the double standards 🤦🏻‍♀️

Alexlaflamexii · 2021-02-21T15:09:46+00:00

We must remember the reason why women didn’t work back then is because it wasn’t allowed or they were too young to work. A lot of our grandfathers married women that were barely in their teens. It’s sick when you think about it. With that being said this new age concept of men and women splitting bills 50/50 and the women still going 100 percent of the house work is bullshit....

ChocoBananza · 2021-02-21T14:34:12+00:00

‘You want a maid, but can’t afford one’

Sooo true.

jasmine-blossom · 2021-02-21T15:24:28+00:00

And those arrangements that people think worked well for both sexes that the woman would stay home and be wife and mother and housekeeper and the man would work and provide....didnt actually work well for most people for most of human history. It’s based off of a very very short time frame around the 50’s in middle and upper class white society, which only happened bc of a very distinct economic environment that no longer exists and didn’t much exist before that time period. Plus women were denied rights like the right to open a bank account or own a credit card, divorce even in cases of rape and abuse were not an option, and most of those women were so unhappy that a resurgence of feminism/women’s liberation happened right after (in the US, in other countries the trajectory of feminism was a little more varied).

This arrangement NEVER WORKED WELL. It didn’t then and it doesn’t now.

InayahDaneen · 2021-02-21T16:11:40+00:00

A lot of men out there also trick women initially about taking care of the housework and doing their share of cooking. They deliberately do a messy job so that the wife or gf has to take over.

relationship_reddit · 2021-02-21T16:22:47+00:00

Yep. I do all of the traditionally woman tasks, but I've never even been with a man that can change the oil in the car. So we're just supposed to be happy with the fact that they work a job and that's it? I can't believe they're not embarrassed about being so lazy and useless.

"I bust my ass ass for 10 hours in the heat 5 days a week!" Ok, Todd. And then you come home to your wife and do fuck-all for the rest of the time. No one is impressed.

srghc8 · 2021-02-21T15:17:48+00:00

And these are just a few of the reasons that I am happily single. I don't want to have to be a maid for some guy who can't/won't clean and cook. I don't want to feel like their mother who has to take care of every little thing in their lives because they act like children. And I certainly don't want them using my body while it does nothing for me. I'm more thankful everyday that I am single.

Some__Stranger · 2021-02-21T14:39:38+00:00

This is 100% true. Women are expected to do everything now. Cook, clean, have children and be responsible for the majority of childcare, and work full-time 😐 There have been studies that show even in households where the man self-identifies as a "feminist", the majority of the domestic responsibilities still fall on the woman, even when she works outside the home full-time 😑 I don't want any part of that mess 🙅‍♀️ Nope

R_U_Pennybags · 2021-02-21T15:29:46+00:00

She really told the whole truth

_nylea · 2021-02-21T15:34:37+00:00

A man says as much as “wifey” and he’s out, in my book.

My boyfriend judges me for my character and not the things I could do for him. And every time I start cooking when he’s over, he will immediately rush to help and also clean everything after (happily). He’d be mortified if I served him.

Any guy who’s more than happy to sit on his ass and let you wait on him — while doing little to nothing in return — just isn’t it.

TiffStyles2221 · 2021-02-21T16:34:32+00:00

Yeah see this is one of the reasons I support the fuck out of this sub- I really am disgusted by the whole “gold digger” idea- FDS chicks are NOT THAT. If half of these dudes who hate this sub would actually pay attention to what we say on here, they would see that.

We teach each other that there is an important difference between us and gold diggers, gold diggers don’t do anything, they just kick back and take, take, take. That’s not us. We expect things from our partners in RETURN because we provide value, and a LOT OF IT. And not just in the form of things that a maid would provide- in partnership, in supporting you and making you the best man you can be (that you would never even be HALF of without us), in teaching your children how to be good people and parenting them well so they are emotionally healthy, in backing you up and making you look good 24/7 even when you don’t deserve it.

Read that list above. A ton of the women on here have masters degrees, PhD’s, MD’s... so they already have full time jobs. So add the jobs I listed above on top of that: maid, job coach, life coach, assistant, nanny, psychologist, publicist. Add all of those salaries up. We earn every single thing that we expect from men- and since we actually AREN’T all about money, we also expect to be treated very well in return.

Big, big, big difference between FDS ladies and gold diggers. Not even the same planet.

BabyGotBantz · 2021-02-21T16:16:06+00:00

Ladies, PSA if your man isn’t providing he is worthless. If you both work and don’t share responsibilities with cleaning and cooking he’s a POS and you need to leave his ass. If you have kids he will expect you to do all that work and take care of them. Hell to the no.

It’s better to keep your money, buy what you want and not cook and clean for a man child

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-02-21T14:59:01+00:00

"Didnt have to work" They couldnt work even if they wanted to. They were forced to cook and clean and stay home cause thats all they could do.

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-02-21T16:52:47+00:00

These videos/discussions always lack nuance because they ignore the fact that certain populations of women were always working because they had no choice – most black women and other WOC, working class women, immigrant women. And the work specifically that so many of these populations of women were doing was being domestic employees for white women. And this whole notion of women deserving dignity in the workplace only came into the national imagination in the 70s when white women started going to work en masse. And that may sound like a good thing but it still centers white women. They didn’t give a damn about dignity when they were exploiting women of color. And the whole idea of women working “outside the home”, their whole notion of their liberation was predicated on the exploitation of women of color because who do you think was doing their domestic labor? Their child care? This exploitation of WOC is what allowed them to have their “revolution”. It was black women most of the time keeping their homes squeaky clean and making sure their children were cared for. Forget a double shift. These women were working a triple shift. They had to go out early in the day and do all this domestic labor for their white women employers, then often do other labor (Sometimes the domestic side wasn’t even the main component of the job), get paid peanuts for this work, and then go home and do all the domestic labor for their own families as well. We always talk about the wage gap and we occasionally discuss how all women of color make less than white women, but how come it never comes up that almost all women of color have been working decades longer than white women and yet still make significantly less than them?

RikaRikaw · 2021-02-21T15:45:40+00:00

OMG this girl said what I've always wanted to say but couldn't because of shitty english and dislexia My hero Will save this video and watch it on loop because I can

Leavix · 2021-02-21T16:23:31+00:00

Or even worse: they can afford one but think they are entitled to your free labor.

Papaverinum · 2021-02-21T16:44:25+00:00

Yet, they don't represent "hubby material" 🤔 Not even "decent human being material"...

SkynyrdGyrl81 · 2021-02-21T15:09:45+00:00

And this is why I absolutely refuse to be in a relationship. And if I ever decide someone is good enough for me, I will still be keeping my own place. Never playing bangmaid to any man.

spinsterchachkies · 2021-02-21T15:48:46+00:00

GIRL GIRL GIRL GIRL YESSSS here you go 👑👑👑

saint-jezebel · 2021-02-21T15:26:36+00:00

They want a woman but can’t afford one. What’s worse is to be able to afford a women, you have to know what it entails to be a man. When, as a man, they fail to even be that, whatever comes out their mouths is audacity and the nerve. Most of these men don’t know how to be men but expect women to know how to be a wife. It will never make sense.

missyou2017 · 2021-02-21T17:56:47+00:00

If a man says you're wife material he means you would make a great slave

funkmaven · 2021-02-21T15:41:09+00:00

I just want to thank brith control and other contraceptives for giving women the opportunity to work for ourselves. Without it we wouldn’t have the freedom, as flawed as it is, we have today.

stillcantsee · 2021-02-21T17:56:26+00:00

I see how my father TO THIS DAY won't even get up to get his own plate of food- my little old mom has to go get it for him and i'm like wowowowow I am so happy I'm single, I was not born to be Mrs. So-and-So making dinner day in, day out til I die. Noooope.

faux_naturale · 2021-02-21T18:12:41+00:00

It’s only poor men who still look for this during the dating stage, IME. When men have money, they have a cleaning service and order in/go out for dinner mostly.

Rememberthekant · 2021-02-21T17:37:01+00:00

Very well said! If the bills are split, then the chores should be split too. Expectations need to be clear from early on before the relationship even begins... but some people will act like they are very good/ like someone different at first and only reveal themselves later on...

cryptohobo · 2021-02-21T19:08:17+00:00

Far too many women have been fooled into thinking their value depends on how well they can embrace being “wifey material” without putting this equal consideration on men. It’s a joke to think nearly as many men worry about if they’re going to make good future husbands.

I think it’s time we reclaim the phrase “wifey material” and use it on HV men instead who show potential to be worthy enough of having a wife.

KindredMaximus · 2021-02-21T19:11:13+00:00

Even if a man ''provides'' you the ability to stay home and care 24/7, around the clock through child birth, sleeplessness etc, they then f*** you over because they are usually entitled arseholes who leave you and you are then poor without any experience to get a job. They see it as ''taking all the stuff they worked for'' if you even get anything - they do not see any of the contribution you made for decades.
I would NEVER tell a young woman today to give up her job to have children with a man. It makes you too vulnerable. Protect yourselves at all costs.
For myself - I would never live with a man again nor make myself vulnerable to not being able to walk out the door and support myself. Men take advantage of that, they are never thankful for your sacrifices.

HornetKick · 2021-02-21T17:22:43+00:00

PREACH!

ScrotonimoStilton · 2021-02-21T18:59:43+00:00

I will cook and clean for you if you bring money to the table, can cook, clean and care after yourself as well.

Extra-Tadpole4909 · 2021-02-21T14:50:19+00:00

All women are wife material, it's just that they battle with their dicks to see that that's why they tried compartmentalizing us.

myeggsarebig · 2021-02-21T22:05:26+00:00

But you can’t afford one!! LOVE IT. Also, Her face is just gorgeous! I couldn’t stop watching.

achelois_healer · 2021-02-21T19:32:41+00:00

Does she have a lip filter? Looks like her top lip is twitching

Title	the double standards 🤦🏻‍♀️
Author	elisafoo
Upvotes	1618
Comments	94
Date	February 21, 2021 2:07 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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