What female-primary behaviors do you actually think are unjustifiable?

fiftypoundpuppy · 2026-03-08T22:32:52+00:00

Paternity fraud is the only "female-primary behavior" I think is unjustifiable that I can think of, but that's not necessarily an exhaustive list. Just what comes to mind right now

Everything else I think of isn't a "female primary" behavior, or doesn't require "justification"

Actually I suppose sharing personal details/info about your partner without their consent to mutual friends/family/neighbors etc. Not sold it's necessarily a "female primary behavior" but I'm open to the possibility

DMmeClownPics · 2026-03-08T22:47:04+00:00

Saying shitty things about short men as a group, or saying shitty things about a man solely because he is short. I’m sure if I sat and thought about it for a while I could come up with more.

But that’s the first one that comes to mind. I do give a lot of side-eye towards women who insist that they could never ever be attracted to a man under X height, but whatever. I realized that heightism was stupid and arbitrary when I was still in my teens and just decided not to give a shit anymore. It was that simple. But I can accept that maybe I’m the weird one.

crookedsummer2019 · 2026-03-08T23:25:50+00:00

Rejecting a guy in an insulting way when it’s not warranted, ie his approach was polite and not creepy nor nasty.

I was with a co-worker at a club for an informal work gathering and a guy came up to us and asked would we like to dance with him and his friend and my co-worker said, “ eww, why would we dance with you?”

I was mortified, the look on his face. He quietly walked away. I waited a few minutes then told her I had to go use the washroom but went over to his table and apologized. He was from Nova Scotia visiting Toronto for the first time. I’m half drunk trying to make sure that he understood not all Toronto girls are like her. We ended up smoking a joint together and I introduced him to a friend of mine who hooked up him so I guess it wasn’t a loss for him but I never went out with that co-worker ever again.

Kaleidoscopetide · 2026-03-09T00:10:38+00:00

Munchausens by proxy

Talking_Tanuki · 2026-03-08T22:43:56+00:00

I’m not sure your examples are really “women-led,” but I’ll try to answer your question anyway.

Paternity fraud should be a crime. It’s an absolutely terrible thing to do to both a man and a child.

Abuse isn’t necessarily women-led, but I do think female abusers are often overlooked and don’t face enough consequences. Also, some women seem far too comfortable hitting or slapping others.

Bullying. Most of the bullying I experienced came from other girls, and it seems pretty age-dependent. I’m not sure whether bullying is actually more common among girls, but it does feel like it’s easier for people to dismiss it or ignore.

The “men are trash/kill all men” rhetoric. It’s completely unacceptable. Don’t hide your misandry behind feminism, we don’t claim you.

Higher neuroticism isn’t exactly unjustified, but a lot of women need to learn healthier ways to deal with it. That said, I’d argue that men are starting to catch up in terms of neuroticism, so it’s becoming an issue for both genders.

I do judge women who choose to make money through sex work of their own free will. I believe it harms women as a group.

blebbyroo · 2026-03-08T22:34:57+00:00

Neither of your first two examples are “female led” men do just as much of the same issues.

However I will say regardless of gender cheating is unjustified in all cases.

ChironGhostHugger · 2026-03-08T22:42:44+00:00

Generally anything that would get a man in trouble, or make women in general look weak and feeble (or otherwise incapable) I come down against. The big one for me right now is using PMS as an excuse to behave abusive, rude, or unreasonable - if you're that much of a terror that people can't even approach you, maybe seek help. Besides that, I can't think of anything in specific but it's generally across the board for me

DenverKim · 2026-03-08T23:47:19+00:00

Lying about who the father of their children is. But I don’t think that most women would disagree on that one.

I also think it’s ridiculous when women criticize men or play the victim simply because a man says that he doesn’t want to date her because she has children. I think it’s perfectly reasonable for a person to not want to date someone with children.

I also think it’s unreasonable when women expect a man to pay for everything when she is not the kind of woman who is looking to sideline her career, get married and stay home with his children all day. I’m not saying it’s unreasonable for her to expect him to pick up the first few dates or be somewhat chivalrous… But when she expects him to literally pay for everything all the time, it’s absurd. Basically women who expect to be treated like traditional women, but simultaneously don’t want to actually live like traditional women.

I also think it’s unreasonable when women claim that it costs them hundreds or thousands of dollars just to buy products, clothes, hair, nails, and beauty treatments in order to go on a date with a man. I think that’s pathetic and any time a woman makes that argument, I’m just embarrassed for her and I really wish they would stop saying this because it makes women look very very stupid.

NiaMiaBia · 2026-03-09T22:46:41+00:00

Not protecting their kids from predators (like abusive step-dads, for example.

CissyXS · 2026-03-09T00:06:38+00:00

I'm just gonna agree with what was already mentioned: - Paternity fraud. Should be treated as a crime. - Body shaming men over their height, dick size or anything else honestly. If you don't like something, just move on. No need to verbally abuse people. - I'd add 'expecting a man to pay for everything', but it's an outcome of classic patriarchal model, so not exactly a bad behaviour I guess, since men welcome women being dependant and submissive.

love_in_october · 2026-03-08T22:34:47+00:00

Child neglect.

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_weedkiller_ · 2026-03-10T02:09:07+00:00

her body, her choice, his responsibility.

You don’t think women hold a tad more responsibility in terms of growing the baby & nursing it??

I don’t think women should expect men to pay on dates. That’s not justifiable to me. It seems much more of an American thing.

I don’t think your characterisations of the “female-primary behaviours” are entirely accurate.

Theawkwardmochi · 2026-03-13T11:10:06+00:00

Hypocrisy of expectations - I'm a strong independent woman capable of everything a man can do and more, my career goals are ambitious and valid, you will split chores with me so I can pursue them, but pay for all my stuff at all times else I don't want you (men have this as well just expressed in different ways)
Talking about sex with their friends. In detail. Down to describing what their partner looks like down there. It's disgusting.
Dismissing any kinds of violence, non-consensual sexual encounters, harassment as unimportant unless the perpetrator is a man and the victim is a woman. This harms everyone - men, for obvious reasons, and women themselves as well. Every lesbian I know (or someone she knows closely) has experienced at least one instance of what could only be perceived as rape if the woman who did that to them... wasn't a woman.
Using their menstrual cycle as a justification for poor behavior or something they just need to "pull through". Severe PMS is a recognized disorder that needs treatment, not a personal characteristic that the world needs to accommodate. Refusing to treat a disorder is self-neglect and it doesn't mean you're not accountable for what the disorder made you do. Severe menstrual pain as well is something that needs prompt medical attention. Seeing women frame it as "female nature" or something "women just have to go through" makes me sick.
Modern feminism - sorry not sorry, it's no longer about equality. In the past, feminism was a very based movement fighting for equal rights, freedom and opportunities. The modern iteration of it is so divorced from reality it almost looks like they never were married in the first place.
Fat acceptance. Body positivity-great awesome based, absolutely love your body, but if you no longer fit in one plane seat, the world isn't obliged to accommodate, you need to get your shit together so you don't die. Fat acceptance is cancer. Like, literally, obesity increases cancer risk among other things.

the_scar_when_you_go · 2026-03-09T00:12:42+00:00

Abuse/neglect, SA, reproductive coercion, bigotry, most forms of violence, willful ignorance, knowingly spreading toxic femininity/masculinity...

No-Hunt-6123 · 2026-03-09T00:05:27+00:00

Pickme women are indefensible.

Specialist-Age9387 · 2026-03-09T10:11:01+00:00

Getting pregnant on purpose without the man’s consent and paternity fraud.

Title	What female-primary behaviors do you actually think are unjustifiable?
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Date	March 8, 2026 10:29 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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