For most women the goal/highlight of a “fun night out” is not sex, at least not as much as that seems to be the goal for men.

loke2dabrain · 2019-08-22T16:28:39+00:00

When I go out with my homeboys I'm not looking for sex. Just trying to kick it and drink a couple beers and have a good time.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-08-22T16:54:02+00:00

Yeah, the goal is never sex. It is dolling up in a special occasion outfit, doing hair/makeup, and getting together with my girl friends for dancing and drinking and having a good time. Then crashing at one of my friends' houses and getting up in the morning for a champagne brunch somewhere.

wtknight · 2019-08-22T15:29:02+00:00

I’ve talked to plenty of women who said that they were horny that night and their goal was to find an attractive man to have sex with that night, although I think that they would have been less bummed out if they didn’t have sex than a horny man would if he didn’t find it. Maybe these women were outliers, but I think that the sex drives of women varies enough that you can’t make blanket generalizations. I know I always get miffed when women make blanket generalizations about men that I don’t fit under.

jessicaannpin · 2019-08-22T18:30:34+00:00

If I’m single and I go out, I’m always looking to meet guys. Always.

Am I looking to get laid that night? Probably not. Am I looking to eventually fuck whoever I meet that night? Definitely.

When I was younger, I almost never slept with men I met the same day. Since shedding cultural restrictions on my “sluttiness,” I do this more often. However, I tend to be extra cautious about making decisions while inebriated. I prefer to decide who to sleep with while sober, so I am more likely to have same-day sex with someone I meet in the middle of the day while sober than someone I meet at a bar while drinking.

MusicalMarceline · 2019-08-22T15:19:12+00:00

Why wouldn't a man appreciate the whole night just like women? Just because sex was his highlight it doesn't mean he didn't have fun during the rest of it.

screenmagnet · 2019-08-22T15:27:09+00:00

The goal of a fun night out for women is lots of attention and admiration from men and women alike. Maybe some light (or heavy) making out and perhaps a little touchy feely, but most women would be fine to not end up with sex.

A good night out ends with a “wow it was really great to meet you, I’ve never met another woman so amazing and special and smart as you, please let’s meet again” text from a handful of super hotties with excellent jobs and personalities in the morning.

darudeboysandstorm · 2019-08-22T17:56:17+00:00

Its a lot easier getting laid if you go out to have fun instead of with the intention of getting laid. Learned that working in hostels in Europe.

StarSkull_Cyborg · 2019-08-22T16:00:39+00:00

Mainly its because women can just hop on tinder or bumble and pick out who ever they want for a NSA. After talking with different women i dated, and friends... i was really surprised how often it occurred and it made me really uncomfortable . My ex told me " You don't need to pay for sex". After i had told her i had gone so long without it, i got fed up and paid for 4 prostitutes...thats how easily she can find it. she actually compared men to women haha

guys? well...we are stuck with hoping someone comes along that will even pick us out, men are endlessly searching and were just plain neglected physically and sexually from the men i have met and had heart to hearts with.

Theres a tremendous disconnect with women understanding this! So i expect to get the hate parade on my ass for telling you how it is.

janeaustenfan99 · 2019-08-22T15:28:05+00:00

I think I would be more excited about/ anticipating meeting the kind of guy I would have a genuine connection to, someone who I'd like to have sex with at a later time. More of an excitement over romantic possibilities.

QueenCousland86 · 2019-08-22T16:52:23+00:00

I have literally never once in my life gone out to a bar to get laid. Dick is abundant and of low value, why would I pick one out in some dark, loud place where everyone's inebriated? If I go out, it's to spend time with the people who came with me.

blackedoutfast · 2019-08-22T20:47:12+00:00

MOST women do just want to go out and have a fun time and dance and laugh and feel sexy and have hawt boys flirt with them. and if she ends up hooking up with one of those guys that will be fun too.

but there are definitely some women who absolutely do go out primarily because they want to meet a hot guy and get fucked by him

re: that other thread, the biggest reason that women tend to be hazy about the particular details of their various past hookups is probably alcohol. it's kinda taboo to talk about the fact that everyone gets shitfaced before hooking up but its pretty much the norm

NeedingAdvice86 · 2019-08-22T15:47:11+00:00

Just another result of the nature of the game...women game is largely passive while guys are expected to be active. '

I don't know why even though this is said 100000 times to the women of PPD that they seem to be too simpleton to understand it.....guys, even as a hot guy, and particularly the vast majority of guys DO NOT get an endless stream of offers during the day, week, night to talk, date, fuck from women.....so men know that IN ORDER FOR SOMETHING TO HAPPEN at all they have to place the meeting of a girl somewhere in the top 1 or 2 areas of focuses for an evening.

I know from experience since I was somewhat of a dolt when I started going out....I never noticed when girls did sort of make moves...I just assumed that all guys had girls buy drinks for them or give them their numbers, etc...until my friends had to clarify that that shit didn't happened to everyone as I assumed it did. And even then it was rare that my friends would shake their heads at the occurrence....and remember.

Why is that so hard for you to understand? These guys could go out for a month or year or decade JUST TO HAVE FUN...and still never have a girl initiate and come up to them to talk, flirt, drink and most certainly not fuck. For any half way decently attractive girl that isn't going to take more than 10 mins in a crowded bar....you just lack the self-awareness to look outside your bubble. Just because you are blind to what is going on with the men around you doesn't mean it isn't happening...even to that amazing meeting with the hot dude "that just happened while you were out having fun"....that wasn't the way it was for him.

If men acted the same as women......then the species would die out.

MyDogLovesCorn · 2019-08-22T15:19:05+00:00

The goal of a "fun night out" for girls is sex with a hot guy. The goal of a "fun night out" for guys is sex.

YasuotheChosenOne · 2019-08-22T19:17:34+00:00

Validation/attention for women = sex for men.

flyinghorse1 · 2019-08-22T16:28:58+00:00

As I man: I don't care that much about sex either. I know sex will happen eventually. I just want to have fun, too.

goneaway2thewind · 2019-08-22T15:40:56+00:00

Your idea of a fun night out, simply for the sake of having fun is different for guys. We don't consider going to clubs with hundreds of drunken strangers to validate our looks as fun because we are not feminine. We are masculine so we enjoy action and activities, like going axe throwing, gun range, DnD groups, game nights, night fishing, tangible activities. It's already known that women are just inherently more interested in people, so an ideal night out for the sake of only having fun is different for us.

You're only exposed to the guys who go to social events to meet women to have sex with because that's what your environment is. Guys night out is a completely different environment.

NaturalQueer · 2019-08-22T21:23:18+00:00

Sometimes I've gone out to have a fun, sometimes hopefully for some hot making out(mostly with other women, because men aren't normally okay with just kissing). But not really for sex that night, to meet someone and flirt a little but not really thinking about sex, I don't remember a time I ever cared if I didn't meet anyone either. The main focus has always been fun with my friends and usually dancing. And a lot of the girls I know are like that but I am sure some of them went for that reason but not many.

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Tyler_Gatsby · 2019-08-22T16:52:03+00:00

Since you picked the fight, I'll counter with suggesting you do a test/social experiment/survey/whatever you want to call it, and take note of or check up on where a woman is at in her cycle, when she's, "just wanting to dress up and look pretty, and go out to have fun."

You and the other girls here telling this story will probably find out a good half or more of you and your friends just happen to be ovulating during this time, or about to.

Your brain may think it just wants to dance and have fun, but your ovaries have their own agenda and are pulling one over on your brain.

Criticalthinking346 · 2019-08-23T00:09:45+00:00

I am married the goal for me is to actually just have fun 🤷🏼‍♀️

I mean I already get sex when I want it, but I don’t always get to hang out with my peeps

PrideInIndividuality · 2019-08-23T01:48:06+00:00

Don't listen to what women say. Observe their behavior. Women are not self aware of their own sexuality as men are.

Also, the argument that women are not interested in sex is ironically a conservative argument.

RedPillMissionary · 2019-08-25T02:32:52+00:00

And the goal of every restaurant and bar owner is to make money off of men by attracting women to their establishment

screenmagnet · 2019-08-22T16:43:48+00:00

I’ve never been a party girl and I’m lazy about getting dressed up. So in the rare instances that I’ve put in the effort to actually go out and meet men, sex was definitely the goal and I was disappointed when it didn’t happen.

But party girls who regularly go clubbing or bar hopping with their posse? Their goal is not sex, its male attention.

f0e_paw · 2019-08-22T17:03:05+00:00

For me a fun night out, is hooking up with a cute girl. 🤷🏽‍♂️

In general for a guy hooking up is the goal. So I don't really understand the question.

Emervila · 2019-08-22T15:31:22+00:00

seem to be in denial about some pretty plain differences between men and women.

You as well OP.

For men night out is sex but it doesn't mean there's no fun on it also there's video games, movie time and hobbies with friends only to enjoy nights.

For women "ladies night" is more than sex but it's does include the chance of sex with a random really hot guy, sure the don't scream "let's get laid" but they will surely do it if the chance with a hottie appears.

Men have to hunt therefore the mindset is to march towards the objective, women are hunted therefore they decide if the guy is hot enough to have fun with him.

Fun night out: for men target is sex but for women sex is a possibility if the circumstances come together and they will take it if the guy is High SMV. There can be also nights when nobody got laid and it was still fun for both.

jmitch88 · 2019-08-22T16:47:17+00:00

BluePill is a forum for rejection of RedPill social world view, tenants, philosophies and subsequent groups or movements such as; MGTOW, MRA RPW and hookup hacks(game).

It comes down to motivation. If one simply disagrees with a certain aspect of Redpill yet accepts other generalized ideas I would think they would discuss or debate within the Redpill communities. Motive to get to the bottom of the disagreement or make a point.

A person compelled to post or identify as BluePill would mainly seek agreement or validation of opinions contrary to RP culture. The best way I could put it is BluePillers share a personal knee jerk reaction to RedPill content or followers.

To my knowledge BP has no solid core beliefs, teachings, philosophy or values other than RP is wrong.

27187 · 2019-08-23T00:27:29+00:00

My idea of a good night is getting as much drugs into my system as possible

reluctantly_red · 2019-08-23T02:13:07+00:00

Sure the stated initial goal is to have fun. However, goals can change. Should a hot available guy present himself goals can change in a blink of an eye.

MertWhenNeeded · 2019-08-23T04:37:18+00:00

Isn't this making some huge assumption about the populace at large over your own personal perspective. You can't really apply any figures here so how can you say any of this. Also there's the issue of women in sex being a hidden thing. So even if you had some number there would be the problem of admitting it and overcoming social stigma.

This seems to me as a baseless thought missing any of the complications that is human courting and relation building.

_lexxxi_98 · 2019-08-23T21:12:29+00:00

I think it depends on what you're doing and who you're with. If you're going to a crazy party or club the ultimate goal is to get laid. Whether you're thinking it or not. But if you're just going bowling, the movies, or maybe a small bar, that maybe not the goal.

Title	For most women the goal/highlight of a “fun night out” is not sex, at least not as much as that seems to be the goal for men.
Author	GridReXX
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Date	August 22, 2019 3:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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