I think the differences is more about the general differences between men and women than merely autism. A quick way to think about this is think about neckbeards and how unpleasant they are to be around.  Also, girls generally socialize more and are more willing to compromise. If you have a tendency to isolate yourself or make everything about you and your feelings, people are less likely to want to be around you.

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTr3CFW27/

Giving an example, this TikTok talks about how autistic women don’t like autistic men, and the reasons given more typically that autistic guys have a problem with being coddled and never really pushing themselves to learn social skills. This sub also shows that by insisting that autistic people can never learn social skills even though nothing says that high functioning autistic people can’t learn social skills.  No one wants to be around somebody with a victim complex unless they also have a victim complex or sees the whiner as a useful idiot to manipulate.

Also, maladjusted males are more likely to externalize their problems, which again, make them far less likable in society.