What are some reasons someone would be attracted to you, that you would be offended by?

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-09-28T20:05:49+00:00

A financially irresponsible guy looking for a sugar mama.

Any man who wants you to get plastic surgery, dye your hair or anything like that so that you'll be more his type.

This is not quite what you are asking about but it is a red flag - as a single (divorced) mom, any man who said anything about liking me because he just loves my kid or was overly attentive to my kid. I would be alarmed and not let him near my kid.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2022-09-28T20:01:25+00:00

“You remind me of my dad!”

That one ended things quick.

Odd_Interest_5311 · 2022-09-28T20:33:37+00:00

I make 185K a year, I worked hard for it. Women's eyes light up when I used to tell them that. I'm currently cutting all women out of my life because their eyes light up a little too much when they find out what I do for a living. Getting reduced to your paycheck is degrading and I'd rather never have sex again and die alone than be valued for that.

MicrospathodonChrys · 2022-09-28T20:49:23+00:00

I had a really “traditional gender roles” type guy into me at one point in part because of my cooking and my willingness to cook for others. Then he told me that if it turned out i also enjoyed doing laundry, I’d be “the perfect woman” 🤮

I’m happy to cook for people I care about. I even usually do my husband’s laundry these days. I just don’t want it to be a gendered expectation, and a main motivator for seeking a relationship with me.

saraimarsena · 2022-09-28T21:36:33+00:00

i have a young face and rather youthful demeanor, but physically am obviously of age and rather fit. i lie and tell older men who approach me with interest that i’m only 18, and the interest sometimes continues or even increases. that just comes off extremely creepy and predatory to me, especially when they comment on my body.

InspectorSuitable407 · 2022-09-28T20:13:28+00:00

My gender. Being masculine. (I’d say unmasculine too but that’s not happened)

If someone’s attracted to my body and certain things about me then I appreciate that. But when a woman says they like my “masculinity” that normally means they’re projecting expectations on me and not valuing me as a person but a thing to fill a role.

Money too. It ties into the same thing. I don’t want to be my partners parent or provider. No thanks.

toasterchild · 2022-09-28T20:28:09+00:00

I don't really get offended when people are attracted to me, but I do get offended when they think their attraction is something they are entitled to share with me. Like dude at work who is married (we both are) no I don't need to hear once a week how much you like my body and how i am your type. That just makes me feel awkward and I really want to go home now to get away from you. Or the guy I really disliked who insisted we should still date because it didn't bother him that I didn't like him as a person.

risdeveau · 2022-09-28T21:35:12+00:00

My pussy/body and nothing else

HTML_Novice · 2022-09-28T23:41:24+00:00

A girl once gushed over me because she loved shrek and I look like that human shrek with a beard meme 😔

Dolphin_Moon · 2022-09-29T03:53:34+00:00

i've gotten compared to Alexis Texas a few times by guys. It was very obvious they liked me for one and one thing only. even some dudes have asked me "do all guys talk about is your ass" and im like...ur putting me into a corner here. if i said yes its bad if i say no its a lie.

my body is just my body and i used to get called fat when i was a chubby kid. now i am deemed sexy be society standards. sexy enough to finally get all those dudes who bullied me in HS to try to DM me on instagram. i hate it.

also bc im so "level-headed" men say they wanna try a threesome w me bc i wouldn't get "jealous". literally 3 times now. and i have never once expressed interest in women lmfao. ticks me off

No-Improvement-8205 · 2022-09-29T06:47:56+00:00

honestly my height, its probably the most arbitary trait I inhebit, so I'd prefer if people didnt tell me that my height was the primary reason for their attractiveness to me.

I do know that due to my height(190 cm) More women see me as attractive and as a potential mate, and that is what it is. But getting compliments such as "its so nice to be able to wear heels, while still being taller than u" or something along thoose lines, doesn't really feel awesome, its something akin to "wow, its nice to finally play with some good looking tits"

ChadChasingB · 2022-09-28T20:10:10+00:00

Race, trying to get laid, being used in a different way, or basically anything that says I don't like you as an individual.

anon018274031 · 2022-09-28T21:14:52+00:00

If they thought they couldn’t do better.

I feel like that’s why my ex was with me.

Patrickstarho · 2022-09-28T21:51:42+00:00

I’m tall and handsome but I don’t have my shit together and I spend 7 hours a day on my phone.

Just looking for someone who on the same vibe tbh

noafrochamplusamurai · 2022-09-28T23:01:03+00:00

Women fetishize me because of my Race, or age. The age thing is usually women looking for sugar daddies. Another strange thing is when they lean too heavy on admiration of my height. I'm tall, but not crazy tall. It also seems to be combined with a race aspect. Some women just give me a bad vibe. It reminds me of the scene from 12 years a slave, when they were at the auction. Like I'm a show Pony or something. That's a black flag for me.

hungrychick404 · 2022-09-29T01:13:17+00:00

When people are attracted to me and only are interested in blonde, white women or says they don’t like girls of another race to try to compliment me they are generally a little racist (I mean the second one is actually racist imo) so I don’t like that, guys who try to compliment me by telling me I look 19, and when they find me the most attractive when I’m trying to hide my ADHD symptoms (not sustainable).

Also, I KNOW this is shallow (and I am trying to work on my attitude before you yell at me), but I find it offensive when a guy who is a lot less attractive than me approaches me based on my looks with only sex in mind. I just find it annoying and a waste of both of our times :/

EmeraldsFaure · 2022-09-29T03:38:59+00:00

Being fetishized as a petite Eurasian. Some tall guys are into only dating petite women. I had one date (over 6 feet) who told me I was just a tad too tall (5’3”) for his preference. Creepiest would be to have men telI me my racial background was a turn on. It was creepier to have men wanting to live out hentai fantasies and other ethnic role play.

Another offense would be when I reveal my years of ballet training, some men would perk up and ask me how flexible I was, could I do the splits, etc…. Forget about the graceful art form, they had visions of position possibilities while having sex.

But I’d say the fetishizing of ‘exotic” stereotype bug the most.

GloryToChadlantis · 2022-09-29T06:06:53+00:00

Had a girl who became super into me once she found out i'm asian.

you literally though i was mexican and went on a tangent on how you couldnt date mexicans. find out i'm filipino and now you got the viscus innards.

2022-09-29T20:05:48+00:00

Not offended necessarily but there are some things that if a girl were to be attracted to me for, I wouldn’t be interested.

I don’t like it when girls like being shorter than me. It feels like a fetish at that I’m not into at that point and to be honest it kind of disturbs me. It’s not that I dislike people who like them tall, in fact I like them tall myself and it’s not like I or these other people can control it. However, I just don’t like it, I don’t even like my own height preference never mind someone liking me for being tall.

I also don’t like people being attracted for being in a rich family. At that point I can never really tell of they’re actually into me or just like money.

Naru4odo · 2022-09-29T00:16:05+00:00

Being safe

decoy88 · 2022-09-29T00:16:46+00:00

Personally, apart from race and money. Very little I can think of…

I’ll just say usually whatever makes up the insecurity of any person in particular.

Icanusethesamehat · 2022-09-29T15:28:29+00:00

Being fetishized ,being white, being fat most importantly not getting to know me: I don't want someone who isn't interested in me and doesn't care about what I want out of life. I don't want to be attractive to people who think I'm crazy or desperate. I really hate it when a drunk hits on me. I really hate it when I get hit on cuz I have an ASS, I just hate being reduced to a body part and thought of like meat.

DisasterPeace7 · 2022-09-29T07:02:54+00:00

" You're husband material " 🤮

anonymous-platypus1 · 2022-09-28T20:29:37+00:00

Being attracted to me because they think I’m exotic. Saying they thought that women that looked like me were easy or freaky. Saying that they were with me because I seemed really “innocent and sweet”. 🤢 don’t know why that last one grossed me out but it does.

delight-n-angers · 2022-09-28T23:16:04+00:00

I'm very very conventionally unattractive which colors my experience. But things that have turned me off of potential dates were:
- fetishizing my weight/feederism

-fetishizing my gender (i'm trans ftm)

-fetishizing my sexuality (bi) and thinking that just because I'm bi and ENM that i'm into threesomes

-expecting me to be a stay at home parent/souse

-with women, the biggest issue was pretending to be into me to fuck my husband.

bootyhunter69420 · 2022-09-29T16:12:37+00:00

For being the safe option after she had her fun with the bad boys.

fakingandnotmakingit · 2022-09-28T22:25:50+00:00

Race. Yellow fever/Asian fetish freaks me out. And I will bolt out the door the moment submissive Asian wife stereotype comes out.

If all their compliments are about my body and nothing else.

The9thElement · 2022-09-28T20:46:32+00:00

My body

abaxeron · 2022-09-29T11:33:04+00:00

Her child from another man got prescribed brackets / needs a surgery / applied for college but failed to get a scholarship / needs better living conditions.

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-09-28T22:02:32+00:00

Why would someone take offense to another person liking them? Are you losing it?

Apprehensive_Cut_146 · 2022-09-29T07:34:09+00:00

Having a vagina

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Hungry-Nebula · 2022-09-28T19:55:00+00:00

I would be upset if someone was attracted to me because they wanted to physically abuse me.

Of course I wouldn't say no, I'm not exactly a chooser in that regard.

BuddUgly · 2022-09-28T20:16:14+00:00

The second bullet point pretty much covers it.

darkvalleys · 2022-09-28T21:56:10+00:00

Sex and nothing else

King-SAMO · 2022-09-29T02:26:29+00:00

I have a certain kind of tattoos that i didn’t get in the navy. I wish I could say that I was no longer tempted by the sorts of women who are attracted to that, because that’s not who I am or what my life’s about anymore, but the truth is that even though they are invariably the worst and bring nothing but trouble into my life, I’d be lying to you if I said that I didn’t sometimes miss the attention.

neutralhumanbody · 2022-09-29T05:19:46+00:00

Being seen as vapid or lacking the ability to think for myself because I look traditionally feminine.

ex_red_black_piller · 2022-09-29T08:55:55+00:00

Wanting me for my money or to get citizenship in a western country, or because they feel pressure to get married and see me as an easy option.

AreOut · 2022-09-29T10:59:59+00:00

couple of years ago a girl in the gym I just chatted up to couple of times approached me and said "You know what?" now I felt that she wants to say a compliment to me and I expected she is going to say a classic "you seem to be a nice guy or similar" but she went straight to "you have a nice ass"

I felt more weird than upset tho.

BlackGriffin_1 · 2022-09-29T15:46:32+00:00

Nothing Im a man i have to take what i can get.

Khanluka · 2022-09-30T16:42:36+00:00

They way i look. In my exprience there a small group of woman that my looks make me a 10 out of 10. Mostly asian woman or other mixed racial woman with the same hertiage as me.

Sometimes i think the only reason thry find me attraive is that i am probly there only change to get kids that look like them.

I really only want to be with somebody that would love me for me not the way i look.

HobbitShaker88 · 2022-09-30T17:32:46+00:00

They view you as easy (only one I can think of that hasnt been listed)

sparklyyblueberryy · 2022-10-01T00:10:46+00:00

Boobs

Choice_Ad_6230 · 2022-10-01T21:10:28+00:00

My height.

sadbitch55 · 2022-10-02T17:07:54+00:00

Me being 160cm (5'3"), having 45kg and having really big round eyes, I would be offended if a guy much older than me got interested in me... You know why...

Title	What are some reasons someone would be attracted to you, that you would be offended by?
Author	brilliant22
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Date	September 28, 2022 7:51 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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