for you. Good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 03:05 PM
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The email shit I would ignore. Wanna say something to me, I'm right here. Ignore the email and it will eventually go away. It's a passive way of communicating, when you ignore it, your wife will figure out that you require direct communication. Cologne? Get one of those pretty girls at the dept store counter to find a good scent. Game the girl. Every time you put on that cologne, you'll have some swagger in your step as you remember how tight your game was when you bought it. Confidence is a dru…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 02:13 PM
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So? You know what I do on Father's Day? I go fishing by myself. My.daughter and wife get me a card and some shit (like a pair of aluminum fishing pliers). Thanks, but all.I want is to go fishing by myself. For my birthday, I world go buy myself something I wanted and could afford. Nobody knows better than me what I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:38 PM
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I like AskMRP. There's a level of honesty and curiosity there that's refreshing. I love reading the posts and remembering "I've been there." Just dudes stumbling toward true happiness.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:28 PM
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A boundary that I established was no farting. I want to be a sexy creature, and I want to be with a sexy creature. I don't find farting sexy. I have my wife subscribed to the "Second Date Rule." If it happened on a second date, would there be a third date? My wife and I are still "dating," and I want to keep that expectation. So no farting, burping, no unsexy shit. But that's my bullshit. YMMV
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 12:21 PM
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Plus, alphas get treated differently. People will allow an alpha to do and say things that a beta can't, even to the point where they defend the alpha's behavior. Now, an alpha doesn't care either way, and doesn't seek or need their approval or defense, but its humorous when it happens.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 10:19 AM
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Here's what works for me: If I get mad, or not, nothing changes. So if I have no control over external events, what good comes out of my anger? The only thing I truly control in life is where and how I spend my time. Do I.get irritated at times? Sure. But that's my cue to.withdraw from that situation. Or draw your boundary and enforce it assertively, not out of anger. Will I curse at things at times? Yeah, but I catch myself and make it into a slew of words that comes out humorously. My wife and…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/15 10:09 AM
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If its late, I just roll over and go to sleep. Or I get out of bed, and go watch Netflix or TV in the living room. Or I'll go to Wal-Mart and come home with a new pack of underwear. Or go to a grocery store and find new food that fit my macros. But I'm sure as hell not going to snuggle with a sex-denying woman.
/r/askMRP05/10/15 07:57 PM
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"You have been moody and won't say what's on your mind. You are being such a chicken and not a man for not telling me what's on your mind." Translation: There is a disturbance in the force, and I can't read you (or hear you blather on like usual). It makes me uncomfortable, so if I get upset, you'll get back in the box I keep you in. Keep lifting, keep reading, and keep your damn mouth shut. This is likely the greatest compliment she has paid you in years. As you get more comfortable with her te…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 05:51 PM
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Keep working, keep reading. Great to see initial progress. And my advice is ssllooww the fuck down. Improve yourself, become a fuckable man before you start nuking your relationship. While you are seeing a changed man in the mirror, your wife still sees Billy Beta. this process WILL include a counselor to help me through it. Just curious, why do you need a counselor? At my lowest point, my wife and I went to a counselor. Completely worthless. If I had taken the counselor's advice, I would be div…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 05:40 PM
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Getting sex on demand is great. But for me, the greatest thing is that I don't get angry at ANYONE. You say something stupid, I just laugh. Cut me off in traffic? I'm not in a hurry, go on with your bad self. Wife says something snarky? Not my problem. People treat perpetually happy differently. And better.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/15 02:38 PM
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Funny you should say that, I just tried on a pair of Ariat Ironside H20. The cute little clerk said that was my look. They will look good when we go out to dinner and my girl wears her Luccheses
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 04:40 PM
1

Great FR. That's it, I'm going boot shopping today.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 11:58 AM
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Lay out your expectations, then leave the room. Children love direction and boundaries. Your woman will give you those "come here, boy" , eyes.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/15 01:44 AM
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Women are generally frightened of conflict. But a bigger issue is something your wife said. We as men are natural problem solvers. But your wife didn't ask you to solve HER problem. I used to solve all my wife's problems. But now, I only solve problems that she asks me to. When she complains, I respond with stuff like "that sucks, baby, take your pants off." If her complaints get long winded, I'll pull my phone out, set the timer, and give her a few minutes before I disengage. She calls me an as…
/r/askMRP02/10/15 04:37 PM
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Had to be quick, my kid was in the shower. Last month, just about got busted in the dining room, daughter wants to know why Daddy is hiding. Wife told her that she scared me.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 03:12 PM
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Great read, enjoyed that. fully believe in the STFU until you know what the fuck you’re doing This was my favorite part. Even if you think you know what you're doing, still STFU at times. People don't always need to know what you're thinking. People like mysterious people. Be mysterious on occasion. And the best way is to STFU. Last night, my wife said "why are you looking at me like that?" I started thinking of witty shit to say, but then decided to just STFU. Turned to walk away, she attacked …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/15 01:29 PM
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You: "I bought a book called WISNIFG, it's about saying no and not feeling guilty." Her: Well, I want to see the list of purchases. You: (smirk) "No" If you laugh at this point, she likely will, too. It's a reading list. Show it to her, or don't. I just wouldn't take the request too seriously.
/r/askMRP01/10/15 07:22 PM
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She hit you with some dread. Get to work. Become Chad. Do you know how? I wrote a post recently on how to get shredded. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/ Get busy!
/r/askMRP01/10/15 08:06 AM
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Great post!
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 01:42 AM
1

Great progress. You're likely a beast among boys. Congrats on the 1,000 lb club. Hugh Jackman numbers. Every 10 weeks, I take a week off. So, same principle, different ways to skin the cat.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/15 01:18 AM
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Frame held, sex had. Good FR, dude. Edit: And great, high quality post.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 07:20 PM
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My wife hadn't signed on for GNO. When her friends broach the subject, I joke that they must take the annoying girl from the PTA. I do guy's weekends, and an annual guy's roadtrip to go fishing. Which usually results in some form of harmless debauchery. She's an adult, so I would be hard pressed to set a boundary if she wanted to do a GNO. But she knows the consequences of fucking up. I subscribe to stonepimp's rule: Nothing up the skirt, nothing down the throat.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 02:47 AM
1

Rednecks don't do nuance. Its a fairly masculine culture here. And Men earn respect by being men. Much like third world culture.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 02:36 AM
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Source: me N=1 If you're pulling 5 plates, periodization and/or deload may work for you. But if you're there, you're in the 99th percentile and you're not following the advice of some random internet meathead. Greg Nuckols talks about how deloading doesn't make sense. Does the gainz fairy sprinkle gainz on you if you scale down your intensity? There has to be some form of progressive stimulus, whether it's higher intensity or more volume. I choose higher intensity and it works for me. Albeit slo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/15 01:23 AM
2

I'm old, I don't know what the kids call it nowadays. Except all the young girls want to give me becky. This chick was 47, separated, and looking up her old alphas. Except her old alpha is now scared to make her mad.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 07:26 PM
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Haha. I went fishing with a friend recently. Some girl from his past had Facebook-stalked him and blowing up his phone. After the fourth text, I said "tell her to send you a beaver shot." Dude was shocked. "That might make her mad." FML
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 06:31 PM
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You got this, man. Frame, frame, frame if it continues tonight. She'll likely surprise you and be all sweet tonight. My wife will get pissed, I'll laugh at her, she gets madder. Then I dread going home, and then there she is, fixing my favorite food in a sundress, no panties. But I digress. You're ready for whatever comes your way. I can't help but laugh. "I'm going to sleep in another room." Then she sleeps in the other room. You're a fucking jedi, bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 05:52 PM
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Nice job. 1) Can't you give her an envelope of money (ala Dave Ramsey). My wife and I pay everything except bills in cash. 2) I'm guessing you have a new toy (you) and your wife is your old toy. Once some of the newness wears off, you may find that you miss your old toy, especially when your old toy is refurbished. And as you get in better shape, don't show girls your abs unless they show their tits.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 05:03 PM
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Well, yeah, you know that if you put the key in the car's ignition and turn it, the car will crank. Do you know why the car cranks? because reasons Good luck with that. be a shoulder to cry on, be the guy who buys her a nice dress, takes her out to dinner and so. That's called being a girlfriend
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 04:54 PM
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Being selfish is not inherently bad Being selfish is about putting your own happiness first. Because no one else does. Nor should they.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 04:37 PM
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Nice job on your progress. You may not realize it, but you wrote that and the tone was "detached." Like a calm, cool, rational alpha. typically she says "oh, you are doing that staring thing again" which I chuckle about and then go back to whatever else I was doing. I laughed when I read that. I have that same look. When I get the "why are you staring at me?" question, I laugh, remind her I'm the king, and she must address me as "your highness." Or something equally goofy. Or I STFU. It's that l…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 01:33 PM
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telling is beneath me Son, "telling" (well, actually, showing) a woman your needs is the epitome of RP. Your girl ain't a mind reader. How 'bout throwing out a "suck my dick" the next time you're in need of a bj. Let's see: you adore her, you don't lift, and holding frame just ain't happening. But you're an experienced RP man. Think about that. In my opinion, you haven't shown this woman a Man worth fucking, much less blowing. And your next relationship is destined to end up in the exact same pl…
/r/askMRP29/09/15 01:03 PM
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I do simple, easy-to-understand. I'm not the guy to advise women on how to get more sex. This works for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 12:20 PM
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A man doesn't get in the mood because he's got on new silk boxers I do. Girl, I can't speak for the rest of these dudes, but keep his belly full, his balls empty, and be respectful. And keep him lifting weights. Follow his lead, unless you have a better idea. Give him room to be a Man. Do not try to mother him. And give the Man regular unsolicited BJs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 09:45 AM
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I don't think it matters. When your wife sees you injecting (damn autocorrect, but that was funny) interacting with other women, regardless of whether you initiated the conversation, she's more attracted to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 12:40 AM
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Holy fuck! Just step out of her frame, dude. Be an awesome dude. Suddenly, you're "emotionally available."
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/15 12:36 AM
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Why plate a chick that doesn't fuck you? Drop her, she doesn't bring any value to your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 02:59 PM
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You got laid, so good job. But stop bringing up sex prior. It reeks of ego protection, you're asking in advance and she has the opportunity to tell you no. But this is just one man's opinion. How do YOU think you did?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 01:01 PM
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Courtesy of /u/theultmatecad: "You seem like a Nice Guy" I've used this line twice on guys around women. They physically move farther away from him when you do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 12:32 PM
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Yep. In my house, its us first, kids second, partnership third. Always in that order.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 12:27 PM
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Hers a post I wrote recently, it may help you. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/3e3qc4/you_are_what_you_eat/
/r/askMRP28/09/15 12:19 PM
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My wife used to do that shit. Take your lifting seriously, get shredded, upgrade your wardrobe. When she sees that other women are attracted to you, you'll never hear about another "illness."
/r/askMRP28/09/15 01:46 AM
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Eh, fuck it and ignore it. Not your problem. I do regular Daddy Daughter Date Night and we post pictures of it on Facebook. A couple weeks ago, I took my daughter to subway and a.movie. I insisted she wear a dress, and I wore a suit. Wife was jealous. So the fuck what? I'm an awesome dad. She can get jealous, mad, whatever. Not my problem.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 01:39 AM
1

You can get your levels tested if you want. You can talk to the biggest guy in your gym and get a cycle of Test-E. I take 10,000ui of D3 each day. Plus, every other day I make sure I get plenty of fat (T building block). And I try to get enough rest each night. I wouldn't waste my money on herbal bullshit. Raise it naturally, or just pin. The rest of the shit you see advertised is bullshit. Edit: Keep in mind that on a cut, your test level is likely to be lower. Seems I remember you were losing …
/r/askMRP28/09/15 01:31 AM
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Your post brought a tear to my eye. Keep initiating. Your woman needs to recognize you as a sexual being. Good progress.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 01:23 AM
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but don't have a beach bod There's your goal. A "beach bod" is that guy turning heads when his shirt comes off and moistening panties. A cyclist is not going to wet any panties.
/r/askMRP28/09/15 01:19 AM
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Good FR. Its amazing how dudes are freaked out when you don't bow to the Altar of Vagina. Your FR emphasizes how deep the Man deficit is. People have no idea how to react to a Man. Keep doing what you're doing, give the world a glimpse at how Men live.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/15 12:36 AM
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you come here to make friends, you've missed the point I'm sure you're all Nice GuysTM, but I come here because there are guys dealing with many of the same issues I face. And guys that have successfully dealt with issues I face. Reading the posts, I've often found the answer to something that was troubling me, without having to ask it myself. Because other guys are going through the same trials in life. I'm here to learn how to get more and better sex, be more awesome, a better leader, and a tr…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/15 06:28 PM
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she knows if she asks like that i am not coming You're not asking, and neither is she. You're both doing what you want and inviting people to join you. That's what adults do, what they want to do. Who made me king? I did.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/15 06:05 PM
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Cool story, bro
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 06:11 PM
1

perhaps enjoy this plateau Just like in lifting, when you hit a real plateau for 3 sessions in a row, don't "deload." Just put more weight on the bar. Always continue to progress. Starfish the last few times? OK, today is starfish+bj. Or whatever you want. Like in MMSL, have a plan. If it doesn't work out, you'll get it next session. Plateau? Put more weight on the bar. Keep moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 01:59 PM
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This.this.this. Every dude in here says "my smv is higher than hers." She does not agree. And what's the saying? Market value is when a willing buyer and willing seller agree. So crank up the dread (1-5). Once you can actually pull a hot 23 year old, you'll see things change. Quickly.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 01:51 PM
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Great post. I attended a management course about 10 years ago. The instructor was an assertive dude that had his shit together. One thing he taught me that still sticks with me is: The only currency you truly own in life is your time. Everything is a negotiation of your time. Value it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/15 01:39 PM
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You ever notice when a runner or some dude that does Insanity walks into a room? No? Me neither. You ever noticed when a big jacked dude walks into a room? Yeah, that's a big sumbitch and a badass. Your wife, and all the other women, notice that dude, too. You need to lift and be that dude. Improve yourself. And give that woman some leadership. There's a porn star hiding inside her waiting to be unleashed.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/15 10:41 PM
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What I mean is that you're a single dude. This is Married RP. You get a girl to stick with you by being the best man she'll ever get.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 07:38 PM
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I do not like the idea of myself having meaningless sex with women who I won't be in relationships with. Some of my most meaningful fucks were with women I wasn't in a relationship with. You don't have to do anything to find a woman. Just be an awesome dude. They will find you. But I.don't think this is the right sub for you. Get this "forever" bullshit out of your head. Any woman is with you for the moment. Always be prepared to lose her.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 07:21 PM
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IIt was GNO, she was 42, married, and fit. I'm sure her husband was a regular dadbod that she tells, "honey, I love you just the way you are." You know, meets this minimum threshold stuff. He's home with the kids, and she's out buying Chad's older brother shots and licking his stomach in a bar. Lucky for him, Chad's older brother was just out with a few friends to have a few drinks and tell some lies to the tourist girls. Some harmless catch-and-release.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 06:47 PM
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He's the ultimate BB
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 05:45 PM
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I think OP's woman licked my abs in a bar Saturday night
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 05:35 PM
2

When in doubt, go alpha, because ...AF
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 05:21 PM
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Good reply, ... except,: If my LTR sat next to me like that I would go with some light kino right away, careful though not to overdo it as she'll think you're trying to get laid and interested in yourself as opposed to her causing you to be interested/turned on slowly try to fuck her immediately.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 03:58 PM
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What would have been the correct approach to any of this? Exactly the opposite of what you did. Once she said "not really," I would do whatever I wanted to do. And don't ask. Did you want to watch a movie, or were you asking because you thought that's what she wanted to do? "I'm going to watch ________, you're welcome to join me." All that DEERing made me nauseous. She was in a bad mood, and looking to argue. Why did you placate her want to argue? You could have AAed and AMed your way through th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 02:58 PM
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honestly don't think she's going to be more interested in sucking my dick when I get all swole and ripped She may or may not. But other womenz will line up for the opportunity. And once your wife sees that line forming, ...
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 12:57 PM
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Your first option sounds like the typical fat guy. The second option sounds like a head turning alpha that owns rooms when he walks into them. The kind of guy who is eye fucked by women everywhere he goes. The kind that, if he chooses, has a woman that will do anything to meet his needs. But it's your choice. Do what you want. P.S. The second option is the same as the guy in your first option. Same guy, just shredded as fuck.
/r/askMRP23/09/15 12:41 PM
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Live in your mother’s basement and only come out to go to work. That describes many marriages. Great read. Puts the "manipulation" argument to rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 11:04 AM
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There's so much "she" in this post. For fucks sake, stop that. Write it again in a few months, replace "she" with "I".
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 03:41 AM
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Dem abs increase your confidence. Well played.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 02:53 AM
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By being a strong masculine presence, you're not faking it. You're making it. Keep improving and being awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/15 02:46 AM
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In my case, the sex ramped up and everything was on the menu. If your woman isn't crazy now, its doubtful she'll become crazy later. The changes in her will likely be comfort test-related. And she'll likely be proud to be with you, because you give her status in the female social matrix. She'll do just about anything to meet your needs. I wouldn't worry, you're going to like your new value. The perks of raising your SMV will go much farther than your wife's actions, though. You'll live like a pr…
/r/askMRP22/09/15 06:29 PM
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The waterfall starts with a single drop. OP, just fucking do it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 05:41 PM
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If she's working on something else or had her hands full, then it's reasonable. Otherwise, let her get things herself. Just say No calmly, and don't explain or rationalize. Tell her you love her after sex. She earns it. Then its not just hollow words.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 04:48 PM
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Nicely done. Feels good to focus on you for a change, doesn't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/15 04:38 PM
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Good FR. Keep doing stuff like this. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/15 01:32 PM
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TL;DR "I may do something, just not sure. Maybe tomorrow."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/15 03:18 PM
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Maybe it was in the delivery, but trying to get her to look at your box of rubbers while she working on something sounds like some teenage angst. Not that I'm judging (nor should you give a fuck about my judgement), I release my inner teenager often. But you want to avoid looking like a child at this point in your development. Or fuck it, rock it if you think you can pull it off. Some shit works, other didn't. Experiment. Remember, your improved self must fit your personality. Snippy shit like t…
/r/askMRP18/09/15 06:42 PM
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No need to return those compliments. Mix up your responses, Thanks, Tickets to the gun show are now on sale, Do you have any bandaids 'cause I'm cut, blah blah. Have fun and be fun. But give her compliments as well. Just not about her looks, because she knows she looks good if she's with you. Catch her doing good stuff. "I love your hibachi vegetables." "The house looks great, good job." "I'm proud of your progress on your diet, gym, etc." "Fist bump on that fucking." Whatever, just reward her f…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/15 12:39 PM
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Testing via text? Just ignore it. Like in your first example. The second example isn't a test, it's a logistics notification. Maybe YMMV, but I don't see that as a panty wetter. I'd encourage newbies to tighten up their texting. I'd encourage them to avoid texting. You can pull off flirting with text, but your overall game had better be solid. And if you're Ramboed up on "smashing" shit tests, your game still needs significant work.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/15 03:45 PM
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I remember when you started. Great progress! I think I remember you saying "getting laid twice a week" was your goal. Congrats, now don't slow down, keep your foot on the gas. Are you lifting yet, bro? Seems like I remember you were doing bodyweight stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:57 PM
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You game, I fish. Both a waste of time to the world because neither activity is in the service of womenz. Waste on.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:42 PM
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Ok, long as you're equipped to lead. Fuck, the thought of SL for a year gives me tendonitis, so good job. My wife gave me the "you're too thin" bullshit too, when she was all heifered up and the only thing she was working out was the hamster. Now, she tells me my Adonis belt is my sexiest feature. Go figure.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:28 PM
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I don't see why you would want to tell them anything regarding RP stuff. I would guess that to most folks, it would come across as _______ (fill in the blank with whatever word works here). Just don't engage in stuff you don't want to, draw your boundaries where necessary, and live your life. No need for a public declaration.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 07:17 PM
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I am a work in progress but I lift and I am killing my beta ass kissing ways. I have really upped my smv in the last year. Do you know how to lose weight? It's calories in/calories out, and you have to count what you eat. Not just one of those "I'm eating better" guys. Those guys stay fat fucks. The reason I ask is because you can't lead here if you don't know how yourself. No where in your post did you mention YOUR weight loss or your progress. You may be shredded and 7% body fat, I don't know.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 06:58 PM
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Yeah, my wife weighed 40 lbs more a couple of years ago. I was a bitch then. When I got some results from lifting and started leaning out, guess who started counting their calories? Now she's in great shape, counts what she eats, and lifts 3 days/week. Dread is powerful stuff. I once had "the talk" with her about her weight after our daughter was born. She cried, and called her mother, told her I said she was fat. I know how to deal with that bullshit now; back then, I just kept my mouth shut ab…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 05:00 PM
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text isn't for conversations Against the standard RP advice, I flirt with my wife via text often. I don't recommend it for new guys, but I do it. If I want to text my wife something cocky or funny, I do it. After I post this reply, I'm going to convince my wife to send me a tit or beaver shot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 01:29 PM
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should i be concerned. To steal from Eric Church: You should be concerned that when I get home, I'm going to knock down that front door, back you up against the wall, and that old house is going to be shaking
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/15 12:51 PM
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It's a great dread tool
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 06:41 PM
3

OP should try pineapple juice or bromelain
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 06:02 PM
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Ifeel like I can’t please you (tears) Man, I remember the "I feel like I disappoint you" speech, tears included. That was when I knew I was making it, instead of faking it. Nice FR, keep moving ahead, OP. Edit: I never had a Main Event. You may not, either. It's good to be prepared, but it may never happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 06:00 PM
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If the result is a blowjob...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 05:53 PM
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Anyway, I'm talking too much. That's the TL;DR. Are you the guy who posted yesterday that your wife didn't seek validation from you and just disappeared often? That you were overweight and working on it? And today you're a scary motherfucker that's too alpha? Do you see how you're all over the place? You're changing user names, you're too alpha, you're a warrior. Yesterday, you were insecure. This is the type of leadership your wife sees. Of course she's confused about your behavior. We say STFU…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 04:32 PM
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I see "slowness of movement" as literally slowing down your walk, your eye movement. You're not in a hurry to do anything. No sudden movements. An alpha isn't fidgety, or jumpy. An alpha is slow and deliberate. Take your time, pull your shoulders back, tighten your core, open your chest up, raise your chin. Like a king would as he walks around his kingdom.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/15 12:38 PM
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Change gyms. Just say no to Snap Fitness and Planet Fitness
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 08:01 PM
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in the redneck part of town No need to get personal, lol. I like going to the grocery store on the way home from the gym. When my arms are jacked, and the MILFs are in eye-fucking mode
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 07:59 PM
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Just be confident. Didn't matter what you're wearing, look and act like a man in it And AMOG that dude. "You like her, bro? She gets the oil change for half price, right?"
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 05:40 PM
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Firstly, what is there about your first impression that gives folks a license to talk down to you? Carry yourself like a silverback. Work on your handshake, your body language, your eye contact. Take up space. I envision myself as a rattlesnake, nobody fucks with a rattlesnake. And learn how to AMOG dudes. Ditch the money response thing. She's with you because you're a bad ass and the best she'll ever have.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 05:06 PM
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Nice FR. Fiend didn't listen. Sends her apology over facebook, and texts her next morning This shit drives me nuts. BP friends fucking up your dealing with shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 04:22 PM
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One thing we spoke about was why i asked for sex all the time. Like other folks have said, don't ask. Do. Have you read any of the seduction materials? Game your woman. i will do what i have to do. I will go jerkoff How about "will do what i have to do," smirk, wink, slap her on the ass and STFU and walk away. Put the hamster to work. Edit: Just reread your original post. I suspect your wife sees a covert contract with you going down on her. She likely thinks she's expected to reciprocate, so sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 04:05 PM
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Ive got a long road of lifting and running ahead That's the answer. As you get closer to your fitness goals, everything else on point, then you'll see the change in her attitude toward you. And if she doesn't, you'll be able to replace her by Friday night.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 03:10 PM
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she said Go back through your post and count how many times you included "she said." Who cares what she says. And stop asking for sex. If you want sex, just go for it. In this situation, she asked. Tell her what your needs are. My wife asked me once what I wanted. I told her some light biting. Now my chest looks like it was attacked by a pack of wild dogs.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/15 02:58 PM
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he's from the backwoods of KY Then be direct. He can take it. "Hey Hoss, you tell stories like a bitch."
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/15 04:40 PM
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Unplugging to Approved Fuck that. That nice-shoes-wearing fugger is close to a Sage
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 01:32 AM
1

You owe your friend a fifth of good whiskey
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/15 12:47 AM
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can look back now and see clearly where I have fucked up. I think it started with the birth of our daughter. I think it softened me. Yeah, it's fairly common, I see it in myself and many of my friends. I suspect it's evolutionary for some reason. But it's no excuse. There's really no excuse for being a pussy. Other than that quote, the rest of your post deserves a "just STFU." For fucks sake, never write your woman another letter/list unless it's a grocery list. And listen to /u/[deleted]. He na…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 08:29 PM
1

someone who can hold frame, make his wife dripping wet with a single look, and has female co-workers fawning. I have doubts about "holding frame," but the other stuff is definitely doable. If a dude is in great shape, starts dressing better, improves body language, and makes good eye contact. The dread alone will get the wife excited. And the coworkers just start viewing OP as "hawt." OP is rocking confidence, and nothing looks better on a man than confidence. Hypothetically, of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 08:12 PM
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Fuck, what a great read. It's like I was there with you. Oh, that's right. I was. Welcome to the Brotherhood. Live your life like the rock star you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 05:53 PM
1

Mistakes were made. I accept responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/15 01:25 AM
1

Well I've done this x times and that's against the rules... I like grilling pork tenderloins. I've done it more than 3 times. I'm with /u/TrainingTheBrain and do what I want, as many times as I want. I get (I think) where OP is trying to go with this, but in this respect, NAWALT and NAMALT.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 08:26 PM
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Whenever my wife is going shopping, she tells me a time and I verbally add 30 minutes to an hour to it, and tell her if she's going to be longer, let me know. If I'm planning to do something or go to the gym, I tell her what time I need her home. But I just enjoy having the house to me and kids, or we'll go do something, so I don't usually mind. Unless I have some shit planned, then I just tell her my needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 05:11 PM
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Are you a man worth following? If not, she's not excited about following Mr. Dufus' lead. If you are, lead on and AM, A&A those complaints away. And even when you make decisions, give her opportunities to offer alternatives. The main thing is be a Man worth following. But if you've been fucking up for years, it will take time for her to trust your lead.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 04:10 PM
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Congrats on your leadership. My wife lifts 3 days a week. We usually go at separate times. Sometimes we ride together. We have separate programs. She's been lifting for about a year now, she deadlifts 225. I'm proud of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 08:55 AM
1

You don't have to take the IPad. Just change the wifi password.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/15 02:18 AM
1

In real life, fuck honesty. Talk power. Be machiavellian. It's a tightrope to walk, however. Because to exhibit effective leadership, you must develop trust.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 07:05 PM
6

"In the restaurant I'd give her a "I'll talk to you about this later." I like this. This is how you put the hamster to work for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 06:38 PM
6

Good for taking the boy outside. From your description, you probably should have done it earlier, but that's just nitpicking. For the wife, I'm going to get through dinner, then later I'm going to calmly draw a line that she doesn't cross again. No argument, no discussion.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 04:41 PM
0

So you and your wife are going to slut it up with random strangers in front of the kids? Yeah, that sounds like a great plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/15 12:34 AM
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What.the.fuck? No. Just no.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 04:06 PM
2

Don't ever put up with her trying to be your mother. When my wife tells me what to do, a "OK, mom", followed by a laugh always ends that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 05:18 PM
2

Her insides recoiled at you doing something nice for her. Great point. "I'm cooking eggs because I need 230 grams of protein today. I'm eating 8, which gives me 50 g, you can have 4." Remember, you're a man on a mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 01:45 PM
2

intriguing I love to use that on occasion. The squint, tilt head look that says "that's utterly ridiculous."
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 01:37 PM
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First, I sense a covert contract right off the bat. Do you see it? "Tried to do something nice and got shit in return." You cook because you're hungry and you want to, who gives a fuck if no one pats you on the back or not. Second, she's teeing these up for you. Step up and drive 'em right down the middle of the fairway. In 6 months, you'll long for slow pitch like these. If you can pull off cocky/funny, these are like a wet dream. can barely stop myself from grinning like an idiot. :) Don't con…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 12:48 PM
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What the others said. What I can add is: You two make $80 K per year, there's no excuse for the utilities not being paid.
/r/askMRP02/09/15 07:10 PM
1

the die is cast in these 2 situations You agreed to take care of your parents. You can do this without them living with you. I'm durable POA for both of my folks, both have dementia. One is in skilled nursing care facility, the other lives at home with a part time caregiver. I make sure their bills are paid, manage their money, and visit then regularly. Point is, you can meet your responsibility and change your mind. I do it all the time. Sometimes, shit doesn't go the way you planned, and you h…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 03:51 PM
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she secretly wants me to be a meathead, dip chewing, open carry motherfucker? It would be an improvement. And she doesn't secretly want you to man up, she's overtly wants you to. Don't forget to breathe out of your mouth. Show her something, anything other than your paycheck and the t-shirt that you wear every day that says "I work and bleed for you". Show her how happy you can be when you put your needs first. Show yourself how awesome you can be when you lift weights and eat well. Stop with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/15 09:23 AM
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I've been meaning to ask you if those abs have shown up
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 11:05 PM
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Not suggesting to slow to a crawl, go all Billy Beta, and "Yes, dear" your ass off. Just suggesting that you give the changes and improvements you're making time to register. It hit the fan, she totally blew up and it was not good. No, I think this is good. You're doing something different than the status quo, and your wife is reacting to the change in the relationship's dynamics. Pissing your woman off is not the worse thing. In fact, she's driven by strong emotions, positive or negative. Makin…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 09:43 PM
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Yeah, I don't get the monk mode thing or the sex moratoriums. Just seems like a way to avoid rejection and protect your ego. Fuck that. I'm not withdrawing from my life or going to stop trying to get laid. I'm a big boy. I can take someone telling me "No."
/r/askMRP01/09/15 09:38 PM
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I'm really disappointed in you, man. The 23 year old should be buying your lunch.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 09:28 PM
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/u/TrainingTheBrain, you're killing me this week, dude. I stopped by the Dollar Tree and grabbed two 4-packs of 22" glowsticks. And after this post, I'm taking my daughter out for Daddy-Daughter Date Night (to Subway and a movie), and I'm wearing a suit and tie.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 09:25 PM
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+1 if you put it in 4 wheel drive. And make sure your console shit is tight, so when you flip it up...
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 02:35 AM
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Dude, I hate to admit this, but I just downloaded Becky G "Break A Sweat," "Can't Stop Feeling", "Becky On The Block", and some 5th Harmony and Arianna Grande song. Yes, I'm in my daughter's frame, but as long as I willingly and voluntarily enter her frame, I'm good. If not, you guys are here to set me straight.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/15 02:14 AM
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My favorite is: My SMV is higher than my wife's. Um, ... no. Just no.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 06:33 PM
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You'll be sleeping on the couch tonight - No way, the bed is mine but I may fuck her on the couch Stolen
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 06:13 PM
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Throw in some calf raises and leg raises, and 8mins of treadmill, and it sounds like my kid's workout
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 06:06 PM
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My wife goes to the gym earlier than I do. I usually pick up my 9 year old from after school and take her with me. She has her own Bluetooth headphones and an old phone that I set her up a workout. Takes her 45 minutes to do it, and she's good about completing it. I've even added progressive overload (within reason for a preteen). The upside is the girls at the gym think I'm the coolest guy ever when I walk in with my daughter. And they love to come talk to me and compliment my parenting. My wif…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:53 PM
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I am going silent on her for the next week, knowing that eventually she will come around and do things my way or she will be gone. Slow down there, Rambo. It took you years to fuck yourself, it will take more than a few weeks to unfuck yourself. Take it slow. That ball buster of a wife may be hiding a sweet, submissive porn star.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:42 PM
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Congrats, you've stopped the bleeding. And you're beginning to stand up for yourself. Now STFU and keep reading. And trying to assume the qualities of an alpha. Before long, those qualities will become instinctive.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:18 PM
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You're selling a package. You can have various components, but the sell is easier when you combine the attitude, swagger, body language, and your rippedness.(?) Yeah, I think I made that word up.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 05:07 PM
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don't think the work will ever stop Damn right. I want 100% of the rooms I enter
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 04:12 PM
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I've said it before, but if you're not the fittest, most shredded dude in 99% of the rooms you walk into, you have more work to do.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 02:43 PM
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Solid post, dude. makeout with her hard and fast; then just fucking leave Can't stress this enough. Do this kind of shit often enough, so she doesn't know if she's getting fucked or teased. And when you tease her, act like it was her idea. "Damn, baby, calm down, I have shit to do."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 02:38 PM
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cheapertokeepher At what price? Your happiness? Dignity? Self-respect? Money comes and goes. A high value man can always make more money.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 12:21 PM
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Fuck your ego, if you aren't fucking, you aren't together... period. And that's the whole thing, in a nutshell. If you're not fucking, fix that. Be someone who's fuckable. No, OP, you're not in a good place. But you can be.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/15 01:06 AM
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I spent time on the gym, sport sessions, and I am worried that if I go any further in my dread game she will become depressed, (she has some history and always had low self steem). I'm confused by this statement. Are you suggesting that if you continue to become an awesome dude, your wife will become depressed? Here's a thought: maybe as you continue to improve, wife will get her ass in gear and do a better job of taking care of her needs. Leadership by example. And as you continue to improve, I…
/r/askMRP30/08/15 09:39 PM
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Treat MIL's bullshit like the shit tests they are. You can't control her, or change her. But you can control and change how you interact with her. I think you're looking for a big battle, but I'd suggest just shooting down her bullshit as it comes up. They are harassing my wife incessantly and forcing her hamster to get riled up. You must let your wife deal with this problem. I mean, its HER problem. And I didn't see where your wife was asking for your help. I'd hear her out for a few minutes at…
/r/askMRP30/08/15 09:30 PM
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You feel like an asshole after you begged her to go exercise and go out with you, and then she cried? Your whole post is about trying to make her happy. Just keep improving, work on being awesome, and she'll come along for the ride. Or not. But you'll be a better man.
/r/askMRP30/08/15 08:49 PM
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Also, think of the impact you are having on your kids. If you have a boy, he learns to nurture his masculine nature. If you have a girl, she sees a strong dominant leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 08:34 PM
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Take control of your nutrition. A vast majority of folks cannot control their intake. By taking control of yours, you have just effectively controlled the one thing most others cannot. Lose weight, gain weight, maintain weight. While the masses struggle with body image and their weight, you can concentrate on other improvements. Feels good, don't it?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/15 02:20 PM
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She kept on telling me to put her down but was grinning the whole time. They always tell us to put them down, but when we do, those damp panties are coming off
/r/askMRP29/08/15 06:30 AM
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George and Tessa need to lean out. And Tessa's squat form is shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 05:10 PM
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No, we both deadlift on Wednesdays. I can't perform either. My CNS is fried. And I'm OK with that. Its the running joke between us. "Hump Day" ain't hump day.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 02:50 PM
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How's your Game? A key component is you need some solid Game. Sure, single guys can attract women with absolutely no game, but a married dude that's been with the same woman for years? She's seen your best and worst, so with her, you better bring your A game. So are you flirting, seducing her? Also, I'd say the isolated instances of women flirting with you in front of your wife have a cumulative effect, meaning I believe there's a tipping point (or critical mass) where its starts to tilt the sca…
/r/askMRP28/08/15 02:47 PM
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No matter how cock diesel you are right now, if you fall into routine, pattern, or same ol' same you're wife will get bored. Great point. There is no end game. Keep improving and be unpredictable.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 01:10 PM
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My wife lifts. Chad, Channing, or I would be hard pressed to bang her on deadlift day.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 12:39 PM
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AWALT TIL I need to use multisyllabic words more. I did not know that was an Alpha quality. I'm disconcerted.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/15 12:32 PM
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Any confrontation will possibly lead to a blow up. It takes two to have a blow up. You don't engage in that anymore, so blow up averted.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 02:11 AM
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Go put in a fucking manly movie Gladiator. Or Talledega Nights.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/15 02:09 AM
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A caveat, at least in my situation, is to quickly respond to racy text pics. It's taken some work, but I've finally got my girl to send me sexy text pics. And this is a woman that told me years ago she would never do this. OK, buttercup. Anyway, her request is for me to quickly respond to sex pics, so that she'll know she didn't fuck up and send to her boss or someone by mistake. A reasonable request, imo, and I don't want to fuck this up, so I comply.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 07:25 PM
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I'd draw some boundaries. First, don't put our bullshit out there for the world to see. Second, don't disrespect me again with juvenile name calling. We're adults. And I'd enforce those boundaries with my life. Edit: I only see the "back and forth" as your screw up.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:17 PM
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A good rule of thumb is text her 2/3rds the amount of times she texts you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:37 PM
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Good job, Captain. Now lead your woman to better health. My wife used to take many of those meds. Now, she's lost 40 lbs, works out 4 days/week, and doesn't have to take blood pressure and cholesterol meds, because her weight and diet are under control. You’re goddamn right I am That's the guy you see in the mirror now. Feels good, man.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:25 PM
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I think it might take a Jedi Well, luckily, you're that Jedi. Think of how Obi Wan convinced the stormtroopers that these were not the droids they were looking for. Your frame will soon be that strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:20 PM
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Some great responses here. So I can't add much except never ever talk about hitting that ass. That just happens. For the love of God, do not mention it during the day. Especially in a text. Hell, just reading your post, I'm nervous about it. And I don't live with you. Can't imagine all the anxiety that caused your wife. As these guys have said, texting is short and directive. "I'll pick up the kids and some beer. You wear your red sundress, no panties." None of that other shit. And if you ever g…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 04:10 PM
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This
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 12:23 PM
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My endgame? A 400 person funeral, 300 of them are women crying, and one big ass coffin.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 12:21 PM
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Just surf Ocean Beach in the winter. That'll toughen you up.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 05:38 PM
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am in shape, but could be harder. Consider this your wake-up call.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:56 PM
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I like your posts, didn't even see who the poster was before I responded. But my first reaction was, "bullshit excuses", mainly because I've heard all of those before. Me, I think my woman can be a good mother and a porn star.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 03:44 PM
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My wife has a really bad memory of walking in on her parents when she was 9, so she is very hesitant when they are around Leave the house. She's rejecting you. My wife also is wiped out by 10pm, so often she is falling asleep before the kids Leave the house, she's rejecting you. but then we have to be quiet and not have a wild time Do you see a pattern here? If you've alphaed up, this bullshit disappears. You're got some more work to do, dude. wife attracted and game for more sex Really? When? W…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:58 PM
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Great FR, and very timely. Like the way you own your shit and admit to letting this slip up on you. Good recovery. I came home last night, MIL, daughter, and wife hit me with "we're getting a dog." No.fucking.way, I don't want a dog, or the care of a dog. I hope I can stand strong, this is going to be a serious test of my frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/15 02:56 AM
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she is very hot Good for her. Now take her off that pedestal and put yourself up there. She has the advantage on you because you can't seem to get it out of her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 06:30 PM
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Had to check the calendar, thought maybe it was April Fool's Day.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 12:46 PM
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I had a similar experience recently. I work with small towns, and a small town mayor saw me recently. She's an older lady, and she complimented me on my changes. Then she said, "You just look confident, and there's nothing better looking on a man than confidence." People notice. Most people can't put their finger on what's different about you. Except politicians. Because they notice everything and are masters of the Game.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/15 12:29 PM
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Great job on your leadership. no dread was used Au contraire
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 06:26 PM
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Don't know what to tell you. This girl sounds like every girl that dudes deal with. Fairly basic stuff. Being a man doesn't seem to work anymore. You should seriously consider gender reassignment surgery, then.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:46 PM
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He's pretty much up front told me in some ways that he only hangs out with me because he felt sorry for me Drop that cocksucker today. Have some self respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:42 PM
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"that's all you care about. Not true, I care about your cooking and cleaning, too. This is basic shit treating, OP. Right there in the sidebar. Put some effort into this. The knife thing is odd, but I can't tell from your summary what exactly happened there. Just not clear whether she'd was trying to hurt herself or not, you'll have to figure that out. But you don't have a crazy person, you have a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:36 PM
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Seriously. It doesn't lead to an argument if you don't argue with her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 04:18 PM
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With friends, when it becomes work or if they take more than they give, you must close the door on them. I'd just stop talking with him. He'll figure it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 02:45 PM
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You can get pissed off. Or not. Either way, nothing changes the situation. Life's too short to get pissed about little shit. Save your "pissed off" for something worthy of your wrath. Routine work bullshit ain't it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 12:49 PM
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Frame. No frame. Whatever. Looks like a reach around fest. "Baby, come here. But first, here's some evo pysch babble for you to read." Hey, but as long as you think your frame is strong.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 12:36 PM
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Date Night. In my BP days, my marriage therapist told me I needed to help around the house more and take my woman on Date Nights. That didn't do a damn thing. Now, I either find a dirt road and drop the truck in 4 wheel drive with a cooler of beer. Or take my girl on a boat ride and go way, way back where there's nobody. And give it to her well every time. No more complaints from her about Date Night.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 12:22 PM
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Read. Don't read. The message for today is stop seeking validation, especially BEFORE you do something. Just fuc king do it and keep your mouth shut about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 11:13 AM
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As a link with no additional text it is a shit post. Gabrielle just moved to the top of my Hall Pass list, so there's that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/15 11:07 AM
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When you do it by accident without design your are playing with dynamite! WTF? Good luck, bro
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 06:25 PM
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Not confused. Your advice to OP is to explain and defend your actions. You even tried to qualify it with the term "actual discussions." As if the rest of us were thick browed simpletons that only have mundane communication with women. I've never bought into the First Officer thing, but that's my personal bias. If you like that analogy, First Officer your ass off. But you're advocating a "deep discussion," which is guaranteed to make panties bone dry. Because you're concerned about her feelz. Suc…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 06:08 PM
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While you're DEERing, she's wondering "What's Chad doing tonight?"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 05:28 PM
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I'm with you on this. Just do your thing and be awesome. You know what my woman said this morning after I swatted down her little tests and banged her good? She kissed me goodbye and told me "go be a rock star today."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 04:48 PM
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Laird is a top tier alpha, broke the barrier at Teaupoo. As a surfer, he's THE AMOG.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 04:02 PM
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But for some of us who have actual discussion with our first officer trough out our marriage keeping thing in the dark during the transition can be a real problem. You get the whole "act, don't talk" thing, right? No need to placate your woman's desire to know every thing you do. Get the fuck out of her frame. I just had a talk with my wife last night about this. I'm planning a guy weekend, and she kept wanting to tell me what to do, and asking questions. So I said, "yes, mom." She flipped out a…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/15 03:24 PM
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Your SMV is not higher than hers. You don't even lift. When your SMV surpasses your wife's, she'll lose weight and get on her hands and knees to make sure your needs are met. And you'll be beating other women off of you with a stick.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 05:33 PM
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When it comes to women, nothing excites dudes like a .7 waist to hip ratio. When it comes to men, nothing looks more attractive on a man than confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 05:02 PM
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I think the goddamn leaky faucet can wait when a bj is being offered
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 04:56 PM
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I disagree. Fuck your woman. Especially when she initiates. I ain't making her wait when she's DTF. This ain't no game, my frame is tight, and I'll fuck my woman any time she bends over. That's just what we do.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/15 01:40 PM
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Then there's the fitness test that's her way of flirting.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:45 PM
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Stop looking at your wife as your partner and start looking at her as your opponent. Because in the sex game, she is your opponent.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 12:26 PM
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I suspect the catering is ubiquitous
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 06:35 AM
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I like this line of thinking. But, on the other hand, we're talking about the difference between guys and girls. Sure, men are looking for high quality women, but we're mainly looking for a .7 waist to hip ratio. Women are pursuing their dual sexual strategy. So, being a lady doctor is not as high a bump up on SMV as is a male doctor.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 04:02 PM
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Hey, grab me one while you're over there, bro. And I'd 'preciate a little hustle up on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 02:39 PM
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Good man. I'd make sure the social niceties are handled, because tradition is important to me. But step out of your parents frame. You are not responsible for their feelings or their covert contracts.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 02:38 PM
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Often enough just having good posture, squaring your shoulders, projecting your voice, and just sending a simple short message with your words, tone, voice, body, gestures and action is all you need. Great post! A demeaning manner seems counter to what we are trying to do. We want to be assertive, yet keep our cool. Aggressive behavior just doesn't portray "assertive and cool."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 02:27 PM
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I'd just tell her what you told us, and next time, "I'm going to my parents, you can come if you want." Her problem, only she can fix it. Or not. And you'll have to figure out if this is a long term dealbreaker for you. The thank you cards are a necessity, IMO. Send them out yourself, lead by example.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 02:16 PM
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Cracks me up when I'm hanging with some guys by the cooler. My wife (she's so funny, and just does it now for shits and giggles) yells over "get me a beer." I'll say a flat "no" and keep talking like nothing happened. Invariably, some of the guys look at me like I'm crazy, and one of them will always hustle a beer over to my wife. That shit just cracks me up. Sometimes, I'll tell them to get me one, and they'll refuse. I'll always ask why not me and one for my wife, and they'll say something lik…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 12:29 PM
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edit: I tried to copy and paste this list, but it didn't work, so ... This is probably the best list of things you can do and hold the hell out of frame. No need to shove it at her, let it come to her, let her see it. Great post, dude!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/15 12:00 AM
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Skip the Talk. You're going to lose, like with all the previous Talks. Slow down, read the basics. Going into a shitstorm loaded up on RP without understanding the basics of yours and your wife's sexual strategies is an event that you could sell tickets to and make good money. You leaving her right now? Your next relationship will likely end the same way. Or you could take your time, figure out your and your wife's strategies, get in great shape, learn to be assertive, dress well, and be desired…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/15 11:12 AM
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I don't get it. Maybe I'm dense, but whatever your point is has sailed high or low of my head.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 06:23 PM
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I took on my first apprentice last week. A buddy went fishing with me and started complaining that he wasn't getting regular sex with his wife. He said the words that made me think he was the perfect candidate, "I think I'm too nice to her." So I couldn't help myself. I'm no Brophet, but I talked to him about some of the fundamentals, he read "Dude, Got a Minute?", and I sent him MMSL. And gave him the Fight Club speech. So I saw him last night at a show me and the guys went to, asked him how th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 06:17 PM
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You aren't going alone. Hahaha! I'm on the water 75 days per year, 30% of the time alone. I can't imagine someone telling me what I can and can't do. This isn't even a test, it's just an entirely laughable statement. You'll maintain your frame when you take your boat out any time you want. I'm still laughing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/15 04:00 PM
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I flipped the script This whole thing in 4 words. Excellent post, OP
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:46 PM
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My wife showers after sex often. It's a hot, sweaty affair involving body fluids. She used to insist on the lights being out when she was overweight. Now, she's proud of her body and prefers the lights on, because, and I quote her from last night, "I just like to watch things happen." You're overthinking, keep leading. Sounds like you're on the right path. Just give things time.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 04:36 PM
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It really takes time to internalize the "I'm the prize" mindset and frame. Man, I struggled for longer than I thought I would. Then one day, a switch just flipped. And the IOIs from women were suddenly EVERYWHERE. And my wife turned almost instantly into a sweeter woman that wanted to please me. We are married to porn stars waiting for an alpha to show up. Still blows my mind at times.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 12:20 PM
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The problem I have with all of these sources is that they usually offer suggestions that I'm pretty confident will not work with my wife.... Yeah, I thought the same thing. I've never been happier being wrong.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 12:06 PM
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And I get that there are shit tons of people that ask questions in here that are looking for that "one weird trick" that turns their wives into porn stars. It's one weird trick that is actually composed of many small parts. But the summary is to become a man with the highest SMV you can. Then women can't help but be attracted to you. On text game, you have to be careful in the beginning that you're not asking for sex our coming across as needy. Later, as things improve, it can become a great way…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 12:04 PM
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Then let me be clear: no swatting, attention getters, jerking of arms (unless they stepping in front of a car), smacking, slapping, tapping, and any other word that gets hamstered. I'm a father and a coach. I can redirect behavior without touching a kid. It really isn't hard to do. Edit: This is the last post by me on this subject. I'm sure many disagree, I don't care. I don't understand the desire or want to hit kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 11:05 AM
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You get blowjobs because you're a high value, badass, uncontrollable, loved-by-women, admired-by-men, IDGAF sexy man beast. Not because you paid the mortgage.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/15 10:58 AM
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My dad beat me, too. The past 20 years, he has apologized profusely for it. Said several times, and I quote, "Son, a man should never hit anyone, child, woman, another adult, unless in self-defense." His words resonate with me still. Hit kids, don't hit kids, that's your call. But whether you were beaten as punishment or not, still don't make it right. Hitting kids doesn't make you a man. Dealing with and correcting bad behavior does.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 06:16 PM
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Mayb after the fight she will come to her senses and appreciate it. I just spit on myself. Not fucking likely.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 12:22 PM
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Hitting people to prove a point isn't acceptable. You don't hit your coworker for fucking up, you don't hit your wife for fucking up. You just don't hit other people, unless physically threatened. In what world can you rationalize hitting a pre-adult? Doesn't turn him into a man, turns him into a person that strikes others when frustrated. This isn't a "spank your kids vs don't spank" thing. Just.keep.your.damn.hands.to.yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 11:59 AM
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Am I not far enough along yet for my wife to want to shave because I asked her to? When your SMV truly exceeds your wife's, she'll gladly do it. When your SMV truly exceeds her's, there's a lot of shit that she says NO to now that she'll do. And don't ask, tell. Try the Magic Shave cream. That's one thing I take responsibility for, making sure there's Magic Shave in the house. In fact, I need to go shopping today...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/15 10:53 AM
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This may be the easiest test ever. You can use any of the AM, A&A, C/F responses. Or Laughed it off, kissed her good night and went to sleep. That works, too
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 06:40 PM
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Any pointers here? Put your foot down and stand your ground on your gym time. She doesn't get to tell you when and how often you go. That's your time. Now, don't be a dick about it and leave her in a lurch with the kids, but you can find the time to go and make it work. My wife and I trade off (she goes first, then me, or vice versa), our we go together and take the kid with us. The kid has a little program I created for her that takes about 45 minutes. Or I'll go in the mornings before work. Bu…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/15 06:37 PM
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Hadn't looked at it like that. Definitely could have been trying to level the playing field. Could be why she sometimes mentions how she "enjoyed that talk." She's still pissed that I never gave her my number. But I don't even know my number. She kept guessing, and I'd just say "higher." She's been excited since she got home from the gym today, and says some guy "asked her if she was training for a competition." She's mentioned it several times, so you may be on to something.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/15 01:43 AM
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Give it more time. As your wife sees you interact with other women, things will improve dramatically for you. Or they won't.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 03:50 PM
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Last February, my wife and I found ourselves childless for the evening, so we started drinking whiskey. Somehow, the conversation shifted to past lovers. My wife told me her number, I joked and doubled it. She told me about SOME of the boys prior to me. Yes, she's an Alpha widow, some dude named Rob rocked her world. She went to the prom with one dude and banged another in the parking lot. I wasn't threatened by these revelations, I have an extensive past. It was a fun conversation, and sometime…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 03:42 PM
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Nice job on the pull! And you easily have a set of 250x5 in you on squats. Keep busting your ass and make that 4th plate happen!
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/15 01:13 AM
2

This was the second drunken shit test on a Friday night in the past 3 weeks. Had fun with the first one, where she called me an asshole, and I A&Aed it until she quit. This time, she woke me up; I'm thinking the harpies did try this as a group. Looking back, it seemed rehearsed. The next night is where I truly fucked up, though. Why the hell am I arguing with her? I know better.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 11:44 PM
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These numbers aren't set in stone, but they are goals. When you reach them, you'll be comfortable developing your own programming. If you're graduating from SL, and you like those big compound lifts, consider Madcow or Texas Method. Too many folks program-jump. Hey, if you're truly bored, that's OK. But slow and steady is the way to go here, it takes time. That's why I suggest sticking with a program for a while before jumping to the next one. The idea is that when you get close to these numbers…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 11:05 PM
1

Each side, 225 bench, 315 squat, 405 dead
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 09:12 PM
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If you have to ask, then you're better off doing compound lifts. They will give you the best results, you'll learn proper form, and you'll increase your strength. A good rule of thumb when starting out is to look after the bigger muscle groups, and the smaller ones will look after themselves. The main thing is to do something, anything, for at least 6 months. Then evaluate. But unless you're benching 2 plates, squatting 3, and pulling 4, it doesn't really matter what routine you do. Find a routi…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 07:16 PM
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Ass-wise, she's got it going on. I'm 49 yo, and likely no higher than a 6.5, so I'm grading on a curve
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 05:57 PM
2

Jack black for the boss, fireball for the girls Johnnie Walker black is good stuff, though
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 04:54 PM
2

Get the fuck out of your wife's frame. Keep trying, if she rejects you, you'll eventually grow immune to it. When she senses that you truly don't give a fuck if she cums, stays, lays, or prays, she'll become much more amiable to it. As far as weekend outings, all my friends know I track what I eat, so nobody gives me shit about it. You can be social and still be accountable to yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 04:30 PM
1

I completely fucked up this weekend. Friday night, the wife ties one on with the neighborhood harpies. I go to bedd early, because I have to fish the next morning. She comes in, wakes me up, and tells me three times, "we're not having sex tonight." If it wasn't late. I'd take that challenge, but I just rolled back over. Then she says, "so why don't you go take one of your little rides in your truck or whatever you need to do." This is moving past a shit test and into disrespect, but I have to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/15 03:59 PM
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I like your style, dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/15 10:48 AM
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Im sure some guys here will read the above statements and think they sound too beta. Well, that's kind of the goddamn point. This is, again, a "Shitty Comfort Test." I don't think it's beta, I think it's too goddamn wordy. The same point can be made with a hug and "I love you, Princess. I got this."
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/15 01:58 AM
1

Ozzy would throw the trash out if he didn't pay someone to do it
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 09:07 PM
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Well played. Except for this: Told her that I had allowed that boy to wither away because I was too busy doing things that I thought would make her happy Just nitpicking, I would have left this out. But otherwise, well played.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 09:04 PM
3

Helicopter ride. It's exciting and scary. Girls get the tingles.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/15 03:23 PM
0

Breking News: People are sometimes mean to each other. I didn't read the article, either.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 07:48 PM
2

I'd start with 1900 and track your weight and calories daily for 3 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 07:44 PM
1

That's definitely too many calories for a cut. Try these suggestions to figure out your true TDEE.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 05:36 PM
3

But i have never got to that point or my wife with just up and leaving without saying something. Even if its hey goin shopping, going to gym. We always tell eachother. You're at that point. Just fuckin' do it. If she asks where you're going, "Out" is your reply. I get laid almost daily, but when my wife gives me a "No", I just leave the house on general fuckin' principle. Want to guess how often I get "No" now? You consider that disrespectful? How about a man's wife telling him not to initiate s…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 05:25 PM
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Leadership failure, simple as that. Keep working your ass off at the gym and the other aspects of your life. The wife will have to get her ass in gear to keep up. Our she won't. But slow your roll. Lead by example. You ain't a silverback yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 01:11 PM
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You're done with texting today. No responses to anything, barring a family crisis. You're going to go home and seduce your wife. You're going to tease her, touch her, kiss her. Then you're going to escalate. Push through the "I thought I said..." bullshit that she's going to say. If you get a hard no, go do something else, preferably out of the house. Don't talk, do. And you're going to have a solid poker face, because she doesn't get to see your cards. Try not to laugh. I dare you. If you find …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 12:57 PM
1

Nice field report! I agreed to this because it was only 3 nights. You're a better man than me. Family is like fish; after 2 days, you gotta throw them out.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 08:50 AM
1

My wife hates when I give her the "bless your little heart." It's amusing as hell to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/15 12:46 AM
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Count your calories. You can't outrun your fork. Here's the thing: You can spend 5 hours per week doing cardio and burn 1,500 calories. Or you can just eat 1,500 calories per week less. And spend your 5 hours doing something more productive. I'm not a big fan of cardio, mainly because I don't enjoy it. The calorie burn is not significant enough for the time spent, imo. I'd rather just eat less.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 06:48 PM
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My cns is so fried, you could cut me with a knife and I wouldn't feel it. My mind says one thing, my body just doesn't respond. I can function, but there's going to be no happy ending. So I just abstain on Deadlift Day.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 05:43 PM
2

I don't see a need for all that. If he's an alpha, you'll probably get along with him just fine. Abundance vs scarcity.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 05:05 PM
2

Some days, it's just not gonna happen. In my house, it's become a joke. "My husband's gonna leave me hanging tonight, today was Deadlift Day."
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 04:03 PM
2

"Are you doing this 'standing up to me' thing? Because if you are I really don't like it." Ha! There's so many cocky/funny responses that I would have to literally fight the urge to do anything but get a good laugh out of that and STFU. But I don't play slow pitch. Bless her heart.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:20 PM
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I open folks with a handshake and "I'm Redneck." 9 times out of 10 they will tell me their name and I repeat it back, to ensure I get it right. If they don't.tell me their name, I ask. Pretty standard stuff, just interacting with other people.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:08 PM
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Beat me to it. I wouldn't know anyone if I waited for my wife to introduce me. Just be assertive and pull them into your frame. Fuck, just don't be scared of people. Edit: Farm Boy pulled you into his frame and your hamster did some HIIT. Step up and immediately introduce yourself. And if you're in the mood for it, make Farm Boy qualify for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 03:03 PM
2

Because most people just don't want to change their lazy lifestyle. Most folks think "I'll eat well until I reach my goal, then I can go back to eating shit." They can't comprehend that they need to make a permanent lifestyle change.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 02:58 PM
1

bookending workouts with small big carb/protein meals.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 02:32 AM
1

I just copied that quote, then scrolled down and saw you had covered it. Don't tell her, OP. Show her.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 02:15 AM
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You got those abs yet, bro? If so, at 50, you're a unicorn, a special snowflake. And women will love you. Your frame sounds strong, from your description. Don't take your foot off the gas. And if you haven't, upgrade your clothes. Your girlfriend will be excited, because she's the one lucky enough to be with you. Congrats on becoming the Prize.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/15 02:10 AM
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Sleeping Beauty can't go back to sleep? Aw, that's cute. Pour water on you while you're sleeping and got violent with you? And you're not married? Next!
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 07:04 PM
1

Fuck no. She ordered it, she picks it up. It's that simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 04:56 PM
3

You haven't bought in on the idea that you're the Prize. Neither has your wife. And I guaran-damn-tee that she knew you were butthurt by those boys' attention. You need to earn her respect. And you do that by leading. You are totally in her frame. Step out of it. And make your frame so fucking awesome that she'll want to be in it. It's gonna take some time. Slow down, and enjoy the journey. Your new mantra every day is "I'm awesome." So go be awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 12:13 PM
3

do you strut around like a silverback? This is an excellent place to start. Women love an irrationally confident man.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/15 11:13 AM
3

Great advice you're getting. The takeaway I got from reading it is this: When you behave with the discipline and principles of a successful and high value man, you'll find the people in your life will -- consciously or subconsciously -- just emulate you anyway.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/15 05:44 PM
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