All your dating problems come down to one thing....

Wattehfok · 2024-03-21T02:25:39+00:00

THIS IS THE GRINDSET MINDSET POLICE

PUT YOUR HANDS ON YOUR HEAD AND STEP AWAY FROM THE JOCKO WILINK PODCAST

N-Zoth · 2024-03-21T04:27:24+00:00

Their attempts at self-improvement also end up just being them spinning wheels in place or even moving backwards (how???) because their podcast "heroes" aren't actually interested in helping anyone improve, nor do the give advice that can be put into practice lol

Sessile-B-DeMille · 2024-03-21T03:27:59+00:00

When I was single, my biggest problem was finding someone to ask out. I had a terrible time trying to meet people who wanted to do things with, and an even worse time trying to find someone to date. So, no, it wasn't fear that was stopping me, it was opportunity.

8won6 · 2024-03-21T16:35:01+00:00

More "just be confident" babble.

Geselshaft · 2024-03-21T13:25:35+00:00

And here I thought men’s dating problems were women not going out on dates with them.

Stannis-Lives · 2024-03-21T03:09:09+00:00

I'm not talking to the girl at the bar because she doesn't want me to approach, she wants the more attractive guy to approach

Women will monkey branch at the earliest opportunity making mate guarding a necessity

The chance that a man will find another relationship as he's grown older and his value goes down becomes increasingly unlikely as he goes through more and more relationships

I stay in my house because I don't want to subject myself onto others and others don't want me to subject myself onto them

80% of gen z men won't get an opportunity to get a lemon to squeeze, let alone see if they can squeeze it.

I'm not afraid of being ignored by the opposite sex, the less women pay attention to me the better because it represents less of a chance they can cry about how I harassed them or said something to them.

Most peoples fears are entirely correct and justifiable by past experiences - you just want them to ignore them for what purpose again?

kjk67895 · 2024-03-21T02:35:11+00:00

FEAR of being tazed

Spicy_take · 2024-03-21T05:49:19+00:00

There are a lot of more consequential “fears” being forgotten here.

Westernation · 2024-03-21T12:12:10+00:00

Can’t say I agree with any of your rambling here.

For most men, their dating problems aren’t ‘fear’. They are the cold hard fact that women they are interested in don’t find them physically attractive.

Even if a guy is shy and awkward, if a woman is physically attracted to him, she’ll let know. AND initiate contact if need be.

There’s no such thing as ‘timing’ or ‘confidence’. Those are words ugly guys use to make themselves feel better when they go weeks, months and years with no interest from the opposite sex.

Simple as that.

BaxterStockmanMGTOW · 2024-03-21T04:27:58+00:00

Aren't women the ones who are adamant about not approaching men? Seems that they are the ones who are the most afraid of not living up to a man's standards and being rejected. Yet most of your statements are focused on male behavior. Which is typical and not surprising.

EvetheDragon84 · 2024-03-21T02:28:49+00:00

I know why I'm single. It has nothing to do with fear. While this may be true to some or maybe most, it's not the same for all. At some point, the fear is conquered. And when it is and you still don't see results, you realize you're truly happier alone.

RubyDiscus · 2024-03-21T04:45:14+00:00

Not doing anything to improve your looks, style or social skills = fear (of standing out, being seen as too sexy or as attention seeking)

I'd say for most people it's pure laziness

optimuscrymez · 2024-03-21T02:37:01+00:00

caption291 · 2024-03-21T06:21:07+00:00

In highschool I broke my clavicle playing football and I was so scared of people thinking I was a pussy that I kept playing. Long story short, I luckily only ended up not being able to move my arm for 4 months.

Even at that age I realised that I was just bullshitting and doing the "confident" thing was really just me being scared of what others would think of me because there was no way in hell that my behavior was logical independently of what others thought. Basically I was scared of not being half the things you just said people were scared of being...ultimately My fear of getting hurt is the fear I should have listened to as it was the most rational one.

Imo, fear of not having control over things, fear of reality and fear of looking scared in front of others are the things motivating your attitude...but telling you to stop being scared won't change your mind anymore than you telling me to stop being scared will change mine because I either don't believe I'm scared or I don't believe my fears are irrational.

That's why it's generally pointless to use a justification like "fear". If the same logic of "you're just scared" can apply to basically every answer, then it doesn't say much about which one is the best answer.

lgbwthrowaway44 · 2024-03-21T19:23:28+00:00

Literally this.

Upset_Material_3372 · 2024-03-21T20:09:38+00:00

Ahhh yes the reason no woman is capable of being attracted to the best possible version of myself is fear.

TheDerInDisorder · 2024-03-22T16:28:37+00:00

A lot of problem can come down to one thing when you're a simple fuck, wannabe life coach bleating hackneyed bullshit cribbed off corporate motivational posters.

berichorbeburied · 2024-03-21T02:49:35+00:00

Definitely not fear

A lot of people follow formulas for success. Meaning without a verifiable way to succeed. Some people give up. If there was a 100% way. I.e if you do x then you will get y 100% of the time or maybe even 90% a lot more people would try.

It’s completely random and a waste of energy and time.

Of course some people never had a chance. So theirs no cure for that.

In general just get money and work out (trust me)

Op your post seems to mainly be about taking risks. I agree taking risks is the only way to get results. But that doesn’t mean that one just jumps off a cliff to see if something will happen (hope you understand that riddle).

I don’t believe in fear. I’m sure it exists. But I think fear is the absence of power/willpower. Real fear I think is none of what you mentioned.

Needless to say I understand your point. But I don’t think that would be helpful or motivating from a male perspective. Maybe this is like female advice?

I think the real advice for a male perspective is get power. Money,power,wisdom

perfectly_annoyed · 2024-03-21T12:44:47+00:00

Im a woman and literally I relate to all of this :/ rip im broken fml

meisterkraus · 2024-03-21T13:07:34+00:00

Yes my lack of fear overrides other free will and preferences. Good to know.

Aywae · 2024-03-21T07:43:45+00:00

Well, what's gonna happen if I approach some chick at a bar?

When I walk past them on the street, they look down and away IMMEDIATELY, then straight up when I've passed. They don't do that to other dudes. I'm ugly and get no matches on Tinder.

Yeah I'm afraid of women, I've gone 24 years without understanding them. They're a different species in my mind.

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PeterWritesEmails · 2024-03-21T15:17:16+00:00

Also low libido. I have some health problems and it goes on and off.

And even though im looking the same and doing the same moves, my advances fall flat when i'm not horny myself.

Horniness is contagious.

CartographerOld6314 · 2024-03-21T16:43:23+00:00

Simply not true. I was the most confident of my friends, I was a child actor, I performed around the world on my instruments.

I'm also 4ft2. I had the courage to ask over 40000 and have never made it to a first date.

Dertross · 2024-03-21T18:29:49+00:00

"Just be confident, bro"? Really?

Agile-Explanation263 · 2024-03-21T19:51:38+00:00

Sometimes fear makes you see things for what they are. Talking and landing the cute girl at a bar when you're maybe a 4/10 is completely unrealistic.

Sometimes through experience you sinply know how things will go and fizzle out. Game doesnt matter, your looks do buttheres only but so much you can do with that.

CalligrapherSimple39 · 2024-03-22T11:23:17+00:00

The reason why men find dating difficult. Is because they only try online.

Few have made much effort to ask single women out in real life....

Like what do you expect?

I will make a bet . There is no man on here complaining and whining who has actually bothered to ask out 100 single women.

Just hide behind their phones crying that some women on a dating app who might not even be a real person swiped the wrong way on me.

What happened to men?

CatholicChanner · 2024-03-21T02:26:54+00:00

What about having standards? Fear of a substandard partner you know who won't work out you? That doesn't seem bad unless taken to extremes.

Illustrious_Wish_383 · 2024-03-21T03:31:35+00:00

Interesting that you cite fear of standing out when typically redpill advice is to tell men to conform, extremely rigidly, to handful of traditionally attractive archetypes and behaviors.

FreitasAlan · 2024-03-21T06:24:46+00:00

Fear is a problem but not the dating problem people have if the fear is rational. The dating problem is real and the fear just comes with it. People with infinite optionality wouldn’t feel any of this fear.

RecreationalPorpoise · 2024-03-21T02:35:55+00:00

Digging up obscure horror stories to prove your dislike of them

Obscure horror stories? My mom abused my sister to death and was defended by everyone she knows. Then people like you push this childish narrative that women are harmless. Really doesn’t make me comfortable being around women when so many people want to live in a fantasy land.

boom-wham-slam · 2024-03-21T03:59:14+00:00

Good post. 👍 it's what 90% of men on here need to hear. But ofc they already know but scared asf that's why they act all beta or black pill

Safinated · 2024-03-21T03:34:13+00:00

Or laziness

Title	All your dating problems come down to one thing....
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