The title is self explanatory. Women love nice guys who have something going for themselves. The problem arises when men who think they are nice are just passive doormats with zero self esteem and no looks or statud. That’s not being nice that’s being weak. Leave Women even men don’t like those men. Just because you don’t have the confidence or the strength to be assertive and stand up for yourself doesn’t mean you’re nice or stable.

When women say we like kind guys the “also is assertive and confident and has something going for himself ” part is silent. You can be a nice person without kissing her ass and being a “yes” man. The problem I think inexperienced men have is when they really want a woman, they feel the need to put her on a pedestal and borderline worship her. Women love when you show love to them but don’t like feeling that she’s the only source of your happiness. It’s overwhelming and weird.

Plus there may be a ton of women who are young and want someone interesting, rich or toxic to make them wet and thereeare some women who are ready to be pumped and dumped by chaad instead of being with the avg guy but these are the minority maybe large and even 30-40٪ but not 100% or even 50%.

They just are not in bars or dating apps or many times even looking to date random guys , they are in temples , churches, library your freind circle , serving people in charities or mostly just in thier homes or enjoying with thier friends (mostly female). They may also not want to fack u on first date or fulfil your fantasies of sax but they would date u an avg guy in a heartbeat even in thier youth.