I come on here for entertainment sometimes, but certain talking points here are just weird. It's pretty obvious that being attractive is what will... attract others, isn't it? And being attractive is an entire package: physically good looking, emotional stable, socially aware, intelligent or skilled in some way, successful, all of those are part of what makes someone attractive. Telling someone to improve their personality isn't even bad advice, if you're disadvantaged in one area might as well work on the others. People on here seem to misinterpret what it means to be respectful or nice as well, it doesn't mean you should become a doormat without a personality (where did that even come from?) but to treat others in a way that makes them feel welcome and safe, which is obviously part of being attractive... but just like being hot and a total dickhead won't attract people, being welcoming isn't really enough to do the trick either. Attractiveness is a package.

(I can already see people coming in with: but hot assholes do attract others!!! Yeah, but those aren't the vast majority of people, but people who are unstable/mentally ill/victims of child abuse themselves and are attracted to the familiar dysfunction and pain these people provide, it's not a normal attraction, it's a trauma response or something else entirely.)