How a girl wants to be picked up at a club

iLoginToComment · 2012-07-06T18:43:11+00:00

How to pick up a girl in a club:

Pick a weight you're comfortable with (you don't need to impress anyone by going for the biggest girl)
Position your legs at shoulder length
Put your hands firmly above her hips
Squat down then come up picking up the girl into the air
If you are comfortable with the weight, throw her over your shoulder and call it a night by walking out with her out of the club

schifferbrains · 2012-07-06T18:40:33+00:00

If at any point during this process she shows discomfort just get the fuck away from her or you will forever be known as that creepy stalker dude at the club who kept staring at her.

For the love of god, do not ever, EVER think like this. If you're scared of being "that creepy stalker dude," you will miss out on so many opportunities. Who is this girl? When are you ever going to see her again? Who cares what she thinks of you if it doesn't work out? Do you want to be her friend? No. So fuck that. Fuck playing it safe. You will waste hours on chicks who think you're "cute" and "fun," but ultimately don't want anything more from you. Make the move. Cross the line. I'm not talking about grinding up behind some chick by surprise; I'm not talking at all about the main content of this post, just about that one line (quoted above).

tldr: ALWAYS do the thing that will force her to decide whether you're cool/sexy or creepy/stalker.

PatrickChewing · 2012-07-06T14:53:40+00:00

(Male, 23, born, raised, college all in New York) American guys go for grinding because it works better in our country. Our nightlife, especially the 18-21 college crowd, is based on binge drinking, not social drinking. We've all been conditioned to drink as much as possible as fast as possible because its illegal so either

The cops, our parents, whatever authority figure is going to be there soon and take the alcohol away or
Since alcohol is harder to come by, it may be taken away at any moment so drink it fast before someone else does!

So, people on the dance floor are typically a lot drunker and respond better to a more aggressive approach.

wtjones · 2012-07-06T16:33:23+00:00

Why the fuck are you guys upvoting this? The last paragraph is the least helpful advice I've ever seen in this reddit. Telling guys who have a heightened sense of discomfort to eject if they sense discomfort then reinforcing the stigma of them being a creepy stalker dude for attempting to get out of their comfort zone? This is why fisherman don't learn to fish from trout.

There are hundred of good posts on Seddit on how to approach in a club. Search YouTube for dancing in a club with ladies and you'll find some solid visual material as well.

yiggity_yag · 2012-07-06T20:19:30+00:00

Guys, do not listen to this girl. I appreciate her intentions, but remember what they say:

"If you want to learn how to fish, ask the fisherman. Not the trout."

ChickHabit · 2012-07-06T16:34:20+00:00

Male, 36 here.

I've never been much of a fan of any of the genres of music to which people normally dance in clubs, so I don't know that much about what they are like.

Is club game worth the price of admission for a guy my age, or should I just leave it for the 21 year olds?

avengethegnome · 2012-07-06T16:09:14+00:00

I'm a female college student living in NY, and I can say that guys that grind up on you are a dime a dozen. The more drunk I am/more attractive he is, the more likely I am to acquiesce. Guys that pick up girls by establishing eye contact, smiling, and essentially gaining consent to dance with me are really rare... but when they do turn up, I'm ten times more likely to take notice of them. Any skeezy guy can grind on you, but very few men put out the effort to treat you like anything more than a one-night slampiece.

coolaznkenny · 2012-07-06T14:43:47+00:00

Lol so be attractive, got it

t_Lancer · 2012-07-06T15:35:41+00:00

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ThePhenix · 2012-07-06T15:05:10+00:00

This is a pretty good guide, but I never thought grinding was a good idea anyway.

However, to quote another member of this forum:

When you want to learn how to fish, you don't ask the trout.

Of course, that is not meant to be insulting to you, indeed it's rather vulgar, but it gets the point across.

Venage · 2012-07-06T15:53:09+00:00

But you're a girl from Europe. You have class.

mahiname123 · 2012-07-06T15:14:41+00:00

You're from Germany: there's a BIG difference between the way Western European women behave, and US women behave. (I've dated my fair share of Western European women).

AboveThee · 2012-07-07T02:55:52+00:00

you should talk to american girls and tell them how to act first

SHAMPOOCHIEF · 2012-07-07T03:06:12+00:00

The whole "dancing" part is where I'm going to have to bail on this one.

Edgar_Allan_Rich · 2012-07-06T19:00:10+00:00

Edit: If you are confused about how the hell you're supposed to dance with a girl without rubbing your penis on her: work on that first and then come back to this subreddit when you've figured that out.

FTFY

2012-07-06T18:58:59+00:00

Isn't there the other rule, don't ask girls for pickup on girls.

venusian_adonis · 2012-07-06T14:50:08+00:00

I'm totally against dancerape but there is a difference between what a girl says she wants, and what actually creates attraction...

If she seems to be having a good time with you and doesn't try to get the fuck away ASAP, you've already won.

Winning the game is different to everyone but I don't think you're even close to winning until you have fucked...

Ask if she wants a drink/go outside for fresh air and have some nice conversation. Be a gentleman.

Do not buy a woman a drink & nice conversation does not create attraction...

P.S.: Taking advice on how to attract women from a woman is like a salesman asking the customer how much he should charge.

P.P.S.: Taking advice on picking up women from a woman is like learning how to fish from a trout.

B-Rabbit · 2012-07-06T17:21:36+00:00

Actually, me and my friend have tried picking up girls by dancing with them many times, so in my opinion we have thoroughly tested this tehnique. Something like this worked a few times for him, while it never worked for me. In fact, I did it just the way you say that we should do it. No girl has ever taken my hand, ever.

On the other hand, I've had good success with chatting girl up. Basically starting a conversation and going on from there.

magicroot75 · 2012-07-06T19:09:02+00:00

Offer the hand, dance a bit, then grind if she's into it. I don't buy this crap that girls don't like the penis.

IAmTheOmNom · 2012-07-06T23:11:02+00:00

I'm just going to throw this out there, but I think that what OP has said is merely her perception of the situation. If anything, I've found that European men are far more aggressive with women and far more objectifying. This may not be particularly true in Germany, but, as a general rule-of-thumb, it's absolutely true that European men are much more aggressive in this regard.

TimothyGonzalez · 2012-07-06T15:56:31+00:00

Terrible idea, never take advice from a woman.

nbenzi · 2012-07-06T17:48:31+00:00

This is bullshit, you always assume attraction and don't wait for IOI or qualifications, shits' so beta. My hella good games is (tested in europe): 1.Just go to your target and go dance close to her (if she's facing away, just turn here to where the party is at) 2. Grab her arm, do it slowly, but do it almost immediately after your approach. (if the girl is not interested, you'll notice it here, but nothing bad has happened) 3. Dance with her, escalate kino while dancing 4. isolate and k-close

This is the shit because: it scans who's dtf/interested, while not wasting your time. Also this behauviour is very confident and self-validating. Don't be pussies bros.

inb4: bhurt whiteknight downvotes.

Khiraji · 2012-07-06T23:44:08+00:00

Clubs are so goram loud.

Reddor · 2012-07-06T14:40:33+00:00

Thank you! It's very useful!

2012-07-06T17:20:40+00:00

half the time its the girls other girlfriend who gives her the nod as to whether or not she should dance with the guy.... especially if the guy is behind the target.

grantmoore3d · 2012-07-07T00:06:26+00:00

As a man who is looking for a woman with your exact mentality, I must say thanks for the insightful post. Kinda nice to know the more "gentlemanly" approach, which is much more what I'd prefer to do.

Perhaps you wouldn't mind making a post about non-club / dance scenarios. I personally hate dancing so my chances of picking up in this way is minimal.

kidweapon · 2012-07-07T02:34:38+00:00

Enough with the "Girls don't give good advice" mob mentality guys!

Just because a guy makes a good point that a lot of women give bad advice when it comes to picking up girls doesn't mean that they don't have valid input!

This lovely lady has taken her time to provide insight and experience for OUR benefit. She has provided examples of what she has seen work on her friends and what has worked on her and I'm sure it's definitely worth a shot of trying out. If it doesn't work then onto the next game plan. If it does then WIN.

So don't slander the advice just because you've learnt that the trout does not provide good advice. Take it in, try it out and judge for yourself what you have to gain.

rmbarnes · 2012-07-07T12:56:41+00:00

If at any point during this process she shows discomfort just get the fuck away from her or you will forever be known as that creepy stalker dude at the club who kept staring at her.

I don't care if some girl I don't even know forever thinks of me as creepy. If she feels discomfort that's down to her. She's free to walk away.

highideas · 2012-07-07T14:16:01+00:00

I disagree with about 90% of this post.

Step 1 I am almost OK with but it makes more sense to have multiple "targets" but do not treat them as such. They are individuals and you are going to have to adjust to them. Different ammunition for each if you are following this analogy.

Step 2. I really have a huge problem with this. START DANCING NEAR HER? Where she can see you? WTF are you Will Farrell? Come on. This single piece of advice is the most horrible thing I have ever seen. If you don't have a partner you are not dancing..period. And sometimes even when you HAVE a partner it is better to be talking than sweating it up and giving her reasons to reject.

Step 3. Ok eye contact, smile a lot, you are with your friends you are high value. Make HER want to come to you. Of course you are going to approach but she needs to see you being super energetic, friendly, outgoing. If you are solo, bartenders and waitstaff take the place of friends.

Step 4. If she doesn't move away blah blah blah. Come on guys. You guys SHOULD know how to initiate KINO if you don't, read the guides. You have to be confident and break the touch barrier when you can. It sounds ridiculous that you are trying to see if she is comfortable instead of just making her realize she came to the club to meet you. Every woman wants a great story, be the great story.

Step 5: Dancerape? Is that a term? Fuck that. Again. Dancing is a great way to get sidelined if you aren't a pro. I am a decent dancer, above average actually, and I would say dancing is the last option for me.

Step 6. I never buy a girl a drink. I drink hers, I number close, I eject to a better venue, or tell her "Hey, great talk but I need to go meet some friends real quick..." Gentleman end up getting stepped on or worse put in the friend-zone.

The more I read this the more I am pissed off. The "I am a german/european woman" doesn't mean I can't close you and as a matter of fact often times I just have to speak to you in my American accent and your panties get wet. I could be reciting the pledge of allegiance and it makes it easier to close. Same over here, I watched a kid from New Zealand talking to a HB 9 about sheep and they left together in 10 minutes.

Sedditors, take this guide for what it is and do not let it sidetrack you from what you have learned.

NerdInACan · 2012-09-06T05:15:53+00:00

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ANNIESBEWBS · 2012-07-06T15:19:39+00:00

Another perspective is always welcome! Thank you!

j33ratr0me · 2012-07-06T17:47:48+00:00

Never take advice about women from a woman. Rule number fucking 1

iceazn187 · 2012-07-06T18:24:14+00:00

This is definitely an option to pick up girls. Personally I hate clubs where the music is so loud you have to shout in their ear to talk. I would much rather go to a gay bar or a bar with ambient music

carboncopycat · 2012-07-06T23:59:22+00:00

And in this corner, a 21 year old girl that professes to know what she, or any other woman, wants.

jabb0 · 2012-07-07T01:16:14+00:00

Step 1) Choose target.

Check

Step 2) Start dancing near here, where she can see you.

Check

Step 3) Try to make eye contact. Smile if eye contact is achieved. If she smiles back, come a little closer.

Cant find her, Anywhere. ಠ_ಠ

Step 1...

Tremaparagon · 2012-07-07T01:58:08+00:00

" If you are confused about how the hell you're supposed to dance with a girl without rubbing your penis on her: Just be relaxed, fun and flirty. A little goofy maybe?"

My first thought: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FSAUa3QY-kE

Brujah · 2012-07-07T03:28:46+00:00

I disagree with most of it. That's exactly what I did for a long time before I learned to extrovert myself, and long before I heard of PUA's as well... and guess what? I ended up being friendzoned most of the time by most of the girls... This kind of 'pickup' doesn't have nearly as much attitute as you'd need to get the girl you chose (specially if she's hot). Do you have any idea how many goons the girl is gonna have dancing near and trying to make eye contact with her, all night thru? Please. I agree on not being a dick to her tough haha...

voxpupil · 2012-07-07T04:32:27+00:00

Or find a drunk girl and have fun with her, ha.

MegaMoule · 2012-07-07T05:13:18+00:00

Fresh air? In europe you don't ask if she wants to go for fresh air, you ask if she wants to go for a smoke.

Kiwispam84 · 2012-07-07T08:01:17+00:00

Number 4 is where I always block myself... Any advice from anyone getting over that? I use a wheelchair, and while I generally have a positive self image, I'm usually nervous how someone will react to me.

occupykony · 2012-07-07T15:35:37+00:00

Going to try this the next couple days in Belgrade.

rosie_the_redditor · 2012-07-07T17:55:50+00:00

Edit: If you are confused about how the hell you're supposed to dance with a girl without rubbing your penis on her: Just be relaxed, fun and flirty.

I think most of you guys are here because you have no idea how to do that. :(

2012-07-06T17:16:16+00:00

Oh look, more useless advice from a woman.

If you want to know how to fuck lots of girls, ask a man who's done it.

imseanpatrick · 2012-07-06T16:49:01+00:00

Hey Häschen, ich hab hier ein paar Ostereier aber du musst sie erst finden lol how's that?

andrey_b · 2012-07-06T20:52:38+00:00

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2012-07-06T18:33:20+00:00

xenzor · 2012-07-07T00:11:45+00:00

This post goes against pretty much every rule all the great PUA's have ever shared... Especialy the - Dont take advise from girls on picking up girls.

switch50 · 2012-07-07T02:03:29+00:00

One does not simply, not dancerape. lol

2012-07-07T03:02:00+00:00

Worst advice ever.

del_fino · 2012-07-07T06:27:46+00:00

Here's an idea, don't listen to what women have to say about pickup. Unless you've been in the shoes of a guy OR you've actually picked up girls yourself, you don't have any say of what works and what doesn't. Maybe some girls do like being grinded upon, it's all relative in the end.

PhedreRachelle · 2012-07-06T16:21:32+00:00

-Redacted- the votes have spoken, my advice was either bad, unwanted, or in the wrong place (no comments to indicate which) and so I have removed it. For anyone curious, I was touching on playing to the right demographic and using myself as an example to explain this

2012-07-06T15:55:34+00:00

Awesome advice, I am totally not a fan of grinding. Please gentlemen apply to a bar as well, eye contact before attempting to grope works wonders.

superfusion1 · 2012-07-06T16:13:58+00:00

How do I get a blow job in a club?

( In all seriousness )

I'm not so much interested in the benign dancing with a girl but its a good reference!

banzai33 · 2012-07-07T05:19:17+00:00

You forgot:

Be attractive

All else is besides the point, and a lie made up by the minority to make the rest of us feel better

2012-08-21T02:51:24+00:00

Title	How a girl wants to be picked up at a club
Author	gh0stfl0wers
Upvotes	461
Comments	309
Date	July 6, 2012 2:11 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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