Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college?

WilliamWyattD · 2024-03-06T01:11:46+00:00

You have it backwards. It is not so much that the lack of experience hurts you. It is that a lack of experience is revealing something innately unattractive about you.

So yeah, if you didn't go to college and are inexperienced at 22, maybe this is not necessarily as damning as there is a higher chance you somehow didn't have opportunities to meet women rather than you being innately unattractive.

But at any rate, these are just rough heuristics. At the end of the day, you know if you are unattractive. Most guys do. They just can't face it. If you are, then you either change it or you live with the consequences.

depressed_apple20 · 2024-03-06T02:32:00+00:00

I'm a 21M virgin and things like that really make me lose hope, but that's how the sexual market works, I have talked to women and even befriended some, but when you're not attractive, it's the end of the story.

oooo020201lfl · 2024-03-06T01:46:58+00:00

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MikeArrow · 2024-03-06T02:40:01+00:00

Yeah it's pretty grim. You can get away with it when you're 18, 19, 20... but those fundamental skills are harder to learn the older you get. You really should have had at least a university fling to learn the ropes with before getting into the adult world.

Pathosgrim · 2024-03-06T04:33:52+00:00

Bro, just lie 🤣

bifewova234 · 2024-03-06T05:54:22+00:00

No. Do not ever accept life as a loser. Make it or die trying.

Lift_and_Lurk · 2024-03-06T00:46:00+00:00

Most the working class people in my neighborhood just hung around each other went to local dives, partied in each other’s basements and fucked around with each other on the couch. cause what else was there to do?

LordArtichud · 2024-03-06T00:51:59+00:00

It's over when you don't know how to lie correctly.

DarayRaven · 2024-03-06T04:52:28+00:00

I mean high-school is usually were many guys start getting concerned, since most people already start dating already in their teens when going through sexual maturity and becoming interested in the opposite sex

That's when you start developing your social skills and interacting with the opposite sex as much as possible

But no, correlating your sexual experience to not going to college is not accurate since women are available outside tertiary institutions

Work,clubs,online

PixelizedPlayer · 2024-03-06T01:44:46+00:00

You can still go to college at any age. As for inexperience just fake it or just pay to get experience and be done with it.

Literal_Jesus_ · 2024-03-06T03:09:09+00:00

I really think you don’t need to be concerned until like 24/25. Even then I don’t think you’re done for.

Safinated · 2024-03-06T01:01:19+00:00

Tradesmen do fine. As do military, hospitality, restaurant workers, etc. Poor people fuck and have tons of babies

Going out and doing/learning something is better than nothing. Poor people have to go out and work, otherwise they don’t get to eat or have a roof over their head

TheRedPillRipper · 2024-03-06T01:51:56+00:00

what age does being inexperienced start to be detrimental

The age you give up. My father is pushing 80. Just bought a new house, with a new partner. The question isn’t your history. Or even your experience. Ultimately it’s what you’ve learned. Then how you’ve going to use that experience, however meagre, to propel yourself forward.

Godspeed and good luck!

Proudvow · 2024-03-06T02:50:34+00:00

College is the place where an average male has the highest chance of meeting someone. You're living around women at the age of sexual awakening in a safe environment where you can still acquire local "status" without actually achieving difficult adult things like getting a good job or buying a home.

If a guy just didn't go then he missed out on all that, so in that sense he may have skipped his one opportunity to get a girl. But on the other hand he's not as big of a laughing stock as the guy who dormed for 4 years and somehow still didn't get laid.

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szclimber · 2024-03-06T03:14:38+00:00

I would recommend house parties and exploring options in your social group if you have one. It won't be easy but you might get lucky.

MistyMaisel · 2024-03-06T04:04:11+00:00

You had even more time to party and be around women. No. It's not over and the standard isn't different. Also. What WilliamWyatt said.

iB_Rezzed_Out · 2024-03-06T05:14:31+00:00

Not at all, just learn to be nice to be around and insert yourself into social situations.

Be tolerable-be available-enjoy activities-make friends-romance ensues

SmallSituation6432 · 2024-03-06T06:09:17+00:00

Depends what you mean by inexperienced. Inexperienced sexually? Who cares. I'm sure someone does but really its not a big deal. Inexperienced in dating/with women in general? The obvious question is "how did you get here? How did you get this far without any experience dating or with women?" The answer at least partially is you made choices that created that result. Whatever the reason, your too ugly, introverted, whatever, that shit is stuff nobody wants to make their problem, because it demonstrates that you would rather make the choice to disengage than engage, and again nobody wants to deal with that. Better to just move on.

You don't have to go to college to have a social life or experience with women. School is just the easiest setting for it. You played on normal mode, adjust accordingly.

Soul_vaccine · 2024-03-06T15:49:22+00:00

Nahhh get out there and start slangin that thing! Tinder, bumble, coffee shop, skee ball league.

OptimistInHell · 2024-03-08T09:42:25+00:00

Threads like this make me believe counselling up to a certain age should be mandatory.

LifeQuail9821 · 2024-03-08T23:45:53+00:00

It doesn’t matter if you went to college or not, that age range of 22-23 is it. I can say from experience at 28, you will have to fight tooth and nail for the lowest quality women if you haven’t cleared that bar by 23, and even clearing it then is quite late.

wolfloveyes · 2024-03-06T02:05:10+00:00

As if that "experience" is something huge. Most men who are complete losers and dumb have that "experience". It's not like your life will change completely after that.

It will hardly have much effect on anything.

Even if you are hideously ugly you can always get escorts.

That's not something I do but if you are so unfortunate, that's an option.

sniper1905 · 2024-03-06T10:13:45+00:00

This guy lost it at the age of 38 and had sex with over 25 women the past year.

It's never really too late, unless you're like 70+ or something.

Jazzlike_Worth_9908 · 2024-03-06T06:14:03+00:00

Inexperience is a good thing if it doesnt come with the usual reasons why the man never got the exprrience in the first place

MasterTeacher123 · 2024-03-06T10:58:00+00:00

No because you can start at any age

AlmostKindaGreat · 2024-03-06T03:14:58+00:00

It's never over. The more disadvantages you have the more limited your options are and the more you'll have to grind, but guys of all education levels and occupations have had success with women.

Independent-Mail-227 · 2024-03-06T11:15:28+00:00

If you are inexperienced in your 20s is basically over, just pack you things there's nothing there for you.

lncited · 2024-03-06T15:48:51+00:00

The following is my long-winded way of saying if you do some prep work as a virgin, most women would never know you're inexperienced.

I lost my virginity at 24 to my gf and she had no idea until I told her.

I had very little practical experience but I had common sense!

Actually knowing where the clit is would definitely help, knowing what to do with the clit, how to finger properly, how to tease a woman (verbally, physically, before & after sex), having a general idea about how to move your hips/pelvis while fucking, knowing how to make out properly, etc. I cannot emphasize how important it is to know how to do foreplay properly. It is the whole point of getting in that “primal” mindset where you both just want to fuck…that includes you. Performance anxiety is minimal when you're both in that trance, just let your instinct guide you at that point.

My GF thought I was much more experienced because I had a general idea about what to do and as I was doing it, I just fixed whatever wasn't working. I can keep rambling but just google how to do shit lol

Prudent-Conflict-557 · 2024-03-06T08:02:12+00:00

It’s over for dudes who ask if it’s over

harmonica2 · 2024-03-06T00:45:46+00:00

I didn't go to college and I have a gf. I went to film school though but maybe that counts as college?

But there are places to party besides college like bars for example or other social get togethers.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-06T13:38:49+00:00

The concept of college didn't exist for the vast majority of the time that humans have existed as a species. Yet somehow they got laid. Unless of course, you find evidence that there was a caveman college hundreds of thousands of years ago?

6teeee9 · 2024-03-06T07:43:06+00:00

No, lots of inexperienced women seeking inexperienced men,

Title	Is it over for inexperienced men who didn't go to college?
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Date	March 6, 2024 12:43 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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