The notion of getting rejected isn’t inherently bad since it all depends on how you get rejected. When you are incredibly ugly you get rejected in a different manner than when you are incredibly good looking. As an ugly man if you play the numbers game and approach women in a sociable setting (bar, club, pub etc.) then the likelihood of a woman giving you a positive experience while she rejects you to be significantly lower probability than if you were good looking.

If you were attractive she might flirt back with you, smile, give big puppy eyes etc, when she turns you down, contrary to if you were ugly. She would essentially give you a positive feedback loop since she would be “honoured” that you showed attraction towards her and actively pursued her even though she had a partner. In a sense you could say it boosted her self-esteem and slightly stroked her ego.

Now imagine the same scenario with an ugly guy. The woman in question wouldn’t flirt back, smile, give big puppy eyes etc. Contrary to that she would avoid eye contact, be uneasy in her mannerisms and short and abrupt in her answer, which creates a negative feedback loop when a lot of the women the ugly guy approaches gives off these same social cues. You could in a sense say it hurts her self-esteem that an ugly guy even has the balls to express his interest and it would most definitely also negatively affect her ego.

Now imagine you consistently get the experiences of the second guy; how could you possibly stay confident in yourself? For some they would be able to, but for the vast majority it’s a lost cause.