Client Sent Me A Nude At Work

Angeli_33 · 2021-01-25T10:15:39+00:00

A client once offered me a project in return for sex with him. I'm so pissed still. I left my job. Anyway, make sure you have a replacement job before you leave. You can start searching in the meantime.

LiAndLenus3rdfriend · 2021-01-25T12:17:01+00:00

Hii OP

Was all the communication between you and your employer verbal? When you showed them the picture and everything afterwards? If push comes to shove and you need to sue at some point, having paper/digital trail would make a hell of a strong case for you.

If it was all verbal, is it possible for you to followup on email? Like ask when they plan to speak to the guy who did this etc?

Meanwhile, start looking for a new job...I understand market isn't the best atm but your employer's reaction is a MAJOR problem, not something that can be brushed aside.

Some people suggested secretly recording but idk about that...it is afterall an organisation we are talking about and not an individual. Just make an informed decision.

inventivesquid · 2021-01-25T10:52:56+00:00

File a police report.

Striking_Play_1393 · 2021-01-25T12:52:18+00:00

This is so disgusting and the fact that they don't take it seriously only shows how women's issues never matter until we become outraged by it. I bet once the police and court involved THEN they will be acting like it matters 🙄

Samvanderkamp123 · 2021-01-25T10:59:34+00:00

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Saitschik · 2021-01-25T14:29:52+00:00

Nah, you don't " have to take a joke". This client overstepped a line like many men do, because they still have trouble seeing women as serious professionals.

I can see it coming; they invite him over for a "talk" with another scrote, they laugh it off, rant together about masks and "stuck-up" women and the client walks out without any consequences.

VelvetKnuckleduster · 2021-01-25T12:03:05+00:00

Document everything and start looking for a new job. If they're reluctant to deal with this now they'll be reluctant to do anything if it escalates and may retaliate if you press the issue. When you have a new job lined up you should consider taking legal action against your employers.

nonchalance77 · 2021-01-25T14:52:22+00:00

$$$ you have a very, VERY good case. Save everything document it all

pickadaisy · 2021-01-25T14:39:02+00:00

File a claim with the EEOC.

Emergency-Feed8216 · 2021-01-25T16:05:18+00:00

You're still in shock. Talk to a lawyer.

AlexxyaKat · 2021-01-25T13:16:27+00:00

This is harassment. You are not overreacting, what the fuck

loleetahaze · 2021-01-25T15:14:11+00:00

Go to the police. He needs to be sanctioned as well as the company management who are trying to cover their asses.

berned-out · 2021-01-25T15:21:45+00:00

take advantage of the free legal consultations for your situation. it's entirely possible a pro bono contract would be an option, costing you nothing to pursue this. keep records of what this is costing you. it's costing you, just make a list of the effort and emotions.

write down what happened now, pursue now. good luck.

tellmesomething11 · 2021-01-25T16:11:37+00:00

You can also file with the local EEOC for sexual harassment.

misscatlover123 · 2021-01-25T16:14:57+00:00

Some states have human rights commissions where you can file sexual harassment complaints against employers and they will help sue on your behalf and get you $.

I don’t know what state you are in but the link to the NY Commission is as follows: https://www1.nyc.gov/site/cchr/enforcement/complaint-process.page

Bex_The_Hex · 2021-01-25T16:47:42+00:00

File a police report, and make sure to take this above your manager's head. You may also want to speak to a lawyer and ask about getting a restraining order against the client, as this is clear sexual harassment. Make sure when you file the police report you state that your place of employment is doing nothing to make sure you are safe.

vitryolic · 2021-01-25T15:54:16+00:00

Does the client work with you in a B2B capacity? Let his employer know also if so

HaveNoIdeaWhatToPick · 2021-01-25T17:24:10+00:00

Here is an insteresting study: https://www.dw.com/en/why-do-men-send-women-dick-pics-without-consent/a-52462603 Espiecially this quote: " Results also showed that men who admitted they had sent a picture without being asked showed a greater degree of narcissism and sexism"

MulticoloredCatMug · 2021-01-25T14:01:14+00:00

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DeepestWinterBlue · 2021-01-25T17:52:11+00:00

Get all your proofs together ASAP. Tell us the company and the people involved. Leave the shit hole. Get yourself a lawyer for sexual harassment. Fuck them,

DallasM19 · 2021-01-25T18:32:27+00:00

Oh my god I am so sorry this happened to you. It's sexual harrassment. And how dare they invite him to the office where YOU (the victim) work. Are your bosses men?

Ugh, not like it matters. I had a female manager who told me to sit on a bench and talk to me colleague about the fact that he WALKED Into the bathroom I had just finished using and said "oh I would have liked to seen that" (the poor grammar is making me cringe) with a smarmy half smile. I was legitimately traumatised and only 18 at the time. That was the managers solution. For me to talk to him on a bench. This was Bell Canada, a very large telecom company in Canada.

Novemberinthechair · 2021-01-25T23:06:59+00:00

Aw hell, just send it to everyone in your workplace. If he gets upset, he's proving he did something wrong. Then you can tell him he has no sense of humor.

EveSerpent · 2021-01-25T15:26:47+00:00

I'm curious about your manager. Is 'they' a man or woman?

RojavaLover · 2021-01-25T17:14:14+00:00

You can sue the shit out of your employer simply for telling you to “ take a joke “. Go ahead girl, go get all the compensation they owe you!

VelvetKnuckleduster · 2021-01-25T17:04:51+00:00

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cmore_money · 2021-01-25T18:18:12+00:00

Oh I hate everything god this is so disgusting The managers reaction more than the so-called client

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2021-01-25T18:39:44+00:00

What the fuck

Blackrose_ · 2021-01-26T00:07:33+00:00

Leave. This is a shit test, if this gets 'accepted' and rug swept and you have to play along, then this crap will dished out again and again.

Set up another job when you are ready of course, and then leave.

Ghost_namesake · 2021-01-25T16:38:13+00:00

That's disgusting conduct and not a joke.

breadandbunny · 2021-01-25T18:53:32+00:00

Do you work in mental health? This sounds like something I would have dealt with on a regular day on the psych ward.

melonmagellan · 2021-01-26T02:44:35+00:00

No joke, I once had a man-child client hire a stripper (dressed as a cop!) to walk into a Monday morning meeting. He was also a "cool bro" type who owned his own business where he drank beer all day.

He paid her to give her elderly father, who just had a stroke and was totally out of it, a lap dance. I wanted to puke.

Of course his fellow bros egged him on because it was so fucking hilarious.

It was not taken seriously. I stayed at that job for way too fucking long. He paid us like $50k a month for outsourced services which was apparently the only thing that mattered.

Related, his dad was actually a HVM. I think he's since passed. He was a illustrator for Eddie Bauer in like the 60s and was married for 50+ years. Nice guy. I think he couldn't accept that his toolbag son would take over his business which is why he still dragged himself to work even when he was old and sick.

miwamus · 2021-01-26T05:40:10+00:00

One of my coworkers sent me a nude once. Laying in bed. Fully naked. He looked like a stranded seal.

Leave.

somegenerichandle · 2021-01-25T20:33:26+00:00

Can you see if your manager would change the client's contact person? Or at least make sure you are not alone with him ever.

smart-tart23 · 2021-01-25T19:25:29+00:00

Are you in sales? I feel like that type of behavior is often treated that way in certain “territory sales rep” positions. Like if you’re a woman you’re expected to take that. Crazy as h$ll

AlleyRhubarb · 2021-01-25T15:58:28+00:00

A lot of the advice here sounds super dramatic and fun but honestly workplace culture and HR protects bosses and the company. You have to play it very smart and smart is going to depend on your company’s culture.

I work in sales and if I do more than lightheartedly complain about harassment from clients or potential clients I’d be eventually let go - for other reasons of course. It’s my job to navigate it and my bosses consider my femininity an advantage even though it is definitely not.

So, I would really reflect on your workplace and what is going to get you through it until you can find another job. Maybe it is fighting it but what is HR going to do? The client does not work for the company. HR will determine the best course of action to protect your bosses. If they aren’t the ones harassing you, you are going to be out of luck legally.

I’d ask for something you might get like protection from clients like this or a better project to work on because it is unfair for you to continue with this client.

engg_girl · 2021-01-26T18:23:47+00:00

Talk to an employment lawyer. Forward the e-mail to HR, along with bullet points of your take away from your conversation with the manager. BCC all communication on the topic to your personal email.

Try and have as many chats about it over e-mail or a chat app so you can screen shot and send to your personal e-mail.

Look for a new job (if this job isn't so great that one ass hat customer isn't worth it).

I have friends in high profile BD jobs that get sexually harassed like this now and then, but the ability to pass off a jerk to someone else, as well as a genuine love for the industry keeps them there. If that isn't the case for you then absolutely think about leaving.

If you are thinking about leaving really consider making enough of a stink they try to fire you, then you can sue, or at least very strongly negotiate your severance (if you live in an area with proper employment laws that enable this).

Good luck!

Title	Client Sent Me A Nude At Work
Author	snootdidanoot
Upvotes	1389
Comments	109
Date	January 25, 2021 10:04 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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