After thanksgiving my wife was passed out drunk and her phone was unlocked. I had my suspicions and with my heart racing decided to open her messages. I found a picture of her with the other guy and numerous messages from each other including other people. I counted about 4 different people including women. I confronted her days later and she has finally confessed to the affair. She said, “you told me we are just raising kids together and to go do whatever I want.” I told her that this situation was never what I wanted, I was more saying this is what our life is now and we need to change.
Today she claims to love me, does not want a divorce and begged me not to say anything to our family/parents.
We have been together for almost 10 years with a 6yo girl between us, she also has a son I’ve taken care of since 18 months. I told her I’ve been documenting the past few months, her not coming home and me taking care of her son who cries every 30 mins to an hour for his mother. I also drop off and pick up our daughter from school every day which is documented through the school app.
I don’t want to break up the family, I want to believe her but I feel like I am only hurting myself at this point. She asked for us to go to counseling, something I know she hates, but how could I ever truly trust her.
I am at a loss, should I call an attorney or a counselor?