If I go out to bars enough I’ll get approached by women even if I am sitting there staring like a bump on a log.

I don’t think I am super attractive. Maybe slightly above average.

But when women approach you, if you’re already drunk you likely won’t be able to make use of the situation anyways.

Even if you could, Many are just party girls looking for some quick fun rather than dating, even casual dating.

A lot of men complain about being the relationship guy instead of the hookup guy.

In reality neither are that good. If you’re the hookup guy a lot of times she won’t date you because she wants something better, usually financially.

If you’re the relationship guy she wants you for your money and the security you provide.

The best spot to be in is the guy who falls into both categories. Harder to do these days, be better than average looking and wealthier than average.

I dress well, I usually wear business casual clothes to the bar. I work in finance. I live in Minneapolis.

I only make $60k per year in my late 30s. I have a nice apartment. A newer car, under 5 years old.

But it's just all way more upfront than people want to admit. Like being interrogated about what your job is, I usually just admit what I make when it comes up. I could play the looks of disappointment in real time.

Less than $100k in this city is loserhood. It's just the way it is. Looks are the price of admission. Money is the price of commitment.