What do you think of dating or having relationships with muscular guys?

SauceyQ0369 · 2025-11-11T21:19:13+00:00

I’ve dated power lifters lol so as far as physique goes non issue

Steroids deal breaker

Chest and butt bigger? I mean unlikely seeing as men don’t have breasts the way women do and idc if I have big ole pec muscles. If he had a more toned ass I’d probably want to work out with him 😂 leg day is my fave day and I don’t see many men with as nice an ass as I do but I’d take it

Shirtless on a date? Is it an appropriate time to be shirtless??? I’d think it was weird if he just didn’t have a shirt even if we were going to the beach or on a boat, like being clothes dude. But showing up to lunch shirtless would be an immediate no WTF is wrong with you who raised you

CatallaxyRanch · 2025-11-11T19:40:11+00:00

No thanks. Too high maintenance, and I don't like the look of it.

Queen_BW · 2025-11-11T19:27:04+00:00

My prefereed body type on men is “you can tell he works out but you can also tell he doesnt say no to pizza”.

Big muscles do nothing for me. Using steroids its stupid. If he went on a date shirtless I would cringe the second I saw him. Im not interested in dating an insecure guy with self image issues.

My_House_on_Mars · 2025-11-11T19:01:00+00:00

ew no, I swipe left on OLD

They are riddled with body image issues, drug issues, eating dsorders

no thanks

Tylikcat · 2025-11-11T20:59:18+00:00

I have dated at least one guy with fairly heavy musculature - I liked the feel of it, and it was fun sparring with him.

But I don't really care one way or the other aesthetically, and steroids are a turn-off.

Away-Performance3231 · 2025-11-11T21:58:55+00:00

I prefer it, since I’m kind of muscular myself as a woman. I hope muscular guys prefer muscular women…

I prefer them natural though, not a fan of steroids

Love a big chest

Poppy_Luvv · 2025-11-11T19:05:56+00:00

I don't like jacked guys, huge muscles are unattractive to me. The look of oversized traps/deltoids to me, screams steroid use, and steroid use is a deal breaker.

ivegotcharisma · 2025-11-11T18:58:03+00:00

lol this is so oddly specific

But to answer your q's, I don't prefer super jacked dudes bc the ones I've dated have made the gym their entire personality and if I ever missed the gym they'd get all weird.

Wouldn't be a fan of the steroids.

I don't care how big his butt and boobs are lol

That's just weird.

bondepart · 2025-11-11T19:30:54+00:00

I’m really not a fan. I can’t think of anything more boring than a guy who is obsessed with going to the gym.

Old_cress3828 · 2025-11-11T22:38:20+00:00

I don't but also you shouldn't be asking the opinions of women on reddit. There is a huge amount of women that like that sort of lifestyle/body prefer it. A lot of the women here don't know a lot about body building or even working out as a hobby

Obvious_Smoke3633 · 2025-11-11T20:21:11+00:00

I'm a gym girlie who has dated bodybuilders and I'll tell you... I fucking hate it. I'd rather someone less lean with decent amount of muscle. Men sub 12% body fat are too vascular its weird.

Nellylocheadbean · 2025-11-11T22:23:41+00:00

Not my type, too bulky and usually those men have the ugliest face which is a hell no for me. I like fit but not looking like the hulk.

Clueless_Forever · 2025-11-12T00:00:30+00:00

A muscular man is ideal to me, I find them very attractive.

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In the above picture the 10-12% is the most attractive to me. I love big arms, pecs and a muscular back. Abs are nice too but not as important.

I would probably not date a bodybuilder as that is a huge commitment in every aspect of your life and isn’t really comparable to an avid but otherwise normal gym guy. Guys on steroids are a no for me, too many risks and adverse effects. A natural who has been in the gym for a couple of years is absolutely perfect.

If a guy showed up shirtless to a date that wasn’t at a pool or the beach I’d cringe…

Makuta_Servaela · 2025-11-12T00:33:05+00:00

For example bodybuilders on off season or GYM guys who take steroids or are natural but has been weightlifting for several years

Drug abusers is a no.

Those guys tend to have pretty severe eating disorders, which is a no. Gym addiction is the most common type of male eating disorder iirc.

Practical-Monk1586 · 2025-11-12T01:52:44+00:00

Not my type at all

Specialist-Age9387 · 2025-11-12T02:50:08+00:00

I prefer a swimmer’s body. I don’t go for bodybuilder builds. Lean muscles are extremely attractive.

Steroids are a big no from me. Don’t they decrease sex drive usually and cause ED?

Routine-Present-3676 · 2025-11-11T20:13:23+00:00

What in the actual fuck do you think would happen if a guy showed up to a date without a shirt? Go on. Tell us how you imagine that playing out.

MintyLemonBear · 2025-11-11T21:11:12+00:00

I would personally pass. I like dating people who like food and being that big is like working part-time at the gym.

cb8585b · 2025-11-11T19:27:28+00:00

Absolutely not.

I can’t stress how unappealing it is. Gym and caring about being healthy amazing.

Body image obsessed, food obsessed and HUGE. Ew no.

I went on a few dates once with a guy who macro and microed his way through deciding what to eat.

We had a picnic date and he was there shoving down cans of tuna I kid you not.

Never again.

-Shes-A-Carnival · 2025-11-11T19:29:25+00:00

Lysa_Bell · 2025-11-11T20:29:53+00:00

I had a very unhealthy fwb situation going on for a couple of years with an ex. He dipped in and out of my life. For probably more than half a decade.

In the middle of all that he got very much into lifting and steroids. Ngl. Sex was wild. We had a 8 hour session once. I couldn't wear underwear for 3 days because I was so sore. I was around 20 at that point though. For some reason the steroids just kept him going and going.

Years later when he dipped back into my life he had 2 baby mamas and was on his like 10th detox from very hard drugs. I had a very awkward conversation with his then gf and baby mama at the time via Facebook... she was nice but definitely broken too. After that I didn't see him again. I wonder what happend to him. I remember his voice got completely fucked from the drugs he took and he sounded weirdly raspy constantly. I felt sorry for him.

Wouldn't recommend. It was an unhealthy attachment so the muscles didn't really had anything to do with it. But it was sad to see how his life took a dive with that stuff.

Lemon_gecko · 2025-11-11T19:08:16+00:00

Why do i feel like it's a fetish question?

Anyway, i can't say much about steroids, but i'm wary and need to research more before answering. In general that depends. For me there is a thing like overly muscular and that's not attractive. And well depends on a guy because more often than not the problem isn't a body....

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toasterchild · 2025-11-11T22:29:28+00:00

This might be my anti person, but one of the women in my workout classes is super into it.

I know fewer women who are into it than i do women who are turned off by it but having a niche is never bad. It's better to turn on 3 percent of women then be invisible to all of them.

Icy_Ad_4544 · 2025-11-11T22:39:37+00:00

Everyone is going to have a different preference. Myself, I’ve always preferred men with some belly fat. I’m not sure why but visible abs or pecs have never been sexually appealing to me. I have girlfriends who absolutely love that body type though.

Werevulvi · 2025-11-11T23:47:34+00:00

I'd have no issue with it. It's not necessarily my perfect ideal, but I absolutely think it can be attractive, and the sheer amount of work that goes into it is impressive to me. Like I admire that. I watch a lot of fitness and bodybuilding videos on youtube, and some of these very bulky muscular men look attractive to me.

I would also generally enjoy working out together and planning/eating healthy meals with a partner. I'm not nearly that fit myself, but I care about eating healthy and exercising regularly, so I'd enjoy it if my partner was also into that kinda stuff. And I think it's great when someone's physique is very telling of their lifestyle.

But yeah exactly how much muscle a guy has is not important to me. It could be a little or a lot. As for body fat I do think the healthy 12-20% range is the most attractive on men, but just under 10% or up to 25% (approximately) can be hot too. Any degree of "is in shape" is attractive to me basically. And yeah I know it's really hard to determine body fat percentage with any kinda exactness, but that is not the point. Abs is like the least important muscle group imo. Although I'm not into big, flabby bellies.

As for steroids I'm generally not a fan, but it really depends on what he's taking and how much of it. I'm not an expert on that stuff, but I know about a handful of the most common ones and some of the most known side effects. And some of those side effects are really nasty. Like loss of sex drive, really bad acne, mood changes, extremely bloated belly, etc. But if he takes steroids at a controlled dose, and he doesn't ignore such health issues, then I wouldn't see it as a dealbreaker.

Also fyi I used to be on testosterone myself in the past, although for other reasons, I have many of the same permanent side effects female bodybuilders get from taking steroids, like the deeper voice for example. And I can't lie, it's nice to have kinda permanently stronger/bigger muscles because of it. So I get the allure, and I don't wanna be a hypocrit when it comes to steroids. But also I quit the testosterone for a reason. So I even have some experience with why steroids bad. But it's not like a super weird or scary concept to me. It's kinda familiar. So I wouldn't be totally freaked out if a very muscular guy is on them. I guess I see it as any other drug or vice: use responsibly and we're not gonna have a problem.

MiddleZealousideal89 · 2025-11-12T23:22:16+00:00

They're not my cup of tea.

attendquoi · 2025-11-11T19:55:40+00:00

Ew no. And I'd never date a guy who even looked like he might be on steroids

sublimemongrel · 2025-11-12T04:54:37+00:00

Yuck. Not attractive to me

Confident_Counter471 · 2025-11-12T14:45:08+00:00

I absolutely hate the body builder physique. I think it is absolutely repulsive…I like lean/slim body physiques

Title	What do you think of dating or having relationships with muscular guys?
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Date	November 11, 2025 6:53 PM UTC (8 months ago)
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