Don't be Barb the builder

miss_peach94 · 2021-05-22T11:07:27+00:00

I'm gonna cut through all the bullshit. He has either:

Recently met someone else.
Had eyes on another woman before this woman & decided to settle for her anyway since he is the beneficiary. Free sex, free wife! Yay! Now he can work on his career so that once he is where he wants to be he can go after the woman he really wants.
Wants to have a whore phase because he never got to experience one

I've learned the hard way that men do not randomly leave a woman without having another or multiple women lined up

curlywurlyprincess · 2021-05-22T11:01:50+00:00

Shit like this always hurts to read. Girls, please stop building up men who don’t give a shit about you. This man used her and now he’ll go find the woman of his dreams. He’s probably been texting another chick already - men don’t leave unless they’ve got another woman secured.

MadameDestruction · 2021-05-22T11:01:37+00:00

"Is he a shitty person" yes.

radsera99 · 2021-05-22T11:11:32+00:00

How is it that men are able to shirk their responsibilities, quit being fathers and husbands simply because they decided they want a change? If a woman did this everyone would scream that she’s a terrible mother

betsybasset · 2021-05-22T12:00:04+00:00

Stop building men. Period.

It's their job to make their future.

You support them mentally sure. But not to the extent of them changing studies & jobs while you bear the brunt of it.

Different story if there's unavoidable circumstances like sickness & pandemic.

Seen this way too many times, men just take us for granted. Sick of it.

Golden_Lavender · 2021-05-22T16:35:35+00:00

This is the ugly truth about normalizing supporting men financially and pity dating broke, down on their luck dudes. Never date someone that is under you class wise. It sounds mean but it's a protection for yourself against predatory people who take advantage of your financial and emotional resources. The same way men fear gold diggers women should fear hobosexuals.

themissdaydreamer · 2021-05-22T12:02:49+00:00

this is what comes to my mind when people tell me I'll never find a man who's "ready" and that I'll have to "build him up". yeah so he'll dump me once I outilve my usefulness?! how about no.

Melodic_Poet_4998 · 2021-05-22T10:58:01+00:00

Men are defending him in the comments. They are basically saying he realized he's unhappy with her and it's his right to move on. If a woman did this they would have called her every name in the book. What a bunch of hypocrites.

randomgirlimok · 2021-05-22T17:46:32+00:00

I’m guessing he fake proposed to her so he could move in and mooch off her until he didn’t need her anymore. You shouldn’t be proposing to anyone unless you’re 100% sure.

termagant_ · 2021-05-22T11:12:20+00:00

It’s hard to read her story especially when she doubts herself at the end. Yes, you got used sister. He’s a jerk.

starfighter07 · 2021-05-22T11:56:50+00:00

The fact that on every post like this, the woman ends it by "I'm expecting too much ?" ............

lansburysoda · 2021-05-22T19:05:11+00:00

She feels used because she was used 😔

Equal-Ear2312 · 2021-05-22T13:15:49+00:00

expecting too much?

from a NVM? Yes.

kalina95 · 2021-05-22T18:43:05+00:00

Where are the men claiming alimony ruins the lives of men?

AlextheAnalyst · 2021-05-22T13:29:41+00:00

As usual, children get dumped like day-old trash. This guy never deserved a family.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2021-05-22T13:26:31+00:00

I would not be surprised if he picked her because she was a single mother so he knew she'd take care of him whilst he got his shit together.

DameSorciere · 2021-05-22T13:21:05+00:00

Ha, and red pillers say women are the hypergamists. All of their bullshit about women is projection iswtfg. Everything u/miss_peach94 said in her comment here is also shit redpillers project onto women. Ugh 🤮

randowordgenerator · 2021-05-22T15:10:12+00:00

This reminds me of another subreddit where they are indirectly talking about FDS. The claim is that women get as much out of sex as men (like they would know). Then go on to ask, why can't I get a girlfriend/wife(!) without having to do anything? Women having standards to vet men, why that's the same as prostitution. Then the repulsive slogans - you don't pay her to come, you pay her to leave. They answer their own question. They just want sex without repsonsibility, since they think sex for women is exactly the same as sex for men. Which is a lie they tell themselves.

greenbagmaria · 2021-05-23T01:57:43+00:00

Who’s the real gold digger now

millennialpink2000 · 2021-05-22T15:01:57+00:00

What a prince. Pumped and dumped a single mom for his own benefit, then cuts and runs without another thought.

I hope the comments tell her he did use her and she should run for the hills

deep_faked_beans · 2021-05-22T15:28:23+00:00

I wonder how many women have thought the same thing, that they'd be happier on their own not doing all the housework as well as working a paid job, but just never got the luxury of leaving whenever they want. Deciding to have kids is a much more permanent decision for women than men, I think this is privilege men have.

Title	Don't be Barb the builder
Author	Zayelle
Upvotes	184
Comments	80
Date	May 22, 2021 10:49 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nifzoh/dont_be_barb_the_builder/
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